I'm so worried I could not sleep .........
Q. What is happening? I've still not heard from him:( I'm worried? I spoke to my boyfriend saturday afternoon and he said he was going to take a nap he will ring me when he wakes up. He didn't ring me in the evening, I tried to call him but I ...
A. 26 March 2014: Good news! Now exchange email addresses so this kind of thing doesn't happen again - he could've emailed you from an internet cafe days ago and saved you sleepless nights!
You do worry excessively (or at least, you did in this situation) - I know... (read in full...)
I'm so worried I could not sleep .........
Q. What is happening? I've still not heard from him:( I'm worried? I spoke to my boyfriend saturday afternoon and he said he was going to take a nap he will ring me when he wakes up. He didn't ring me in the evening, I tried to call him but I ...
A. 24 March 2014: If you're texting him via Whatsapp (or equivalent), he won't see the messages until he gets to a place with wifi. Hope you hear from him soon. ... (read in full...)
I feel like he can't see past our rocky previous relationship, but I want to move forward and start a new one with him
Q. Okay, I'll apologise in advance, because this may take a while. I met my partner when we first started university back in September. We got together in November and the relationship started off okay. There were a few things I felt uneasy about th...
A. 24 March 2014: "Blinded by lust" hits the nail on the head. He's a 30 yr old still living with his parents, and he's never been in a long term relationship. Red flags. Put aside the amazing sex and what do you really have?
He doesn't want you to be his friend i... (read in full...)
It's early days, but after just two dates - were his actions charming or creepy?
Q. Hi Agony Aunt folks I have a question , So I met this guy online we had 2 dates so far he is a cop and seems very nice a lot different form the last guy I dated I have had bad luck lately in the men department and seem to end up with abusive men so ...
A. 19 March 2014: I wouldn't judge him as creepy based on one little thing. I understand what you're on your guard dating, I'd say, get to know him better (take it slow physically) and see how it unfolds. Maybe he just has a strange sense of humour or was nervous. ... (read in full...)
I want my older sister and her kids to go back to her own home!
Q. Okay, so I have an older sister who is 34 years old!! and she really annoys the shit out of me. When she and her 3 kids come to visit my parents I avoid her and stay out of the way.But lately shes been coming over the weekends. Her kids are all ...
A. 18 March 2014: I know 2 sisters (my cousins) in a similar situation. One still lives at home, the other is married with children but visits fairy regularly at weekends. The one who lives at home feels exactly how you feel; she wants peace and quiet and I truly ... (read in full...)
Should my friend's fiance pay rent or not?
Q. Ok so my friend and i are thinking of moving in together. Her fiance stays over 5-6 dys a week. I think its fair that he contrubutes to sum of the bills but she says no. She says firstly there is no way in hell he will pay as he dont earn that much ...
A. 12 March 2014: She's looking for somewhere else to live because her boyfriend is pissing off whoever she lives with now. That's enough of a reason for you to back out of this. You will get pissed off with it too. You're not being unreasonable in saying "no".
A... (read in full...)
When I told him "no" he sent all our correspondence to my husband! Why would he do such a thing?
Q. He Was All I Ever Wanted.. Okay this is really long story I really need advice not commended for my actions or thus confession. It started 3 years ago I began work and myself and a colleague started to develop feelings but never acted on them. W...
A. 12 March 2014: No man (or woman if roles were reversed) is worth feeling this sick over. Taking 2 months off work because of him (if I understand correctly) and now feeling "so ill"....even if you were both single, I'd advise you to cut him off completely. You're ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me but I don't feel like it's over
Q. I have recently been dumped my commitment phobic boyfriend. We were together for over 2 years, lived together, travelled a lot and I knew from day one he had a lot of emotional baggage. Now he's left me, but he still texts every morning and even...
A. 11 March 2014: You are being very kind to him but not so kind to yourself by getting involved in protracted text conversations.
You are still in love with him. You need a period of no contact to allow yourself to detach and get over him. That's what YOU need... (read in full...)
Should my friend's fiance pay rent or not?
Q. Ok so my friend and i are thinking of moving in together. Her fiance stays over 5-6 dys a week. I think its fair that he contrubutes to sum of the bills but she says no. She says firstly there is no way in hell he will pay as he dont earn that much ...
A. 11 March 2014: I had a situation like this when I was at university. A housemate almost moved her boyfriend in, he was there so often and had so many showers, made phone calls from the landline etc, that he should have paid towards utilities but he wouldn't/ she ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friends visit massage parlors for happy endings! Should I worry he is doing the same?
Q. Hello, My boyfriend is not asking for any physical pleasure from me lately and i found out from his friends that they are paying a visit to massage parlors for a quick and fun release from time to time in other words happy endings. I read many ...
A. 11 March 2014: I think the proportion of 40-60% is skewed. A lot of men - the men who wouldn't dream of going to such a massage parlour, for example - wouldn't be on the websites you've looked at. So the figure is probably much lower.
But yes, it's a good ide... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friends visit massage parlors for happy endings! Should I worry he is doing the same?
Q. Hello, My boyfriend is not asking for any physical pleasure from me lately and i found out from his friends that they are paying a visit to massage parlors for a quick and fun release from time to time in other words happy endings. I read many ...
A. 11 March 2014: OK, now I understand!
Yes Celtic Tiger is correct. It is not common practise for men, and I suspect your boyfriends friends are either a 'bad lot' or bragging about something they haven't actually done.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friends visit massage parlors for happy endings! Should I worry he is doing the same?
Q. Hello, My boyfriend is not asking for any physical pleasure from me lately and i found out from his friends that they are paying a visit to massage parlors for a quick and fun release from time to time in other words happy endings. I read many ...
A. 10 March 2014: Tanesha, a small minority of men visit these massage parlours, not the majority, and why does if make you happy that men do this?! I'm really confused by your follow up.
These types of massage parlours that offer happy endings are more like bro... (read in full...)
He might have called out another name, I'm not sure!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend around 3 1/2 years. Last night we were having sex [Mod note: overly graphic details removed] he was seeing *everything* up close and personal so there was NO way he could have mistaken me for someone else. He was ...
A. 10 March 2014: As the first respondent said, it's really not that big of a deal if he did say "Jess" (which could also have been "just" or at a pinch "jeez").
But it sounds like you're a bit paranoid about Jess, which is not surprising. It's a bit/ lot weir... (read in full...)
She broke up with me but want to continue to play computer dice with me? Help!
Q. I am 70 years old, and was married for 38 years when my wife pass away, 2 years after her death, I started going with another lady, we had seven years together before she pass away of ovarian cancer. two years after her death, I met this lady that ...
A. 10 March 2014: Ken, I also remember your other post. If she won't talk to you but wants to play dice then it's clear that it's over and she's a bit bored/ lonely and is reaching out in a very non committal and lazy way. I don't think it means she wants to rekindle ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friends visit massage parlors for happy endings! Should I worry he is doing the same?
Q. Hello, My boyfriend is not asking for any physical pleasure from me lately and i found out from his friends that they are paying a visit to massage parlors for a quick and fun release from time to time in other words happy endings. I read many ...
A. 9 March 2014: If you are *sure* your boyfriend is doing what his friends are doing (though I'm not certain of what you're sure of & why) then - in your shoes - I would end the relationship. As Cerberus says, it's cheating. If you are unsure then ask him; though ... (read in full...)
I feel torn and paralyzed and I don't know where to go from here.
Q. I previously posted a question on here asking about the lack of passion/chemistry in my relationship and received amazing answers that I can honestly say saved my sanity because I was starting to go crazy. To make a long story short, I have been dat...
A. 9 March 2014: Hi
I think you did the right thing ending it. You two are chalk and cheese, and the relationship was dysfunctional. This may have been adding to your general anxiety; the awareness that something wasn't right.
It will take time to heal, but as... (read in full...)
As her boss should I let go and have sex with this woman who asked me?
Q. I am a divorced guy who manages about a dozen women where I work. This one woman asked me to have sex with her. We are both unattached and about the same ages. I said being her boss it put's me in a situation where it could become a lawsuit. She ...
A. 8 March 2014: A trustworthy employee of 10 years. It makes me wonder what's changed in her life that she's only coming on to you now.
Anyway, I agree with what the others recommend: stay away from relationships of any sort (barring platonic friendship) with coll... (read in full...)
Do I hang around and wait, or should I walk?
Q. I had been going with my girl friend for over 3 years, she 55 years old. and I'm 70. she got upset on valentine day because I didn't bring her flowers. She made feel like a fool that night. I reminded her, I alway brought her flowers every Monday ...
A. 8 March 2014: Hi
Sorry to read this. I don't think you should hang around and wait. From what you've written, it sounds like you met her when she was at a low ebb from the divorce and you were her rebound relationship, making her happy and laugh and boosting her ... (read in full...)
His ex-wife is trash-talking me all over town.
Q. The man I was seeing is now trying to get back with his wife and she is harassing me and telling everyone I stalked him and wouldnt leave him alone when in fact we had a 3 month relationship which he instigated and I finished. He had already split ...
A. 5 March 2014: Yeah her impression of you is based on what the man has told her. There's nothing you can do to change that.
Try to rise above it. If it's a small town, I am sure people know what he's like. I don't see why you should get a reputation - you were... (read in full...)
How far should the "my house, my rules" concept be taken?
Q. I am curious to know your thoughts about the concept of "my house, my rules". Recently there was a question posted by an (over 18) OP living at home with her parents, who wanted to get a piercing against her mother's vigorous oppositi...
A. 5 March 2014: Good question Cindy.
Honeypie writes: "I think the MORE you tell your children :" you can't do this or that - the MORE they want to do it." Because it becomes about rebelling for the wrong reasons, not to find themselves and grow as an individu... (read in full...)
We cancelled the wedding and I am now stuck in limbo.
Q. is there any hope? I live with and had been planning to marry a loving exciting, thoughtful, generous man who I adore. He also will do anything for my children aged 21 and 18. Financially he has given everything he owns. The problem is that ...
A. 5 March 2014: Lu, What a lovely positive post! You're an inspiration to all women who are struggling to step away from such a negative experience with such strength. I do think, realistically, you'll have some wobbles but you'll get there!
And do smile at... (read in full...)
We cancelled the wedding and I am now stuck in limbo.
Q. is there any hope? I live with and had been planning to marry a loving exciting, thoughtful, generous man who I adore. He also will do anything for my children aged 21 and 18. Financially he has given everything he owns. The problem is that ...
A. 4 March 2014: Lu, I read your last sentence and almost whooped and cheered. I am so glad that you posted here, read and thought about all the responses - and thanks also for giving us feedback.
You have made the right choice. It won't be easy, but it'll be so w... (read in full...)
My fiancée says she isn't sexually active, so how does she have herpes? Now I'm rethinking our engagement!
Q. Hi, I need your help, I recently found out my fiancée has herpes. She said she isn't sexually active. Can one get herpes even without being sexually active? Also, what does it mean if she has herpes? shall I break off my engagement becau...
A. 3 March 2014: OK I see Cerberus is saying that genital herpes can also be transmitted non sexually. I didn't know that but I don't think he'd write that unless he was certain. It adds another layer of complexity but is also potentially good news. ... (read in full...)
My man wants to sleep with the traveling chick we picked up in MY van...
Q. So me (24) and my boyfriend (42) pick up a traveling girl, we helped her break up with her boyfriend. Well my BF had been talking about bringing another girl into the bedroom with us... I'm not really into sharing and I warned him I might hurt her ...
A. 3 March 2014: p.s. If you don't want a threesome, tell him outright (I mean him/ men in general because I hope you've already dumped this man) - don't say you'll think about it if you already know. Set your boundaries, don't be ashamed of them, and make them ... (read in full...)
My fiancée says she isn't sexually active, so how does she have herpes? Now I'm rethinking our engagement!
Q. Hi, I need your help, I recently found out my fiancée has herpes. She said she isn't sexually active. Can one get herpes even without being sexually active? Also, what does it mean if she has herpes? shall I break off my engagement becau...
A. 3 March 2014: Ok, I assume you mean to ask whether she has *ever* been sexually active, rather than if she is sexually active (in the present tense). Did she say she is a virgin? And is it a deal breaker to you if she isn't? Who told you she has herpes? If it ... (read in full...)
My man wants to sleep with the traveling chick we picked up in MY van...
Q. So me (24) and my boyfriend (42) pick up a traveling girl, we helped her break up with her boyfriend. Well my BF had been talking about bringing another girl into the bedroom with us... I'm not really into sharing and I warned him I might hurt her ...
A. 3 March 2014: He sounds like an old (compared to you) sleaze ball who doesn't have an ounce of respect for you. Move on .... ... (read in full...)
He invited me, so why shouldn't he pay?
Q. Dear ok Cupid, I have male friend who I haven't talked to for over a year, asked if I would accompany he and his family to Disney Land n July 2014. He told me that all I have to pay for is my airfare. If this was an invite, don't u think he...
A. 3 March 2014: I assume this is a different man? Not Mr Disney Land?
I think that dating someone so soon after a divorce is very risky. I'd back off. His prolonged attack of hives may be a stress response to the divorce ... or an excuse not to meet again. ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my close-minded mother?
Q. Hello, this may seem like a pathetic question...but how do I deal with my traditional close-minded mother? I am 20 and will be turning 21 soon, but I still live with my parents. I want to get an eyebrow piercing (I have wanted one since highscho...
A. 3 March 2014: *scarring... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my close-minded mother?
Q. Hello, this may seem like a pathetic question...but how do I deal with my traditional close-minded mother? I am 20 and will be turning 21 soon, but I still live with my parents. I want to get an eyebrow piercing (I have wanted one since highscho...
A. 3 March 2014: But even with a horizontal piercing you'll have scaring. Can't you go for something that is less, literally, in your face? Example: a tragus stud or navel piercing? I get the feeling you're doing this almost to provoke your mother, by choosing ... (read in full...)
We cancelled the wedding and I am now stuck in limbo.
Q. is there any hope? I live with and had been planning to marry a loving exciting, thoughtful, generous man who I adore. He also will do anything for my children aged 21 and 18. Financially he has given everything he owns. The problem is that ...
A. 3 March 2014: I wrote my response before your follow up was approved.
OP, I have read many, many posts on here and rarely has it seemed so clear cut to me that you should leave the relationship. Short of physical abuse, he couldn't much further away from a '... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my close-minded mother?
Q. Hello, this may seem like a pathetic question...but how do I deal with my traditional close-minded mother? I am 20 and will be turning 21 soon, but I still live with my parents. I want to get an eyebrow piercing (I have wanted one since highscho...
A. 3 March 2014: I went ahead and got extra ear piercing without my mother's permission (in fact, she was "disappointed") and the world didn't end. I do suggest you tell her beforehand, out of respect for her.
Having a piercing won't stop her treating you like a c... (read in full...)
He wants us to move in but also tells me he has 'committment issues'
Q. Hello! Ok, so my boyfriend mentioned to me yesterday that he thinks he has issues with commitment. He is 31 and has had three girlfriends before me throughout his 20s. The first was four years long, he wasn't really happy though so they broke up...
A. 3 March 2014: If you have already lived with him for one year, why are you asking now? Has something happened? Or are you wondering whether he's getting close to point where he left one of his previous partners?
I think the motive for moving in together... (read in full...)
He invited me, so why shouldn't he pay?
Q. Dear ok Cupid, I have male friend who I haven't talked to for over a year, asked if I would accompany he and his family to Disney Land n July 2014. He told me that all I have to pay for is my airfare. If this was an invite, don't u think he...
A. 3 March 2014: He is a very generous friend. I hope you can afford the airfare and have a great holiday.... (read in full...)
We cancelled the wedding and I am now stuck in limbo.
Q. is there any hope? I live with and had been planning to marry a loving exciting, thoughtful, generous man who I adore. He also will do anything for my children aged 21 and 18. Financially he has given everything he owns. The problem is that ...
A. 3 March 2014: I think the glasses Sage refers to are rose-tinted rather than painted black, but in all other ways I agree with him.
Reading both of your posts is quite horrifying, OP. I truly hope you can muster the strength to end this toxic relation... (read in full...)
My fiancée says she isn't sexually active, so how does she have herpes? Now I'm rethinking our engagement!
Q. Hi, I need your help, I recently found out my fiancée has herpes. She said she isn't sexually active. Can one get herpes even without being sexually active? Also, what does it mean if she has herpes? shall I break off my engagement becau...
A. 3 March 2014: http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/000606.htm
"Oral herpes is a common infection of the mouth area. It is caused by the herpes simplex virus type 1 (HSV-1). Most people in the United States are infected with this virus by age 20.
A... (read in full...)
Single Mum - I want to tell her 'I Love You' but I'm scared.
Q. I thought this sort of thing would get easier, but it doesn't! I'm 47 and disabled following a stroke, but always carry on. I started chatting to a wonderful girl about a month ago and we have met. My wife of 18 years died last year but she'd w...
A. 2 March 2014: Hi
I think that after just one month, it's much too soon for her children to accept you as their daddy. You are just mum's friend/ boyfriend at the moment. I think your new girlfriend is right when she talks about taking it one day at a time, and ... (read in full...)
I know there's no future for me with this guy, but it still bothers me that I haven't heard from him since we broke up
Q. I broke up with the guy I've been seeing for the past year because we were on different pages. He agreed with it. But then in a moment of weakness, I texted him that I didn't want that. I feel really stupid about texting him, breaking up is t...
A. 2 March 2014: Don't feel stupid about texting him. It was just once, a one off mistake. Put it behind you now. I agree with the anonymous poster below: delete his number so texting is no longer an option. Take control. ... (read in full...)
I declined this man's advances but now I deeply regret it. We are going to meet. What should I do?
Q. Hi. I am 22 yrs old, I am looking for someone who could give me a helpful insight regarding my situation. A year ago I met someone. He never became my bf. Although he wanted to, always telling me that I am perfect for him. I doubted his sincerit...
A. 2 March 2014: But OP, are you still that person who made him unhappy, would you still rebuff his advances if you showed interest in you? If yes then I agree that it's best not to meet him and possibly hurt him. But if you're now open to dating him, and you can ... (read in full...)
I accidentally missed my first date with a guy. I apologised but has he had enough already? What should I do?
Q. Hi, I was supposed to meet my online date in person, for the first time, earlier this afternoon. We have been chatting online for approx 2 months and have been looking forward to meeting each other. I, unfortunately was unable to meet him in pers...
A. 1 March 2014: I have to ask - why didn't you just phone him when you got to the cinema to ask him where he was, rather than wander around looking for him for half an hour? Why didn't you text him? He is probably going to be wondering exactly the same things, and ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me with my cousin but now wants me back?
Q. My wife cheated with my cousin she said it was my falt i was in jail at the time she. said she didn't feel loved now I'm out she says she want me back i feel that she was lusting for him but now I'm hurt and don't no if i wanna be with her what ...
A. 1 March 2014: Well it was your fault you were in jail (presumably) but not your fault that she cheated on you. The fact that it was with a family member makes it even worse. Of course you're hurt. You don't have to be with her if you don't want. ... (read in full...)
I am waiting for the text that will ruin my weekend ...
Q. Hello. I will probably get the answer to this question either later on today or tomorrow from the source, but I was just curious to find out other people's opinions and whether or not other girls or guys out there have had a similar experience. I...
A. 1 March 2014: You mentioned that you're seeing her tomorrow as well, so if that date still stands then I don't think you have to worry about anything at this stage. Her body language may seem a bit cold, but perhaps she just likes to take it slowly. I hope that's ... (read in full...)
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