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What should I do about a guy I met online? He didn't reply to a text but had time to log in to dating site.

Q.   Please need some advice! I have been going out with a guy I met online. He told me he only had one other girl friend in his life ( hes 37). He was quiet and seemed lovely. Well it's been 4 dates. As we have great chemistry he has spent the...

A.   30 October 2013: I think that after four dates, he's not sure and that's fair enough from his point of view, though not brilliant news for you. It's also fair enough that you don't want to have sex until (if) you are in a monogamous relationship, and it's good that ... (read in full...)

Are my standards too high when it comes to dating?

Q.   Now I don’t mean for this to sound shallow at all , but I am really buggered with girls for the past 3 years , I don’t know if I my standards are too high , it just seems the girls I am interested in give me some interested but don’t actually ...

A.   30 October 2013: p.s. There's a note or bitterness towards women creeping into your post (telling girls to clear off if they do show interest). Keep an eye on that, OP, dating can be just as tricky for girls (women) as you're finding it. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend said "I love you" so quickly! How long does it take for them to know they're in love?

Q.   I'm 18 years old. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. He told me he loved me for the first time very early in our relationship (2 weeks) and it kinda freaked me out how early he said that. For a while I just wouldn't say it back ...

A.   30 October 2013: You can genuinely feel love (or infatuation might be a better word) after 2 weeks, but as Cindy writes, that can quickly fade when you get to know the other person better. Doesn't mean the sentiment wasn't or isn't true, but it doesn't guarantee ... (read in full...)

Are my standards too high when it comes to dating?

Q.   Now I don’t mean for this to sound shallow at all , but I am really buggered with girls for the past 3 years , I don’t know if I my standards are too high , it just seems the girls I am interested in give me some interested but don’t actually ...

A.   30 October 2013: I think you posted a few days ago and the general consensus was that you lack confidence? I'm not sure that you're being shallow. You mention your ex in both posts; you seem to have her on a pedestal and don't seem to be over her. Maybe that's t... (read in full...)

Do some women like being someones bit on the side?

Q.   Do some women like being a man's bit on the side? the reason why I ask this is because I have noticed this girl at work in this situation. She is single but she has started seeing this guy whose in a long term relationship living with his girl ...

A.   30 October 2013: It's sad isn't it? I think a lot of women who accept being the 'other woman' have low self esteem and don't realise that they deserve more. They fool themselves that the man might leave his partner for them, forgetting that he's a cheat. The men ... (read in full...)

Do abusers ever leave you alone?

Q.   I recently just got out of an abusive relationship. My family and friends are fully aware of it and absolutely support my decision and want nothing to do with this man themselves. It has been a few weeks since the break up. I have him blocked on ...

A.   28 October 2013: Yes they do leave the abused alone but it can take a while. In some cases it only stops when police get involved. Your friends must block him - they must not "leak" any info about you to him, or vice versa. ... (read in full...)

I hit it off with my builder but now he's blowing cold. What happened?

Q.   A builder came to do some work on my house. We hit it off straight away. We had so much in common. We exchanged numbers and have chatted everyday since. Saturday he sent me a text asking what I was up to. I said I was just home bored I invited him ...

A.   28 October 2013: Only he knows what happened, but I agree that he's not keen for whatever reason. Good idea to delete his number, though you might hear from him in a few days when he fancies a snuggle (it has only been 2 days...). Think about how you might respond. ... (read in full...)

Do you think I should have to tell him everything about my life when now hes a friend with benefits ?

Q.   Does a guy I see once a week have any right asking questions about where I go and what I do? ive been seeing someone for a year and it turned very serious very quickly. He moved in within four months but it turned sour pretty quick.I chucked him ...

A.   28 October 2013: After he called you a whore then went on to threaten your friends, the lights should have pinged on in your brain to tell you that it's over. You deserve more than this! This is not a normal relationship or even FWB. He's abusive and controll... (read in full...)

Haven't heard from my boyfriend since Friday, worrying that something's happened to him!

Q.   This is probably more of a vent-my-feelings post than anything else, but I suppose I'm also looking for reassurance! I'm 22, he's 26, in a serious relationship etc. We're going on holiday together next week and I'm going out of my mind that somethin...

A.   28 October 2013: Glad he's Ok! He was insensitive not getting touch and it's fair enough that you were worried. There's no harm in letting him know that you were concerned x... (read in full...)

Haven't heard from my boyfriend since Friday, worrying that something's happened to him!

Q.   This is probably more of a vent-my-feelings post than anything else, but I suppose I'm also looking for reassurance! I'm 22, he's 26, in a serious relationship etc. We're going on holiday together next week and I'm going out of my mind that somethin...

A.   27 October 2013: I'm not surprised you're worried but hopefully it's something simple like his phone battery died. In addition to what Aunt Babbit suggests, can you get his parents phone number from somewhere, e.g. his place of work or college? They should h... (read in full...)

How do I tell him I'm ready for him to enter "through the front door?"

Q.   Hi, So I'm ready to have vaginal sex with my boyfriend. We've done oral and anal. Before him, I had only done oral so he was my first for the backdoor. I'm ready for him to enter through the front too haha The problem is that I'm not sure how...

A.   26 October 2013: It's an unusual sequence of events to try anal before vaginal intercourse. Is it a pregnancy issue? I don't understand otherwise. Birth control is obviously important, though I hope you are already using barrier method (condoms) for anal sex? ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend no longer wants to wait

Q.   hi Am 16 and still a virgin. I have been boyfriend since I was 12 but now he is getting impatient and no longer wants to wait I don't want to be a clique (lost virginity at 16) and it's also against my believes, and now he has brought a lesbian ...

A.   26 October 2013: Since he no longer wishes to wait and is making you feel uncomfortable by pestering you for sex and introducing a third party who's also pestering you, it's time to leave him and let him (and her) get sex elsewhere. Seriously, he's being ... (read in full...)

Gay and ginger, is there any hope?

Q.   Hi all, I would be very grateful for any advice so here it goes. Im a 22 year old guy and I have just accepted that I am gay and I'm not out to anyone. I'm also very unfortunate to have Ginger hair too. I have been a quiet and shy guy all my life ...

A.   26 October 2013: Being ginger is not a flaw. I know that there's some anti-ginger crap in the UK, and perhaps you were bullied a bit as a child because of your hair, but in my experience adults are not nearly so daft as to treat people with ginger hair as outcasts. ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to have hair there? How do I tell her?

Q.   I'm 26 years old and I have been with my girlfriend who is 24 for 5 months now and we are a stage of absolute relaxation around each other, she is the most amazing person I have ever been with, she is so kind, she is caring, she is funny and just ...

A.   25 October 2013: Hi OP, She must be aware, unless as Tisha points out she has never washed between her buttocks. Highly unlikely, you'll agree. Males and females both have hair in that area, some more than others and of course it's more noticeable if she has dark... (read in full...)

I don't want to ruin our friendship over sex. Should I just come out and say it!

Q.   There is a woman I used to work with that became a good friend, though we rarely see each other. We're both in our early 50's. I did some repair work on her home a few times. I am separated from my cheating liar wife, she is married. About a year ...

A.   25 October 2013: Ok so I read your post twice. Your anger at your wife is clear. Why aren't you angry/ negative about this friend of yours who is also a cheating liar, having snogged you and told you she loves you. I mean, you describe a passionate kiss, not a ... (read in full...)

I don't want to ruin our friendship over sex. Should I just come out and say it!

Q.   There is a woman I used to work with that became a good friend, though we rarely see each other. We're both in our early 50's. I did some repair work on her home a few times. I am separated from my cheating liar wife, she is married. About a year ...

A.   25 October 2013: Ok so I read your post twice. Your anger at your wife is clear. Why aren't you angry/ negative about this friend of yours who is also a cheating liar, having snogged you and told you she loves you. I mean, you describe a passionate kiss, not a ... (read in full...)

If he is who he says he is then I'm definitely interested

Q.   I'm a smart, successful, attractive woman in my 30s, and, even though I have very progressive, healthy attitudes towards dating and sex, I can't help but feel a bit like an idiot. I went out with a man I met online last weekend who was new to the ...

A.   25 October 2013: OP, I completely agree with your frustrations of the pot calling the kettle black thing, but that is the sad fact of it. Men DO judge women who have sex on a first date, while forgetting to think about, or judge, their own behaviour. It's not fair ... (read in full...)

Does FWB never lead to a relationship?

Q.   If a man only wants friends with benefits, does that mean he will never want a relationship? I was wondering if it's possible for a man to change his mind and want a relationship with you?. I know a man who wanted friends with benefits with me...

A.   24 October 2013: Hello, I'm not sure I follow. Are you single now? I'm would guess that he still likes you, but I'd be wary about him. I think that if you currently have a boyfriend, meeting him is asking for trouble. I'm so glad to read on here about someon... (read in full...)

I don't want to ruin our friendship over sex. Should I just come out and say it!

Q.   There is a woman I used to work with that became a good friend, though we rarely see each other. We're both in our early 50's. I did some repair work on her home a few times. I am separated from my cheating liar wife, she is married. About a year ...

A.   24 October 2013: Ok so I read your post twice. Your anger at your wife is clear. Why aren't you angry/ negative about this friend of yours who is also a cheating liar, having snogged you and told you she loves you. I mean, you describe a passionate kiss, not a ... (read in full...)

How do I deal with the silent treatment?

Q.   How should I deal with a known narcissists "silent treatment"? He is my boyfriend. This is the second time he has done this in a six month period. He cursed at me about two weeks ago and I couldn't take the abuse anymore and let him know how I ...

A.   24 October 2013: I'd interpret the silent treatment as a break up, and be thankful to be free of an abusive narcissist. You deserve better. If you seek him out, you'll get more abuse. He knows that and so should you. ... (read in full...)

I feel like he rejected me when I most needed him

Q.   I have sexually lost interest in my husband of three years. I find his touch annoying. We have had our share of problems. Am suddenly remembering all the past hurt and just get turned off. One of them is that when we were dating, he made me beg for ...

A.   23 October 2013: OP, I am so sorry for your loss. No, you are not overreacting, you are doing the opposite. I can't think how on earth you've put up with this man. It sounds like hell. Certainly you should talk to him about all of this (and NOT be pressured... (read in full...)

My heart says give him another chance. My gut says run.

Q.   I broke up with my boyf of near two years about a month ago. I wanted to do this for a while, our relationship was far from perfect, i'll explain this quickly just so you have the entire story: he drunkenly cheated on me in our own bed and I walked ...

A.   23 October 2013: Dear OP, Please trust your gut, and look up info about codependent relationships to help you understand why you put up with his crap for so long and why you're thinking of returning to it. Sort out the practical stuff with him pronto and then sto... (read in full...)

Question about on-line dating etiquette?

Q.   Hi guys, so I'm new to online dating. I put up a profile yesterday and thus guy initiated a conversation, which then led to him giving me his number, and then we exchanged a few more messages outside of the site. He asked if I'm looking for frie...

A.   23 October 2013: I'm with Older than Dirt, and I'd advise you to stay away from online dating completely. It's lovely to read stories like that of k_c, but my experience is of meeting men like the very honest (and not surprisingly anon!) male who posted. But t... (read in full...)

I'm hoping this co-worker doesn't have a thing for me -- do I have reason to be worried?

Q.   Ok my question is about a man from work,he's always really nice to me which is fine, but he's 40 and I am 24 But I'm starting to worry slightly as during presentations (he's senior management) he always seems to hold my eye contact A LOT! And then I ...

A.   23 October 2013: I don't think you're being over sensitive at all. If you feel he's flirting then you're probably right. Some people see flirting as harmless fun, but it's not harmless if you feel awkward/ uncomfortable. He shouldn't be rubbing your arm, that's too ... (read in full...)

Why would he have a condom?

Q.   So my boyfriend of 11 months and I live together friday he had to go a thing for work for health insurance or something him and his cobworker car pooled together she's a girl but she's from Africa . Any way he had to go to another city which is ...

A.   22 October 2013: Intrigued, yes I agree it's prejudiced, but it's an informed prejudice based on the same reasoning as why the Blood Transfusion Service won't accept blood donations from a person who has had sex with a sub Saharan African person, or a man who's had ... (read in full...)

Why would he have a condom?

Q.   So my boyfriend of 11 months and I live together friday he had to go a thing for work for health insurance or something him and his cobworker car pooled together she's a girl but she's from Africa . Any way he had to go to another city which is ...

A.   20 October 2013: Post script: if he did cheat on you (or plan to), better that he was 'prepared'' I suppose. Seriously, if you have doubts then talk this through with him. Obviously if he cheated then it's game over so you have to get to an honest answer from him. ... (read in full...)

Why would he have a condom?

Q.   So my boyfriend of 11 months and I live together friday he had to go a thing for work for health insurance or something him and his cobworker car pooled together she's a girl but she's from Africa . Any way he had to go to another city which is ...

A.   20 October 2013: In fairness to the OP, HIV rates are significantly higher amongst Africans (e.g. I know I can't donate blood if I have unprotected sex with a sub Saharan African). It's a sad reality that unprotected sex with an African is more risky. OP, d... (read in full...)

He said the message on his phone was a trap to see if I was snooping

Q.   Hi im in a relationship with an aries, I saw on his phone msgs to another woman saying he had feelings for her apparently she was in spain, I asked him about this as I was packing to leave, things got heated n he said he didnt want me to leave, we ...

A.   20 October 2013: I am sorry but I don't believe he placed these messages threre in case you'd snoop. It's doesn't follow any logic. The person he was texting presumably exists - he's implying that they were in a prank together. I doubt it. Also, why did you get ... (read in full...)

I think that fact that I want to stray is telling me something about my current relationship

Q.   I'm in a bit of a dilemma here and not sure what to do? I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years now and I thought that everything was great. But, recently my ex girlfriend got in touch with me. Me and my ex dated nearly 6 years ago for ...

A.   18 October 2013: You are already straying. Imagine if your girlfriend wrote in with just this dilemma. How would you feel? "Never impose on others what you would not choose for yourself" - Confucius. Stop being a wimp - you DO have a say over your actions. ... (read in full...)

Can guys look past this hair I have?

Q.   I have a strange question. I am a girl and have hair in irregular sopts on my body (lower back, butt, and stomach). Ive went to the doctor and she said that there is no was to get rid of all of it. Im taking birth controll hoping that will help with ...

A.   18 October 2013: Of course it's not your fault. It's totally natural to have body hair. Some guys won't like it, some might love it, most (I'd imagine) would be indifferent. Look up Frida Kahlo - a Mexican lady who had a monobrow (as well as serious disabili... (read in full...)

Block him or fight for him?

Q.   I discovered my boyfriend was cheating on me even after he knew my past of being cheated on and how badly hurt I was. I was so surprised because he earned my trust for over a year and a half before we even did anything. I really trusted him because ...

A.   17 October 2013: I'm in agreement with Honeypie; well done OP! Staying No Contact is vital. You're on the right path, you WILL get over this. Give yourself time to get over this, and be patient and compassionate to yourself. As you know, you're not alone x ... (read in full...)

I keep my late partner's Facebook page active -- is this wrong?

Q.   I had created a Facebook profile for my partner and lover of two years and he recently passed away. I definitely do not want to memorialize his profile because I just dont want to believe hes gone yet. So I am still logging in to his profile and ...

A.   15 October 2013: So sorry for your loss. I have a colleague who transformed her daughters FB page into a sort of memorial for her after she passed away. So friends could leave messages on anniversaries or birthdays, and generally share their grief. This was a fe... (read in full...)

He says his sub character came out and started chatting to his son's girlfriend! Does he have mental issues?

Q.   ive come accross something that i dont understand, maybe someone who is good and understands phsycology might be able to put some undertsanding to this type of beahviour. Will try and be as brief as i can, im left completley confused so here it ...

A.   15 October 2013: I am not a psychologist so I don't know how helpful this is but I'll try. I've heard that some people are good at "compartmentalising" parts of their lives and that's what makes them able to cheat and deceive people, lead double lives, with little ... (read in full...)

Should I go to the doctor to prove I am NOT mentally ill?

Q.   I have posted on here before about my situation. Abusive ex, left our son in wet clothes, we had a row about it, then he said he never wanted anymore contact, now he has changed his mind, and I have said no, as I want supervised visits, so now he w...

A.   13 October 2013: I remember your previous post about this man. Why are you still letting him contact you? Tell him one last time that all communication must be through your solicitor, and then never respond to him ever again. Better yet, let your solicitor tell him ... (read in full...)

Can you sue someone for giving you an STD?

Q.   Can you sue someone for giving you an STD? My ex boyfriend has contacted me, to say that he recently ejaculated blood and that if he has an STD he will be suing me. I haven't had a check-up for a few months, but last time I went to the doctors ...

A.   13 October 2013: Oh, I really feel for you. He's not well (mentally), and he's making it your problem. I highly doubt he ejaculated blood, and I highly doubt he's going to kill himself. I strongly suggest you return the gift by whatever means (NOT face to face)... (read in full...)

I am confused after meeting this guy on holiday

Q.   I don't really know where to start if I'm honest, I met a guy on my holiday. He is from Wales and I'm from England, so we are 3 and a bit hours away on a train from one another. He has been a self confessed man whore in his past after sleeping with ...

A.   13 October 2013: Hi OP, I'm not surprised you're confused. Because you're ignoring your gut instincts. You didn't really "forget" his mate's unkind comment, you buried it away rather than ask him what it meant and where it came from. I don't blame you, who want... (read in full...)

If a girl is just not interested why make excuses for putting things off

Q.   There is a girl I like. We went out once. Ever since then whenever I causally ask her out she keeps making excuses. Some I can believe like she says "Friday is her family day." And other excuses like that. The one she uses a lot though is that she ...

A.   13 October 2013: I think it's one of two things. She either can't bring herself to say "no" for fear of causing you offense, or she enjoys the attention/ flattery of being asked out but doesn't want any more than that. Either way, if I were you I'd stop inviting her ... (read in full...)

My friend has a perfect girlfriend yet cheated several times. He needs advice what to do now.

Q.   One of my best friends is with a girl and has been since Feb. The girl went away travelling over the summer but they stayed together, despite only being together a few months at this point. Anyway my best mate fell for a girl at work, whilst his gf ...

A.   12 October 2013: Anonymous female, the website isn't about catching people out at all, but I think that aunts and uncles should be forewarned if a post is fake or misrepresentative before spending precious time responding, don't you agree? If you look carefull... (read in full...)

If I cheated does that mean I don't love my g/f?

Q.   If I've cheated on my girlfriend with the same girl, 4 times now. Does this mean I don't love her? Im so confused. Ive been with my girlfriend for 8 months. Yet met a girl in May, became really good friends really quick. There was chemistry be...

A.   12 October 2013: I believe this is from your mistress: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ive-been-involved-with-a-guy-from-work.html And I believe this is from your friend: http://www.dearcupid.... (read in full...)

I denied a guy orgasm and now I feel bad. What should I Do?

Q.   I am an 18 year old girl with an intense foot fetish. I am aroused by other girl's feet, but I'm not a lesbian, as in I still enjoy sex with males. I also get extremely turned on when someone licks the soles of my feet. So recently I was out with ...

A.   12 October 2013: Why feel terrible? You stopped before it went too far (a point beyond which you'd have felt uncomfortable), which is good! It's a good thing to be aware of your boundaries, though maybe they should be a bit more robust: inviting a stranger into your ... (read in full...)

My friend has a perfect girlfriend yet cheated several times. He needs advice what to do now.

Q.   One of my best friends is with a girl and has been since Feb. The girl went away travelling over the summer but they stayed together, despite only being together a few months at this point. Anyway my best mate fell for a girl at work, whilst his gf ...

A.   12 October 2013: Thanks Honeypie ;) OP, I am assuming you are in fact the girl at the office. In that case, you have my sympathies because you clearly hoped he'd ditch his GF when she got back. He didn't, but he's still willing to see and have sex with you. Tha... (read in full...)

My friend has a perfect girlfriend yet cheated several times. He needs advice what to do now.

Q.   One of my best friends is with a girl and has been since Feb. The girl went away travelling over the summer but they stayed together, despite only being together a few months at this point. Anyway my best mate fell for a girl at work, whilst his gf ...

A.   12 October 2013: We got a post from a young woman who is the exact position as your friend's other girl: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ive-been-involved-with-a-guy-from-work.html She seems very tenacious, isn't she?!... (read in full...)

Block him or fight for him?

Q.   I discovered my boyfriend was cheating on me even after he knew my past of being cheated on and how badly hurt I was. I was so surprised because he earned my trust for over a year and a half before we even did anything. I really trusted him because ...

A.   9 October 2013: I just wrote loads then went to search for a link and my essay disappeared! Anyway here's the link: http://w... (read in full...)

Block him or fight for him?

Q.   I discovered my boyfriend was cheating on me even after he knew my past of being cheated on and how badly hurt I was. I was so surprised because he earned my trust for over a year and a half before we even did anything. I really trusted him because ...

A.   30 September 2013: It's a good idea to block him. In the mean time, keep ignoring any texts or phone calls. He should get the message, though some people are very tenacious ... all the best, OP. ... (read in full...)

Block him or fight for him?

Q.   I discovered my boyfriend was cheating on me even after he knew my past of being cheated on and how badly hurt I was. I was so surprised because he earned my trust for over a year and a half before we even did anything. I really trusted him because ...

A.   29 September 2013: OP, he probably doesn't like anyone that much. Especially if you think he's a narcissist - those people hate themselves deep down. and I also pity the woman he is dating now. Let's hope she can be as strong as you when she sees his true colours. ... (read in full...)

Block him or fight for him?

Q.   I discovered my boyfriend was cheating on me even after he knew my past of being cheated on and how badly hurt I was. I was so surprised because he earned my trust for over a year and a half before we even did anything. I really trusted him because ...

A.   27 September 2013: Recognising that you are/ were in a state of denial is good .. it shows that you are self-aware. You are no longer in denial. Yes you should block his number, and with No Contact, you will start to see the whole scenario with more clarity. Stay ... (read in full...)

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