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writes: Ok, well, I've posted the last couple days about my g/f that is away at school and is on adultfriendfinder.com. I made a fake account, and she fell for it, and talked to the fake guy "me" for about 2 hours, and how she wants to hook up and she's not really sure about her b/f who is the acutal me. She never even talks to me for that long, 10-15 min at best.Am I crazy? I have feelings for her, but the trust issue has always been there, and with me playing the fake guy, she fell for it. I told her I was from the South, and have a deep drawl, and she fell for it.She said she really likes her b/f but she's not sure about him cause he's away, and is looking for a close thing. She said she hasn't cheated on me at all, and that there's feelings but we have to talk about everything in some sort of way, cause she's not sure. Everything above is what she told me, but to a fake persona, I know I'm crazy for persuing this, but the girls I meet come few and far between....it was a long time coming, hopefully this makes some sense, I drank alot when I found all this on my fake persona on AIM.Me, the actual b/f is picking her up 2 hours away tomorrow, to see her, and playing dumb of course, but I figured everything will go like this:Going to pick up your g/f: $20A day at the local fair: $30The look on her face when you confront her with everything: PricelessI know I'm crazy and rambling now cause I'm drunk, but it all makes sense in some sort of way, who knows.........
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reader, rcn  +, writes (7 February 2008):
 Her deceit falls with having a account with a site, with the intent of hooking up with someone other than the person she is "suppose" to be comitted too. I don't think you're wrong at all for seeing if she'd accept the bate, since by having the account symoblizes her initiating inappropriate behavior outside your relationship.
Now after that, you know where she stands, it's up to you with what you do with your information.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): Update! I made that fake account on AdultFriendFinder and she fell for it!
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reader, Toria +, writes (30 September 2006):
 I don't know where you want to go from here, she told this fake guy that she likes her boyfriend but wants to meet someone closer, wants to meet up and gave him 2 hours of her time which see could have spend talking to you, you don't get anything close to that much of her attention as she is "too busy to" etc so if it was me I would probably continue the way things are and continue the fake me and see how far she takes things especially after you've spent some time together at the weekend because the weekend should re-stir her feelings for you and therefore not encourage the fake you into getting to know each other and possibly meeting. The thing is if you confront her she hasn't done anything as yet and the questions will always be on your mind as to whether she is trustworthy, if she really wants to be with you or just hanging you on and whether she would have taken things with the fake you further behind your back. Becareful though, sometimes things have a way of blowing up in your face when you play games and trick people into finding out things that have been playing on your mind, although this could be the most sure way of you finding out the truth it could also be the sure way of losing her.
Good luck :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2006): Sounds like fun. Tell us how it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2006): I understand the need to find out where you stand with this girl, but you are not innocent in all of this. YOU set up an account to trap her! This was wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong! Did I mention it was wrong?
Instead of confronting her with the "I know what you did..blah blah" you need to have a mature conversation at the end of your date. You already know how to lead the conversation since you had a 2 hour conversation with her under your assumed identity. Tell her you really need to know how she feels and not to hold back.
If you want to drive her away of course just tell her about your online persona and watch her walk away.
-J
p.s. Work on your trust issues and if you can't trust her, then you need to find a new girl.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (29 September 2006):
 Well I guess at least you know she hasnt acted on it yet, but the deciet is still there and what she should have done was instead of telling the supposed other guy, is she should have indeed have been telling you!Dont know how you want to play it but i guess you are going to confront her, and its up to you whether you can make a go of it now... only trouble is you will have a hard job trusting her. But at least you can get this all out in the open and decide how you both wants things to pan and maybe she will finally open up as you had to force the issue..Did make me chuckle your rambles though!Hope things work out for you.. let us know.Take care x x
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