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anonymous
writes:I am a ladies man or at least thats wut my friends say I am, but how do I actually get a woman that appreciates me for me. I mean, why is it that most women that I meet say the same thing. They say that they want someone that will appreciate them, treat them right, pamper them, etc... However, why is it that whenever they have that guy right there in front of you, they don't appreciate them, or maybe even see it. I have noticed, that I have a lot of female friends, but, thats exactly what they are. Now, it gets confusing, because, women SAY they want all these things, but they seemingly don't. Whenever they are in a relationship with me (or maybe a guy like me) they take me for granted and I have also noticed that whenever I have a gf, and I treat her right, they seemingly see me differently. Whenever I have to tell them something, or talk to them about something (no matter how innocent) they alwayz seem to wanna fight with me about it, because for those few seconds that I'm not making her feel like royalty, all hell breaks loose. Should I be more of an ass to women just to get their attention?? or am I really going to find someone that will appreciate all tha little things I do for them. Seriously, seriously, will I? Cuz it dont seem I will. Reply to this Question
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (4 March 2007):
 Dont change yourself for the sake of a date! Remain the person you are... these girls you are dating are clearly not wanting the same thing as you...
You could just be going for the same type of girl, and they are not respecting you! You say your a ladies man, maybe thats it, maybe hey see you as a bit of fun and nothing serious, perhaps thats where you are going wrong, finding the players that are just looking for fun, and you want something more meaningful and serious.
Your young and there are alot of women in the world, we are not all the same and most would respect you for you and be very appreciative of the type of person you are.
Dont change you, change the type of woman you go for, the right girl will be out that will accept you for you and you her!
Take care x
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (4 March 2007):
 The right girl will appreciate you for what you are. You just have not met her yet. WOULD YOU recognise her even if she was in front of you?
Agree with Martini, what type of girls have you been going out with? This maybe the problem.
If you are ladies man, then the vibes you are sending out are not good for a decent girl to notice you and the only type that you are attracting are the Pinup girl that will expect more and more and more and more.
Where do you meet them?
No relationship is smooth and needs a lot compromise, love, honesty and mutual respect from both sides in order to work.
A lot of relationships do not work, this does not mean that you will never find one that does.
Check if there is pattern, broaden your horizons and stay positive.
If you think that all women are the same, you will never find the One that will make you happy.
Positive thinking is the key here.
Good luck
Angel of Love
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007): Well, first and foremost, what are the types of women you have been dating? So far, the types you're going after seems to fit under one or two very similar categories. I imagine, hoopy earrings, great dance moves, and lots of laughter. If I am wrong and way off, well the question still remains - what type of women have you been dating?
I mean "not making her feel like royalty" sounds like a super high maintenance girly girl who needs her man to drive around in a Jaguar XJR, holds a youthful corporate position, and has a killer smile that can make any femine fatale faint. Mind you, that's the concept and not the actual thing.
You mentioned "ladies man", hmmm... [ponders] Well, what do you think?
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