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writes:I have a problem i love my wife but the problem is she has a low sex drive while me on the other hand i can go more than three times everyday what can i do?Pliz help
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): Try sex counseling. Unless you have already started seeing someone on the side (which I suspect and you just want our permission to continue)....affairs stick with you forever and are truly not worth it in the long run.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx for your responses but the thing is i have done most of wat you have advised and i am a gentleman but nothing seems to be working,its so frustrating i dont know how much longer i can hold (wait for her to change) or shuld i find someone to be having sex with?Please advice
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (28 April 2009):
 Sadly enough, most women have a much higher sex drive than people realize. Usually the mood killers are when our men do not spend any time on foreplay. We can't just zoom into the sex thing. We have to be coaxed there. Slowly. Offer to help with the dishes, or cooking dinner. Tell her she's beautiful. Spend some time rubbing her back or run her a bubble bath while you put the kids down for the night. All these things can help her flip the switch for her sex drive. Most women are incredibly insecure about our appearances (though we'd never admit it). We always think our thighs, stomach or hips are too large, or our breasts are not large enough. Most women have horrible self images of themselves if you knew the truth about us and this bleeds over into how we relate to our men in the bedroom. Sex makes us feel very vulnerable. We always have to measure up to the porn stars that so many men spend time drooling over in their spare time. That destroys a woman's confidence in the bedroom. Also it's important to spend time outside the bedroom, telling her how much she means to you, how beautiful she is, even when she isn't trying to be dressed up. Our self esteem is more fragile than most men realize and many things cause us to lose interest in sex. We are always comparing ourselves to other women so your job is to make us feel like you only have eyes for us (yeah, I know it's not realistic but it helps us). When a woman has confidence she will feel sexy and you get to reap the benefits. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): I agree with satindesire.... It is very difficult for women to enjoy sex as much as men do. You guys are instantly "on", and it takes us just a bit to get there... Go to a sex store and get toys... Play with her with a vibrator... Use your tongue and your fingers--- softly... Ask her what will satisfy her, in a nice way. Not in a way that makes her feel as if she is not doing the right thing... Just ask her what you can do to please her sexually.... Ask her to masturbate in front of you so you can see just how she likes to be touched... Keep pornography out of it until you guys are satisfied so she doesnt feel as if it is not her that is turning you on....
Good luck!!!!!
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