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writes:I've had a crush on this guy for a while and there's rumors going around that he likes me back and he's gonna break up with his girlfriend for me but he hasn't and he hasn't said anything about the situation at all to me and nobody's brought it up when both of us are there. so what should I do?
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reader, pulchritudia +, writes (6 November 2008):
You should talk to him about it. Talk to him in private. If a man wants to be with you, nothing will stop him. I've put up with so much b.s. from men all my life and I finally found a man that really lives up to "the hype" as noted above.
I've watched my brother and the things he does to his women. He may care for you, but he could be stringing you along as a back up plan. But since he hasn't said anything about it, just confront him about it. Don't make a scene, just confide in him what you've heard.
I wish you the best of luck!
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (6 November 2008):
 Don't believe rumors. Wait for the truth. When (and if) it comes, then you can come forward.
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reader, naya  +, writes (6 November 2008):
Hi.. Im not putting you down.. But for me.. Dont expect too much.. Because you can be hurt one day.. I've already experienced that instance in my life.. A boy really cared for me and promise me that he will left his girlfriend for me.. But "nah", it didnt happened.. Sometimes, boys are longing for a longer commitment.. What if he and his partmer are staying for a years now? It's not that easy to break up with someone whom you stay for a long time and shared with a lots of memories with you.. And just think about it, if in instance that he will left his girlfriend, do you think that he can easily forget her?? That's not easy.. Im telling you this because I dont want you to expect too much and be hurt in the end.. =p Im sure you're pretty.. =) There are lots of single boys here..
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (6 November 2008):
 Getting stuck in the middle of a love affair can cause alot of stress and you could be viewed as a troublemaker. If he really likes you don't put any pressure on him to leave his girlfriend. Most always catching someone who is on the outs with a mate is a rebound. If he can't leave the girlfriend in a good way chances are he might do the same thing to you if you get involved.
Don't allow him to put you in the middle. If he wants to break up with his girlfriend, don't let him use you as his reason, he could wind up blaming you if he realizes he should have stayed in the relationship with her. He could also wind up leaving you for someone else just as he did with this girl.
Be cautious of rumors, they aren't always correct and you could wind up looking foolish. If he really likes you and decides to leave her don't rush into anything with him. Be sure that he is serious about you first and be careful that you aren't being played.-+++++
For now just go about your days doing the things you like to do. Be a friend if the situation calls for it but leave the romantic thoughts on the back burner. Give him the time to call the shots but don't let him get over on you. In time it will soon come out in the open and it's up to him to do the right thing. Don't let your heart get too far out and care enough about yourself to remember that you should never settle for 2nd place yet you should never be in the middle either. He must use his heart and good consience in order to do the right thing. Pray for the best.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): Having a crush on someone is really hard especially if they have a girlfriend.
He hasn't split up with his girlfriend yet? and he probably won't unless he gets fed up with her or finds some other excuse, and then tries to date you, in which case you will be second best and in the future he may blame you for the break up, even though it won't be your fault. How do you know he is not a two timer?
The best you can do is try to forget about him and try to date someone that is genuinely interested in you, otherwise you may find that you havr been wasting your time.
Good luck x
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reader, xxhoplesslyhisxx +, writes (6 November 2008):
well rumors are a huge part of school and some are not usually true. i think that u shuldnt listen to these rumors and get urself all worked up. wait for him to come and talk to you or if he is a shy type of guy ask him wat the rumors are about. but remember to do this in a calm and suttle matter so he doesnt make assumptions that u want to ruin his relationship
good luck keep me updated =)
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