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I have lived through many different experiences in my life, some happy and some traumatic. I am single and have been for 7yrs. I have lots of animals including a horse and sheep.
I work with people that are homeless, have mental illness or learning disability, ex offenders, substance misuse issues, self harm, low self esteem, fleeing domestic abuse, families going through difficulties, parents with children who are having difficulties. I work in supported housing so see all these issues regularity and work with agencies to get some help if I cannot help. |
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My foreskin doesn't retract. How do I correct this?
Q. Alright, I am an 18 year old male, living in the UK. Growing up I lost my virginity with my grilfriend when I was 15, and have had various sexual partners since then. When I lost my virginity, my slightly more experienced girlfriend mentioned...
A. 26 February 2006: godofgraphics and Chris, both of you need to go see a doctor, I had a partner with the same problem and doc fixed it, if you leave it you will start to get other things wrong, so go make the appointment and sort it out.... (read in full...)
Is he gay? A virgin? Shy? What's going on and why does he only show interest when he's had a few?
Q. Hi, Basically, I'm trying to get things going with this shy guy that's on my course. Flirting and mutual acknowledgment started with our fieldtrip last March. During a group outing we almost got together (dancing got pretty steamy)....
A. 18 February 2006: He cannot make up his mind, he wants you when he has drink in him but does not want any other form of relationship or intamacy, this is fine it just means you and him are not right for each other, you want him but he is just wasting your time.
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I like her, but she liked my friend. We were friends, then I called her a bitch and now she hates me!
Q. Why she did this to me? I don't know what to do. There is a girl in my class in the college who lives near my house. We used to come together and I started liking her during that time. We use to share opinions and problems. I did this for a year,...
A. 18 February 2006: I know what you are to do, you are to get a grip of yourself and forget her, yes i know this wont be easy but your friendship with each other was good, you wanted to take that friendship a step further and make it a relationship, she has made it ... (read in full...)
When I mentioned that I'm still a virgin, he dropped out of sight!
Q. Well I broke up with my first true love about 2 months ago. I'm still hurting from it, especially because he's in another state and I know we can't get back together. But I'm doing better and trying to move on. Well one of my really close friends ...
A. 18 February 2006: No I dont think your being a virgin has scared him off, but I do think that being this open in an e-mail is not a good idea, you should keep intimate things a mystery and dont tell him too much too soon.
As what you have told him can not be untol... (read in full...)
My foreskin doesn't retract. How do I correct this?
Q. Alright, I am an 18 year old male, living in the UK. Growing up I lost my virginity with my grilfriend when I was 15, and have had various sexual partners since then. When I lost my virginity, my slightly more experienced girlfriend mentioned...
A. 18 February 2006: You have a medical condition and need to go see your GP, you must not delay in getting this seen to as it can and will cause you problems in later life.
Do not worry about circumsision as there maybe no need for this, but if you do have to have it, ... (read in full...)
If I ask him out, is he going to think I'm too forward?
Q. From a guy's perspective, is it off-putting if a woman initiates asking for a first date? ... This is someone who I've known for for quite a while but only see and speak to briefly. Obviously I'd like to get to know them better and have thought ...
A. 18 February 2006: we now have equality, so no it is not off putting for a girl to ask out a bloke in fact all the blokes I know think it is fine and sexy, they like being chased.
Go for it!! ... (read in full...)
He doesn't know when he is going to have an orgasm
Q. My partner cannot feel anything up to the point of orgasm, and then it comes as a complete surprise. The lack of build up means that he has no control over it, and is very consious of it during sex. Has anyone got any suggestions?...
A. 17 February 2006: I agree with Creampuff, get him checked out but if you use condoms this could be the problem.
Try giving him a hand job and seeing if he can controle this, you will be able to watch as he gets near to orgasm so can tell him he is about to come and... (read in full...)
Isn't throwing out one's gf, unacceptable under any circumstances? Feedback needed.
Q. My boyfriend threw me out at a party we gave for friends at home; just because I replied what he perceived as sarcastically to a question I felt insulted by him asking since it belittled me ; now we are apart; I feel hurt and utterly mortifie...
A. 17 February 2006: Good for you, when you torn up the pics you torn up your relationship and lets face it, the bloke is a nasty peice of work, he is manipulative, domineering and basically a peice of dirt.
No one has the right to put you down, we are all allowed free... (read in full...)
Isn't throwing out one's gf, unacceptable under any circumstances? Feedback needed.
Q. My boyfriend threw me out at a party we gave for friends at home; just because I replied what he perceived as sarcastically to a question I felt insulted by him asking since it belittled me ; now we are apart; I feel hurt and utterly mortifie...
A. 17 February 2006: Good for you, when you torn up the pics you torn up your relationship and lets face it, the bloke is a nasty peice of work, he is manipulative, domineering and basically a peice of dirt.
No one has the right to put you down, we are all allowed free... (read in full...)
Isn't throwing out one's gf, unacceptable under any circumstances? Feedback needed.
Q. My boyfriend threw me out at a party we gave for friends at home; just because I replied what he perceived as sarcastically to a question I felt insulted by him asking since it belittled me ; now we are apart; I feel hurt and utterly mortifie...
A. 17 February 2006: Good for you, when you torn up the pics you torn up your relationship and lets face it, the bloke is a nasty peice of work, he is manipulative, domineering and basically a peice of dirt.
No one has the right to put you down, we are all allowed free... (read in full...)
Isn't throwing out one's gf, unacceptable under any circumstances? Feedback needed.
Q. My boyfriend threw me out at a party we gave for friends at home; just because I replied what he perceived as sarcastically to a question I felt insulted by him asking since it belittled me ; now we are apart; I feel hurt and utterly mortifie...
A. 17 February 2006: Good for you, when you torn up the pics you torn up your relationship and lets face it, the bloke is a nasty peice of work, he is manipulative, domineering and basically a peice of dirt.
No one has the right to put you down, we are all allowed free... (read in full...)
Isn't throwing out one's gf, unacceptable under any circumstances? Feedback needed.
Q. My boyfriend threw me out at a party we gave for friends at home; just because I replied what he perceived as sarcastically to a question I felt insulted by him asking since it belittled me ; now we are apart; I feel hurt and utterly mortifie...
A. 17 February 2006: Good for you, when you torn up the pics you torn up your relationship and lets face it, the bloke is a nasty peice of work, he is manipulative, domineering and basically a peice of dirt.
No one has the right to put you down, we are all allowed free... (read in full...)
My old flame has a girlfriend. Should I give him a whirl, or forget about it?
Q. I grew up with a childhood sweetheart. We were mad for each other. I recently ran into him again and realize that we still have an incredible connection, but he has a girlfriend...should I pursue him? Or just move on?...
A. 17 February 2006: Tell him it was fantastic to see him again and move on, if he knows how to contact you he will, if the relationship is fated to re-kindle it will without too much activity from you.... (read in full...)
Is 'toe-sex' just going to be too weird to suggest?
Q. Please if there is anyone else who has this fetish, or if you are a guy, does this appeal to you? I don't have a foot fetish, but I had one boyfriend who did this to me once, and I want my new bf to do it but I'm scared he'll think I'm weird. M...
A. 17 February 2006: Well that is a new one on me and I thought I knew all the kinky stuff !!
It is not weird to want to do things that give you pleasure, in fact it is cool, tell him what you fancy him doing to you and see his reaction, if he looks like he does not... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks she's stupid and that nothing's a problem for me. It's not true!
Q. My girlfriend thinks I'm the smartest person in the world, and she, the most stupid... We have been dating for about 3 years and we are both 19 now. Lately, (more often since she has been away at college) she seems to come up with any and eve...
A. 17 February 2006: She needs to see a college counsellor to talk through her fears and her obviouse lack of confidence, you can only suggest this and if possible find out the information for her and give it to her, you need to talk to her and say how concerned you are ... (read in full...)
Is there hope for us again?
Q. Help. I’m confused. I have recently split from my boyfriend of six months and the whole thing has devastated me. Anyway, I have been the stronger one and have not been in touch with him for several weeks. Then, yesterday, he e-mails me asking if I ...
A. 17 February 2006: If he was interested in you he would be counting the hours till your meeting, not expecting you to text him to "remind him" this is just not on and my advice is to move on and tell him you are doing so, he does not deserve you and is just filling in ... (read in full...)
How long do I wait for him to tell his family about me?
Q. hallo. I am in arelationship but frustrated.I am dating a 28 year old man whom i have always thought of marrying someday. to begin with, initially my parents and his parents fell that i and his elder brother brother could marry, when we met for ...
A. 17 February 2006: Oh dear me you really are in a pickle, you are preganant and you dont have a hope in hell of this bloke marrying you as it stands today.
He is doing all he can to controle you and the situation by delaying tacticts and by accusing you of going out ... (read in full...)
Does he want a relationship, one night stand or have I scared him away by a text?
Q. Submitted this question before but there was an error so here it is again:- This guy and I have been close friends for just under 2 months but known each other for years. I am getting mixed signals from him and I think he is feeling the same way...
A. 17 February 2006: HI, firstly have you thought that he may have no credit on his phone, may have lost it or it just needs charging and he has not got around to it.
It does seem like he likes you and you definatly like him so text him again saying that you are worr... (read in full...)
I love him so much and it hurts but he is with someone...
Q. i really need help.theres this guy that i met about 4 years ago,at the time he was my boyfriend's cousin(my ex now)and we clicked but none of us could act on what we felt coz it wasnt possible at the time,but about 2 years ago i left the country and ...
A. 13 February 2006: Hello Latifa, what a dilema you have made for yourself, you are in love with a man you just cannot have, he is with a partner and they seem to love each other, you are in love with the idea of being in love with him, in reality you know it will not ... (read in full...)
He doesn't talk about how he feels...what can I do?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together nearly 7months. we are normally close and get on well. he has a bit of a temper and can sometimes get abry easily. for the last two weeks he has been distant and its always me going to him but its him that ...
A. 13 February 2006: Difficult one this, on the one hand I would say you need to continue being patient and supportive as it is obviouse his family issues are causing him stess and just maybe he feels he wants to deal with them on his own. He says sorry and admits he ... (read in full...)
Does he just want a bit of fun or does he really like me?
Q. Hello, i wonder if you can help me. I have a guy friend that i think fancies me. He is completely gorgeous in every way, i admit, i do fancy the pants off of him but i cant seem to read him and i dont want to make myself look like and idiot. We all ...
A. 13 February 2006: It does sound like something is going on in his head he just has not worked it through yet, he obviously thinks he likes you but maybe he is just scared of loosing the friendship, or upsetting the balance within your group.
Good idea about a vala... (read in full...)
I didn't tell him about my past and now he can't forgive me
Q. My fiance can't forgive me for my past and the fact that it took me so long to tell him about it. How can I convince him that it is not due to a lack of trust but lack of self confidence in me?...
A. 13 February 2006: Right well you know what has to be done, you need to finish your relationship with him, if he does not trust you then you have no basis for a strong relationship let alone a marriage.
He is definatly insecure and not you, he has the problem ... (read in full...)
How do I get over this sexual mental block?
Q. i need your help in over coming a mental block regarding sex, it started yrs ago when i was married, i was often forced to do sex acts and also to have sex when i didn't want it, now i've got this mental block that is not really helping my ...
A. 13 February 2006: What a lovely sensible girl you are, you have moved on from the creature that hurt you to find a new love and naturally due to the abuse you suffered things in the sex department are not right, great you have an understanding partner and make sure ... (read in full...)
I want to cross my legs...
Q. when i masturbate and reach orgasm i have a sudden urge to cross my legs and pull myself really hard til i feel oan overwhelming sense of relirf. i think it is weird but it happens all the time....
A. 13 February 2006: Quite normal so carry on giving yourself pleasure.... (read in full...)
I want more that just a physical relationship with him but he is so young
Q. I am really confused at the moment. This guy and I have known each other all his life (our parents are best friends) but recently we have started to see each other as friends. I really like this guy; he is a breath of fresh air compared to other ...
A. 13 February 2006: Good grief girl, you really think about things to much, I bet you are a worrier in all aspect of your life, stop stressing and read your letter again, it holds all the answers if only you would let your heart have a say in stead of that lovely but ... (read in full...)
She says she wants time but will we grow apart?
Q. me and my g/f of three years broke it off about a week ago b/c we were at the point of getting engaged and she really freaked out and said she was confused, stressed, ect and needed a break..we have been talking on and off for about a week..the ...
A. 13 February 2006: To love and to have lost is better than to have never loved at all, well that is true in this situation as you have loved and now it is over, let it be just that.
Enjoy the good memories but dont keep this thing going as it really has run its cour... (read in full...)
How can I help my friend out if she's pregnant or not?
Q. I have a friend that is taking the pregnancy test and she still has no answer how can i help her? ...
A. 13 February 2006: I am a little puzzled, you say your friend took the test and has no answer, why not, they say pregnant or not pregnant, do you mean that she is being told by the test that she is not pregnant but has still not come on her period, if this is the case ... (read in full...)
Divorcing my husband because of his drug use. Did I do the right thing?
Q. I recently found out my husband is on meth. I'm in the process of divorcing him. We have a child together, so he gets supervised visitation, at which time he often tells me he misses me and still loves me. Even though I have no intentions of ...
A. 13 February 2006: Due to my job I see both sides of what drugs do to people, on one hand there is the damage to family, friends, and loved ones then there is the damage the person does to themselves.
Drugs take over peoples lives and they will never be the same agai... (read in full...)
Is sex with an ex ever a good idea?
Q. Is sex with an ex ever a good idea?...
A. 13 February 2006: Tried that lots of times and no it just makes you feel like a used tart, when it is over it really is over and should stay that way.
Believe me you just prolong the agony and it means he gets sex without the relationship part.
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Seeing my ex at work every day is a strain! Any way out of this situation that doesn't involve quitting my job?
Q. I was seeing this girl that I work with on and off for about 6 months. We had a lot of ups and downs because she was reluctant to get involved in a serious relationship. After a while we started seeing each other every day and got really close, this ...
A. 13 February 2006: Wake up to the fact that it is over and that she has moved on, you sound like a fantastic bloke she sounds like a bitch, if you carnt sit away from her then you will just have to grow a thick skin, she is just showing off because she knows it ... (read in full...)
I couldn't ring him when I was out with my friends, and it made him think I was cheating!
Q. Long story short. Everything was going great with my bf of 2 months up until 2 weeks ago. He thought I was cheating on him. I wouldn't pick up my phone when I went out with my girlfriends or went to my friend's house, so he thought I was cheating. ...
A. 13 February 2006: Bin the boy and find a man, he is just not with the programme, nothing that a few years will not put right but have you time to babysit his insecurities or are you mature enough to move on.... (read in full...)
Valentines Day means nothing to him. Does that mean I have to ignore it too?
Q. Valentine's Day is right around the corner and I'm dating this guy for about 3 months, who was in a relationship for 3yrs before me. In a casual conversation one day, the subject of Valentine's came up and he quickly brushed off the idea by sayin...
A. 13 February 2006: Valentines day is now so comercial it is out of controle, maybe he just is like me sick of valentines day and easter starting whilst the christmas stock is still on the shelves, lots of people are like this and for some it is just another day to ... (read in full...)
It bothers me that my new BF has so much more experience with women than I have with men!
Q. Hi guys, I am 19 years old who recently began dating a 25 year old. The age difference isn't a problem, it's just that he has a lot more experience than me when it comes to bf/gf's. He has had 4 gf's while I have only had one boyfriend which lasted ...
A. 13 February 2006: Well you will never know if it will work or if he is on the re-bound if you dont give it a go.
We all have a past, yours is just not a long one yet due to your age, the older we get the more past we get, so try and get past this, he is with you now ... (read in full...)
I was uncomfortable when his friends took the mick out of my boyfriend. Am I overreacting?
Q. Hi - here is a question that has been annoying me for the past week, its about my boyfriend, Jason. About a week ago, I met a group of Jason's mates at the pub. There was a few of them, girls and guys. They were friendly and nice towards me,...
A. 13 February 2006: These girls are testing you, they are pushing the boundaries to see where yours lie, my advice is to ignore this and smile sweetly, try and engage with them and put there catty behaviour behind you, women cant be nasty to new people in there circle ... (read in full...)
Two weeks after he said he didn't want to ask me out, he's still flirty with me. What's going on?
Q. Ok, I already asked this question, but I'm wondering if I can get some further advice. So I'm 16 and my friend asked this guy that's been flirting and friendly with me if he liked me. He basically said I kinda do, but not enough to ask out and I ...
A. 11 February 2006: Fact is that he just does not like you enough to have a relationship with you, the sooner you accept this and move onto another bloke the better, he is just waisting your time.
Forget him and move on, there are a lot of lovely blokes just wait... (read in full...)
I am 50 years old and I have a crush on someone who is 21..is this normal?
Q. i have a crush on 21yr old, i'm 50 and married is this normal? ...
A. 11 February 2006: I would say that finding a 20 year old attractive is fine but wanting to persue someone that young is just trying to have something you carnt, you maybe realising that you are getting on and trying to hang onto youth, well that is not the way to go ... (read in full...)
Do spells work?
Q. Does anyone think spells actually work? I mean like voodoo or witches spells? Just curious....
A. 11 February 2006: That depends on what you believe in, most of us curse and at times wish harm on someone who has hurt or humiliated us, but few would actually go past the wishing in anger part.
There are people who believe in the Voodoo or the power of whitchcr... (read in full...)
Does he care?
Q. Can you tell me if this is the way a caring partner should be. I had been looking forward to going out all week but last night it went wrong. We went to pick up a friend and I felt unwell so we had to get the taxi to take me home. My boyfrien...
A. 11 February 2006: Welcome to the real world, people are selfish they do not think and certainly they do not do as we think they should.
It was not unreasonable for you to think that he may come home early but once people get into a party atmosphere and the drink flow... (read in full...)
Wonder if I'm just a convenient meal ticket for my girlfriend and her cat!
Q. I have been living with a girl for 2 1/2 years. She moved in with me after her father died. I have a 21yr old daughter in college and a 15 yr old son. My girlfriend has been remarkable to my kids and we had a great relationship until recently. 3 ...
A. 11 February 2006: Hi diverdan, I was not going to reply to anyone today due to late night and hangover but I just want to say that your reply goes to show there are two sides to everything.
Reding what you have wrote this time makes me think that you are stre... (read in full...)
I am really moody with him and I don't want to hurt him
Q. hi i am a 16 year old gurl and i love my boyfriend to death he is 17 years old....he treats me so good but i fight with him all the time over little things..... i dont know why i fight with him he doesnt do anything to make me mad but i push him...
A. 10 February 2006: Stop right there, you need to step back and look at what you have wrote, you love this guy but when you had sex it all went wrong, that tell me that you were not ready for a full on sexual relationship with him and that you did not take precautions ... (read in full...)
Could I ever become straight if my gay relationship doesn't work?
Q. Is there a possibilty that if you at one point in your life thought and were convinced that you were gay, and then you become straight? My first love was a man, and I'm convinced that I want to marry him, and he's my soulmate. Is there a chance...
A. 10 February 2006: Well once upon a time a good friend of mine with wife and kids started to have strong feelings about men and he struggled with his sexuality for ages especially as he was married, he did then start to have some on night stands with blokes and ... (read in full...)
I've been with my guy for two years but he still acts like he's single!
Q. hi, have been with my b/f for 2 years now but sometimes i just dont think he takes our relationship seriously. i get the impression that sometimes my b/f thinks that he is single and goes around acting like he is single, for example their has been ...
A. 9 February 2006: Thanks for the up-date and I still think he is a dirty bugger only now I think he is a selfish, un carring and totaly sexually orientated dirty bugger.
Still leave him, You are not alone feeling like you do, it is not unusual to hate someone ... (read in full...)
Wonder if I'm just a convenient meal ticket for my girlfriend and her cat!
Q. I have been living with a girl for 2 1/2 years. She moved in with me after her father died. I have a 21yr old daughter in college and a 15 yr old son. My girlfriend has been remarkable to my kids and we had a great relationship until recently. 3 ...
A. 9 February 2006: You really need to have a word with yourself, you are comming across as selfish and petty, she moved in with you because you presumably asked her to, she had suffered the loss of her father and still took time to develope a good relationship with ... (read in full...)
I've been with my guy for two years but he still acts like he's single!
Q. hi, have been with my b/f for 2 years now but sometimes i just dont think he takes our relationship seriously. i get the impression that sometimes my b/f thinks that he is single and goes around acting like he is single, for example their has been ...
A. 6 February 2006: Ditch the dirty bugger now and move on, he is a waste of your time, he is showing you no respect or that he even gives a damn about your feelings, this is not acceptable, cut him out of your life now as he obviously want to be free and single, ... (read in full...)
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