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I have lived through many different experiences in my life, some happy and some traumatic. I am single and have been for 7yrs. I have lots of animals including a horse and sheep.
I work with people that are homeless, have mental illness or learning disability, ex offenders, substance misuse issues, self harm, low self esteem, fleeing domestic abuse, families going through difficulties, parents with children who are having difficulties. I work in supported housing so see all these issues regularity and work with agencies to get some help if I cannot help. |
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I had sex with him but he was so ugly, I didn't want to be seen with him! It's over but I keep thinking about him??
Q. weve been going out with my bf for 2yrs with a 3mnth split in the middle. we split because i couldnt deal with him joining the army. when we were apart i ending up having regular sex with this bloke. he was very good in bed and i liked his ...
A. 4 March 2006: You really need to re-read what you wrote in the first instance, you seem shocked by what myself and sexybum wrote to you but you did not give us much to go on, you said you were embarrassed to be seen out with him, now you said you went out places ... (read in full...)
Our first year anniversary meant a lot to me, but not to him.. Why!?
Q. If ur bf makes the statement that ur anniversity is just a day does that mean hes not serious about our relationship? Even ifs its our first year and that he gave me a promise ring? What is he thinkin? It really hurt me becuz our first year ...
A. 3 March 2006: He gave you a ring does that not say that he feels a lot for you.
I have never been one for remembering anniversaries, I find it difficult to remember birthdays and on some days my own name, lots of people are like me, it does not mean that we care... (read in full...)
Odds of an (almost) immaculate conception, please?
Q. Does anyone know how common it is to get pregnet from not having vaginal intercorse because ive heard that u can get pregnet if a guy has spern on his finger and he sticks it in you, im not sure that this happend but im late for my period and im ...
A. 3 March 2006: I agree with Lisa, and for what it is worth I think you worrying is what is making your period late, just take the test and then your mind will be eased and I bet your period starts the next day.... (read in full...)
Guys love to chase me but lose interest when they know I'm keen...
Q. It seems to me that the men I date love to chase but lose interest once they know I'm interested in them. If I'm not interested in a guy, he'll keep trying to ask me out, even if I keep turning him down. And if I really do like a guy who has pursued ...
A. 3 March 2006: Dont tell them you like them, just keep it casual and soon they will be trying to guess if you like them and then they will commit a bit more because they will think they are in controle of the way the relationship progresses and the speed etc.
C... (read in full...)
I'm a broke college student so can't impress with $$... Is that why she hasn't called?
Q. I'm a college student and I really like a woman who's a few years older and a single mother. But I don't feel I have much to offer her. I've taken her out to dinner, but I can't afford to do that much. So I asked if she'd be interested in me making ...
A. 3 March 2006: No it means that she is trying to juggle a lot of balls in the air and your ball with your number on has not yet reached the ground.
I think making her dinner in lovely and she will enjoy it what ever it is you make as she needs some R&R, you not ... (read in full...)
I'm a broke college student so can't impress with $$... Is that why she hasn't called?
Q. I'm a college student and I really like a woman who's a few years older and a single mother. But I don't feel I have much to offer her. I've taken her out to dinner, but I can't afford to do that much. So I asked if she'd be interested in me making ...
A. 3 March 2006: No it means that she is trying to juggle a lot of balls in the air and your ball with your number on has not yet reached the ground.
I think making her dinner in lovely and she will enjoy it what ever it is you make as she needs some R&R, you not ... (read in full...)
I'm a broke college student so can't impress with $$... Is that why she hasn't called?
Q. I'm a college student and I really like a woman who's a few years older and a single mother. But I don't feel I have much to offer her. I've taken her out to dinner, but I can't afford to do that much. So I asked if she'd be interested in me making ...
A. 3 March 2006: No it means that she is trying to juggle a lot of balls in the air and your ball with your number on has not yet reached the ground.
I think making her dinner in lovely and she will enjoy it what ever it is you make as she needs some R&R, you not ... (read in full...)
Why does he look at porn? I sneaked a look and it's just gross!
Q. Hi, iv been dating my guy for almost 9 months, we have always been very close but one time when i went to his house to visit we where in his room then he left the room and i noticed his pc was on so i moved the mouse the screen saver shut off and i ...
A. 3 March 2006: Martini will no doubt cut and paste his answer in for you,(go for it martini just one more time!!) so I will just say that some women have a problem with there men looking at porn and some dont, it is apparantly normal for blokes to look at porn but ... (read in full...)
We kissed but now that it's happened, he avoids me! What should I do?
Q. Hiya, I recently french kissed this boy that I've liked for ages, it was my first time. But now that I've done it he seems to be avoiding me. He signs on msn but doesn't engage in any conversation with me, and it feels already that he just wanted m...
A. 3 March 2006: Oh dear, what a mess, he is a pig and you are better off without him so start looking for another bloke.
One kiss does not make you a hoar so forget her nasty comments she is just hurting as you kissed her bloke and now she knows she cannot trus... (read in full...)
He said he's sorry and won't flirt...should I carry on with this relationship or is it pointless?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend two years now at the begining of the relationship i used to let him walk all over me because i didn't have the guts to say anything. He didnt realise i could see what hed' been saying online to girls and when i confront...
A. 2 March 2006: He only ignores half the girls now well thats a start, what are you thinking, he is not in love with you he is just telling you this to keep you hanging on and dangling, he knows if he tells you that he is keeping away from these girls and that he ... (read in full...)
I had sex with him but he was so ugly, I didn't want to be seen with him! It's over but I keep thinking about him??
Q. weve been going out with my bf for 2yrs with a 3mnth split in the middle. we split because i couldnt deal with him joining the army. when we were apart i ending up having regular sex with this bloke. he was very good in bed and i liked his ...
A. 2 March 2006: Grow up and make your mind up, you had a bloke and for no reason other than he wanted a career in the army you ditched him, then you meet and have fantastic sex with this other bloke who you treated apallingly and lets face it, you did not deserve ... (read in full...)
My sex life is sooo boring-even a vibrator doesn't help! what can I do?
Q. our sex life is drying up, we have always been quite experimental with positions but we always do the same 5 or 6, am i just being too demanding? ive got a vibratior and we use that as an aid during sex but im still bored. please help!!!!!!!!!! x...
A. 2 March 2006: Get some books and dvd`s out on sexual techniques, learn some new positions and go buy some new sex aids, you are most mens dream, so do a bit of fantasy fulfilling, men like it when you tell them yor fantasy and make it come alive.
You get out of s... (read in full...)
My bf of 2yrs is joining the army.. will he cheat on me?
Q. my bf of 2yrs is joining the army will he cheat?...
A. 2 March 2006: Who knows, if your relationship is very strong and he loves you then hopefully not but no one even he can say, you will just have to trust him. ... (read in full...)
We kissed but now that it's happened, he avoids me! What should I do?
Q. Hiya, I recently french kissed this boy that I've liked for ages, it was my first time. But now that I've done it he seems to be avoiding me. He signs on msn but doesn't engage in any conversation with me, and it feels already that he just wanted m...
A. 2 March 2006: Say and do nothing, what you did was not wrong, you kissed him and he was consenting to it, I doubt you had to tie him down so now you have done it and that is that.
Sounds like he wanted to kiss someone and did and now for him that is that.
Do`nt... (read in full...)
He's with me but still wears an engraved ring and necklaces from ex gf's. This hurts and why does he do this?
Q. Hi I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year now, we get on really well and have alot in common (im 22 he is 30) the problem is he still wears a ring that one of his ex girlfriends gave him with his and her names engraved in it, wears a n...
A. 2 March 2006: I think he just has these things that his ex girlfriends have given him and he just keeps them, does he know they bother you and if so what if anything did he do about it.
Buy him a new chain, give him a photo of you and ask him if he would`nt mind... (read in full...)
I'm pretty and nice..my friend is ugly. So how did she get a bf and I didn't?
Q. Not boasting, just being confident, but im dead pretty and nice, and my mate is dead ugly and can be really horrible, then how did she get a bf and i didnt? im lonely and i want a bf because now shes left me for her new guy. ...
A. 2 March 2006: Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, you see your friend as inferior to you, you say she is ugly.
Well some people must think different, she may have a fantastic personality and not worry about her looks, this is what makes her attractive not what... (read in full...)
Do I just let him go or should I try to win him back?
Q. Having real trouble getting over a guy... Ok I'll try and keep this short; just before Christmas last year this guy started at my work. I found out from a workmate that he liked me and at first didn't believe it as I'd barely spoken to him (h...
A. 2 March 2006: WEll if it was me I would let him go, you have tried several times with him and he just wont listen to you.
He is moving and after a while may get a job nearer to his home so just let this one go.... (read in full...)
Did he change his e-mail address and not tell me? What do you think?
Q. A guy that I had been close friends with and hoped that one day we'd be an item had to move a couple of months ago for a job. He gave me his old computer before he moved so we could stay in contact. Well that was 4 months ago. Everytime I tried ...
A. 2 March 2006: Sounds more like he is having either financial difficulties i.e cannot pay his bill or he is having technical difficulties.
He obviously wanted to stay in touch so I think it is more likely that something else has gone wrong, if you know his addr... (read in full...)
I said no but wished I said yes when he asked me out...I thought he was joking
Q. hi there there is this lad how asked me out but I said no and now I regret saying no to him wt should I do This is wt he said to me he said he loved my new hair colour and then said are you going out with anyone and then said will you go out with...
A. 1 March 2006: Does not matter what weight you are because this bloke fancies you and you need to ask him out, he has it bad for you girl and you should go seize the opportunity to be his woman.... (read in full...)
We have broken up but he doesn't turn up to agreed meetings
Q. I am having some problems with my ex, 21, since our split after five months. I am 33, we are both gay, and we had a wonderful, honest relationship. However, after New Year he suddenly chose to end things saying things were not working for him....
A. 1 March 2006: This time dont you turn up, give this bloke a taste of his own medicine and get some of your self respect back.
He has finished with you and that is that, no ammount of talking will make this different and while in the short term you are hurt... (read in full...)
Perhaos he only has sex with me for my sake...what do I do??
Q. Hi, ive been with my boyfriend nearly 6yrs im only gone 22 ive been with him since i was 16 he is a lovely bloke and i do love him, recently we bought a house together but i wasnt a hundred % certain at the time that it was a good idea because we ...
A. 1 March 2006: Split up, sell the house and move on, you are thinking of straying even if you dont fully admit to it yet, he just carnt be bothered to try with you any more and basically you both have a habit not a forward going relationship.
Cut your loses now ... (read in full...)
Lately, my GF won't even let me kiss her, hug her or even hold her hand!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for 6 months now. I love her to bits, but she hates me doing anything with her lately. I can't kiss her, hug her, hold her hand, nothing that shows other people that I'm going out with her. What could I do to make thi...
A. 1 March 2006: I think the relationship is over and she has just not had the bottle to tell you so is freezing you out.
Ask her and find out if im right.... (read in full...)
I guess I need the drama in my life, but I really want my alcoholic, cheating boyfriend back!
Q. After having read loads of advice on lots of different subject on this page I am still in the same space I was 5 yrs ago. I was with partner 18 yrs, found out he was cheating. He had drink problem. It killed me watching him. He wanted to drink hi...
A. 1 March 2006: Dear me this man is a user, he is an alcoholic who has women falling over themselves to please him, look after him and have sex with him, is he some kind of greek god ?
Wake up to him and pass this on to current girlfriend, you are wasting your time... (read in full...)
I love my older girlfriend and she wants to get engaged. But what if I want children in the future?
Q. My girlfriend is 47 and I'm 26. We love each other but with one snag: I'm not sure if I'll want children in the future. At the moment I don't but who knows. We've spoken about this and she seems to talk around the subject. She recently asked me...
A. 1 March 2006: You are right in not moving in with her until you have worked through the kids issue.
If you committ to this woman then you are commiting to a life with no children of your own, you are close to her granchild but will this be enough.
I suspect ... (read in full...)
I want to go out, but I don't know how to ask boys, or if I should...
Q. Hi, I'm 15 Years Old and Never had a boyfriend All my friends have had boyfriends and had sex with them. They all say to me just go out with anyone, screw them and dump them. I don't want to do that but I do want a boyfriend. The problem is al...
A. 1 March 2006: My advice is to see which blokes you fancy, may be someone older or younger, who does your eyes keep wandering to and who makes you laugh.
If such a bloke is out there then tell him, ask him out, you may need to drop a note with your e-mail addr... (read in full...)
What can I say to support my new boyfriend when he talks about his family problems?
Q. Hello, I’ve been going out with my boyfriend for about 5 weeks now and in this time, we have become quite close even though it isn’t very long. His dad was an alcoholic when he was little and used to beat his mum in front of him. His dad th...
A. 1 March 2006: There is nothing you can say to him, you can just be there for him and listen, that means more to him than trying to understand something that is his experience and not yours.
My advice is to let him talk and when he gets upset pretend not to noti... (read in full...)
He is affectionate but it makes me feel uncomfortable...what can I do?
Q. i've met a guy whom i have alot in common with. he wants us to be an item, which is fine with me but he likes to be very touchy feely ie holding hands and cuddling. i want to do this but feel very uneasy when he does it. any advice how i can loosen ...
A. 1 March 2006: like Jadzia says go with your gut feelings, you want to cuddle and hold hands with him so what is stopping you ?
Holding hands, cuddling etc is normal when you first start going out with someone but is his cuddling is more like feeling you up, goin... (read in full...)
My mate kissed me, but I know he already has a girlfriend!
Q. For the first time last night I had a very sloppy kiss from my mate. Well really I don't know any more because he gave me a kiss, but the only thing is he has a girlfriend! Ahhh help! How do I know if he loves me as much as I love him without ...
A. 1 March 2006: He kissed you he did not procalaim un-dying love for you, he took the opportunity to go behind his girlfriends back and have a snog with you. He does not love you if he did he would know you better, finish with his girlfriend and be dating you ... (read in full...)
My husband invited his cousin to visit, but I want to get to know him first!
Q. My husband and I have been married for a year and he has invited his cousin that he has not seen for years to come over for a couple of days to our house. I don't want him to come until I get to know him first to see am I dealing with. Is that OK ...
A. 1 March 2006: Tell your husband your issues around his cousin staying but remember it is his home to and although you are right in being cautiouse about this cousin it is not asking too much for your husband to have a guest to stay for a short period of time.
B... (read in full...)
My GF's married, male friend keeps hitting on her. She says she wants it to stop, but then lets it continue...
Q. My girlfriend has a married friend that won't stop hitting on her. He is married and he and his wife are expecting a child. He constantly sends text messages to my girlfriend; from work and several when drunk after work at the bar. This upsets my ...
A. 1 March 2006: Because secretly she likes it, she feels flattered but does not want any kind of relationship with this guy other than the texts.
I suspect he may want more though and this could present problems in the future.
What she tells you may not be stric... (read in full...)
I love him but the spark isn't there...
Q. My bf and i have been dating a year and a half. Our rship is pretty much perfect except for one thing. i'm worried though that the sexual part of our rship isn't as good as it should be. I enjoy kissing and being intimite with my guy but theres ...
A. 1 March 2006: If you love him then stay with him, just work on the bits that are not right.
Relationships are not meant to be easy and the best ones need working at.... (read in full...)
She was too needy, so we split and now its even worse...
Q. I broke up with MY ex of a year and a half almost a month ago. She was excessively needy and had to be around me 24-7 other than work. I tried to have nights out with out her and told her ther were to be as such. Then she ended up coming to where...
A. 1 March 2006: She is a stalker, bunny boiler or any other name you can think of for someone who just wont let you go, you have become her obsession and believe me you need to do something about this before she ruins your life.
Some people just cannot let the ... (read in full...)
There is lack of passion in our relationship so are we incompatible?
Q. I have been with my fiance for more than five years now... and it is good, but there is a lack of passion. I don't enjoy sex with him anymore, and we rarely kiss which I don't like either. What is going on?? Does this mean that we are not right for ...
A. 1 March 2006: It does not mean that you are catagorically not right for each other, what it does mean is that you have settled into the relationship and aspects of it have changed and may be concieved as being boring or stale.
Kissing passionatly is somethin... (read in full...)
How do I get him to respect me?
Q. I work for my partner and I also work part-time as a receptionist. I would consider myself intelligent and hard-working but my boyfriend doesn't show me much respect. He often criticises me and I really resent it when he does. He also has a secretar...
A. 1 March 2006: What on earth are you still doing with this bloke?
He treats you badly, he puts you down and as you addmitted your feelings for him are fading due to this.
You may have suffered low self esteem but you do not now suffer it, you have gained in confi... (read in full...)
Am I paranpid or should I be concerned?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 10 months now, Im 18, hes 19. Its the longest relationship we've both had. My problem is, I get so paranoid over every little thing. At the beginning, everything between was perfect like it always is, but ...
A. 1 March 2006: On this occassion I am going to say that you are paranoid, you are insecure and relatively inexperienced with relationships.
Nohting in what you have told me makes me think that he is cheating or planning to cheat on you, and if you continue to act ... (read in full...)
How long does it take to feel comfortable with dating after a divorce?
Q. How soon after a divorce do people usually feel comfortable dating? ...
A. 1 March 2006: There are no set time tables and it depends on circumstances like how hurt you were, did you get cheated on, did you do any cheating, have you got kids, are you over your ex completely etc.
You will know when the time feels right, my advice is to n... (read in full...)
We broke up because of the fighting and incompatible sex drives. Will that help us get over the problems?
Q. My boyfriend and I just broke up. We are both without a doubt still in love, but we just don't have any sexual chemistry. We have been fighting,and think it stems from the uncompatible sex. I am not that much of a sexual person, but I would like to ...
A. 1 March 2006: YOu have broke up and now want to get back, the sex was not good in the relationship so why would it be any better now, you had chance whilst in the relationship to make it better but you and your partner did`nt so what does that tell you.
If you ... (read in full...)
Does my size matter??
Q. my wife had other partners and was married.this is kind of hard as it is, I feel our sex life is out of this world but she has told me some things that make me feel insecure. I know she didnt mean to hurt my feelings but she told me her ex-husband ...
A. 1 March 2006: What on earth are you worrying about, sex for you and your partner is good.
What your wife was sharing with you was that sex with the last bloke was not as pleasant as it is with you because it hurt and pain is not good!
So get a grip, be thankful... (read in full...)
My bf has promised his 'uni mate' marriage and a baby!! What do i do?
Q. Hi there, I am really really hurt an upset, my boyfriend had this friend, she calls him alot now and then, when i asked him who she was, he replied back saying she is my uni mate, he even swore on my life that shes just a uni mate.... me and my b...
A. 1 March 2006: My advice is still the same, ditch him as he will surely hurt you, this other so called friend is also playing games with you and if I was you I would ditch her too, as he is either having an affair with your bloke or really wants one and will do ... (read in full...)
Had a bloodtest to see if I'm pregnant...could the results be wrong??
Q. hey i was wonderin is it possible for a bloodtest to lie about if ur pregnant or not cuz i went in for a blood test to see if i was and it said i wasn't but it it possible that that could be wrong or no..???...help......
A. 28 February 2006: I think that blood tests are usually pretty conclusive, unless there is something else going on.
If you feel pregnant and have missed two or three periods or have any uterine pain then you need to go to see the GP asap as something may be wron... (read in full...)
I don't like my gf's new friendship with this guy! Should I be concerned?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months now and we have gotten extremely close. She went off to college and has been hanging out with another guy an awful lot. He knows about me and she insists to me that I have nothing to worry about. ...
A. 28 February 2006: I think you are right not to approve of this, but your girlfriend is the innocent party, it is the bloke, it is evident that he likes her and wants to be with her despite you and he has made his feelings clear.
If I was you, I would be as jeal... (read in full...)
I love him so much I want to give him another chance..but now he doesn't know if he wants me, anymore??
Q. My boyfriend and i are in a good relationship, but the thing is he cheated on me when he was drunk. no sex was involved besides oral...but he didn't give he received. i love him so much that i'm willing to give him 1 last chance. he said he wants to ...
A. 28 February 2006: The fact that he has allowed another woman to pleasure him and now he cannot make up his mind to be with you or not, tells me that he has moved on in his mind at least.
He should be grovelling and promising you the earth after what he has done, not ... (read in full...)
My bf has promised his 'uni mate' marriage and a baby!! What do i do?
Q. Hi there, I am really really hurt an upset, my boyfriend had this friend, she calls him alot now and then, when i asked him who she was, he replied back saying she is my uni mate, he even swore on my life that shes just a uni mate.... me and my b...
A. 25 February 2006: Ditch him now, he is playing with you and looks like he has been playing with someone else too.
Finish it and move on.... (read in full...)
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