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I have lived through many different experiences in my life, some happy and some traumatic. I am single and have been for 7yrs. I have lots of animals including a horse and sheep.
I work with people that are homeless, have mental illness or learning disability, ex offenders, substance misuse issues, self harm, low self esteem, fleeing domestic abuse, families going through difficulties, parents with children who are having difficulties. I work in supported housing so see all these issues regularity and work with agencies to get some help if I cannot help. |
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I've been with my guy for two years but he still acts like he's single!
Q. hi, have been with my b/f for 2 years now but sometimes i just dont think he takes our relationship seriously. i get the impression that sometimes my b/f thinks that he is single and goes around acting like he is single, for example their has been ...
A. 9 February 2006: Thanks for the up-date and I still think he is a dirty bugger only now I think he is a selfish, un carring and totaly sexually orientated dirty bugger.
Still leave him, You are not alone feeling like you do, it is not unusual to hate someone ... (read in full...)
What does she really want from me??
Q. Dear cupid, What kind of relationship is this? Ok people we've probably remmeber that i broke up with my ex 4 weeks ago, an last friday we realized we both still had feelings for each other. This evolved into this: she sed she wants 2 be ...
A. 9 February 2006: Bin her Barnzy, she just aint worth the hasstle!!... (read in full...)
I caught him lying many times..is this innocent or is he up to something behind my back?
Q. Im starting to be concerned with the way my bf has be acting. I mean maybe it's just stress from college and stuff but that doesn't give him the right to be a jerk towards me right? Well here is the situation. A couple months back like in lat...
A. 6 February 2006: Cut him some slack, he is at college and this means the start of some excitement.
He will be trying to fit in with new frinds, find his way and drinking will inevitably be a part of this.
I suspect he is drinking with his mates and as he knows wh... (read in full...)
I love my long term bf...but "in love" with his friend.
Q. i wonder if anyone has some advice for me i'm in a bit of a pickle i'm with my partner of 5 and a half years i love him dearly but not quite so in love anymore i see myself growing old with him but the problem is i'm in love with his best mate he is ...
A. 6 February 2006: make a list of all the things you like and love about your partner and do the same with this other bloke, you may see there are a lot of similarities, oftern we are attracted to the same sort of person.
You need to be sure that you are not just reac... (read in full...)
She's been hurt...how do I show her that I'm different?
Q. I have recently met a fantastic girl. Who I have so much in common with. We get on so well, the other night we kissed and it felt so right. But she has had very bad experiences in the past with boyfriends hurting her, and cheating on her, and so has ...
A. 6 February 2006: Do what you feel instinctively, she needs to realise she can trust you and that you wont hurt her, this will take time.
Dont smother her but do show you care, you will know what she feels comfortable with by her reactions.
When someone has been rea... (read in full...)
Is he always finding fault with me...
Q. Hi, I have been married for 2 years. My problem is that my husband is always finding fault with me. Even the smallest things are a major issue to him. And worst of all, he does not tell me abt his dissatisfaction but complains to my mum, brother ...
A. 6 February 2006: Make today the day you stop doing everything for him and really give him something to complain about, do what I did when my partner complained about having to go to the supermarket with me, he told me he was bored of the shop and was going to sit in ... (read in full...)
Is he always finding fault with me...
Q. Hi, I have been married for 2 years. My problem is that my husband is always finding fault with me. Even the smallest things are a major issue to him. And worst of all, he does not tell me abt his dissatisfaction but complains to my mum, brother ...
A. 6 February 2006: Make today the day you stop doing everything for him and really give him something to complain about, do what I did when my partner complained about having to go to the supermarket with me, he told me he was bored of the shop and was going to sit in ... (read in full...)
LAdies-give me some creative, different ideas on Valentine's gifts for my gf.
Q. Bit of a different question now... Hi to all! Im sure you all know its valentines day next week. Im 19 and so is my girlfriend. We have been going out for exactly a month today. I'll be honest and say that i've never had to do anythin...
A. 6 February 2006: What a wonderful bloke you are and an insperation to all those people that have wrote in and are having such an awful time with there partners, you prove that there are nice caring blokes out there.
If you are arty why not make her a card, put on t... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if he likes me...
Q. Hi, Im stuck in a situation, here goes...... Started my college course a good few months ago and i was really good friends with this guy, we chatted and texted all the time, sat beside each other and flirted on nites out and got close a few times - ...
A. 6 February 2006: Forget him, life is too short to worry about what may happen, just move on and meet lots of new blokes at college, he is wasting your time as he cannot make up his mind to go out with you or not, so make it up for him.... (read in full...)
I fall in love too easily!
Q. I fall in love too easily and when I do I don't know if I love them as a friend or more. I've told him I love him and he has told me the same. He has even said that he would like to be serious when were older. I feel the same, however I'm stil...
A. 6 February 2006: Stay friends, if it develops into real love (and there will be no mistaking that feeling) then fine, but it does sound like you have strong friendship feelings which is fine as we can love our frinds without the physical love side.
He sounds just... (read in full...)
He smokes and drinks and parties. I don't and I'm a virgin. Should I try to make a move on him?
Q. I'm 19 years old female and I have a crush on this 19 year old guy at my college. I heard from my friend that he has a crush on me too. The problem is he doesn't want to start anything with me because he drinks and smokes and I don't. He has it i...
A. 6 February 2006: Hi Magpie, well if I was you I would steer clear of this bloke, you said yourself that it is a crush, well I think he is not really interested in you in the way of a relationship as he realises you will not fall into bed with him, you will not go ... (read in full...)
Suspect my girlfriend is cheating with a couple, because of the way she acts around them!
Q. I think my girlfriend is cheating. She is working late more often and doing different things during sex. I think it's with another couple. She always talks about them. They were over the other night and it seemed like I wasn't even there. They did ...
A. 6 February 2006: sounds like something is going on and you are not part of it, they are close and getting closer, you need to sort this one out and do it soon.
Confront her and tell her what you have seen and where that has led your thoughts, but be prepared for ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't like french kissing any more. Is this normal?
Q. Is it normal for some women to not enjoy open mouth kissing? (french kissing). We used to do it but my wife says she's not crazy about it. We've been married 20 years. It kind of bothers me....
A. 6 February 2006: What we like when we first meet is not always what we want when we are together for longer, sometimes kissing intimatly can lead to sex, if you kiss your wife passionatly in this way do you always go on to have sex, she may see it as your way of ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on Sis's best friend, but I can't tell her!
Q. I really like my sister's best friend. I have kept this secret for 3 years. Every time she is round, I just want to kiss and tell her, but I can't. Please help me....
A. 6 February 2006: Why have you kept it a secret, is she going out with someone else?
Please resist the urge to kiss her, best to ask her out and see what comes of that, she may say yes!!
Would your sister be cool about it, you may need to drop a hint to her first an... (read in full...)
Is there something suspicious about my friend's text relationship? I'm worried about her...
Q. My friend has recently been texting this boy all the time and they have had a good texting relationship but when she asks if she can meet him, he says that "he does not want to rush into things". They have been texting for six months now and he has ...
A. 6 February 2006: Your friend will hopefully soon realise that this is going nowhere and it is just some lads idea of fun or maybe the lad is shy.
I would be worried if he wanted to meet with her as there is of course a danger with meeting someone that you have had ... (read in full...)
What does she really want from me??
Q. Dear cupid, What kind of relationship is this? Ok people we've probably remmeber that i broke up with my ex 4 weeks ago, an last friday we realized we both still had feelings for each other. This evolved into this: she sed she wants 2 be ...
A. 6 February 2006: Hi Barnzy, you have answered your own question, she does not want a full on relationship with you what she want is the power holds over you, by having a kind of secret relationship with you she gets to keep you dangling which is a very powerful ... (read in full...)
The average size??
Q. Hey, i am 15 and am curious to know if a 6.5" penis is below average?.....any answers?...
A. 6 February 2006: you are big enough and you may still grow some more, I think you just need to be happy with what you have got and stop measuring it!!!!... (read in full...)
One minute she loved me then she had no feelings for me...what can I do?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend recently. She asked me to marry her and I said I was not ready but I loved her. She then said she needed time to think and broke almost all contact with me suddenly, talking once a week for about half an hour. She ...
A. 6 February 2006: This young lady cannot make up her mind what she wants, good job you said no to marriage, you may have hurt her by saying no and this is her way of accepting this and moving on.
You must respect this and accept that she is the past, look towa... (read in full...)
We've had phone sex and I would like more though I'm married...
Q. hi im a married women that met a guy while helping my cousins find a property i met this estate agent he i taught was nice anyways he gave us his no. and shortly after i began texting him and i told him who i was we began to have phone sex which has ...
A. 6 February 2006: I agree with Shania on this, he is just attracted to the attention you give him.
One night stands are dodgy, I can see the fun in the lead up to one, the excitment of the date but the reality is never as good as the lead up, the antisipation, you ... (read in full...)
I want him to be my date fir Valentines...what do I do?
Q. There is a guy. I like him. I've liked him for almost a year. I asked if he liked me about 5 months ago, and he said no. Now, my friends say he is starting to show signs that he likes me. I don't want to ruin our frienship, by asking if he likes me. ...
A. 6 February 2006: Valntines day cards are now in the shops, buy one and send it to him asking him to be your date, nothing ventured nothing lost.... (read in full...)
Should I keep ignoring him after all he's done, even though I miss him!?
Q. I was seeing my boyfried for 6 months. We had quite alot of ups and downs. I heard a few rumours that he was seen with another girl before, but he denied it completly and i could only give him the benifit of the doubt. Last Sunday he invited ...
A. 6 February 2006: Let him ring but do`nt you pander to his needs, stay strong and focused, you are going through withdrawl and this will last a few weeks, then he will be out of your system for good.
Best way to mend a broken heart is to meet new blokes and have some... (read in full...)
I've been with my guy for two years but he still acts like he's single!
Q. hi, have been with my b/f for 2 years now but sometimes i just dont think he takes our relationship seriously. i get the impression that sometimes my b/f thinks that he is single and goes around acting like he is single, for example their has been ...
A. 6 February 2006: Ditch the dirty bugger now and move on, he is a waste of your time, he is showing you no respect or that he even gives a damn about your feelings, this is not acceptable, cut him out of your life now as he obviously want to be free and single, ... (read in full...)
The terrible way I was treated by an ex has left me feeling ugly and undesirable. Now it's affecting a new relationship!
Q. I am 25 years old. I was married for 5 years and I have 2 children. Men find me attractive most of the time, but I don't feel that way at all. My Ex always made me feel like I was not worth anything, and now I do feel that I suck. I have an awful ...
A. 6 February 2006: Hello Morgana, well if I had a pound for every time I had acted stupidly around a bloke then I would not need to win the lottery.
Men we like make us act in daft ways that are not always in keeping with our true character but first lets look at you,... (read in full...)
Had a one-night stand now feel betrayed... What should I do?
Q. i had a fling with one of my best mates one night when we were very very drunk. one minute he was all over me the next day he completly ignores me. i hate the thought of one night stands and it is tearing me up inside why he is doing this. i feel s...
A. 6 February 2006: Hi, well if I could turn back time for you I would, but fact is that it has happened and so you must just get on with it and put him and the whole episode behind you, I have had lots of similar situations in my many years and trust me you will ... (read in full...)
Since I asked her to marry me, things have gone downhill!
Q. Dear Cupid, I appreciate the role your site is offering to so many who are faced with problems of their choice. Please i encourage you to keep ahead with the good job. I fell in love with a certain girl in 2002 and we have been going on well e...
A. 6 February 2006: Good morning Gift and thanks for the up date, you come across to me as a fantastic and caring guy, she has lost a wonderfu partner and will one day realise this, but in the here and now I am sorry for your break up but in my heart I feel it is for ... (read in full...)
My husband knows he has a problem with ogling other women. What can I do about it?
Q. I am married for 6 years now and I'm on my late 20's. My problem is that when I confronted my husband about ogling a certain woman, he readily admitted that he ogles all types of women, from old to the young ones, sexy to some obese women and he ...
A. 6 February 2006: Hi singlewife, thank you so much for the up date, Sounds like you are looking to sort out your life and tackle this problem head on, go for it girl, be strong and be assertive. I have every faith in you and that you will listen to head and heart and ... (read in full...)
Why would he want her rather than me?
Q. Heres my problem..I have a hard time meeting guys. I am kind of picky but I just know what I want and dont want. I was so excited when I met this guy, and he felt the same way. We talked everyday for a few weeks (went out a couple of times)then all ...
A. 6 February 2006: hi again Picky, good to get an up date, did you go out at the weekend and find a hot guy, if not why not, have some fun, keep it safe but go get your self a man that appreciates you and will treat you like the lovely girl you are.
Dont let your stan... (read in full...)
When we're together, I believe he loves me and will leave his wife, but when we're apart, we argue and I doubt him!
Q. I know what most will think when I relate my problem but please bear with me and try to understand. I am very much in love with a married man. He has the strangest of relationships with his wife. They do not sleep together (I have also heard th...
A. 3 February 2006: Never say never you do`nt know what life has in store for you, but it sounds like when together you are good but when apart you pine, you understand that he is not going to leave his wife for sometime, and it sounds like the sexual part of there ... (read in full...)
I can't wait to have sex with my girlfriend, but she's putting me off over birth control. Can I get her to hurry up?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for a little over six months, we are very much in love, and both 17. She says she wants to have sex with me, but doesn't want to risk pregnancy, because she says she has bad luck and that she wants to wait to ...
A. 3 February 2006: She sounds like she is not yet ready to make the big jump to a full on sexual relationship and you should not be pressurising her, going on the pill is a big commitment as it is a drug you are introducing into your system and although it is very ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't she take the hint that I want to break up?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for a year now but I've wanted to break up with her for months. She's very possessive and I feel she's smothering me. I have no time for myself, my family, my friends or school. All I ever do is spend time with her and ...
A. 3 February 2006: HI, well you have tried the hints and that did not work so you will just have to bite the bullet and tell her straight, as gently as possible.
Breaking up with someone is never easy and you should think about how you would feel if it was reve... (read in full...)
Hubby's been texting other women, while I'm home alone. When confronted, he didn't even apologise!
Q. Hi - am 7 months pregnant and my husband has shown little interest in this ever since we found out, have been pregnant before but unforutnatley lost the baby - he seemed quite excited when we first found out that time. We were both happy to try ...
A. 1 February 2006: you are about to have his baby and so this just cannot be ignored, you state that he is not interested in the baby well he needs to wake up and realise it is on the way, the time to be non committed to a baby was before conception.
You cannot just... (read in full...)
My husband knows he has a problem with ogling other women. What can I do about it?
Q. I am married for 6 years now and I'm on my late 20's. My problem is that when I confronted my husband about ogling a certain woman, he readily admitted that he ogles all types of women, from old to the young ones, sexy to some obese women and he ...
A. 1 February 2006: Sounds like he does not want help and is happy with the way he is, I agree with pornstarkitty you should tell him it makes you unhappy but if like my partner he still continues to do it, then you have to decide if you can cope with it, after awhile ... (read in full...)
Sex once a week is not enough for me! Does he not find me attractive? Help
Q. my fiance wont come near me! i've tried and tried to get him to want to have sex, he works hard and i understand that but once in 3 weeks is not enough! im starting to worry thats its me and he just doesnt find me attractive! which he denies! can ...
A. 1 February 2006: We all have different sex drives which can cause problems, some people have low sex drives and others want it several times a day.
It sounds like your partner is happy with the ammount of sex you have, has it always been like this or has some... (read in full...)
Things were going great then he distanced himself..does he just need space?
Q. well there is a guy i have had my eye on for quite some time now. well, not that long, we've known each other for about 5 months. for about 4 of those months, (up until now) we have spoken every single day, and been seeing each other often. We have ...
A. 1 February 2006: Sounds like a case of cold feet to me, but it maybe that he has other stuff going on that you dont know about, maybe family trouble, work trouble etc.
If you get the chance and the nerve, ask him for a coffee and say that you have valued your frie... (read in full...)
Christmas with him was forgettable, and our dates are a yawn. I don't understand why he still wants to see me!
Q. I met this guy mid October and we started seeing each other quite often. We never really did anything other than sit on the couch and watch TV or a movie (sports usually). Christmas came and I went to visit family out of province so we decided ...
A. 1 February 2006: Forget him, move on and he is a waste of space, he is arrogant and selfish, I would not put up with this kind of behaviour and neither should you. Bin him !!... (read in full...)
Seems like volleyball is more important to my husband than issues with the kids!
Q. My husband is stable and calm, but totally into his routine. Today, as there were several important issues going on with me and the kids (his step-kids), I asked him to cancel his weekly volleyball outing to help support me. I know he loves vo...
A. 1 February 2006: This is difficult as one of the things you obvously like about him is his stability and that he is predictable, so asking him to change his routine when you know that is how he is, may cause him stress, you did not ask a lot on the face of it, but ... (read in full...)
What's all the attention from this guy mean? It's driving me crazy!
Q. I'm getting more and more confused. Does this guy I know like me? I'm 21, he's 24. He constantly teases me, asks me questions, and says random things that I believe he says to get a rise out of me. He also will catch my eye and stare at me intently...
A. 1 February 2006: Sounds more like he is trying to intimidate you, if he fancies you he is going about it in a funny way, his behaviour is obviously worrying you, you could continue as you are, confront him, or keep out of his way and forget him which is my advice.... (read in full...)
I'm quick and tired of it. Any suggestions on how to last more than 5 minutes?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been sexually active for 6 months and it seems as if my orgasms during sex are quite fast. I have tried the extended lubricated or climax control condoms but it only prolongs it for roughly 3-5 minutes. I try to stay calm ...
A. 1 February 2006: This is not an uncommon problem in blokes who are just beccomming sexually active, you will last longer as the novelty of sex wears off a little, and when you stop worrying about it, there are techniques you can use, you will find these in books on ... (read in full...)
I cheated and I know it was wrong. Now my girl says she loves me but needs space...
Q. I was with my girlfriend for 4 years and I messed up the relationship by venturing out and cheating. I now know that my ex is the one and she says she still loves me, but she says she needs space. Have I lost her already?? She also says she is ...
A. 1 February 2006: Sadly you have thought the grass was greener and now you know it is not, you have betrayed the trust of your partner after 4 years, but you know this so i will not labour the point, what to do next is what you want advice on, well my advice is ... (read in full...)
He said he loved me...will he come back to me?
Q. We IM'd, talked on phone, and visits to see me. Every morn. as soon as we woke up we had to say "I love you" before the day started. Every night we talked til we fell asleep. This went on for a month and half, then one morning he asked for a break. ...
A. 30 January 2006: The feelings and things that you do when first in a relationship are fantastic, they lift your heart and mood, but the feelings that someone gives you from being close is very fragile and can easily be broken and by his behaviour and indecision he ... (read in full...)
I don't feel the same anymore...what can I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out with each other for nearlly 2 years. I loved him once but i do not feel for him anymore. I would love to spend the rest of my life with him but i just can't figure out what is missing. I have been thinking it ...
A. 30 January 2006: If you have tried spicing things up and still you feel like this then move on, it is not worth clinging onto something that was good but is just not working now.
Most people have a varety of relationships before they settle down and some last week... (read in full...)
He wants to go slow in our relationship-but I want more time and committment from him
Q. Hi I am seperated from my husband of 25years and have met a guy who has never been married or had any children. He had fallen in love in said and the girl broke his heart. He is reluctant to get involved with any one too soon and wants to take it ...
A. 30 January 2006: Go with it, take it slowly and enjoy yourselves, you can speed things up by asking him out more, tell him how much you enjoy your dates and would like to go more frequently, think of different places to go and things to do, Variety is the spice of ... (read in full...)
I think that he thinks I'm involved, but I'm not. Now I live nearby, and I wonder if he feels the same attraction I do!
Q. I know a guy from work, he's about 10 years younger than me. Last May we meet at a baseball game and we talked for a long while and he kept staring at my eyes. I was married at the time and my husband had just told me he had a girlfriend and was ...
A. 30 January 2006: Sounds like you may have a new friend, you need to make the first move especially as he is shy and take it from there, ask him were is good to eat, what pubs are good etc as you are new to area, this may lead onto a conversation into which you ... (read in full...)
Why would he want her rather than me?
Q. Heres my problem..I have a hard time meeting guys. I am kind of picky but I just know what I want and dont want. I was so excited when I met this guy, and he felt the same way. We talked everyday for a few weeks (went out a couple of times)then all ...
A. 28 January 2006: hi Picky, you are right to take your time in choosing relationships, but have some fun doing it, not all dates have to turn into marriage, you kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince, it sounds like you need to widen your circle of friends, ... (read in full...)
Since I asked her to marry me, things have gone downhill!
Q. Dear Cupid, I appreciate the role your site is offering to so many who are faced with problems of their choice. Please i encourage you to keep ahead with the good job. I fell in love with a certain girl in 2002 and we have been going on well e...
A. 27 January 2006: Hi, It is time to get out of bed and take controle of this situation, you are grieving for something you know you have lost, what she did was wrong and you did the right thing in giving her a second chance but something preciouse has been betrayed ... (read in full...)
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