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My foreskin doesn't retract. How do I correct this?

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Question - (18 February 2006) 44 Answers - (Newest, 16 October 2010)
A male , *odofGraphics writes:

Alright, I am an 18 year old male, living in the UK.

Growing up I lost my virginity with my grilfriend when I was 15, and have had various sexual partners since then.

When I lost my virginity, my slightly more experienced girlfriend mentioned that my penis was 'different' to someone else's but I didnt make a big deal about it.

Other partners have mentioned this too. What I have been told is my foreskin doesnt retract when I get an erection. This hasn't affected sex in any way, but I dont like not being 'normal'.

Is there anything I can do to resolve the situation without circumsision, because I have tried to retract my foreskin, but it hurts, and I don't want to damage anything important...

Thanks

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A male reader, MDB United Kingdom +, writes (16 October 2010):

I am 15 and i have this problem BUT when i am fooling around with my girlfriend i notice that it rolls back and it is starting to not hurt BUT when i get a normal erection without my girlfriend i notice that it doesnt roll back so i guess its a tempermental thing and i would suggest just rolling it back when unerect and then moving it up and down; as this will prepare it for friction and air contact which it wouldnt be used to.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2010):

Umh yeah kinda late...

I just want to say I have had this problem as well, I just kept stretching it every day and now its working just fine.

Do not circumsize your foreskin, you will regret it.

If stretching hurts be sure to use some oil or other sort of lube.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010):

hello, my girlfriend and i have had sex a few times and before my foreskin never retracted and i didnt worry. the last time however, my foreskin retracted fully and was behind the head. it hurt so much and i was nearly in tears. i was so surprised at this happening because i had a condom on. with some rubbing and moving the foreskin around it went back to normal :) such a relief! however with my pain i have found comfort in finding out that it WILL retract. my girlfriend has pulled the foreskin slightly over the top many times and i think it was more shock than pain. if you cant retract your foreskin then i suggest you get your girlfriend to do it for you! otherwise you'll be taking it slowly and messing around. i have started to do streches ever since and it does not hurt as much even though i cant pull it the whole way back. i didnt mind about it before and i still dont but im curious about my body as we all are haha! good luck ;)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010):

i have the same problem as you all im 20 and i only found out that my foreskin should be able to go back, so i started to pull my foreskin back a bit everyday a few times like 2-3 times a day, i would roll the skin back as far as it could go back until it was a bit sore, it seems to work for me i can know pull my foreskin the hole way back, but not erect yet but i think if i keep doing it i will get it as it seems to get less sore and pulls back easier know.

but the skin on my head of my penis is a bit sore and the skin is a bit raw and dry, if i use Vaseline on the head of my penis the skin under my foreskin that might get rid of the dry skin i think?

i hope that i helped

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A male reader, pw20 United Kingdom +, writes (11 February 2010):

hey i am 20, and have had this problem for as long as i can remember, prob since about 12/13 and i have tried the pullin the skin back gradually with lube/water/everything, and nothing is working for me, i feel strange in front of women, even tho non have said anything about it. but i still dont like it, i will be goin to doctor within the next week to get it checked out, and hopefully get circumcised, just so i dont get embarraced by my penis. i will also comment afer i have been to the doors, good look, i know how you all feel, if you dont suffer from this, dont bother commenting, because you cannot know or feel how we feel! thanks pw20

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009):

Im 16 and I have this problem. Try what everyone else is saying, it's what Im going to do, but I want people to know that this is really very normal and common and you shouldn't worry about it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009):

So do i need cream from my gp if its not pulling back.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009):

hi i have the exact same problem, its a tricky one hey?

i like everyone's ideas like the 1 about pulling it softly back every day in the bath but im just gonna try circumcising myself with a stanley knife i found in my dad's toolbox a while ago when i was feelin suicidal.

DON'T WORRY PEOPLE - I have tissues to stem the bleeding or incase i get horny and decide to wank instead

thanks 4 the help!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009):

hi im 13 and i hav the same problem to i heared that if you push it back untill it hurts every day for a while it should be ok =D

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A male reader, Dr.10inch United States +, writes (3 June 2009):

i use to have the same problem .. it sucked.

the problem is that your foreskin isnt use to being retracted all the way!! retract the foreskin while soft to get the head use to the conditions,after get erect and it will get tight and a bit uncomfortable.but chill, its just your frenelum getting use to being stretched,do it everytime your alone in the shower or when ?. i do this often in the shower, my frenelum skin got use to it and began to become stretchier,

and now when im with my girl she can RETRACT THE SKIN ALL THE WAY DOWN and it feels normal , before you have sex make the head moist .. Trust me dudes it works,give it a couple weeks.

GOODLUCK 8====D~ ~ ~~~~

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008):

hi. im 14 and havent started having wet dreams yet. i couldnt pull my forskin back then i read up on it and pulled it back in the bath today with out truble. but tonight i couldnt. also the other night i experemented masturbating wit a condom . as i can not cum i thought after a while i would go limp. but to my surprise i cumed. im not really sure if it was cum but it was sticky.

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A male reader, Keo Austria +, writes (8 November 2008):

The skin attaching your foreskin to your head is called the frenulum, this is cut in circumcisation, but for uncut people this should stay forever, it is the most sensitive part of the male body, that is why that many cut men have said that during sex there is less sensation.

All you guys that say you cant pull your foreskin back, just pull it as far as you can without feeling any pain everyday after you piss or are in a bath, or at night pull it then masterbate, because cum contains natural extracts then just sleep to let it dry in, then in the morning wash it all away. This should then make your head more moist and easier to roll back. If you stil cant after a few months then the chances are you have phimosis, i would recommend going to a doctor but if you dont feel compfortable with that then check up some creams on google that you will be able to buy from a pharmacy.

Hope I helped.

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A male reader, Dan364 United Kingdom +, writes (15 August 2008):

I have the same problem as all you guys, and this has been a big help. Ive always wondered why mine was different to others. I shall try the bath method and let you know if it works.

Thanks.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008):

i'm 15 and i can't retract my foreskin past the head of my penis when i have an erection but when i am soft i can easily. so are you guys suggesting that i should just pull on my foreskin in the bath when soft or what?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008):

i'm 15 and also cannot, but our sex ed teacher told us to try and pull it back in the bath.

also he said that if it was stuack behind the glands, just to wait until the erection was lost.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008):

HEY,

Just thought i'd say that i've got the foreskin attached to my bell end, and the name is Frenulum breve if you wanna look it up. It affects about 5% of non-circumsized men and 3% of women (i was joking about the women, they generally lack penises for Frenulum breve).

Your Frenulum is the bit of skin that all men have between their foreskin and bell end, but generally it's long enough to sit lightly and invisible against your penis.

The only real problem is that it's a bit short and can be uncomfortable. You can look it up yourself, you can just google it and it comes up with everything you need.

Hope i was of some help.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008):

thanks alot. i learned a few things.... hehe ill try it now. cya having a bath. heh heh.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008):

you see wen my cock is flacid (soft) i can pull it all the way back....but when it is erect it comes back a tiny bit so i can just see the head.......i try pulling it back when erect but its very tight....so ill try the batrh technique.......ANY OTHER SUGGESTIONS..........

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008):

i also have this problem

i am not sure y this is i am also trying to find out y this is and i dont like not being normal either

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008):

hi i have the same problem im 15 .. a girl was giving me a hand job a while back and she pulled my foreskin over my head and thought i liked it coz i was moaning ... she asked if i liked it coz i was moaning but i said no she was just hurting me lol we laughed it off but i still cannot pull the foreskin over my head months later . ???

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008):

hi i have the same problem with that my foreskin doesn't go back when i jack off or anything but i still cum n stuff. should i pull it back when im soft or not bother. pleave help!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008):

If it's painful during sex, see a doc. Otherwise who cares? If a woman is already naked with you she won't care unless it's all inflamed or something. Don't be embarassed, everyone is nervous about themselves.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008):

wow, i thought i was the only one, ive been having panic attacks, and smegma? i thought i had some sort of disease. well im trying this advice...soo um thanks for posting everyone

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007):

well you havent answered the question really all i want is one straight answer of somone thats had experience of the same kind ! ! ! ! !

The top of my bellend is attatched to me for skin by a little peace of skin should i :

a) go to the doctor and forget about finding a less embarresing solution becuase this women (doctor ) hardly even understands english.

b)Try and tear this peice of skin as erlier mentioned(sounds very painfull)

c) leave it ????

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2007):

yes i have it to ,and theres no need for a doctor,just rub vasiline on it on the morning at before you go to bed and it will go away trust me i went to the doctors and the cream he gave me was shite,now me and the girl have great sex while before it was sore as hell,just vasiline ok folks,

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007):

i am an 15 year old male when i get an erection my bellend is not exposed but i can pull it fully back is that normal. I have seen men on porn where there bellend is naturally exposed should mine be?? please answer kevin

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007):

hey im 15 and have the same problem, i once however did manage to pull my foreskin all the way back, it was very painful and the glans have very tender and painful to touch when exposed. Getting the foreskin back was also extremely difficult and painful. i recommend not to pull until it comes all the way back. Is there anyone who has experienced what i have as i have yet to come across someone who has, as in someone who has managed to pull it back one (painfully) and discovered what i did... if there is please help!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2007):

im 16 and iv got the same problem, like a bit of skin from the foreskin 2 the tip, its stopin it from retracting, and iv been doin wot it says about softly tuggin it in the bath and its improved a bit over the past month so i would sugest doin that

i didnt realise how common it was!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2007):

i read a letter just a moment ago that sed you shud pull back the skin and take the pain

and that if the skin rips it is not a problem i haven't tried it yet so gd luck for both of us :)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007):

At what age should you start streching the skin back?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007):

hi im 14 and i cant pull my foreskin over my head as like a white ring of smegma seals my foreskin 2 my bellend. iv tried 2 break the seal but i cant. i can pull it back until its just about 2 fully go ova but my foreskin is glued all da way around the head. HELP

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007):

yeah I got this too. Im 19 and I never really knew if it was different or not untill I just googled all this stuff tonight. It looks like I have phimosis? also like chris "there is a small peice of skin connected to the foreskin, and the head of my penis disallowing the foreskin to move down." I guess GP is my next stop...

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007):

I'm 17 years old about 3 years ago I had problems retracting my foreskin as well, I could never get it to go over the wider part of the head. So I read up about it on the internet and the site said to lightly tug on the foreskin when your cock is soft, and when the foreskin isn't retracted at all. Doing this for about 4 or 5 months fixed my problem and now I can pull my foreskin down past the head. Hope this helps.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2007):

The condition is known as PHIMOSIS. Don't worry it's not serious and quite common. Gradual stretching in the bath, as described may solve the problem, if not your doctor can prescribe a steroid cream which will help with the stretching. The condition will improve in time, but consult your doctor anyway.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2007):

I have the exact same problem and i'm afraid to let my current girlfriend look cos i'm embarassed so I guess I will go to thre doctor..

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2007):

when your in the bath slowly pull the foreskin back until you see your bell end. i reccommend that you dont pull back behind the bell end glans (also known as bellendiglanomiuos), just before the glans and keep it in that position. This will stretch the skin and if this is done everytime you have a bath (in my case once a month, due to unclean water) your skin should then be loose like a 90 year old ladys tricep (also known as bingo wings). hope this helps.

this is not a medical condition because you have tight skin around the penis.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007):

As a teen I had the same problem. My doctor told me to tug back each time I pissed and to tug back in the bath and wash under the skin. He also told me when I jackof leave the cum under my foreskin bundle and wash it of in the morning it contain a natural substance that help in breaking the attachments.In 5 or 6 months I could skin it all the way back and when I shot it was across the tub and my girl friend stated she loved to feel it when we fucked.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2006):

i have the same problem and ahve been trying the stretching technique. i can now get my foreskin back more than i used to but still not all the way

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A female reader, smeedle United Kingdom +, writes (26 February 2006):

smeedle agony auntgodofgraphics and Chris, both of you need to go see a doctor, I had a partner with the same problem and doc fixed it, if you leave it you will start to get other things wrong, so go make the appointment and sort it out.

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A male reader, GodofGraphics +, writes (26 February 2006):

GodofGraphics is verified as being by the original poster of the question

GodofGraphics agony auntI have that, whether or not it is meant to be there.

Also, I'm lost as for what to do, I dont want to make a fuss about nothing, but if this is serious, I dont want it to get any worse...

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2006):

Hey bud,

I have the exact same problem. I am turning 18 next april and i have noticed that my foreskin doesn't pull back either. However, I have discovered that there is a small peice of skin connected to the foreskin, and the head of my penis disallowing the foreskin to move down.

I was wondering if this was the same as you?

When I read your message I was quite pleased to find that im not the only one, but then after reading the replies, and i quote "you have a medial condition and should see your GP immediatly" i started to get a bit worried.

However then globalchill came in and said that you should leave it if intercourse is alright....now im completely lost with what to do.

CHRIS

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A male reader, ourchosenpaths +, writes (18 February 2006):

ourchosenpaths agony auntSorry man, if you aren't circumsized, there isn't much you can do.

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A female reader, smeedle United Kingdom +, writes (18 February 2006):

smeedle agony auntYou have a medical condition and need to go see your GP, you must not delay in getting this seen to as it can and will cause you problems in later life.

Do not worry about circumsision as there maybe no need for this, but if you do have to have it, dont worry you will not loose any of the sensation you get during sex and it may enhance it, im sure there are a lot of male agony aunts who will advise you more but I really cannot labour the point about going to your GP.

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A male reader, Globalchill +, writes (18 February 2006):

You didnt mention how far it retracts, if any. When I was younger mine didnt go all the way back, I couldnt get it over the widest part of the glans.

I really didnt want to get circumcised but was concerned with the hygiene part ie build up of smegma, so I explored the internet for alternative treatments. I came across an anti-circumcision site which explained such techniques as gentle stretching of the foreskin. Along with some cream I got from the GP, it started to go further back, I would then go back as far as I could without it being sore and then hold it there for a minute or two.

After repeating this for a while I eventually got my foreskin completely back behind the glans. To be honest it scared me because I had never seen it like that and was worried about getting my foreskin to go back over the glans.

You have to be careful because if the foreskin gets stuck behind the glans then its a medical emergency, The glans swell up and go black with the chance of you losing your penis which is why the hospital will do an emergency circumcision when this happens. Its called paraphimosis, do a search in google and you can read about it.

In all honesty though if you are having no problems having sex and its just because girls are saying its weird, I wouldnt worry, just turn it into a joke and say to them its because your unique or one in a million! I had to do something with mine because it hurt having sex, but thankfully the stretching worked for me.

Its ok in the usa where most are circumcised and women think foreskins are weird, but its the opposite in the uk and I wanted to keep mine.

Hope that helps chief.

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