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writes: HiI met a boy in london one day and since then i have grown to really like him alot. But recently things have really bothered me since i live 50mins away from him and i come from a totally different background to him. Although im mixed race and hes black, practically everyone in my area is white and rascist where as everyone in his area is black. Im ok with his area but i wouldnt even think of bringing him back to my ends. Also im a village girl and hes a town boy so hes quite ghetto if you no what i mean. Im a little bit ghetto but not as much as he is and i cant be all that ghetto because of where i live is posh. This bothers me a great deal because i want to be comfortable around him about this but i just aint. Also i don't feel i can be what im not in my ends i would rather be like him.... Reply to this Question
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (14 April 2007):
 Interracial dating always has its ups and down, especially when there is a class difference as well.
You don't give your age, or say whether you are free to move to his part of town, or how serious your relationship is. Has he met your family yet?. If you are free to move, and you are really at the serious stage of having a relationship with him, that is the obvious solution.
If not, then give it time. Continue to meet him at his end of the world, and work on developing the relationship. It is obvious that if the two of you have a future together it's going to be in the city. You will only find acceptance in a cosmopolitan environment. Assuming you stay together as a couple, sooner or later there will be visits to your family's home, but at that point you will be well enough established as a couple that the opinions of your parents' neighbors won't matter.
You have a rough road ahead, but if you really love this guy and are willing to work on it, a good relationship is always worth the trouble it takes.
And don't let THEM get you down. (You know about THEM. THEY are the ones who give you those stares when the two of you are out together. Been there, done that. Long time ago.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2007): I know things can be quite difficult when there is an interracial relationship,but if you truly are into your fella you will stop thinking about what people will say and be proud of what you got,if they dont like what they see i say tuff,live your life for yourself not other people.
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reader, penta +, writes (13 April 2007):
 You either need to move to his area, or get used to having him in yours. He's going to find out that he embarrasses you, and that will either hurt his feelings or make him mad. You should be willing to stand up for him. If you can't, you should let him go. (Your loss.)
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