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writes:Hi everybody. I'm 16 year old and I have a pretty big problem. I never thought that I'd go through this but it has gone to this extent that I have to get external help. I am and have been addicted to pornography for about 5 months now. Ever since I started watching my brother's porn videos out of curiosity, I got more and more into it. Eventually, I started masturbating and now, I can't really control myself. Though I don't do it everyday, I find myself constantly thinking about sex. I want to stay a virgin till I get married or when I find that someone special but with my condition like this, I fear I will soon have sex out of this addiction of mine.I usually cannot take my mind off it when I start thinking about it or when I see any attractive-looking guys. In a short while, I'd feel so heated up and I'd need to pleasure myself until I feel normal again. I feel like a monster because I don't think any of my friends would even think of that! I feel so dirty but yet, I can't hold myself back. I haven't told ANYONE so this is really my darkest secret ever. If anyone finds out, I wouldn't know what I'd do because this is so embarassing. I really, really need any helpful advices to stop this addiction and fantasies running through my mind ALL THE TIME. Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): I went through a similar thing to you when I was young. But being a boy it showed in different ways.I want to tell you something very honest. All girls will face this issue you are and will have to make an important decision on how to deal with it.Most girls try to repress it and thus develope negative attitudes towards sex. There are quite alot of women who wont experence an orgasm because they havent spent any time getting to know their body. You can embrace it and get to know your body. I dont think you will throw yourself at a guy as by what you are saying that isnt what you want.Just accept that your body is growing into a woman and enjoy your private sessions. Everything will be fine soon and you will slowly calm down a bit, but will have a better attitude when the time does come
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (6 November 2009):
Calm down. I think your at the age where you will feel like this and loads of other girls do aswell. Try not to view this so much as an ''addiction'' or a ''condition'' because i dont think its that serious. Its not like you are watching porn all day every day is it. Its just your hormones, its completely normal and they will settle down. Its ok to feel like that when you see good looking men and im sure your friends feel the same. Dont worry about it so much everything will be ok.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (6 November 2009):
 Hun, you sound like a healthy very highly sexed young lady!! There is nothing wrong with fantasising about people you meet who turn you on....
Rather than watching porn, use your imagination its a lot more fun!! And maturbating is normal, its just your whole body and mind have suddenly wakened up to the fact that you are a sexual human being.. Masturbating will also teach to you understand how to pleasure yourself and how to understand your body better.
Something similar happens to guys, where they have wet dreams and cannot even look at a girl without getting an erection...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): Being completely sex obsessed at 16-17 years old is normal. Girls included.
Porn wont make you sex obsessed but it will fuel an obsession that already exists. For that reason you should probably try to wean yourself off the stuff a little.
It's no different than kids watching violent tv and video games. Violent entertainment won't make them psychos but there is a correlation between the two. Psychos like violent entertainment, and violent entertainment helps fuel the little psycho in all of us. Moderation is key.
You talk about feeling guilty for masturbation. This is a problem. There is no reason to feel guilty about doing that. Teenage sex is a problem because of the consequences that sex is capable of causing WHEN IT IS MISUSED. But sex is not inherently an evil part of us.
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reader, LadyCorsair  +, writes (6 November 2009):
 First of all, there's nothing wrong with a healthy sexual appetite. Where it all goes wrong is when people start sleeping around with any person and not using protection.
Now, don't go and sleep with the first person you date straight away. Believe me, you'll regret it later on. Give it about 3-4 weeks, and then if you feel you're up for it... go ahead. Staying a virgin till you get married is not something I personally recommend... Sex is a big part of a relationship, and if it's bad, it can break a relationship up, particularly if your partner or yourself expect something that the other can't fulfil, like a dirty fantasy.
Most people love watching porn, whether they admit it or not. I love watching it! At your age your hormones are running riot anyway- they'll settle down so stop worrying!
My advice to you is to not try and stop what you're doing, but remind yourself that you want to wait until the time is right with your next boyfriend, rather than sleeping with someone you don't know. Only a guy that's around all the time can keep you satisfied- one night stands just leave you wanting more and full of regrets!
I hope that helps you hunni,
Lady Corsair xxx
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reader, clownzyall +, writes (6 November 2009):
 First: Masturbation is healthy and normal. Ask your dog, he can freakin' lick himself. Secondly: So is that 'easily turned on' thing. Honey, its called hormones, trust me you aren't the only frequently horny teenage girl. Porn is fine, as long as it doesn't start to CONSUME you *blowing off friends to watch it all day, neglecting school, family, etc). Personnally, I'd suggest cutting down on how often you watch little by little, and eventually keeping it to a once or twice a week thing.
Another thing, though I can only speak from personal exprience- is when I first got hit with big waves of lust/hormones I watched porn every night. It speed up the big 'o' faster than if I had simply touched myself. However, as time went by, I discovered it felt MUCH better in the long run without it, and I didn't feel the need to 'get off' as frequently. Just a tip :).
Good luck !
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