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writes:Please help guys...? I'm not sure what to do anymore.When I have far too much alcohol (which isn't often) I have attacked my husband (scratch and bite)(I'm sounding like a wild dog which I'm so ashamed of)...it's as if I have a blind rage and the following morning, I cannot remember a thing at all. I've done it a few times : ( I don't know why I attacked him, he's my true love and I feel absolutely rock bottom at the moment about this. He says he wants me to sort this out and not to do it again...how do I do this? I have an appointment next week to see a counsellor about my disgusting behaviour. Would you say I have a drinking problem? For ages now I have been drinking 2 or 3 beers in the evening because I'm currently not working and am a little bored...I should be starting my job in the next few weeks..There's no excuse for what I have done. Any suggestions on how I can rectify this? as I'm quite scared of myself for doing this! Can anyone relate to me? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice guys....
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (3 November 2009):
 Honey, yes" you have a drinking problem and sure you can not handle or control your self when you are under alcohol.
Believe me or not there is only 2 way that you can change it. Its you by your self to decide not to drink anymore OR if you can not manage to do it alone there is a BIG help that i promise you that can help you. AA ( Alcoholic anonymous ) maybe you wont like it at the first time but you will after 2nd or 3rd time coming in there. Its free and everybody is welcome to be part of it. You can find them all over the world, check it in the internet where is the nearest AA meeting to your place. You're still young dont worry you can get make it you can get sober... Good luck
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reader, RosesAreRed86  +, writes (3 November 2009):
Obviously you have a drinking problem. Usually any time someone asks that question, they already know the answer. I'm not even going to bother mentioning the solution because I know you already know that is too.
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (3 November 2009):
 I think you are turning to alcohol to blot out whatever worries you have, it is quite common to have a drink maybe at night after a hards days work but i feel your over doing that, and the reasons could be related to you having problems with issues in your personal life.
The good thing is you have asked for help that is the first step, speak with your counsellor with everything that you have on your mind, use it as a venting off time if you like, you will be surprised at how good you feel having someone to vent to without the violence!
I also think yes you cant handle the alcohol, if it is changing who you are as a person then it is a wake up call to stop!
Gina
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reader, Honeygirl + ♥, writes (3 November 2009):
 Sweetie, get in contact with AA and they will help you if you want to help yourself.
Sounds like the alcohol is altering your personality and certainly not for the better. Do not leave something like this as it could lead to the breakdown of your marriage.
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reader, CaringGuy + ♥, writes (3 November 2009):
I think you do, and I think you now know you have a problem. You came here though, which is a great start. Clearly if you continue like this, you're going to lose your husband. Definitly see a counsellor. Is the fact that you're out of work making you not just bored, but unhappy? Talk about how you feel to someone, and certainly stop drinking (even if you have to attend classes), because the problem won't just go away, as you know. But well done for indentifying there is a problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your advice.
I only want to drink in the evening. I have no cravings any other time of the day. Usually I don't feel the need to get drunk and haven't for ages...until Sat night I over indulged and then that happened.
Do you think I have deep underlying issues here or should I just put it down to not being able to handle too much alcohol!
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (3 November 2009):
2/3 beers each evening soon tallies up to 14/21 a week, 56/84 a month!yes i would say you do have a problem with drinking, i am glad your seeing someone about this because if you don't and do not stop this you will go on to be more and more dependent on it to get you through the day.
I think this has started when you were out of work? your bored so you drink? most people might clean the house, work in the garden, etc; but your boredom is taking you to the bottle, and that is where the danger lies.
Trust me nothing will get solved from drinking like this, already it is turning you into something you are ashamed of, and your husband is feeling your rage too.
You say your about to start a new job in a few weeks, why not make today the day where you turn this around, stop the drinking, get it all out the house, when you go shopping make sure hubby is with you so your not tempted to buy beer, if you feel you cant do that ask him to take all the money and only give you what you need. You need to try and stop the triggers that are making you turn to the bottle.
See the counsellor follow the advice she gives you, get yourself sorted and prepared to start this new job, tell yourself this is a chance to turn your life around now, cause if you mess up this time you might not get another one!
Gina
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