Self conscious about bikini & men on the beach
Q. i going on holiday i feel very strange wearing a g-string bikini. i am feeling very self conscience but some girls arent .i saw in swim suit competition on foreign tv and she was a g-string bikini there was group of young guys were watching and the ...
A. 14 April 2009: Sweetie, dont be pressurised into wearing a g-string! Wear a bikini or full costuum that you feel comfortable in. To be honest, unless you have a perfect figure and dont mind all your 'bits' being on show, then by all means.. wear a g-string. But ... (read in full...)
Should I let him go and forget about him?
Q. Hi everyone,I need advise. 2004 I meet this we were in love,we are not staying in the same town. He used call and ask me to visit,it was nice. 2007 he introduce me to his family then November(same year) I got pregnant. Following year I got a job to...
A. 14 April 2009: Sweetie, this man is a user and a playa - move on with your life you deserve better. He tells you that he loves you, this is a lie, because if he loved you and your baby he would have been there for you.... (read in full...)
Should I tell his girlfriend that I am pregnant by him?
Q. I was having sex with a man, for a year, that was and still is in a relationship. I am now 7 months pregnant. He keeps telling his girlfriend that we never slept together, therefore denying my child. The girlfriend asked me and I told her no. Should ...
A. 6 April 2009: Yes, you should tell the gf about the baby. Baby is going to need financial support and your bf is going to have to contribute. What sort of excuse will he use then when he has to pay maintenance??? ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my parents? I think I have pinworms :-(
Q. Help! I think i have pin worms :O, i saw little white worms in my poo and im starting to get constant vaginal discharge, is there anyway i can get rid of them without treatment? Im too embarrassed to tell my parents, its soo disgusting. What would ...
A. 6 April 2009: Sweetie, you will need to be treated so tell your parents as I think they should know. This is not something to be embarrassed about. In the country where I live, we de-worm ourselves, our children and our pets at least once a year! Worms are a ... (read in full...)
Broke up with ex, I'm happy, he's not, how can I help him cope?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 4yrs just over a week ago. He'd given me many reasons to doubt his love for me, he just stopped caring about everything and refused to ever talk to me about it. Throughout the relationship i'd caught him having sexual ...
A. 24 March 2009: Sweetie, there is nothing you can do for your boyfriend. He sounds like a weak willed, emotionally abusive man. He is using the excuse that he might kill himself.... not fair at all!! Cut all communication with him regardless of his comments. I ... (read in full...)
Is 30 years old, OLD?
Q. is 30 years old ,old? because i think its old. ...
A. 23 March 2009: Hell no - thirty is still so young!! I am 46 and loving it! Age is all in the mind!... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin but I haven't had my period in 2-3 months
Q. Ok I'm 13 and I'm a virgin but I havnt had my period in 2 almost 3 months and I'm too scared to tell my mom what should I do?????...
A. 20 March 2009: You need to relax and stop worrying. Your body is still adjusting to all those hormones that it is producing. Really, there is nothing to worry about. As you mature, so your hormones will become more stable and your periods will become more ... (read in full...)
When she came out of the bath she said that her bits were hurting.
Q. Hello. The problem is this. My daughter is three and the other week I bathed her before bed. When she came out of the bath she said that her bits were hurting. I looked and her hymen was gone. I had been with her for two whole days so don't kn...
A. 19 March 2009: It might me that your daughter was 'exploring' and has hurt herself, perhaps she has inserted something into her vagina. Alternatively, she might have a bladder infection, which hurts when she urinates. I think this calls for the assistance of your ... (read in full...)
He's married has 3 kids & wants to have sex with me
Q. I work with this guy that is married and has 3 small children. His wife doesn't work because she takes care of the 2 youngest children while he works. He says he is not happy with her. We have been friends for 3 years and have been fighting our ...
A. 10 March 2009: NO NO NO!!!! Whatever you do, dont sleep with this man! He will just use you for his own pleasure. If he is not happy with his wife then he must sort out his life, divorce her or go to counselling. By having an affair will only make matters worse. ... (read in full...)
One date and I don't understand his actions
Q. I met a guy online two weeks ago and he recently asked me out. He planned the whole thing so well and made such an effort and even wanted to pick me up (I decided to meet him there for safety reasons). I mentioned to him once that I collect certain ...
A. 10 March 2009: Sweetie, move on and forget him. He is just stringing you along like he is probably doing to lots of other ladies out there. It also sounds like he is not really that into you and is finding it hard to be honest. ... (read in full...)
Am I making a big deal of nothing?
Q. i would like to know if i am just being a big baby or if i should be as frustrated (i guess would be the right word) as i am.. my and my girlfriend decided to make the step to engagement on new years FINALLY but like everything there is a problem....
A. 10 March 2009: Getting engaged is a huge and very exciting step in the circle of life... why not tell everybody? Unless she is not sure about marrying you in the first place. From what I understand, she didnt tell any of her ex's maybe because she still has ... (read in full...)
Because we don't have sex he accuses me of having it with someone else?
Q. Ok I've been dating this guy for a few months. Things moved pretty quickly as far as emotions are involved. I have deep feelings for him, and from what he says the feeling is mutual. I decided to wait a while before we had sex. He said no problem. ...
A. 9 March 2009: Wow! Dont marry this guy, if he is behaving like this, it will only get worse when you are married. He obviously has trust issues [eventhough you have done nothing to destroy his trust] and sounds like he has low esteem as well. I would be wary of ... (read in full...)
Anyone out there, who has been married over twenty years, lost the hornyness, and has some ideas on how to rekindle the fire?
Q. And especially for the over 40s who are 20+ years in a marriage. So we’ve spent a bunch of years raising kids, putting them first. Now they’re teenagers, and giving us the grief that we gave our parents. And the end is in sight – the kids are, ...
A. 4 March 2009: I have been married for over 25 years now and my children have left the house. My hubby and I make time every evening to spend time together talking about everything except work and children. We try and do something new every month, often go out ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and do not want children. Do I abort it or put it up for adoption?
Q. My birthday was two days ago, and for my present I found out that I am pregnant. For many people this would be fabulous news! And I really do want children, however due to finances, we really cannot afford to have a baby just yet. We were using ...
A. 12 February 2009: I think that whichever choice you make you will have regrets. The final choice will be yours to live with for the rest of your life. If I was in your position and there was no possible way I could suggest adoption. You also mentioned that y... (read in full...)
Cheated on for the fourth time- what I am doing wrong?
Q. I'm single again for the first time in a long time and I'm not quite sure of myself. I've been in a grand total of 3 relationships and they've all ended badly. I'm not sure what it is that I'm doing wrong here I mean I could swear that everytime I ...
A. 12 February 2009: I dont think you are doing anything wrong in the relationships I think you are just choosing the wrong me to have relationships with.... (read in full...)
Could my best friend be the one?
Q. I am in love with my best friend, we have been best of friends for 20 years and I am torn.. I have been with my husband for 15 years, married for 9. I have found that even though I love and care for him, I am not IN LOVE with him. The more I think ...
A. 3 February 2009: The 'love' you are feeling for your partner is true love, the 'love' you are feeling for your friend is Lust!! You lust after a different life, away from the mundane day to day stuff. The more you think about your friend the more he is going to ... (read in full...)
Why won't he just file for divorce?
Q. My husband became controlling and got angry over a body piercing. He repeatedly asked me to leave the house, so I did. Long story short, he didn't call me for 2 weeks, and took half the money out of our shared account, so I got my own place. I ...
A. 19 December 2008: Sweetie, you need to contact a lawyer in the same town where you used to live and get him/her to start proceedings against your husband. It also sounds like your husband is punishing you and is not wanting to file for divorce cos he is probably ... (read in full...)
He thinks I want to break up with him... but I don't!!!!
Q. My boyfriend randomly showed up at house after I ate some spicy food that gave me bad breath. I was home alone and we watched a movie together. He put his arm around me and tried to kiss me. I didn't let him because I didn't want him to smell my ...
A. 18 December 2008: Sweetie, you need to talk to this guy of yours, tell him that you were sooooo embarrassed and explain why. Also, keep a pack of gum handy for those times when you might be unsure how fresh your breathe is!
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Ex crossing the line-needs to back off!
Q. I've been having some trouble with an ex. We started talking again, though only online, and I try to make it clear that I'm not going to get back together with him. I've asked him not to ask me out again but he keeps crossing the line with his ...
A. 11 December 2008: Sweetie, you need to cut ties with this guy. Stop chatting to him on the internet and move on with your life. Sounds like he is one of those types of men that cannot be a friend to a woman he has to be more intimate.
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What is the best masturbatory device for us men?
Q. Hi guys an gals - ok so we keep hearing about 'rampant rabbits' and the like for you gals, but what do y'all think is the best masturbatory device for us men? (Bin on my own lately an my right arms' knackered!)...
A. 10 December 2008: Sorry but you are probably going to either have to get a girlfriend or learn to masturbate with your left hand! Honeygirl... (read in full...)
Is this also a form of abuse?
Q. I was wondering if throwing someone on the floor, or pulling them by the hair, or putting your hand over their mouth so they can't breathe, or even pushing your head against theirs so it feels like their nose will break is as bad as slapping or ...
A. 10 December 2008: YES!!!! Get out now before he kills you! Many abused women worse off financially than you have managed to start their lives over again after leaving their abusive spouses. Please, get out now!
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Parents won't let me travel to see my guy!
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy that I am very much in love with and have been with for about 7 months now. Recently we made up this plan that I was going to drive to see him. He is about 1000 miles away. I have my own car, and mo...
A. 10 December 2008: Sorry, but I'm a bit old fashioned here... surely he should be making arrangements to come and see you?... (read in full...)
What do I do to prove to her that O will never lie to her or cheat on her again?
Q. Hello, I'm having a problem with my girlfriend and it's all my fault, since a year now that we started this relationship, I've cheated on her and lied without knowing the reason why I did all this to her, though I lied because I don't want to lose ...
A. 5 December 2008: You say that you wont lie or cheat again but since you destroyed her trust by lying and cheating, how is she supposed to feel? Now if you are really committed to her you are going to have to be totally honest with her. Do not hide anything, if you ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me to want to have fun before I settle down?
Q. I told my girlfriend that I think relationships at my age are more to do with fun rather than love and she got really upset. I do love her but I don't want a serious relationship just yet. I'm only 17. I've been going out with her for over a year ...
A. 5 December 2008: Sweetie, you and your girlfriend are both still very young. You should both be out there having fun not doing the serious thing of wanting to settle down. I got married at 19 and now 20 years later I regret not having fun whilst I was younger. If ... (read in full...)
I'm scared it all ends in tears again...
Q. hi, Please can someone help me, I'm a mess! When I was 19 I met a girl and we got on so well like best friends everything, was good. 2 years on we had a kid got married, after being together 4 years we started to argue a lot, mainly me being ru...
A. 5 December 2008: Sweetie, can you remember why you married your wife? mmmmm.... those were good times hey? Somehow we seem to forget these things and get snappy or irritable with our partners. I dont honestly think that the two of you separating was a good idea, ... (read in full...)
He told me he felt trapped and wanted to be able to have me and have sex with other girls!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for just over a year. We moved in together earlier this year we was happy, but couldnt keep the place as we couldnt afford it. He is a bit older than me, 23. Then i got my own place and he wouldnt move in, then ...
A. 5 December 2008: I dont think this guy is really committed to you, he has said he feels trapped and also wants to sleep with other girls.... okay so you tried the porn thing and it has helped spice up your sex life, but honestly I dont think that this relationship ... (read in full...)
His ex says my boyfriend is obsessed about sex!
Q. About two weeks ago I started dating a really nice guy. Him and his girlfriend had broken up the day before (bad idea I know). He has become very distant lately and whenever we're together his hands wonder directly to a certain part of my body....
A. 3 December 2008: Sweetie, sounds like the ex is really upset that he has met someone so soon after their break-up, hence the nasty comments - Ignore them!! Since you have only been with this guy for 2 weeks, tell him to respect your wishes as you do not want to get ... (read in full...)
We had sex for the first time today, is it likely that I would get pregnant?
Q. Hi people, please help me asap, I'm really worried and don't know what to do. Me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time today and when we had finished and he pulled back the condom fell off and was left inside of me. This was the third time he ...
A. 3 December 2008: Yes!! You need to get the morning after pill urgently and if you are going to be sexually active I suggest that in conjunction with condoms, get your healthcare provided or doctor to give you the contraceptive pill!
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Husband vs the other guy...
Q. Hey everyone, I need some help! I have been with my husband for 9 1/2 years, married 4 1/2. We have a 3 year old son together. Things had been fine up until about the summer when I decided that I was bored, and told my husband that I wanted to...
A. 3 December 2008: Wow - you are in a bit of a pickle!! Okay, since you say you love your husband and dont want to end the marriage, that is your answer - go to couples counselling with the idea that you will really work hard at your marriage. Even if you are not ... (read in full...)
Can I ask my brother to watch him masterbate?
Q. Hi, hope u can help bit of a dodgy question but I walked into me older brothers room hes 15 and cought him touching himself. We both freaked out but it was to late and he came, he insists that he didnt but i saw it, he was shouting at me a...
A. 2 December 2008: Sweetie, firstly, your brother is angry at you cos you caught him in a rather private moment. I think that you should allow him his privacy and knock before entering his room. Secondly, NO it is not alright to ask him to masturbate in front of you! ... (read in full...)
It's been three days after we had sex and he still hasn't called!
Q. Okay. This is kind of hard to talk about but... I met a guy and we began getting to know one another a little... texting mostly. we smoked together a few times... it was clear that we were both interested...then one day something told me to ask him ...
A. 1 December 2008: Sweetie, he cheated on his girlfriend with you and now is probably feeling really guilty. Move on, if he cheated with you he is not boyfriend material!
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She has also made up so much crap about me that I find it hard to believe she was at one point my wife...
Q. I have been married for four years and my wife and I broke up some two months ago. At first she wanted me to stay with friends for a while as to give ourselves a break, but still being husband and wife. I soon found out that she was starting to go ...
A. 28 November 2008: Sweetie, you must remember that soon-to-be-ex's will say and do horrible things to the ones they used to love. I have a friend whos wife spread rumours about him having affairs thats why she was divorcing him, well the truth came out that she in ... (read in full...)
He insists on unprotected sex but I don't want to fall pregnant!
Q. Me and my husband have been married for about 10 months now. Everything's been going OK, we're socialising, and popular in our local neighborhood. However, our sex life is the only issue which is causing problems... my husband only ever wants ...
A. 28 November 2008: Since you dont want to fall pregnant, go to your healthcare professional or your doctor for either the contraceptive pill or injection. With regards to your husband only wanting sex when he has had a few to drink might be that he finds he can relax ... (read in full...)
He had sex with other men in prison!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years now and he spent 1 year in prison, He admitted to me he had sex with other men while in prison, but he says it won't happen since he is out of prison now. But I wonder could he be gay? or was he ...
A. 28 November 2008: Sweetie, there are all sorts of horrible things that go on in prison, and sometimes men do things to ensure their survival in that environment. I dont think that your boyfriend is gay, yes I understand that he may have taken part in sex acts in ... (read in full...)
Break up money trouble?
Q. Hiya, I've recently had a relationship break up which has been very difficult. It was me that did the breaking up and obviously the feeling wasn't mutual so my ex seems to have been rather bitter about it, this of course I understand. However w...
A. 25 November 2008: Sweetie, first of all the credit card is in his name so he is responsible for it... unless when he applied for it you signed surety??? I would suggest that since he is being rather nasty about the whole break-up that you consult a lawyer so that ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure about being intimate with my long distance guy!
Q. Hi, just need a bit of advice please if anyone can help. I met a guy on a chat site just over a year ago and have met each other twice since then. We live approximately 150 miles apart and both work shifts so meeting is quite a challenge. we talk ...
A. 25 November 2008: Sweetie, even though you have chatted for a while and only met each other twice, it is still too early to get intimate. What do you really know about this guy? He has only told you what he wants you to know and what he knows you want to hear. ... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable just because these mates are girls?
Q. My boyfriend has a few girlfriends. He has actually slept with one of these girls but says it was a drunken mistake and that they are like brother and sister. He has this other girl mate who is only 23, she calls and texts all the time. I can ...
A. 25 November 2008: Mmmmm.... sounds like this guy is a player! His ego is boosted by the fact that this young girl calls him all the time! And then he has the cheek to ask you for money when his car was impounded... Sweetie, I think the writing is on the wall, so ... (read in full...)
I'm ashamed that I went through his private conversations.
Q. I have been in this relationship for about a year and a half. He is married but since the start he repeated that he is in hell and is trying to get out. He convinced me to start this relationship by saying that things will be ok soon and that we ...
A. 25 November 2008: Sweetie, he is married, and the majority of married men do not leave their wives. They have everything they need.. an exciting life with their girlfriend and the stability of a home life. This man is stringing you along, if he really wanted to be ... (read in full...)
We plan to marry in January but I can't forget that she has been unfaithful, please advise.
Q. Dear Sir, I’m happy to stumble upon your website. I have a fiancée whom we have dated for 6 years 3 months. I really love this girl and she claims to love me too. We arranged to get married early January 2009. All the marriage arrangements have been ...
A. 25 November 2008: Sweetie, before you go ahead with your marriage, I strongly suggest that you seek counselling. Infidelity and lack of trust will destroy a marriage. Rather sort out these problems before marriage.
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Paranoia setting in big time?
Q. I'm really scared.. I made a big mistake. I'm 15. Me and my bf had unprotected sex.. I know I'm stupid for letting it happen.. but shit happens ya know? Anyways I can't remember when I last got my period or when we had sex. I know I had my period ...
A. 21 November 2008: Sweetie, you need to take a home pregnancy test or get to see your doctor. And please, if you are going to be sexually active, dont forget the contraceptives!! Honeygirl... (read in full...)
When I leave the house my parents want it to be when I get married!
Q. I am 29 years old, single and I am going out with a seperated girl. She is 33 years old and has a kid but it doesen't live with her. I love her with all my heart and I want to go and live with her but my parents want me to go out from the house by ...
A. 21 November 2008: Sweetie, at the age of 29 you should not be living at home and certainly not be following what your parents tell you. Take the plunge and move out! Life is very short and if you have to do what everyone tells you you will land up old and alone!! ... (read in full...)
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