My wife is unhappy and demanding I "prove" that I'm going to be a better husband. How?
Q. My wife and I have been seperated for 4 months now. I met her in her country 4 years ago. We married 16 months ago in Australia and have a son. We decided to live in Australia for several years and then maybe move to her country. She couldn't...
A. 8 January 2006: As far as I see, you don't have to prove anything! Look at the way she treats you and makes you feel? Its horrible. She name calls you now thats just plain immature and petty, she has unrealistic expectations of you, she banned your son from seing ... (read in full...)
So shy that my family bought me an online dating subscription. Then Mom was shocked when I met some guys I like!
Q. I don't know if anyone can help me here but it's worth a shot. I am 18 years old and never had a boyfriend. I guess its because I am not the partier type and I am so shy. I get nervous when a guy even sits next to me. My family constantly teases m...
A. 8 January 2006: Hi there,
It doesn't seem like your family is very nice does it. They are making you feel even shyer and worse about going out there and talking to a guy by teasing you whihc is just making the situation worse. What your family is doing to you isn'... (read in full...)
I want to protect my son from being hurt or involved in a sexual relationship with the girl he's seeing...
Q. Hi, My name is Sue and I have a little problem: my 13 year old son really likes my friend's daughter (who is 16). They are always meeting up, even though they go differents schools (about 3 times a week). They are always at each others' side and...
A. 4 January 2006: Hi there,
First of all it seems like you have raised a very smart boy so far! Congradualations on you and your husband for doing that.
First of all, this girl doesn't seem like the best of all girls he could be dating, does she? You have already ... (read in full...)
Lots of sex, but no orgasm for me, because my boyfriend is too quick! What can we do?
Q. I've had sex with my boyfriend many times, but he comes too fast and I've never really had an orgasm. Can someone tell me what should I do or how to delay him from ejaculating so fast?...
A. 4 January 2006: Um did you think about actually talking t him about it? Yeah there is no way you can stop him from doing what hes doing enless you just tell him! Tell him that that just doesnt work for you, him being so fast, and hopefully he won't be sleifsh and ... (read in full...)
I'm developing feelings for him but he already has a gf...what should I do if he makes a move on me?
Q. Okay I have known this guy for about 10 years and we have always got on well, he would always ask me out when we first met but I always said no because I felt that we where friends and I didnt want to lead him on when I never saw anything happenin...
A. 4 January 2006: YES! make a move! Deffintly, if you didn't I think you would be making a HUGE mistake. This guy likes you! So go go for it! Trust me its not every day that you will find a guy who is like your best frined then fall in love with, -oonly once every ... (read in full...)
I have a great new job-I'm back in school-I'm back with my husband...so why do I still feel unhappy? Help me understand.
Q. I had my daughter with my boyfriend when I was 20 but we broke up. I have been with my husband for 5 years, since she was almost 1. We have been married for a year and a half. I left my husband for another man a few months before our first ...
A. 4 January 2006: Perhaps its stress? Or perhaps its you feeling that the guy you are with, you don't really love? Do you trust him? Does he treat you with respect? Do you feel he loves you?
Or perhaps you are suffering from a mental illness, like for example ... (read in full...)
Worried my boyfriend will do something awful if I leave him
Q. i'm 24 yrs old and currently dating my boyfriend for nearly 7 years. I'm having an affairs with someone else he seem to knew about it and started to cursed me saying that he would want to kill me and the guy if he saw it on his own eyes.I broke up ...
A. 4 January 2006: Wow this guy really does have alot of power and control over you doesn't he? Thats not right, no1 should feel scared in a relationship and deffintly not scared to leave it. I understand that you are scared about what he might do, like hurt you or ... (read in full...)
Does my willy have too much skin? What will my MSN love think?
Q. Hi, i've just turned 14 (december) and have met this girl through over mates of mine. I havn't seen her in person yet but she wants to meet up soon. Many girls on msn have said i look "fit" but this girl says she "loves" me. But the only thing is...
A. 4 January 2006: Well I dont know 'what you should do' in relation to if you change the issue you have with your penis, but as for being embarrased or however you may feel that is making you nervous about meeeting this girl, first things first mate! Shes 14 right, ... (read in full...)
She has 75 guys in her address book... And I just hate to share her with any of them!
Q. Some one please help... I have a small problem with sharing. My girlfriend and I have been friends for many years and have always wanted to date but something has always stopped us (distance being one factor). We are together now and are extremel...
A. 4 January 2006: Hi there,
I understand how you feel, jealousy is a pretty hard feelign to live with. But lets take a moment to think about what jealousy is exactly. Jealousy can come in many forms, some being betrayal, fear, hurt, anger, anxiety, lonlieness, envy... (read in full...)
She has 75 guys in her address book... And I just hate to share her with any of them!
Q. Some one please help... I have a small problem with sharing. My girlfriend and I have been friends for many years and have always wanted to date but something has always stopped us (distance being one factor). We are together now and are extremel...
A. 4 January 2006: Hi there,
I understand how you feel, jealousy is a pretty hard feelign to live with. But lets take a moment to think about what jealousy is exactly. Jealousy can come in many forms, some being betrayal, fear, hurt, anger, anxiety, lonlieness, envy... (read in full...)
I took back my husband after 15 years apart... Now he's impotent and I feel I've made the wrong move
Q. I am a 57 year old woman. My husband and I have been back together after 15 years apart. He ask me to forgive him for the wrong things that he has done and if he can make it right. We have one adult child together. We have several problems but the ...
A. 4 January 2006: What can you do? Well you have explained the importance of your feelings to your husband and he still basicly refuses to do anything about it. Sure he has made a promise, yet seems quite empty to me as he hasn't shown any action. Its sad, that you ... (read in full...)
I split with my gf of 4 years a couple weeks ago...now I want her back! She's unsure-what do I do?
Q. need advice,split up with my girl friend of 4 years 2 weeks ago, a decision we both made but i sugested it, all though it was very hard for me. but now i know how much i love her and want to get back with her. I have told her this but she is unsur...
A. 4 January 2006: I understand that you love your ex gf, and now that since its over, you are havign alot of regretment. The thing is, you have to remmeber why you BOTH decided it was for the best to break up in the first place. Has that problem just disapeared? ... (read in full...)
He's 21-I'm 15..is it weird to be friends with him? How do I act around him to make it seem like I dont fancy him?
Q. I kinda have this problem with a lad that i know. See iv grown up with him for pretty much my whole life. My cousin and him are real good mates, and my sister sort of too. I, for my age, and mates with him too, but not on a high level. More of ...
A. 4 January 2006: The people who around you and Ryan, sense that you two are good together because you most probably are! Its just a thing with great couples, you can tell that they just 'go together' by just looking at them. Its a a feeling, a sense, there is no ... (read in full...)
Is it crazy to love a man who drinks and has multiple other problems?
Q. My fiance and I recently seperated from each other due to his drinking problems and multiple problems that have spawned from them. He acknowledges that he has a problem. I am madly in love with him, and despite his willingness to speak to anyone on ...
A. 4 January 2006: I think you not crazy to want to work on the relationship, yet you ARE crazy to think that sticking with someone with an drinking addiction/problem and who has other issues, is crazy. If you want to stay with him, those issues should be worked out, ... (read in full...)
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Q. I just wanted to say a belated Happy New Year to all the people who visit this website, whether it's people asking for advice or the agony aunts who give it. The things being achieved on this site are amazing - I think it is the best site on the ...
A. 4 January 2006: Yes I agree, this site is amazing! It helps those who will lost and don't know where to turn, to have answers and work up the courage to seek further help.
Heres to another good year of helping people and people opening up at this wonderful plac... (read in full...)
My husband seems to think I should just "get over" his infidelity because he said Sorry!
Q. I discovered my husband had an affair one year ago. We are still together but he treats me so badly. He is constantly nasty- and emotionally abusive. Everything is my fault and I am rubbish. Everything I read says how "sorry men are and how they beg...
A. 4 January 2006: My dear, that is horrible how your 'husband', if thats what you want to call him as a true husband wouldn't treat his wife like that, is treating you so badly! He has no respect for you, he hasnt been loyal, and he doesn't show any sign of caring, ... (read in full...)
I'm so terrified about sex I can't even use a tampon. How could I ever have a baby?
Q. I have a huuge problem that I'm not exactly ready to face. I have a problem with sex. Im 19 and my boyfriend and I have decided to wait till marriage to have sex. I'm fine with that, but I'm dreading the day we do get married and I'll be ob...
A. 4 January 2006: Hi there,
You must be feeling very lost and hopeless don't you, you feel like there is no way out and that you stuck and you don't want to face this? Well there is GOOD news, you CAN get through it.
Have you ever had a phobia of something? I... (read in full...)
Feel like I'm emotionally cheating by being attracted to my friend's husband!
Q. Help! I'm married and am very attracted to my friend's husband. It didn't start out like that, but we have taken our kids to the pool a few times and we share many interests, and occassionaly he will say things like "I should have married you" or ...
A. 4 January 2006: Hi there,
Wow I can see how this is a very worrying situation to be in. First of all, you have guilt so that shows me that your not some monster who wishes to hurt your husband! You are having difficulites with dealing with these emotions and are ... (read in full...)
Am I a wuss? I just want my girlfriends to be happy!
Q. Why can't I keep a girlfriend? I'm an attractive and very outgoing guy who is very carefree in relationships but I am unable to keep a girlfriend for a significant amount of time. A serious and successful relationship is the one thing I am looking ...
A. 4 January 2006: From what you have said, to me, you seem to have the right attitude to make a succesful and long-term relationship! and thats good, yet however, unfortunatly, it takes more then one person to get it working.
Try not to stress to much, you are doin... (read in full...)
Nothing for Christmas or my birthday, not even flowers! I'm so disappointed in my boyfriend.
Q. My boyfriend, for my birthday and Christmas - yep both in the same month - has got my nothing still for either of them. Not even a card. My feelings are hurt and it is pretty much drawing the line on everything. I have talked to him about it...
A. 3 January 2006: Maybe he isnt just making a lame excuse. Some guys arent good at picking out presents or even coming up with an idea. And there is also a common ideology (belief) that girls would like a huge, great present, like jewlery, which is usually quite ... (read in full...)
What can I do to catch the eye of the smiling guy at school?
Q. Ok guys, another really fun q!! Ok, I'm 16, and there's a guy I like. I think he likes me too but I don't know, because I've had to go into his classroom a few times, and every time I popped in there, he was looking and grinning. Now, I don't kno...
A. 3 January 2006: To stand out, just smile at him and be friendly and look open for conv,- don't stand with your arms crossed as that signals you are unhappy and are telling people to bakc off.
Everytime you walk past him, look him right in the eye and smile.
... (read in full...)
We went from friends to...well, we're not sure. Do we take a chance and confess our feelings? How?
Q. I got to know this girl at school quite well over the last three months. We had one class together this semester, and always sat beside each other, worked on assignments with each other, studied as a pair, hung out between classes, went to lunch, ...
A. 3 January 2006: Wow you seem to really have some deep feelings for this girl! And that in itself deserves to be told to the person the feelings are for!
From what you have said, she seems to be pretty interested!
I know the fear of rejections is scary and ev... (read in full...)
No sex, no intimacy from my man in 8 months! Could it really just be down to our living arrangements?
Q. I have a big problem. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 yrs. He is the father of my children. The thing is "we don't have sex" at all. Its been 8 months. We are both attractive people. I'm 25 he's 26. He doesn't touch me anymore. When I try to be ...
A. 3 January 2006: Hi there,
Well if the real problem is that its the living arragnment, then why dont you suggest, you get your parents to babysit your kids one night and you 2 go out and stay in a motel or something...? then see if he wants to do it. You real... (read in full...)
I need genuine suggestions... My dick is just too BIG!
Q. Don't know what to do... I'm too big! Yes, I'm sure a big penis looks great in pictures, or when a porn star jumps all over it - but for me, not being interested in pictures, and not dating porn stars - it f***ing sucks! I can't even r...
A. 3 January 2006: well maybe go ask your doctor? I duno hey, im lost as im a virgin. But what I can say is that, its great that you really care for this girl and dont want to loose her, but I think that if she really feels the same way for you and is a decent person ... (read in full...)
Have I the right to revenge?
Q. I am in the process of a messy break up. I put up with too many ugly lies, cheating and dangerous behavior from her. I feel right to revenge at this point, should I?...
A. 3 January 2006: You know what I think is BETTER then revenege? being true to yourself,- telling her how she hurt you, yes sure it makes you seem vunerable, but your not because you know not to trust her and you are simply saying all that you want to her. Tell her ... (read in full...)
How can we help each other with our New Year Resolution?
Q. I gave up smoking yesterday and Im struggling so much! New Year Resolution. My boyfriend has given up too. We live together. The thing is, he said he never liked smoking anyway so it isn't too hard for him. He slipped more into a habit. But me...its ...
A. 3 January 2006: To give up a bad habit and to be sucesfful at it, you have to TRULY want to give it up. Ask yourself, why did you give it up? was it just because your bf was? or what...you need ot feel very strongly about it, if you dont then you might not make it. ... (read in full...)
Will he ever change and will I ever get what I really need from this relationship??
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 22 year old female and I have been with my current boyfriend for 2 years. Our relationship has been nothing but up and down from the beginning. We have broken up four or more times, and we argue quite frequently. My friends ...
A. 3 January 2006: The question really is, does HE want to change? You can't make someone change who does not wish to, and likewise, you can't change what you don't acknowledge, so if he doesnt see and admit there is a probelm then he cant change either.
You k... (read in full...)
He can change from being loving to angry...
Q. The other day, I was going through a difficult time and I turned to my partner. He was so good; loving, reassuring and I thought; he certainly is the man for me. Yesterday, due to other stresses, we had a bit of a row in a shop over somethin...
A. 3 January 2006: Your bf, if thats what you want to call him as I don't beleive a true bf or partner or husband would ever treat someone like that, is treating you in a way which just IS NOT acceptable. He makes you feel like crap. That in itself its a huge warning ... (read in full...)
In my spare time I look at pictures of women... I'm an 18 year old girl. Confused.
Q. I'm not sure whats going on with me right now and I'd like some help to find some answers. I'm an 18 year old female and I'm attracted to guys but I find that in my spare time I look at pictures of women and when I go to clubs I'm usually surrounded ...
A. 2 January 2006: My guess is that maybe your bi, you like both men and woman and thats why it makes it so hard for you to understand your feelings if your straight or gay, because, when really you might just have feelings for both wihc would make you bisexual.
F... (read in full...)
I am shy so wait for women to come to me... But what complications does that bring?
Q. I'm pretty shy when it comes to approaching women and i have cursed missed opportunities because i don't know what to say or do. But when women approach me, we get talking ok and i do get their phone numbers but i can't hold on to them. It's norm...
A. 2 January 2006: I don't think I am quite clear at understanding what your question is and what you actually mean. Ok so this is what I got from it, let me know if I have misunderstood, k?
Ok so you are shy to start a conv with a woman, but once you get talking afte... (read in full...)
The idea of sex with my husband actually turns me off now!
Q. Married 7 years, have a toddler. My husband (41yrs old) always had a super low sex drive. It was almost always me who initiated sex. For at least two years now, I find that I no longer desire him. I've stopped asking for it. We are less kind to ...
A. 2 January 2006: For most woman, sex is not just sex, like it is to men, woman relate sex with love, and prefer to only do it with a man they truly have those deep feelings for. So if your relationship isn't all that healthy with him at the moment, like mentally and ... (read in full...)
I need some tips from women on how to get my gf turned on.
Q. hoping some of the women on here can help me. just wondering what exactly gets you in the mood, what are your biggest turns on and what not please don't be shy now as i've tried everything to get my girlfriend in the mood but nothing seems to...
A. 2 January 2006: Everyone is different, we all have our special things that would turn us on, and things that wouldn't! Everyone is different. So looks like you are just going to have to ASK her what she likes. If you can't talk about sex to her openly, then you ... (read in full...)
Is the smiley girl from my college into me?
Q. Hi, I hope my question get answered cause i been confused. First off, let me tell you that this has been going on for 5 months straight. All right, here's the deal, I am in college and I get the feeling that this woman in my class likes me o...
A. 2 January 2006: Hello there,
Wow seems like youre quite confused hey! From what you have said it sounds to me like she deffintly likes you! Those times when she appears to perhaps not like you, well maybe she is playing hard to get? Some girls, unfortunatly beli... (read in full...)
Is this right?
Q. is it wrong to loose your virinity to man twice your age at the age of seventeen...
A. 2 January 2006: No one can say its 'wrong' to do that, especially not had hearing the details of the situation.
Yet in general, by society it is looked down upon, a younger female, espeically one who is a female, having sex with a man twice her age.
This is due t... (read in full...)
If I keep emailling, I might be flooding him, but I don't want him to think I'm not interested!
Q. I have been talking to this guy online for about the past two weeks. I email him like every other day and he usually writes back. I really, really like him. He is so different than anyone else I have ever met. The problem is I think I am scaring him ...
A. 2 January 2006: Sure some people can be scared by someone who is a bit 'over the top' yet if they really like you, I think they will learn to work through there fears. The best thing to do is ask him if he minds you emailing him alot, from there you are giving him ... (read in full...)
My man is obsessed with hygiene... Could this cause problems with our relationship?
Q. I'm in a relationship going on two months that's going great, except I've discovered a "quirk" that I'm afraid may be indicative of larger issues... My guy is concerned about cleanliness and hygiene to an extreme; that's ok, I appreciate those ...
A. 2 January 2006: hey there,
Well in a way I can see where your bf is coming from. I myself know, that when working in a particular industry, like food, that you get higher expectations as that is what you have to do, in the job, and it works it way into your life... (read in full...)
So scared my one-time friend is going to trash my relationship...
Q. OK, this is kind of a complicated story, but here goes. I moved from a big city to a small town. I met this girl we'll call "becky". i didn't hang with her much but the guy she was dating had the total hots for me. I want to make it clear the he ...
A. 2 January 2006: Hi there,
Wow this must be very frustrating what becky is doing to you! First off, I just have to say, what she is doing is cruel and immature and sneaky and just plain wrong!
I know that since what happened with the first guy, that its making y... (read in full...)
It really bothers me that my man isn't affectionite unless he wants to have sex with me.
Q. My man is'nt very affectionite unless he wants to have sex with me it bothers me cause I try to give him kisses or rub him or what ever but he never does it to me unless he wants sex. even when we go out drinking he hates P.D.A's I hate it I could ...
A. 2 January 2006: Some people, particly males are SHY about P.D.A. its not something you should be putting him down for and be like 'oh who cares, f*ck it' attitude, thats just indecent and insensitive. You need to be understanding of his feelings and in return he ... (read in full...)
I have been suffering depression for around five years, now I've given it to my boyfriend!
Q. dear cupid I have suffered with depression for about 5 years. I have been going out with my boyfriend for over a year and now he has depression. I am on anti depressant and my depression was well managed. Although I understand how he is feeling an...
A. 2 January 2006: It seems to me this is an issue of guilt in the relationship. You can't love wiht guilt, guilt is not good, people keep guilt in hope they will feel better but they only end up hurting others. It seems that you are and your bf are both afraid of ... (read in full...)
Thinking of leaving my longtime partner because I think he's seeing his ex...
Q. My man of eight and half years cheated on me 5 years ago. He has a child from this relationship who I have not seen since she was 1 yrs old. The other girl lives 20 minutes from us and I think they are still seeing each other. She is constantly ...
A. 2 January 2006: Hi there,
I understand how the thought that your bf may be cheating on you must be very very upsetting, plus alot more mixed emotions then just that, so you are considering leaving him.
I think that when the trust is broken and when someone ... (read in full...)
I unhooked her bra when we were kissing, but that was going too far! Now what?
Q. Hi. I have been with my girlfriend a month now, and it was going great. Until last night. We were kissing and I thought maybe we could move to the next step. So I undid her bra at the back but she immediatly stopped kissing and shook her head. I ...
A. 1 January 2006: This girl can't be angry at you, because its not your fault. Sure you went to take a further step then she may of wanted but did she tell you ever before that she did not want to go that far? You had no way of knowing. She must be angry at herself ... (read in full...)
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