Should I put up with him going on 2 month long vacations without me?
Q. Am I overreacting? I live with my fiance and he said that he thinks we spend too much time together like any other couple that lives together and that we are starting to take each other for granted. So, therefore, he thinks the vacations that he has ...
A. 1 August 2007: why dont you suggest to him instead of letting it build up so he "has" to take a 2 month vacation, that he has his alone time in little bits here and there. for example you could go out of the house one night for a while with some friends, have ... (read in full...)
Should I put up with him going on 2 month long vacations without me?
Q. Am I overreacting? I live with my fiance and he said that he thinks we spend too much time together like any other couple that lives together and that we are starting to take each other for granted. So, therefore, he thinks the vacations that he has ...
A. 31 July 2007: Somtimes people just shock me so much. In all honestly I cant seem to get where your bf is coming from. I mean if he wants "me" or "alone" time, it doesnt have to be 2 months does it?
Have you told him that you understand he needs time by himself ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait for him to call?
Q. me and my boyfriend always break up and makeup but this time he seems like hes serious. i want to wait it out to see if hell call and well get back to together but how long should i wait. hes the one that left me because he doesnt want to be in a ...
A. 31 July 2007: I know its hard to be the first one to call, and it always makes you feel better when the other one calls first, but the thing is, what if hes being JUST as stubborn as you? Then nothing would ever come of it. You both would suffer silently. And I'm ... (read in full...)
My gf is not putting out and doesn't know if she still loves me. Should I see where the interesting girl at work might lead?
Q. Ok, so its me again, but this time with a whole new problem. Ok so ever since the last time i asked for help, me and my girlfriend have been doing fine. we've been dating for 16 months as of tomorrow. the other day she told me that she didnt know if ...
A. 31 July 2007: It comes down to what you think is more impotant- sex or being in a relationship with someone you love, and not having sex.
Personaly, I would stick with your gf, but thats because I don't rate sex as that important. But if you do, then dont be ... (read in full...)
my wife wanted to know my past, now she cant handle it. help!
Q. my wife and I are married 2 years. since the begining she has asked about my sexual past. not really feeling comfortable with this I reluctantly started to discuss my past. I am one that believes in not discussing this. my wife wants to know how ...
A. 29 July 2007: Perhaps your wife wants you to feel how she felt when you told her about your past?
Either way, I agree with you, talking about past relatioships with your partner can be tough and personaly, like you, I prefer not to discuss them.
Has you... (read in full...)
She loves me because I'm Asian!
Q. My Girlfriend of 3 years Just confessed That She Only Loved Me Because Of My Japanese and Chinese Background (She was drunk).. i fell so hurt I've Been with her Since i was 17 She took my virginty and i took hers...I havent been wtih anyone eles and ...
A. 29 July 2007: If someone only loves you because you're Asian then I would find it hard to believe she could stay with you for so long. Perhaps what she means is thats what originaly drew her to you? But she has grown to love all the other great things in you?
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Is this normal? Am I still a virgin?
Q. hi! i have a question... today, my boyfriend and I were just watching tv. then, things led to another, and he started fingering me. im a virgin, so it hurt, and felt good at the same time. then, when everything was done i realized i was bleeding. it ...
A. 27 July 2007: It sounds to me like the reason why you are bleeding is because your bf broke your hyman when fingering you.
Traditionally, people would define the term virgin as not having your hyman broken, and once it was, you woudlnt be a virgin anymore.... (read in full...)
Is 2.5 weeks enough time for the pill to take effect?
Q. i have been on the pill for 2 1/2 weeks now. today my boyfriend and i had sex without a condom. im using the YAZ pill. is there a significant chance i could get pregnant or am i considered safe within the 99% effectiveness rating? is 2 1/2 weeks ...
A. 27 July 2007: I duno if the type of pill you are taking is different, but I know that the one I and many of my friends take after 14 days you are safe. I would doubt that the different types of pills would vary.
But to be on the safe side, ring your doctor o... (read in full...)
Is there any way that I could still get pregnant?
Q. Hello all, I went on the pill three days after my period started and was told that this would make it work straight away. I was also told to use condoms for at least 7 days, just in case. I waited 8 days after going on the pill and me and my bo...
A. 27 July 2007: Who told you that going on the pill 3 days after ur period would make it work straight away? Was it your doctor? If so then you should have nothing to worry about.
I havent heard anything like that before, but yeah if your doctor said that the... (read in full...)
How can I discreetly find out my girlfriends' sizes so I can buy her underwear?
Q. If I wanted to buy some 'sexy' lingerie for my girlfriend, what would be the best approach to find out her size, when the time comes? ie. if I wanted to do it for a surprise. I have her dress size etc, but not the other size. ...
A. 26 July 2007: Well if you guys have gone as far as taking your clothes off in front of each other (which it seems so, if you are buying her lingerie) then why not sneak a peak somehow then? Or you could just ask her, she may not think anything of it, cause guys ... (read in full...)
He has not mentioned me on his myspace account.
Q. Hi all I would really appreciate your opinion. I have been with my guy for nearly 6 years. About 2 months ago we split after a huge row. (we started to talk not long after)I went on holiday for 2 weeks. We love eachother very much. ...
A. 25 July 2007: I understand how you must be upset, I would be too. But have you actually asked him why he didnt mention you or change his status to being in a relationship? You didnt mention in your post if you did or not.
Perhaps he hasnt logged onto his acco... (read in full...)
It did not work in the past, so why should it work now?
Q. So a girl I went out with a few times in college, about 5 years ago, (we went out on a few dates but really didnt work out and no hard feelings afterward) and was somewhat friends a little while thereafter the few dates we went on...emailed me out ...
A. 25 July 2007: She might thinks have changed. Perhaps she thinks the reason for you guys not continuing to date dont exist anymore, or that you could get through them?
People change overtime, grow up, so you could give it a go. ... (read in full...)
Even though we havent had intercourse, could I get pregnant?
Q. hi ppl. i got my bf to put this on at 3am in the mornin coz i am reli worried i may be pregnant. we havent had full intercourse but i am worried the lil tadpoles as i call em, well the sperm can get me pregnant, im too young n he wnt buy any ...
A. 25 July 2007: Perhaps if you both go get the pill TOGETHER it will be less embarrasing. Go together and support each other. Its either that or you will have to later face the embarasment of either geting an abortion or telling eveyrone you know that you are ... (read in full...)
Why are so many children having sex?
Q. Hi. This is a general question, rather than help really, and for all the young people to think about perhaps. Ok, here it is..... Why are so many very young people having sex under 16 years old? For a start the legal age for it is no...
A. 25 July 2007: Perhaps they are doing it because errr they are young and have lots of hormones, giving them a high sex drive. But that would probably be more related to guys.
There are so many reasons why they do it when they are young, and although they see... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex twice, what are the chances I might be pregnant?
Q. Hi, I stupidly had unprotected sex twice when I was ovulatating, two weeks ago and I'm due my preiod next week. I'm 17 I just wondered what the likliness is that I could be pregnant? and how long would I have to wait to find out for sure? I wont be ...
A. 25 July 2007: You have two ways to find out if you are pregnant. One way is to buy a home pregnancy test where you pee on a stick or in a cup (they are pretty cheap, can be bought from most supermarkets or pharmacys), the other option is to go see your local ... (read in full...)
He said 'Good Girl' as i was giving him oral.
Q. I have several problems that I am not sure how to deal with. Firstly, I am concerned that I am getting too intimate with my boyfriend too soon (I feel this was the problem in my previous relationship even though we had known each other for year...
A. 23 July 2007: You should talk to this guy about how you feel about waiting a bit to have sex. Explain to him your feelings so he can understand and respect that. Don't worry about loosing him, because if you do, then he wasnt worth it in the first place, be ... (read in full...)
I don't want to suffer with depression.
Q. I got out of a relationship with a person who was not nice or good to me, i'm happy to be out of it and i do not want to go back. I at times remember how bad they treat me and the fact they did such bad things yet felt no guilt or remorse. That h...
A. 23 July 2007: I would suggest talking about it. Do you have anyone close to you can talk to? Or what about seeing a counsellor? ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend no longer seems interested in me; I now have the chance to make a go of it with a new girl. Should I take it?
Q. Hey there, ive been with my girlfriend for over 2 years now. Our relationship has been good up until a few months ago where it has seemed she has lost a lot of interest, she saids she still loves me but her actions sometimes show otherwise. She ...
A. 23 July 2007: I dont think you should go to this friends place if you think you may cheat on your gf. If you do however want to do smething wth this frined then make sure you end things with your gf first. Althoguh her actions may be hurting you at the moment ... (read in full...)
My husband knocked up a 16-year old and I considering paying her off to stay away
Q. I thought my family was happy, I had a two year old child and a loving husband and good neighbours everything was perfect. Then two months ago our next door neighbours cousin 'Emma' moved in with him. She's 16 and has a 3 year old child already,...
A. 22 July 2007: I dont see how paying her off would help. You already stated that your husband wants to be with her, so do you think if you pay for her to move far far away, he wont follow? The fact that he wants to be with her pretty much says that you shudlnt ... (read in full...)
He is texting other girls and complimenting them. I dont THINK I have anything to worry about, but why is he doing this?
Q. Ive got 2 questions Ive been with my boyfriend 2 1/2 years who works in a hospital,where there are lots of female workers.He says he wants to make new friends, I know he chats to these women at work,which is harmless,because I know he loves me.Howev...
A. 20 July 2007: My bf stoped giving me heaps of compliments quite early in our relationship and like you, it really upset me, made me feel un loved and gave me all these doubts in whether or not he was still interested in me!
However, I told him how I feel and... (read in full...)
Is there any situation where a guy should hit or smack a girl?
Q. I need a lot of people's opinions on this subject so if you could give me your perspective it would be great. Ok...Is there any situation where a guy should hit or smack a girl? I mean if the girl is hitting him on his head because she is so mad at ...
A. 16 July 2007: A girl hiting a guy is JUST AS BAD as a guy hiting a girl.I know there is this perception in society that for a guy to hit a girl its bad and considered abuse but for a girl to hit a guy its somehow accepted as ok, probably because girls are ... (read in full...)
I'm 12 and my 17 year old boyfriend's penis is too big for me, what do I do?
Q. im 12 and my boyfriend is 17 we have had sex but his penis is too large and wont go up can you please help me ? (give me some advice)...
A. 16 July 2007: I think you should seek advice from your mother or someone close to you who is an adult :) They should be able to help you and guide you in the right direction. ... (read in full...)
My partner is lazy; am I wrong to expect more, given the circumstances?
Q. I am the only wage earner in the family and have to work away one sometimes two nights a week. When at home I have to do all the cooking and when away my partner only buys readymade meals. The house is a mess because she says she is not a ...
A. 16 July 2007: Honestly, your wife is being very lazy, which must be very frustrating for you. If she doesnt work and shes not a housewife then what is she? What does she contribute to your family?
What does she do all day if she doesnt do any housewor... (read in full...)
Would sex help relax my girlfriend who is stressed? What else can I do for her?
Q. just curious here. This is probably mainly for the girls than the guys. Would you say that sex is a good stress reliever and that it relaxes you when your stressed? If so are there any tips that you can give me that helps you relax more and that can ...
A. 14 July 2007: I think Malyce_Synn72 pretty much said it all. I would do the coupon idea that she suggested.
Often females like talking about their problems, so ask her if she wants to talk about whats stressing her out, and listen to what she has to say, ... (read in full...)
Why do some people have to be so rude on DearCupid?
Q. i have a question. why do some people have to be so rude on here. whats the point in asking for help when your just going to get ridiculed half the time and not taken seriously. i believe if they need help, help the person if your just going to ...
A. 13 July 2007: I think alot of the time people think they are being helpful and are trying too, but they just don't stop and think of how they are saying it. Many poeple just don't know how to put things in the nicest way possible. And I know a lot of people will ... (read in full...)
Can you get STDs without intercourse?
Q. A quick question can you get any diseases from REAL passionate wet kissing with tongue and mutual masturbation, or dry humping? I had my undies on the whole time, while he wanked and I tried not to come into contact with it....
A. 13 July 2007: Unless his penis comes into contact with your mouth or vagina, then no you can't get any STD's I think. So that means basicaly if you have sex or oral sex you run the risk of geting it. Best thing to do is to always use protection, and each get a ... (read in full...)
My 'friends with benifits' is going to get married, but I want him now!
Q. I am confused about my feelings for my best friend. I'll call him David. I met David 4 years ago. We met through mutual friends and our social circles and interests just crossed paths. We are both involved in an organized sports...
A. 13 July 2007: yes you should tell him how you feel. if he is only marrying her for the reasons you said so then he def shouldnt. and the fact that she has cheated on him and hes cheating on her with you just goes to show how there are many issues with their ... (read in full...)
He is harrassing me about spending 150 on a laptop when he spends 170 a month on BEER!
Q. Im 19 and my fiance is 26. for some reason i feel like i'm wasting my time! we have been together 9 months and have known each other 4 months before we got together. i have kinda moved in with him and his dad and sister. because of the hassle we ...
A. 13 July 2007: Your fiance is being exstremely unfair! I'm with you. Buying a laptop for 150 is nothing compared to spending 170 every money on alcohol. A laptop is an investment really, but alchol is something that is gone the next day.
You didnt say if you h... (read in full...)
I do really want to go but dont want to break his heart. Should i go or stay???
Q. Im 19 and have been in a relationship for 5 years, i do love my boyfriend but he doesn't get on with my family or friends and im not sure about us anymore. I feel that im so young and havn't really lived! My best friend who i do everything with has ...
A. 11 July 2007: Do whats best for YOU. Do what YOU want. Don't think about his feelings, because in the end, if you stay with him, for the sake of not hurting him, you will only be hurting him in the long run. It's ok to break up with someone and to 'break their ... (read in full...)
My wife wants me to sleep with her sister...is that wrong?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a good relationship with my wife even though there was some infidelity on my wife's part a few years ago. Her sister has also been a victim of infidelity, and hasn't had sex in years with her husband who is just not interested in ...
A. 11 July 2007: I find it hard to understand why you wife would be ok with you sleeping with her sister. I mean if she feels so sorry for her sister why doesnt she set a male friend or something up with her, not her own husband.
I would be careful about going al... (read in full...)
Do women like a tough boyfriend or a sensitive boyfriend?
Q. Hi, I was just wondering... do women prefer a manly man or a sensitive guy for a boyfriend? Not to sound bigheaded but I'm reasonably muscley and quite strong but I'm also really sensitive and I cry at sad films and other sad stuff that a lot of ...
A. 9 July 2007: I would say sensitive, but I don't know if ALL women would feel the same. It probably varies, some may like tough, some may like sensitive. But in the end though I think being sensitive is your safest bet because being tough might send a wrong ... (read in full...)
Can too much sleep (or too little) affect how fat you are?
Q. could an individual get fat when oversleeping too much or does not get enough sleep, or both? i'm on a diet now and am exercising, sometimes i do not get enough sleep or i oversleep; will i get fat or will i be okay and have good results the next...
A. 7 July 2007: I'm no expert but I would guess that you can't get fat from oversleeping or not sleeping enough. However if you sleep too much which means you don't get enough time to do lots of exercise or if you don't get enough sleep so you have no energy to do ... (read in full...)
She's 11, and I'm 15! Is this age gap wrong?
Q. Hi.. I'm 15 and I like this girl 5 years younger than me but she's about to turn 11. Well, I know that relationships with an age gap of even 10 years are often accepted, but still I can't seem to decide on what I should do. What I know is, we're ...
A. 6 July 2007: Having a 10 year age gap is sometimes accepted, and although the age gap between you and this girl is less, doesn't mean its ok. The thing is, shes 11, and generally speaking a 11 year old girl isnt at the same point in her life as a 15 year old ... (read in full...)
Are her e-mail 'kisses' ..a true sign she fancies me?
Q. I really fancy a female colleague of mine, and we have been flirting quite strongly for a couple of months now. The other day we exchanged email addresses and the other night i sent her a mail, and at the end of what i wrote i put a kiss next to my ...
A. 6 July 2007: It could be very well a sign she likes you, or it could just be who she is, some people do it to anyone. But since you said you both have been flirting for a fair bit now, I would think its a sign she likes you.... (read in full...)
How do I talk to this girl?
Q. How do you talk to a girl? Hi, I am 16 year old sociophobe. Through a chance encounter, I met a girl who, I am strangely attracted to. I have had events occur in my life that have ruined my view of humanity, but she has given me hope that they can...
A. 3 July 2007: I think you are looking for help in the wrong place. You refer to yourself as a sociophobe, if this is true then you should be seeking professionaly help, not every day people on here. Talking to a trained professioanl will get you to the place you ... (read in full...)
I am new to the whole relationship thing and have some questions
Q. I am just going to post a few questions at once... just cause i have so many... i am rookie to this relationship stuff so thanks in advance for all your advice... 1. Does a man like to hear I love you often? 2. How can you talk to your bf abou...
A. 3 July 2007: 1. Yes. Deep down guys are pretty much like us females, they NEED to be told they are loved. It makes them feel good, just like it does to us. Many guys like to pretend they aren't like that...but they are. Say it as often as you want too...
2. Th... (read in full...)
Why can't I handle it when my boyfriend wants to go out without me?
Q. ... my boyfriend and i have been in a relationship for one year and six months, we're both 18, and when we first started going out we both had our own lives, and we used to have other friends, etc;. but after about six months we became more ...
A. 3 July 2007: I know how you feel. Its a horrible situation to be in. I imagine you are starting to fear that maybe he doesn't love you anymore, hence why he wants to spend time away from you. And you may even been worried about what hes going to get up to while ... (read in full...)
How do I keep a first date short in case I need to escape?
Q. I recently came back from a college retreat (to experience the campus and possibly apply to as seniors) and found someone who i'm interested in. He likewise. We've kept in touch for a few days through email now and want to continue that, but in ...
A. 2 July 2007: There is no set time it has to be, it can be as long or as short as you want it to be. Just be careful though, if you make it really short that the guy doesnt get the wrong idea, thinking you are leaving because you are bored and not intersted. So ... (read in full...)
My health is being effected by my breakup--please help!
Q. Please help me, I have been crying for the past four hours. I am having a hard time "getting over" me ex. We were together for eight months, most of that time it was long-distance, but we were pretty much head over heels for one another right wh...
A. 1 July 2007: Since it is having such a bad effect on your health you should talk to your doctor about your symptoms and he/she may refer you to a counsellor or something who can help you better deal with your emotions so the ydo not cause such a bad effect on ... (read in full...)
I think my friends take advantage of me--what can I do?
Q. I worry that my friends take advantage of my kindness and take my friendship for granted, perhaps I'm being too sensitive, but it feels they ask far more favors than they do and they often forget to show their thanks. I have in the past tried ...
A. 1 July 2007: You can still be a great friend who cares and gives a lot, without being taken advantage of and walked all over. Its call being assertive, which is something you could look into developing. There are heaps of self help books and web sites out there ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps naked ex pictures and is online dating--help!
Q. Please can someone offer me some reassurance or advice. My boyfriend of 5 months has a naked picture of his ex in a sexual pose. I saw it and he said he threw it away, but it is still sat in his drawer. Now I have discovered he has joined an ...
A. 1 July 2007: I'm sorry but I am 100% sure NO ONE on here can offer you any reassurance in this situation. He is obviously up to no good :( which I know is horrible to here and I feel bad for you, but its better to know now then to spend 1 more day not knwoing ... (read in full...)
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