I love him so much so why am I always having a go at him?
Q. I'm engaged to a wonderful man whom i love and who i am IN love with. I'm just not happy. I love him with every inch of my heart, we have a gorgeous home and a fantastic relationship. We are best friends as well as partners. I love my job and have ...
A. 25 March 2008: How long has this been going on for? What happened aroudn the time you started doing this? How long have you been together??
My guess is that you are taking your frustratiions out on him. Knowing that he will not stand up for himself, you know you... (read in full...)
If I love my girlfriend more than she loves me, is this bad?
Q. If i love girlfreind more than she loves me what do i do? I get this earie feeling that i care for my girlfreind much more than she cares for me. I'm constantly asking her whats going on in her life, she tells me this and that i listen and i giv...
A. 23 March 2008: Hey,
Everyone has their own way of showing there love for someone. She could care for you just as much as you care for her but show it in a different way. Some people arent good at showing how much they care. Considering that she is porbably arou... (read in full...)
Husband threatens to cheat and divorce me! What is the matter with him?
Q. Whenever My husband and I have a spat, in the end he threatens with divorce. I have told him that it is hurtful that he brings divorce up especially since I dont say things like that since I know that it would hurt him. Also, since I love him very ...
A. 21 March 2008: When he threatens to divorce you do you give in and let him get his way? If so, then you need to stop that, if not leave him altogether!
He is trying to control you and is using scare tactics to do this. Hes emotionally abusing you. This isnt righ... (read in full...)
He never answers his phone and told me to leave him alone! Still, should I give him the benefit of the doubt?
Q. ok ive been with this guy for at least 6 months. but before i started talkin 2 him he had an ex of three years that he left becuse she was unfaithful. and he said that he would never get back with her. everything was going good with us. he would ...
A. 20 March 2008: What your bf did to you was horrible!!! I dont know if he cheated on you with his ex or whatever when he was away, but even if say he didnt, that doesnt excuse his behaviour of ignoring your calls and messages. Thats just plain rude and ... (read in full...)
The silent type...
Q. I'm a very quiet person. I love knowledge and music but I have a terrible time meeting others and leading a conversation with women. It seems to only be this way until I get to know someone but it is incredibly difficult for me to get to that point! ...
A. 19 March 2008: Hi,
First of all I want to say I know how you feel. I am a shy person too and it takes a while for me to get to know someone else. However it is very rare to find someone who is willing to wait around and be patient while you become comfortable with... (read in full...)
His ex is GORGEOUS so now I have massive insecurities! How do I stop obsessing about her?
Q. This is very juvenile but its been driving me nuts so I am going to ask for help anyway... I found my boyfriend's ex-girlfriends myspace profile the other day (I admit, I searched for it out of curiosity). And she is GORGEOUS. And smart. And funn...
A. 18 March 2008: Hi, first of all I want to say I know how you feel. Ive been in a similar situation before as I have searched for my bf's exs on myspace and facebook. Yet it always leads to giving me many insecurities so Ive stoped doing it.
You listed all thes... (read in full...)
What is the proper way to start a healthy relationship? When is sex too early or too late??
Q. What is the proper way to start a healthy relationship??? I broke up with my ex-boyfriend a year ago. In the past year I have made a LOT of mistakes with guys. I either move too fast thinking the guys really really likes me and then of course w...
A. 18 March 2008: You say you moved to slowly with some guys because you woudlnt be intimate/have sex with them? If thats how the guy is and he loses interest then he was only interested in you for sex in the first place! A guy who is interested in you for more then ... (read in full...)
I want to try alcohol! Will I become an alcoholic?
Q. I've never really drank alcohol before, but for some reason now I want to try it. In the past, I've only had a few sips. I never want to become an alcoholic, so I'm put off drinking it incase I like it a bit too much! Am I being stupid? How to you ...
A. 17 March 2008: In response to what spanna said, "the world would be in serious trouble if that is what happened", well actually a very large majority of society does have a drinking problem they just dont realise it.
Anyway back to your question, statisti... (read in full...)
Why would a guy do this?
Q. Why would a guy you hooked up with and was dating for three months and you know he loves you and you love him, stop calling you because you told him you didn't know if you was free to go out with him on Friday, and that you would call him?...
A. 17 March 2008: Sounds to me like he took it personaly and/or assumed you were trying to blow him off. If this is what he did then maybe you are better off without him because to me that seems like hes insecure. He probaly felt like he wasnt important to you, as ... (read in full...)
"Bad Luck Omen" when it comes to sex?
Q. Hey, My girlfriend (21)and I (18) have been dating for a month now. We've tried to have sex but its a no go. She has had bad experiences in the past with inconsiderate guys and now thinks she has some sort of condition where she cant have sex ...
A. 17 March 2008: Hmm it seems like me she needs to work through her issues. You are being as supportive as you can but she needs more then that, she needs to talk to a professional to work through the emotional trauma that she went through from being used and ... (read in full...)
"Bad Luck Omen" when it comes to sex?
Q. Hey, My girlfriend (21)and I (18) have been dating for a month now. We've tried to have sex but its a no go. She has had bad experiences in the past with inconsiderate guys and now thinks she has some sort of condition where she cant have sex ...
A. 16 March 2008: I agree with Double M. Thats all you can do really. If she has some sort of mental blcok or whatever it sounds like she may need to speak to a professional? ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me because I've never had a boyfriend...
Q. Well, I am 13 years old and I have never had a boyfriend. All of my friends have had several boyfriends but me none. My friends say that I am pretty and I am as cute as them and my personality is great so why have they all had boyfriends and I ...
A. 16 March 2008: I used to feel exactly how you feel! I am 19 years old and never had my first kiss and bf until I was 17.
People would always say that I was pretty and such a lovely person to be around, yet no guys ever asked me out. I was always so confused... (read in full...)
I'm scared maybe he is useing me for sex.
Q. I've been seeing this guy for 3 months and we have had sex. I asked him if I was the only one he was sleeping with and he said yes he can't afford anymore women and we laughed. He picks me up almost every weekend and I sleep over he told me he realy ...
A. 16 March 2008: There are many things that he is doing that makes me worried for you.
You asked him if hes sleeping with any one else and instead of replying by saying no because he is commited to you, he made a joke out of it. Its a serious question and a se... (read in full...)
Can men fall in love with the woman they lose their virginity to?
Q. Can men fall in love with the woman they lose their vigrinity to? I've seen it happen with women at a young age, my boyfriend was a virgin and after we started having sex he completely changed and dropped the i love you's two months later. ...
A. 14 March 2008: Yes men can fall in love with a woman who he loses his virginity to, however it doesnt always happen as many men dont have sex for love, they have it to fulfil their sexual desires.
It must really hurt to have your bf stop saying I love you afte... (read in full...)
Not sexually active but I haven't had my period in almost 6 months, what's wrong with me?
Q. I haven't had my period in over 5-6 months!! And I am not sexually active!! Is something wrong with me? ...
A. 13 March 2008: There are many reasons as to why you havent had a period for such a long time.
It could be due to weight. Sometimes if your really skinny or underweight it can cause irregular periods.
It could be related to exercise- if you over exercise it... (read in full...)
We have been intimate but she does not let me see her down there, how can I persuade her?
Q. My girlfriend won't let me see her pussy and we have been doing sexual things for months just not full on sex and she still won't let me see, is this normal? how can i persuade her?...
A. 12 March 2008: I dont think you should try to persuade her. You should let her let you see it when shes ready. If you try to persuade her she may feel under pressure and it will put her off even more. Ask her why she doesnt want you to see it. And let her know ... (read in full...)
Am I being too fussy? Why don't my relationships work?
Q. Why can't I fInd someone who's perfect for me? It seems I find these great guys, but they all have one fatal flaw that just means we'll never get anywehere. I feel like I'm going to be alone forever. Am I being too fussy? Why don't my relat...
A. 9 March 2008: The reason your relationships dont 'work' is because you are searching for a dream! No one is perfect, no1 will find Mr Perfect. He doesnt exist in reality.
Having said that, I dont think I can say if you are being fussy or not, as you didnt sa... (read in full...)
He's younger and less experienced, it causes arguements, should I walk away?
Q. Should I walk away? I've been dating a guy for 6 weeks. We get along very well, although he's 4 years younger than me - less experienced and less mature (in some ways). He's very dependable and offers me security. But the immaturity and la...
A. 9 March 2008: If I was you, I would find someone else who can deal with their emotions better. It might not just be a age issue, as A LOT of people dont know how to deal with their feelings. If you stay with him, you would be hoping and probably expecting that he ... (read in full...)
I got myself in a bit of a tangle. I have got 2-3 boyfriends and a fiance!!!
Q. please help, I got myself in a bit of a tangle. I have got 2/3 boyfriends and a fiance, my fiance lives abroad, my first boyfriend I have been with him for 4 years but it has been a rocky relationship on and off and my fiance I don't even know him ...
A. 6 March 2008: You said you dont want to disapoint them, by breaking up I guess you mean? Dont you think seeing so many other guys behind each of their backs is disrespectful and hurtful???
I guess you have to look at why you are doing this. Sure it is veyr har... (read in full...)
Old flame on Facebook - contact or not?
Q. About 25 years ago, I was at a week long residential course. The second evening, I met this fabulous girl, and we really got on well. The next evening, our eyes met across a crowded room, and from then on we were basically inseparable for the rest ...
A. 6 March 2008: Although you only want to contact her to say hello, I still think it is veryyyyyyyyyyyy inappropiate to contact her, even if nothing happens. You cheated on your wife with her and your wife forgave you!!!! I think you are lucky she did..but then ... (read in full...)
He calls me names, gets really jealous, and slapped my leg really hard...is this an abusive relationship?
Q. Me and my bf of 2 years were broken up for around 9 months. He broke up with me. DUring that time, things were very dramatic between us. He would get very jealous at any new guy I meet. A couple times we got into heated arguments and he would te...
A. 6 March 2008: This IS an abusive relationship.
Please take a look at this website, "When Love Hurts":
http://www.dvirc.org.au/whenlove/
I found it very helpful when I was in an abusive relationship and it gave me the strengtrh to end the relationship.
... (read in full...)
Can we reach a point of healing this relationship? Is there hope?
Q. I'm in a troubled relationship. It's unhealthy, and we don't know what to do. We met through a mutual friend (who had been a very good friend of mine for years, and played mwith my bf in a band back then). We got along great. Five months later, an...
A. 3 March 2008: To put it in one sentence, your bf is abusive.
His jealousy is controlling (very bad sign), he calls you names, makes you feel bad and guilty about your PAST, makes you not feel proud to be who you are, he doesnt accept or have respect for you,... (read in full...)
I don't know what she's doing on her nights out...
Q. I need to bounce this senario of you. What do you think is happening or what I should say or do about it? My girlfriend of 5 months goes out with work friends once or twice a month, problem is I don't know who they are, or where she goes. To make ...
A. 2 March 2008: Are you worried shes going to cheat?
People often fear the unknown, so I thikn its understandable how you are feeling. You dont know what shes doing or who shes going with (thats the unknown) and your fearing what may happen arent you?
Have... (read in full...)
He left me stranded at 3am. Should I forgive him?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been dating a guy for ten months. Over the weekend we got into a fight. Frankly, I don't know what he was mad about. We had been drinking quite a bit. He started screaming in my face and left me at the sports bar without a ri...
A. 25 February 2008: No matter how bad the fight is, that doesnt make it ok for him to leave you alone at night in a club at 3am! God knows what could happen...so many bad possibilities. When you have a fight with someone it doesnt mean you can just stop caring for them ... (read in full...)
Do guys really want platonic (best) friendships with women or have secret expectations?
Q. Do guys really want platonic (best) friendships with women? I always thought it was great, that two people could be best friends no matter what gender/orientation, but recently on these relationship sites it seems straight guys who are best bud...
A. 24 February 2008: Personally I dont see how you could be best friends with someone of the opposite sex and not have atleast one of the people involved feel something more then just friendship.
Ive been friends with males before and thought we were really close frie... (read in full...)
Sexual activity not finalised in intercourse, could I be pregnant?
Q. The other day, me and my boyfriend did a bit of foreplay. He came and then for the first time he fingered me, his penis did not enter me, but it touched my vagina. Could i be pregnent? ...
A. 24 February 2008: There is a possibility you could be pregnant if his penis had traces of seamen when it touched you. Although the possibility is small, it is possible so its important that you go to the doctors to see if you are pregnant. Or if you dont wanna do ... (read in full...)
He couldn't sleep and I was the first person he text messaged. Does this mean something?
Q. I have a male friend who I get on with really well. We like the same authors, we like the same music and when we're together we just "click". Really fancy him but I've never told him. Recently his grandmother died so I have been giving him some ...
A. 22 February 2008: I think he def likes you! :)
Although he may of been drinking when he texted you, I think he still texted you cause he liked you, not cause he was drunk. ... (read in full...)
We used a condom, so chances are I'm not pregnant. Am I worrying too much?
Q. I am really afraid that I am pregnant. But then again, I think I might be worrying too much. I had sex for the first time, with my boyfriend who is extremely experienced. We had sex at the end of December, and a couple times at the end of January. I ...
A. 22 February 2008: There probably is a small possibility that you could be pregnant. I dont think anyone here can really tell you if you are or not. I think you should go to your doctor, explain that you might be pregnant and tell him/her you are having irregular ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my bf I want a baby at 13?
Q. Ohkay.I am 13 years old.I have done everything with a guy.The first time though I didn't use protection hoping I would get pregnant.But I am dating this guy right and I really love him.I want to have a baby with him but how do I tell him?I am young ...
A. 17 February 2008: You said you have 'done everything with a guy', but you actually havent. You havent yet had a mature relationship have you? Thats because you are 13. I understand you want a baby but part of being an adult is not always geting what you heart desires ... (read in full...)
After how many dates should you discuss your relationship?
Q. If you go on a few dates with someone new, and see them alot during the week, talk on the phone, go over each other's houses etc - would you be bf/gf? I was wondering, what is the usual amount of time before you should start assuming you are...
A. 16 February 2008: Hey,
I dont think there can be a set amount of dates that says you are a couple now as everyone vaires. Some people like to just casualy date for a logn time before being serious, some like to become serious more quickly. So if you assume where you ... (read in full...)
Do people who were abused lash out?
Q. I am so thankful that I finally got out of an abusive relationship I was in. He was emotionally abusive, for example he would get very angry if i didn't smoke or drink or sleep with him, he never respected me, and there's really so much more. And I ...
A. 11 February 2008: First of all I want to say that I know how you feel as ive had a very similar experience, and secondly I think its great you found the strength to leave- you should be so proud :)
You are not wrong. You were reacting to his abuse. I think you put ... (read in full...)
Caught my son masturbating, should I buy him some condoms, sextoys and an informative book?
Q. just rececetly i caught my 13 year old son masturbating naked on top of his bed i saw his penis and pubes, this hasnt effected our relationship but i was wondering if i should buy him some condoms and other stuff like a masturbation and sex book or ...
A. 11 February 2008: Id talk to him about sexual related things such as safe sex and so on, but I duno about buying him toys and condoms and stuff. Id just tell him that when he is thinking about having sex he cane come to you with any questions and/or for condoms. That ... (read in full...)
I've heard that condoms aren't very good when you want pleasure so should we use one?
Q. I've been in a relationship with a lad for about 2 years now and I'm ready to sleep with him. I'm 16 years old so I'm legal, and I'm on the pill. I've heard that condoms aren't very good when you want pleasure. Since I'm on the pill is it okay to ...
A. 11 February 2008: I would suggest you still use the pill for the following reasons-
-Sex can still be very enjoyable with a condom.
-The pill isnt 100% effective so by using the condom you are MUCH MORE safer.
-Although you said he you know he doesnt have any ... (read in full...)
Am I going over the top being so opinionated with him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months now. We always have fights and disagreements and we quarrel sometimes. I must admit we are both strong characters and when we get angry we both hit the roof. I am now feeling drained about the ...
A. 11 February 2008: Hmmm he sounds like he has some unresolved issues. I think it is odd that he got defensive when you asked simple things like how old his sister was and wouldnt answer you. There must be something more to do it that hes not letting on. However I ... (read in full...)
My best friend is driving me crazy by putting me down and hurting me.
Q. I had a bad traumatic relationship that just screwed me up and I've turned into someone that I no longer recognizes. I hit rock bottom and was in deep depression but now I am healing and trying to move on. The thing is while I was 'hiding' my best ...
A. 11 February 2008: In response to your last sentence, NO she is not so overly caring that you crosses the boundaries. Shes manipulative and controlling and basically abusive. A caring person doesnt put you down, even if its 'for your own good' or because you 'need to ... (read in full...)
Is our age difference too big?
Q. I need some advice and my story might be a little long so please bear with me. I have fallen for a guy who is a regular customer at the store where I work. The problem is there is quite a big age difference between us. Iam almost 21 and he is 38. He ...
A. 10 February 2008: It could work, but it may not. I have no doubt in my mind that you and him could get along very well and perhaps even fall in love. But it does take more then love to make a relationship to work. Just some things to think about, if you two did get ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to move on from my ex and keep in contact??
Q. Hi. My girlfriend split up with me 6 months ago. She wants us to be friends now, but I've struggled to deal with that in the past and on every occasion until now I have cut contact with her. But she's back again. Last time I tried to talk to her, ...
A. 10 February 2008: I think it would be very hard to be friends with your ex gf while you still have feelings and hope for the future with her. And I think you know that. Honestly I dont think its possible to have a good and happy friendship with her at this point. ... (read in full...)
My best friend is driving me crazy by putting me down and hurting me.
Q. I had a bad traumatic relationship that just screwed me up and I've turned into someone that I no longer recognizes. I hit rock bottom and was in deep depression but now I am healing and trying to move on. The thing is while I was 'hiding' my best ...
A. 10 February 2008: Sounds to me like she is only bringing you down and isnt contributing in a positive way to your life at all. Why do you even call her a friend? YOU deserve to have a friend who is much better, one who supports you, who doesnt try to steal your ideas ... (read in full...)
I'm not even thinking about sex but holding her hand turns me on.
Q. Hi Everyone! I have a problem, when I hold my girlfriends' hand or when we are close to each other I don't know why but I get an erection. Is this normal? I'm not thinking about sex when I'm with her so I don't know why I get an erection. Please ...
A. 9 February 2008: Perfectly normal, Ive had a few bf's who have had the same experience. ... (read in full...)
We have been dating two months and he is just too much for me.
Q. Ok now I know most women want a man who pays attention to them and kisses them all the time.... well i thought that is what I wanted.. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 months and I feel like I am about to lose it.. He is always texting ...
A. 9 February 2008: Ok first off, do you want in or out of this relationship? Are you prepared to give it another shot if he could 'cool it down' a bit? If so, then you need to tell him how you feel in the nicest way possible. I wouldnt accuse him of being nosey though ... (read in full...)
How to change his mind about this.
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 1 year and 6 months now. In the past he had fingered me and I have gave him a handjob. One night we were talking and he told me that we should stop doing this cause he thinks it will lead to sex. Well we have ...
A. 9 February 2008: Sounds like your bf doesnt believe in himself and/or you to have enough self control to be able to stop yoruselves from going any further then what you have so far.
I guess you need to talk to him and ask exactly why he thinks it will lead to ... (read in full...)
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