I have not started my period yet and am worried...
Q. i am slightly worried i have not started my period yet and i am in year nine but my discharge has started going brown should i be worried ? i need some advice thanks ............
A. 30 May 2008: Some girls dont get their period until they are 16 or even 18. So you not having yours yet does not mean that there must be something wrong with you or to worry about.
Have you developed boobs yet? If not then you are probably a late develope... (read in full...)
I want my first time to be special, so I want it to happen in a hotel. But he's done nothing about booking one!
Q. I have been wanting to have sex with my bf for about a year now. It is my first time, so he wants it to be right and make sure i know what i am saying. I have thought long and hard and i know i want it to be with him. I have told him this. Howeve...
A. 26 May 2008: I understand why you are upset. Loosing your viginity is a big thing and you want your first time to be perfect and you feel your bf doesnt understand this, or share the same want in wanting it to be so special.
You are not being too demanding in w... (read in full...)
I am secretly in love with my cousin.
Q. PLEASE DO NOT answer the following question with morals and personal opinions of how it is wrong or disgusting (insert hurtful comment here). ALSO no other arguments against my preference whether that be Science, Law or experience. I have a cousi...
A. 22 May 2008: I think your chances of geting her to like you in the way you like her are slim. Generaly most people don't feel that way towards there relatives for a number of reasons. And there is a high chance she might think the whole idea is gross like alot ... (read in full...)
Is being 47 kgs and 5 ft 3 inches underweight?
Q. Is being 15 years old, 5ft 3 and 47kgs underweight?...
A. 22 May 2008: Hey,
Have you heard of BMI? It stands for Body Mass Index. Basically you use it to work out whether or not you are underweight, acceptable, overweight or obsese.
You calculate it by using your height and weight measurments at a web site such as... (read in full...)
I know the obvious thing is to go to the GP or get a pregnancy test, but I'd like some advice first please.
Q. Am I pregnant? I know the obvious thing is to go to the GP or get a test, but I'd like some advice first. I'm too young to have a kid I personally believe, and I missed my period last month (it should be due again in a couple of days). The docto...
A. 22 May 2008: hey,
Yes if your doctor does a blood test they can tell if you are pregnant. However im not sure if you have to specifically ask for them to look at whether or not your pregnant when doing a blood test if you get one done for some other reason. ... (read in full...)
How did you proposed or were proposed to?
Q. I kno there's a lot of married people on dear cupid. So I want to know how did your husband propose to u or guys did your wife ask u. Just curious...
A. 22 May 2008: Lol interesting story, uncle_sneaker. But you do realise it actualy would of been cheaper for her to change her name becuase the costs for the wedding ceremony would of been more right?
... (read in full...)
Has anyone got any tips for how to cope with exams?
Q. This year, I've had several GCSE's that i'm taking a year early, and have felt immensely stressed. Has anyone got any tips for how to cope next year, when I've got 12 exams? Or how do you deal with stress? ...
A. 22 May 2008: Hey,
As a university student, I know how stressful exam time can be!!!
But throughout my many years of study, ive found the following tips help make exam time a bit easier:-
-Time Management- have a plan of what you will be doing when. Have ... (read in full...)
We are both virigns how do I approach the subject of sex?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 months and we both love each other. I am a virgin and she is also a virgin so our experience isn't exactly overwhelming. I don't know if she is ready to have sex yet or what, but I have never loved someone ...
A. 22 May 2008: I understand you find it hard to talk to her about sex. Most people do!!!! I think its one of those situtions where you have to kidna just bite the bullet and do it.
My advice though is- dont bring the topic up when you're "in the mood". Bring it... (read in full...)
Tell me everything I need to know (and already know) about married men who cheat?
Q. I'm married too...He's nearly 20 years older than me. We've been attracted to each other for months after we met professionally, but I didn't think it was anything more than flirting. I perceived him as someone who had set limits for himself and ...
A. 21 May 2008: Ok well first off, you said you enjoyed the feeling of being wanted. The fact that you went to someoneelse other then your husband for that feeling either suggests you are very insecure or you are not geting your needs met in your relationship with ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my abusive husband?
Q. i have been married to my husband for 4 years and we have a two year old son. I am fed up of my married life as my husband can be verbally abusive towards me and slags off my family, he is also screams, shouts at our son and his idea of disapline in ...
A. 16 May 2008: You really do need to leave!!! What he is doing is sooo wrong. You deserve respect. So does your son. You both deserve to be in a secure, healthy, happy home where you are both loved. Its not safe for either of you.
I am wondering why you thin... (read in full...)
How do you train a man to be more respectful towards women?
Q. How do you train a man to be more respectful towards women? My b/f of 3 yrs. blows hot and cold constantly. One minute he's all, 'ooh baby you're the best thing that ever happened to me...' and the next minute he's yelling at me over something ...
A. 16 May 2008: You cant train or force a guy, (or anyone really) to respect people and in particular you. However what you CAN do is expect respect and if you arent given it, then dont allow them to continue disrespecting you. That means, leave the situation and ... (read in full...)
I started dating a player, broke up with him, now cant get him out of my head, help me!
Q. A couple months ago, I was dating a guy that went well for the first 2 weeks (infatuation phase), and then we got physical (kissing, hj, fingering. no sex). I enjoyed it and felt that he sincerely liked me (although he seemed like the player type, ...
A. 15 May 2008: Just because he was going to ask you to be his gf doesnt mean he wasnt in it for the sex or wasnt going to use you. I know many guys who date a girl and if she wont put out because they arent commited or serious, the guy will be like 'hey will you ... (read in full...)
I started dating a player, broke up with him, now cant get him out of my head, help me!
Q. A couple months ago, I was dating a guy that went well for the first 2 weeks (infatuation phase), and then we got physical (kissing, hj, fingering. no sex). I enjoyed it and felt that he sincerely liked me (although he seemed like the player type, ...
A. 14 May 2008: As another posted suggested, due to no clear closure, this will be making it incredibly harder for you to get him out of your head. Part of you is thinking 'hmm maybe he wanst that bad, maybe he wasnt really a playa...' and the other part of you ... (read in full...)
How much longer should I wait for him to ask me out?
Q. I have been working with this company for 2 years. The man I am extremely interested in is a manager of a different department. He is extremely low key and shares most of my interests. He is funny, smart, quirky and very nerdy. I love that about ...
A. 14 May 2008: You said hes 'nerdy' so hes probably shy. Alot of people who are seen as nerds have insecurities and are shy. I think maybe you should ask him out to lunch or something...and see how that goes :) ... (read in full...)
Did he break up with me over sex?
Q. ugh=( heyy everyone! I have been so stressed out lately, you see me and my ex split up about idunno 2 weeks agoish and drama seems to circulate me whereever i go. People have told me that he broke up with me due to me not letting him hit it...He ...
A. 14 May 2008: You'd be suprsied by the amount of time some people will put in to just get sex. 4 months is very possible. And some guys will still go after a girl who clearly doesnt want to have sex. Some guys will go after strict christians who are saving ... (read in full...)
Are my friends right in saying we don't have history because we weren't "boyfriend and girlfriend"?
Q. OK so I've been talking to this guy for half a year now...but we no longer talk. But my friends say that we dont have wehistory because we were not boyfriend and girlfriend. How do they expect me to accept this. This guy has played a big part in my ...
A. 14 May 2008: YES YOU DO HAVE A HISTORY!!
A history is a past with someone- whether that be with a friend or a bf/gf. You and your friends have a history, the friends who are telling you you dont have a history with this guy.
But yes, you do have a histor... (read in full...)
I don't have kids yet, but I'm considering quitting my job to be a stay-at-home mom.
Q. I'm considering quitting my job to be a stay-at-home mom. I've been working all my life. I don't have kids yet, but planning to soon. I heard it gets lonely. Should i do it?...
A. 14 May 2008: My mum was a stay at home mum and I am SO SO SO thankful she was. I had the best childhood because she was ALWAYS there. Alot of my friends grew up in homes where both parents worked, they were like 'latch key kids'. Due to having the extra income ... (read in full...)
Could unprotected sex cause dizziness?
Q. havin unprotected sex with your boyfriend could that be a problem for the fermale a little bit of dizness each time they have sex?...
A. 14 May 2008: It could be that your laying down. It could also be a sign of you being nervous. Think about whether or not you are actually ok with having sex and how comfortable you are. If your gut is telling you having sex isnt right at this point in your ... (read in full...)
Is it o.k to date someone because they are only engaged?
Q. My grandma is trying to hook me up with a waiter that she sees every weekend at a local resturant. She dragged me in thier and I met the waiter he was good looking and he seemed to be interested in me. But My aunt informed me that he was engaged. I ...
A. 14 May 2008: Oh and another thing to think about....
dating someone who is engaged would be classed as cheating. And statistics prove that if a relationship is started on the basis of cheating, then the chances of it working out decrease dramatically.
... (read in full...)
Is it o.k to date someone because they are only engaged?
Q. My grandma is trying to hook me up with a waiter that she sees every weekend at a local resturant. She dragged me in thier and I met the waiter he was good looking and he seemed to be interested in me. But My aunt informed me that he was engaged. I ...
A. 14 May 2008: No I dont think thats ok. Sure its not offical that they are married, but they are plannign on it. They are COMMITED to being married. Just think about if that guy was your fiance and some girl wanted to go out with him, would you want her to back ... (read in full...)
He dosen't allow me to see my mates and makes me feel guilty!
Q. i am a young female aged 17, i have been with my boyfriend for 10 months and we are very much in love, we see each other every single day, and stay at each others house every night, we are very close, but i work through the day while he goes out ...
A. 13 May 2008: Yes you should get rid of your bf. Why? because this is an unhealthy relationship and you are in danger.
Its an abusive relationship. Hes controlling. Hes trying to cut you off from your friends. Abusers do this, so when there abuse gets even wor... (read in full...)
Do you consider race a factor when choosing a partner?
Q. I'm a African-American male that likes all types of women. The women I used to be with are Latinos. I do not really care about ethnicity because if you look for someone that understands your needs and your strives, that someone may not be your color ...
A. 13 May 2008: I think race should be considered when going into a relationship. I think you can love and care for someone no matter what there race is, but making a relationship work can be A LOT harder if there are people of two different races. You have to ... (read in full...)
Do we have double standards whenever a woman "cheats"?
Q. its funny that.....when men come on line asking for advice about cheating on their girlfriends, you never see many men being judgemental and condeming them. However, when you see a woman who betrays her husband, all the men are so quick to respond...
A. 13 May 2008: In my opinion, I think men get put down more and judged more harshly for cheating then woman. But yes there is often a double standard in society about many things, which isnt fair. ... (read in full...)
Do guys prefer curves?
Q. Hey everyone I was wondering if some guy could please explain to me why do they prefer curves over thin girls?? I have got curves and sometimes worride that guys wont find me attractive...What kinda chicks do guys really like? ...
A. 12 May 2008: You cant generlise what guys like!!! Some will like curves and some will like thin girls better. The point is, for you to be love YOURSELF and to realise that you have more to you then looks. ... (read in full...)
He isn't shy in e-mails, but totally shy in real-life. Why? How can I get him to loosen up?
Q. My boyfriend is really mushy in emails and stuff, but not so much in real life. What should I do to get him to stop being so shy?...
A. 11 May 2008: Ultimately it is up to your bf himself to stop being shy. You cant really change him, but you can be as supportive as you can be to encourage him to be less shy.
You might like to ask him if he feels why face to face to you and ask him why? Atl... (read in full...)
What can I get for my boyfriend?
Q. oK this is the one for the boys What are some kewl things you can get your boyfriend for a gift?? I need lots of ideas fellas!! He is a country boy, 18 and more importantly im on a budget lol All ideas are welcome thanks x...
A. 10 May 2008: How long have you guys been dating for???
You could buy him a cd, gift vouchure, dvd...those r easy things which most people will probably love.
If you guys are fairly serious you could make him something that shows how much u love him...like ... (read in full...)
Will a brace put the men off me?
Q. I want to meet and date other people again after getting out of a relationship. But i maybe getting a brace this year, as i want to straighten my teeth. will it put men off me? when they see it? ...
A. 10 May 2008: I dont think it puts them off. I have a few friends who are in there early 20's and got braces and they all found bf's!
You'd be suprised by how sooo many people dont even notice u have braces until after a while of knowing u. I had them when I wa... (read in full...)
I know the relationship is really unhealthy but I don't have the strength to leave!
Q. well i dont even really know where to start. me and my bf have been dating for 15 months now. i am currently ending my first year in college, and about to go home in one week. he is still in high school, a senior, and lives back home(i go to college ...
A. 9 May 2008: This is an abusive relationship!! Its not healthy.
Let me point out some of the main thigns that I find so wrong in this relationship.
When hes angry he says he doesnt love you. True love IS UNCONDITIONAL! You cant stop loving someone and turn... (read in full...)
He wants to "cut back" on seeing me, any ideas on how I can cope?
Q. ive been with my bf 19 months now and things have been great but all of a sudden afta spending about 4 days a week together it dropped to once because of his uni work load, so we talked about it and decided that once a week is good if thats all he ...
A. 8 May 2008: Hi darling, I understand where you are coming from. Yes your bf's studies are important and you understand that he needs alot of time to study etc. You are right in thinking why cant he spend just 2 mins to send a text message each day???? That will ... (read in full...)
Is it bad that we both found people to get over each other?
Q. My ex boyfriend of two years have just broken up 4 months ago. two months after we broke up he found a new girlfriend and two weeks later he was saying that he loves her. I ended up finding a boyfriend a month after breaking up. Is it bad that we b...
A. 8 May 2008: I dont think EITHER of you should be in new relationships at this point in time. Your relationship isnt 'over' really is it? you may not offically be bf and gf and be in a relationship but you are still have a sexual form of a relatiosnhip (through ... (read in full...)
"If I am 16 and have relations with a consenting 15 year-old girl, is that rape?"
Q. Hi! I'm studing law in history, and one of the questions is, "If i am 16 and have relations with a consenting 15 year-old girl, is that rape?" Please help me answer this question...Thanks....
A. 8 May 2008: Yes it is rape. Because at the age of 15 the girl isnt considered by law old enough to consent to sex. At 15 you cant consent, therefore even if the girl says 'yes i want sex', that isnt considered consent because she isnt mature enough according to ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I'm still a vrigin?
Q. Hello My new boyfriend is divorced and eight years older than me, which is not a problem to me, what is the problem is that i am still a virgin and dont know if i should tell him this, and how do i tell him, or maybe he already knows. Thank ...
A. 8 May 2008: I think you should tell him, not only because honesty in a relationship is important but because it will make your first time with him alot easier. It can be a bit scary and if your bf knows you are a virgin it will take the pressureo off you to ... (read in full...)
How to get abs quick?
Q. i am 15 and have a gut. whats a good way to get sweet looking abs quick, not useing any equipment?...
A. 8 May 2008: By doing sit ups. Do them EVERY DAY!!! Start off by doing a small amount that you can manage. Make sure that you do enough to feel some tightness in that area. Then each day increase the amount you do by 5-10 or more....
Also theres another ... (read in full...)
Does anybody have experience of getting back after splitting-up??
Q. My partner left me in the fall of last year and since then I've been looking after her daughter and our 5 kids and I'm coping pretty terribly. The eldest three are teenagers so they don't really need any looking after but the younger three are ...
A. 6 May 2008: First off why did she leave you with all her kids? does she not care about them???? doesnt she want to mother them????
I dont think geting back with her for the sake of the kids is a good idea. You need to be together because you both want to ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'm going to scare him away, how can I stop this before it ruins my relationships?
Q. Hello I really hope someone here can help me. I seem to be suffering from some sort of, abandonment issue of some sort. I mean, I am in a long distance relationship and if my boyfriend doesn't email me or call me for a few days I feel...panic. li...
A. 6 May 2008: Hi hunny,
First off, I think you must be a very brave person to have gone through all of what you have so far in your life!!! I dont know how old you are, but you sound fairly young...
I have to say that what your mother and ex bf's did was com... (read in full...)
I love him with all my heart but hes in love with the fake picture of me!
Q. I met this guy and we talked online alot and we got on really well and he said he loved me and i loved him he asked for a picture a few weeks later and then after he saw my picture he didnt want to know he still talked but as friends and he ...
A. 6 May 2008: This guys sounds like he might be fairly shallow. Do you really want to be with someone who is so shallow? Dont you think you deserve a guy who isnt shallow, who loves you for whats on the inside and who thinks you look amazing on the outside too??? ... (read in full...)
Would You Reply To This Email?
Q. alright to make a really long story short my BF of 6 years an i broke up more than a month ago. he sent me an email a little over a week ago accusing me of something i didnt do (obviously someone started some drama) and how i made a fool out of ...
A. 6 May 2008: I think if you respond saying 'seriously, grow up!' is very insensitive to his feelings.
The fact is you DONT KNOW if he is making it up himself or if someone else told him. And can you honestly blame him feeling hurt if someone else told him that... (read in full...)
Are we to young to get engaged?
Q. I am only 16 but have met a guy that I have totally fallen in love. We have all these plains togethere and want to get engaged next year on our 1 year aniversary. Im just woride that no -one will take us seriously becasuse I will only be 17. Is it ...
A. 6 May 2008: I think probably almot everyone here on this web site will be able to tell you that there views and ideas of what love is was very different when they were 17 as to what it is now when they are much older.
Its part of growing up, we learn more thi... (read in full...)
He said he doesn't believe in marriage but will he eventually marry me?
Q. HELP! I have been seeing a guy for 2 years now. He used to talk about getting married sometime in the future (neither of us was ready in the early stages) but now he has told me that he doesn't believe in marriage and he won't marry me. At this ...
A. 6 May 2008: This is a big decision you have to make.
Firstly you must find out why he doesnt want to get married. Why did he change his mind, what caused it? Once you understand exactly why he is thinking what he is thinking you will know what you are deal... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says there are hotter girls than me. How can I feel better about myself now?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going through a rough patch lately... I asked him if he was still with me just because of the sex (because it seems it's the time he enjoys the most when he's with me), so he said: "Look, there are hotter girls tha...
A. 6 May 2008: I understand why you are upset. I think what your bf said had good intentions but it came out as being very insensitive to your feelings.
I believe he took the whole 'always tell the truth' beleif too far.
You could try workng out more to i... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always asks my friend to have sex, is he cheating?
Q. my boyfriend always ask my best friend to have sex with him and he told me once that he dont have the desire to have sex with me im a virgin and im not ready so do you think he's cheating should i break up with he evening calls my cousin everyday ...
A. 6 May 2008: Oh my god! darling this is completely wrong what our bf is doing!!!
By him asking your friend to have sex, he is planning on cheating. Just because you are not ready (and that is completely ok that you're not ready yet!) doesnt give him the righ... (read in full...)
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