How to change his mind about this.
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 1 year and 6 months now. In the past he had fingered me and I have gave him a handjob. One night we were talking and he told me that we should stop doing this cause he thinks it will lead to sex. Well we have ...
A. 9 February 2008: Sounds like your bf doesnt believe in himself and/or you to have enough self control to be able to stop yoruselves from going any further then what you have so far.
I guess you need to talk to him and ask exactly why he thinks it will lead to ... (read in full...)
Tips on getting him to propose.
Q. My bf and I have been dating for over a year now. And as a joke he poped the question, a couple of time. We basicly live together. I go to school and I work. He works full time and has his own appartment. The only difference is, i'm actually serious ...
A. 9 February 2008: You said hes not sure about marriage yet, so I think you need to accept this and dont try to get him to propose for real yet.
You said it would be like a fairytale if he proposed for real now, that may be so, but so many months later after the hone... (read in full...)
Who might be the father.
Q. If I had sex in May throughout the whole month with my boyfriend then we broke up and had a rebound hookup around June 7 and now am pregnant and due February 25, who would that make the father?...
A. 9 February 2008: Ehh im not sure, they are so close together it makes it hard. Go see your doctor- they can do tests before the baby is born to determine who the father is I think. ... (read in full...)
Tips on getting him to propose.
Q. My bf and I have been dating for over a year now. And as a joke he poped the question, a couple of time. We basicly live together. I go to school and I work. He works full time and has his own appartment. The only difference is, i'm actually serious ...
A. 9 February 2008: You said hes not sure about marriage yet, so I think you need to accept this and dont try to get him to propose for real yet.
You said it would be like a fairytale if he proposed for real now, that may be so, but so many months later after the hone... (read in full...)
My gf calls my best friend "hun," is that a form of flirting?
Q. hey just want to know what you guys think, i just got back, i was away from my gf for a year and 4 months; i was reading some of her msgs and that's when i seen msgs of her calling my friend hun, for example "hun dont worry about it" - would u say ...
A. 8 February 2008: Some people would use affectionate names such as hun in a way of flirting, but others would use it with complete innocence. I guess what you have to do look at other things, I mean does she only call him that? does she use such names towards you? ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is a stripper
Q. OK well this really isnt a normal scenario although having a girlfriend who is a stripper isnt normal to begin with. Anyways it makes it harder for me since i am in the military. Before i start we are both in our early 20's. I come back from bei...
A. 8 February 2008: I can understand how you are feeling. You love and respect your gf and now she degrading herself by taking up a job as a stripper. Not to mention the fact that a lot of the guys you work with go to strip clubs and would see your gf. I can see how ... (read in full...)
The ex is back again!! What does she want, and what should I do??
Q. Hi Aunts/Uncles. Most of you by now know my situation: Met a girl over the internet, we fell in love, we met, we kept a long distance relationship of 240 miles going for 2 years, we went camping, I took her on Holiday about a year ago, she sp...
A. 6 February 2008: Why did she text you? There are many reasons why she may of. It could of been just a friendly text, seeing how you were etc... She probably does still care about you even though you may not be dating, im sure you will have a special place in her ... (read in full...)
Should I leave her for good?
Q. Okay...I posted on her about my girlfriend way back in November... Here's the recap: She kissed another guy and treated me like dirt for two weeks and nearly put an end to our two year relationship. I could have forgiven it but the other guy never ...
A. 4 February 2008: You always have the choice to leave, it may be the harder one at first, but in the end, if it is the right decision, it will be better in the end.
I dont think you should stay with her because you think it would be to hard/awkward to leave and deal... (read in full...)
Should I leave her for good?
Q. Okay...I posted on her about my girlfriend way back in November... Here's the recap: She kissed another guy and treated me like dirt for two weeks and nearly put an end to our two year relationship. I could have forgiven it but the other guy never ...
A. 2 February 2008: You arent overreacting. I think its shocking that she could cheat on you AND still be friends with this guy. I am really sorry that happened to you.
What I think may be happening here, is that your gf senses/knows you wont stick to your word and... (read in full...)
Whose problem is it, that cheating happened without one of the involved parties knowing the other was committed?
Q. So I slept with my ex again, and it just so happens it was her first night back in town after break from school. We were at a party and she invited me to her house..... After a couple of days I texted her just to see what she was up to, having not ...
A. 2 February 2008: I would say its her problem. You didnt know she had a bf and she should of volunteered that info if she was seriously commited to her bf. ... (read in full...)
I told her that the morning after pill is abortion, she hates me now, what should I do?
Q. Dear friends, I have been crying for a day now because of my best friend. I have known her for over 9 years now, and we've helped eachother so much. I moved in with her and her son from another state and lived with her for about 5 months and then...
A. 30 January 2008: I can understand how your friend is feeling. She was in a situation where she needed help, and she went to a friend and you, as her friend couldnt help/support her without going against your own beleifs. Its a tricky situation. And I dont think you ... (read in full...)
How can I test him to check how much he's in love with me?
Q. my bf of a year now is kind of treating me bad lately and gets upsets very very easy...he was not like that in the beginning.why is he acting like this..he gets upset when i'm giving hugs to other guys who's actually one of my best friends.when i ...
A. 30 January 2008: I think that you have already tested his love for you- by giving him time. Often when you first meet someone, they seem so loving and perfect, but its with time that there TRUE colours beguin to show. With your bf, this is what has happened. He ... (read in full...)
Can I go on and off the Pill, and still be safe?
Q. Ok, I have a problem!! I am in a long distances relationship. and I only get 2 see him like every 2 or 3 weeks maybe longer! We don't have sex every time we see each other, but most of the time we do! We use condoms EVERY TIME! But, I wanna go on ...
A. 30 January 2008: No you cant. For the pill to be effective in protecting you from pregnancy, you have to take it every day and not miss any pills. So, I think you have to either commit yoourself to taking ti everyday (at the same time each day too) or not take it at ... (read in full...)
How does one fake being confident, when in reality s/he is shy?
Q. hey im a quite shy person. expecially with new people, i never know what to talk about. people always say fake it till you make it well i dont know how how can i fake being confident/outgoing? xoxo...
A. 27 January 2008: "Fake it till you make it"- it means you have to try and try and try until you actually become confident. You wont be able to fake it perfectly from the start, it takes practice, as does anything really.
I know its hard talking to someone when you... (read in full...)
Found inappropriate conversations between them on the computer...I'm afraid my husband is cheating on me!
Q. My husband and I have been married for nearly a year now and so far everything has been great between us. I've never thought him to be one to do things behind my back or anything like that. But throughout our entire relationship, even before we were ...
A. 26 January 2008: I think something wrong is def going on between your husband and this woman. His defense that thats just how she talks and she was just joking is very very lame.
You need to make it clear that you wont fall for his lame excsues and they wont work... (read in full...)
Any polite way to tell a friend she should not post semi-nude photos in the Internet?
Q. Is there any polite way to tell a friend that she shouldn't be posting pictures of herself, 53, in Lingerie on her facebook page?...
A. 25 January 2008: Just cause she had the photos taken for a fashion show doesnt mean she has to post them over the internet. Anyway, dont beat yourself up about it, you didnt know. You didnt have any bad intentions, you were just worried about your friend and what ... (read in full...)
I do not have a driver's license yet, thus feel a bit embarassed. Is this a huge deal?
Q. Im almost 30yr old. And Im terrified of driving. So therefore I still haven't obtained my drivers license. Now is this a huge deal breaker for men ??? I don't lie about it but at the same time Im a little ashamed at times so I don't bring it up ti...
A. 24 January 2008: Its nothing to be ashamed of. My mum was in a car accident when she was young, therefore was to scared to learn to drive. She didnt learn to drive until she was in her 40's.
I have a fair few friends who are in there 20's and who have never sat ... (read in full...)
Mom caught me smoking! How can I get her trust again?
Q. hey, well this is a bit long but here goes.. ive got into a bit of trouble with my mum + step dad.. i have a 16 year old bf (to be 17 in march) + im 13 (14 in feb) my parents think hes getting me into smokin, drinkin, drugs + sex but hes not. i ...
A. 23 January 2008: To get someones trust you have to earn it. And you earn it by being an honest person and respectable. You also earn it by admiting when you are at fault and taking responsbility for it, not covering up what you did with excuses or lies, and this is ... (read in full...)
I may have an STD and if I do...does this mean my bf may have cheated on me?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 9 months now, we have a great relationship and i love him loads. A couple of weeks ago i started noticing little lumps down below and i think i may have a STD or something (its quite sore and the skins gone b...
A. 23 January 2008: If you do have an STD then yeah he may of cheated on you. Another possible reason could be that he was infected before he met you and either didnt tell you or he didnt know about it himself. Did he ever get an STD check before you both slept ... (read in full...)
Any polite way to tell a friend she should not post semi-nude photos in the Internet?
Q. Is there any polite way to tell a friend that she shouldn't be posting pictures of herself, 53, in Lingerie on her facebook page?...
A. 22 January 2008: If I was in your position, I would first start off by just asking her why she put the photos up. Ask her what sort of attention/reaction she hopes to gain from posting half naked photos and what reaction she thinks she will truly get. You could also ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be pregnant, after just fooling around?
Q. I'm worried that i could be pregnant. At the weekend i stayed over my boyfriends and were messing around during the night and some sperm went onto my vaginal area. I asked a close friend weather you could get pregnant this way and she said no it ha...
A. 22 January 2008: Hey darling, You could be pregnant, but the chances are low. However, since there is a slight chance you could be pregnant is importnat that you either go to the supermarket, chemist/pharmisist or your doctors and get a pregnancy test. They are ... (read in full...)
Is my friend being minipulated, or do I have this wrong?
Q. Hi all, I have a question that I would like some veiws on. Yesterday afternoon, I met a friend and her husband in the pub and was invited to go back to dinner. This couple are our close friends,(he was left by his wife for another man) and we ofte...
A. 21 January 2008: A self respecting woman wouldn't dress like Eve. Sounds to me like she is being manipulated and pressured into dressing how Adam wants her to dress. Its bad enough that hes trying to force her into dressing what he thinks is best, but when its like ... (read in full...)
Baby's names! who gets the last word?
Q. A while ago, I wrote in about wanting to be preggie all the time, even though a baby is still out of the question for some particular reasons which I will not discuss at this time because, well, they're irrelevant to the question, and the question ...
A. 21 January 2008: Well in a healthy relationship you would find a name you both like and can agree on. ... (read in full...)
Shall I take revenge on my ex?
Q. Dear Helpers, I just found out my ex had been cheating on me when were together and not only that he had been kissing one of my friends and some of his own. I am so angry I want to take revenge but I know it's wrong to take revenge but for my own ...
A. 20 January 2008: Im sorry what has happened to you, you must feel really bad. Its understanding that you are full of anger and what to hurt your ex bf back, because he hurt you. Ive been through that too. However, revenge is never as good as what it seems during the ... (read in full...)
How can you be sure somebody loves and cares for you before you have sex with them??
Q. How can you know if a guy really loves and cares for you before you have sex with him? I have read that one should hold out a little longer until one is sure...but can one really be sure?? Only after the act can one know what the other person is ...
A. 13 January 2008: I dont think you can ever really 'know' and be 100% sure. I mean some people are really good at putting on an act and once they have got what they want (such as sex) they give up the act and leave. Its sad that some people are like this, but its ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for me to accept him (and his limits) but not get hurt in the end if he does not truly want a relationship?
Q. I like this guy and he likes me (I am not sure if he likes me for me, or just for sex). I want a relationship with him, but he doesn't want a relationship right now. Is it possible for me to do stuff with him but not get hurt in the end if he ...
A. 12 January 2008: No, it is not possible for you to 'do stuff with him'(as in have sex i guess you mean?) and not get hurt in the end if he doesnt want you.
You like him, and you have hope that he does or will have the same feelings for you. If you do stuff wi... (read in full...)
According to his rules, he's allowed to sleep with other girls, but I cannot sleep with other guys. If I went along with his idea what does this say about me?
Q. My ex and I have been seeing each other for awhile now. I REALLY like him, maybe even love him. He has said that he cares about me a lot, more than any other girl. We're not committed to each other although I do have deep feelings for him and I ...
A. 12 January 2008: What your bf is doing is controlling and manipulative! If you were to have a relationship with him when you live closer again, I bet he would continue to control and manipulate you into things so he could always get HIS way. It will all be about ... (read in full...)
He says we cannot share a relationship as he does not have a cell phone - to be able to maintain contact. Should I stay away?
Q. I lost my virginity to this guy a few months ago. Since then we talk. I want a relationship but he doesn't. He says he likes me, but it would be hard to be in a relationship because he doesn't have a cell phone and it wouldn't be fair to me ...
A. 12 January 2008: Im sorry to say this but it sounds like hes making up an excuse to cover up the real reason why he doesnt want to be in a relationship. Its nothing personal towards you, I think he just wants to have casual sex with girls.
He knew before he slept... (read in full...)
I always "freeze" when having to take the conclusive steps to end my marriage, because of the abuses. What to do about the indecisiveness?
Q. I really need help to make a very big decision - that is to leave my husband. I am 35 - no children. What I guess I am asking is why I have deliberated over it for so long when the evidence that we are not right for each other is so obvious. I ha...
A. 12 January 2008: First off I want to say I know its hard to leave someone, even when they abuse you. All sorts of reasons can stop you and make it exstremely hard.
My first suggestion to you was going to be that you should go to your family and friends for supp... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is 22, I'm 17, how do I tell my parents?
Q. I am 17 years old and my boyfriend is 22. How do i tell my parents? Me and him are in love, we want to be together forever! What do i do?...
A. 11 January 2008: I think the main issue here is that when you are young you dont see things for what they are, you often take things at face value and are blinded by love. This is something I think we all go through though and the way we overcome it is through ... (read in full...)
Met a man online, he's much older and suggested that I lose virginity to him! I am not sure what to do.
Q. hi i have meet this man online. at first he used to annoy me but now he is easy to talk to and a right laugh. he is very forward though and has never hid the fact that he likes me. he has given me confidence about my hourglass size 14 figure...
A. 11 January 2008: You have a feeling in your gut that having sex with him isnt the right thing to do...listen to it! Because it is dead right. Usualy when your gut tells you something, its right. Dont make the same mistake as myself, and have sex with a guy when your ... (read in full...)
With a great guy, but he has anger issues and is paranoid
Q. Dear Help, In May i came out of a 5 year relationship because he takes drugs i tried to make it work but it didn't no matter how hard i tried. When we finished i swore i would never get serious with anyone again. Then i met this lad he has every...
A. 11 January 2008: Hmmm well it depends what you mean by 'anger'...can you give me any examples of how bad his anger gets? what sorts of things does he say/do?
I bet he is a bully or an abuser...if this is correct, then I dont think you should stay with him at all. ... (read in full...)
Why two condoms???
Q. me and my boyfriend have decided it's time for us to have sex,the only problem is,he wants to wear two condoms for extra safety,but i have told him that they will rub together and brake but he won't listen,how do i make him listen to me? thanks...
A. 11 January 2008: You are right, it doesnt protect you anymore, infact, from what ive heard from a professional, is that it increased the chance of the condom breaking if you wear two for 'extra safety'. Perhaps you could show him this page? Google the topic on the ... (read in full...)
We had sex and he declares he likes me but does not want a relationship. How is this possible?
Q. So this guy had sex with me and says he likes me, but he doesn't want to have a relationship with me... somethings not right here. Is this possible?...
A. 11 January 2008: The reason this may not make sense to you is because his meaning of 'like' and yours is probably very different. It sounds me to like he likes you, as in he thinks you are attractive and you give him what he wants (sex)..thats what he likes about ... (read in full...)
Is he or is he not...going to strip clubs? Should I ask him...again?
Q. I have recently found messages on my boyfriend's friend's pages of whom he is very close with and hangs out with when he is not with me. the messages were from girls asking them if they wanted to go to strip-clubs with them for a night out. i aske...
A. 3 January 2008: If there is one major thing I have learnt about dating and relationships- it is to trust your gut! Often it is right. Dont try to argue with it and find excuses or 'reasons'...trust your instinct.
Another thing that I know is that when people o... (read in full...)
How can I get over how he used to be when he was drunk?
Q. My partner was an alcoholic. He used to be abusive when he was drunk. He has now stopped drinking and is doing really well. My question is how do I forgive him for the things he used to do?? I find myself still being angry over things - especial...
A. 28 December 2007: Its ok to be angry, thats expected. And I think its unreasonable of your partner to just expect you to get over it like that, just because hes changed. Its not as simple as that. Being a victim of abuse can have many effects on the victim and can ... (read in full...)
When should I take my morning after pill??
Q. The condom broke at around 7pm today, what time tomorrow should I ask the chemist for 'the morning after pill', what time do I need to take the pill before to ensure no pregnancies, and do my parents have to know?...
A. 23 December 2007: Go to your chemist as soon as you can! Tell them the time you had unprotected sex and they will advise you on what to do. The pharamist will be able to tell you how effective the pill will work and so on. I duno if your parents have to know where ... (read in full...)
My gf hates me leaving so much that she can't even sleep at night when I'm away, while I'm an independent person who likes to travel. What solution can you see for us?
Q. I'm a pretty indapendant person and like to travel and visit friends and family fairly often. The problem is my girlfriend of 10 months hates me leaving so much that she can't even sleep at night when I'm not there. I phone her a few times most ...
A. 22 December 2007: When talking to her about it, maybe you could use affectionate/pet names you have for her, such as beautiful, goregous or whatever you may call her, if you dont use words like that normally to call her, then you dont have to start doing it either. ... (read in full...)
My gf hates me leaving so much that she can't even sleep at night when I'm away, while I'm an independent person who likes to travel. What solution can you see for us?
Q. I'm a pretty indapendant person and like to travel and visit friends and family fairly often. The problem is my girlfriend of 10 months hates me leaving so much that she can't even sleep at night when I'm not there. I phone her a few times most ...
A. 21 December 2007: I know it can be hard to tell someone you love that they need help, such as seeing a professional or reading some books about certain issues and so on...but when you love someone who needs help, love is about helping them despite how bad their ... (read in full...)
My gf hates me leaving so much that she can't even sleep at night when I'm away, while I'm an independent person who likes to travel. What solution can you see for us?
Q. I'm a pretty indapendant person and like to travel and visit friends and family fairly often. The problem is my girlfriend of 10 months hates me leaving so much that she can't even sleep at night when I'm not there. I phone her a few times most ...
A. 21 December 2007: First of all, I think you sound like a really good bf for coming here and asking for help about your relationship and how to help her deal with whatever the cause is for her having such anxiety while you are away.
You didnt really say exactly why ... (read in full...)
She says she wants space. How much space is space?
Q. Hi. Could do with some advice. My girlfriend of three years (great relationship etc) recently told me she 'needs space/a break'. Not 'breaking -up', just needs 'space'... Everything was good until she started studies on her university course...
A. 20 December 2007: Hmmm this is very confusing!! Like you said, you two barely see each other and have contact already, and how she wants space??? How much more space can you have??
All valid thoughts.
Heres a guess though...maybe she feels that she cant be the ... (read in full...)
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