I don't want my bf getting sucked into his ex's dramas!!
Q. An old girlfriend tried to I.M. my b/f tonight while we were on the computer downloading some music. He chose the "do not accept" this person as an I.M. buddy, but I was still upset that she's contacting him. He claims he hasn't talked to her and ...
A. 6 September 2007: I can see how this would be very upsetting for you. It must feel like in someway your bf cant let go and if he cant let go of his exs it makes you think all these thoughts like maybe he still has feelings for them and so on?
Especialy cons... (read in full...)
I don't want my bf getting sucked into his ex's dramas!!
Q. An old girlfriend tried to I.M. my b/f tonight while we were on the computer downloading some music. He chose the "do not accept" this person as an I.M. buddy, but I was still upset that she's contacting him. He claims he hasn't talked to her and ...
A. 5 September 2007: Personaly I think you're bf needs to step up and be a man. He needs to tell his ex gf off. They broke up for a good reason and shes in the past...she doesnt need to be in his future. He can be friends with anyone he wants to be, he doesnt need her ... (read in full...)
I don't want my bf getting sucked into his ex's dramas!!
Q. An old girlfriend tried to I.M. my b/f tonight while we were on the computer downloading some music. He chose the "do not accept" this person as an I.M. buddy, but I was still upset that she's contacting him. He claims he hasn't talked to her and ...
A. 4 September 2007: I think that it would work better if she heard it from your bf, rather than you. If she hears it from you, she could just think you are being a jealous gf, and still think that your bf wants to have contact with her if he isnt saying it to her. So ... (read in full...)
I went out on a date with this guy and he was too touchy feely. How do I let him know I only want to be friends?
Q. I feel so weird, please help. I recently met a guy who works at a bookstore in my local mall about a week ago; he made me laugh so much and was just so much fun to be with, that I agreed to meet him for lunch today. Okay, here's what happened ...
A. 3 September 2007: Ok well first off, good on you for having the guts to tell him to stop and letting him know your limitations, that can be a hard thing to do. Now if he was to obey your limitations would you perhaps consider being more then friends? If not ... (read in full...)
I've told her we are too young to have a baby but she got mad and said I am breaking her heart!!
Q. My girlfriend and I are 19 and she wants to have a baby with me. I'm not ready and she knows it. We both still live with our parents and can hardly even afford to go to school. I tried talking to her and explaining why it's too soon and she got mad ...
A. 3 September 2007: She sounds a bit immature to me. Firstly she cant see that having a baby at your age would be really hard, like you said you can barely afford life at the moment. A sign of maturity is being able to make sensible decisions and she thinks having a ... (read in full...)
He wants to wait until we're in our late 40s to have children! How can I convince him he's wrong?
Q. I'm 24, my husband's 26. Yesterday we were discussing about having children, and he said he wants to wait until we're in our late 40s - early 50s to have children. I've told him that's a bad idea, but he insists it will be better if we have kid...
A. 3 September 2007: You have to respect his thoughts and opinions, just as much as he shuld be respectng yours. If you go into a fight/discussion with the attitdue that you 'going to make him/her agree with me because im right!' then you wont get anywhere.
You shou... (read in full...)
Is she playing games??
Q. I was in a relationship for 3 years. The first year was amazing we loved and cared about each other so much always showing affection and always trying to please each other, the second and third was up and down, and now this last month and a half it ...
A. 2 September 2007: Wow...thats a very confusing and horrible situation to be in. I too have had similar expeirences that you are having unfortunately.
First off I have to point out that it seems to me that your are very dependent on this girl. You mentione... (read in full...)
Loved but abused?
Q. Hi. Please can someone help? I have been with my partner for nearly a year now. I am his first love and his first proper girlfriend. I also live with him and his mum. (She is hardly ever there though) He is a friend of my younger brother (my b.fd...
A. 2 September 2007: I think you sould leave your bf. If you stay to help him, you will find yourself high unsuccessful sadly. I know you want to help him but YOU cant do that. Someone who is abusive has A LOT of issues and problems, which only a professional can help ... (read in full...)
Hi, I'm 13 and I want to have sex.
Q. Hi, I'm 13 and I want to have sex. My girlfriend said no. I don't want to pressure her but i want it sooo bad. I really love her but i don't know if i should break up with her. please help me i don't know what to do....
A. 2 September 2007: Well you have to decide what is more important to YOU. Is it the sex or your love for your gf?
If you feel that your strong desire for sex cannot wait, then you will probably put that before your gf and the love you have for her. If this is the c... (read in full...)
What's the best way to calm her down when she gets so angry?
Q. My girlfriend and I have now been together for almost 6 years. But recently, we fight over really stupid things. Of course, I try to stay calm, and deal with it calmly, and she of course turns into a giant ball of mixed emotions. I love her with all ...
A. 31 August 2007: I have been in a similar situation with my ex bf. Everytime something upsetting came up, he didnt get his way or something bad happened, it would tunr into him being overly angry and we would constanly fight, daily. And its really hard to live with ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me he was a virgin, But he's not! Its really upset me that he's been with someone before me. Is this normal?
Q. *sigh* I've just found out that my BF, who I thought was a virgin, isn't a virgin at all. Turns out that one time when he was drunk, he had sex with a girl he didn't, and still doesn't, know. He can't remember it, but TWO different people...
A. 31 August 2007: You're not a bad person to feel this way and I think its very common for people to feel like this. When I had sex with my bf for the first time, I felt like this too because he had been with a few other girls before me.
However the thing you have... (read in full...)
We're on the verge of breaking up. My girlfriend has said she's not happy. Can I still fix this?
Q. I think i might be on the verge of a breakup. my girlfriend recently told me that she is very unhappy about some things and the she is reconsidering the relationship. weve been together for two years and i love her more than anything in the world. ...
A. 31 August 2007: It depends on what the issues actually are and ultimately whether or not SHE wants to fix things. She has to be willing to give it another go, for things to be fixed.
If you could give us some more details about what these issues are, I may be a... (read in full...)
He's so controlling towards me all the time.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months coming to 10 months, since we've been together we have so many arguments and hes so possessive, he always tells me what I can and can't do, he's stopped me from seeing my friends even at work I'm not allowed ...
A. 31 August 2007: What your bf is doing is wrong, its ABUSE. Although he may not be phsyically hurting you, emotional and verbal abuse are just as bad and can have sever effects on a persons mind. He is controlling you and trying to isolate you from everyone- t... (read in full...)
If he loves me how do I get him back, since he's too stubborn to take me back?
Q. Okay If he loves me then how do I get him back since he's too stubborn to take me back...?...
A. 31 August 2007: If hes that stubborn to be willing to let it get in the way of him and the girl he loves then really is he the type of guy you want to be with? He sounds pretty damn stubborn to me and this will cause issues later in the relationship. Perhaps its a ... (read in full...)
This girl who I fancy says that I'm her favourite boy in the class - also that I'm nicer than the others - does she fancy me or just like me?
Q. This girl who I fancy says that I'm her favourite boy in the class - also that I'm nicer than the others - does she fancy me or just like me?...
A. 31 August 2007: I think she likes you for sure :) ... (read in full...)
I would never have sex with someone under 16, but is it ok, (or legal) for me to go out with her, or do some of the things she is talking about.
Q. Hi, I'm 18 and have been mates with this girl who is 14 (nearly 15) for a while now. She has just revealed that she likes me, and has been giving me some vivid messages about what she wants me to do to her. I do like her, but am worried about th...
A. 30 August 2007: Its not illegal for you to go out with her. As for doing 'other things' I assume you are talking about other sexual activities but not sex? I would assume they would be illegal too, although im not 100% sure. However kissing and stuff is legal :)
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We have been together for 2 years and I flirt a lot with other guys. I have never cheated, just love the attention...
Q. I'm in a relationship and we get into it a lot We have been together for 2 years and I flirt a lot with other guys. I have never cheated, just love the attention and I am in love with my man, I just can't seem to keep him as the only man that giv...
A. 30 August 2007: Well you have to first realise that flirting with other guys (even if you dont actualy cheat on your bf) is just plain disrespectful. There is no excuse for it. Whether you do it because you are insecure and you need that attention to make you feel ... (read in full...)
Friends have told me to go to a prostitute in compensation for my high sex drive! Is it right, since I have a girlfriend?
Q. My urge for sex has abnormaly gone so crazy that even my girlfriend just can't take it all the time. Some friends have told me to try out prostitutes to save my relationship. Do you think it's right?...
A. 30 August 2007: Ah no, thats not right. Just because you have a high urge for sex doesnt mean you should go to prostitutes to fulfil that urge since your gf wont do that for you.
That WON'T 'save your relationship'. You're friends are in all honestly crazy to thin... (read in full...)
His family say i look like his ex wife from 13 yrs ago, he says he took 5 years to get over her and I dont want to be someone elses shadow!
Q. Well I had a bf (he's 35, I'm 26) that I had been dating for about five months. We got along great and were very much inlove. When we were getting to know each other we had talked a little about our exes. He had told me that he had been married and ...
A. 30 August 2007: Why is it so important to his family members? Because she was his wife. She BECAME part of their family. Thats why. They were married for 13 years too which is a fair while considering many marriages these days dont last long and often end in ... (read in full...)
I've taken the morning after pill twice, can i take it again? Is this safe?
Q. I had sex just as i was coming off my period, but the condom split, am i stil able to take th morning after pill. also iv taken th pill twice before. is this safe? would it affect my babies later in life?...
A. 29 August 2007: You're not suppose to take it on regular basis. I dont know what the 'limit is' though. When you get the morning after pill the doctor or pharmist or whoever you see who is giving you the medication should ask whether or not you have taken it ... (read in full...)
When in a relationship is it right to become sexually active?
Q. When in a relationship is the right time to start becoming sexually active? And does an age difference from say 17-23 would make any difference?...
A. 29 August 2007: Its completely up to you and your parnter. What it comes down to is yours and his beleifs. Some people see it as ok to have sex at a young age, and when your not in a seriously commited relationship, some are very against that and think you should ... (read in full...)
Girls, what would you not like/tolerate in a partner, generally speaking?
Q. All right, so most guys already know what it is women want in a guy, smart, handsome, confident, etc. But a question I don't ever see asked that I think would help out my situation as well as some others is, what don't women want in a guy, what a...
A. 27 August 2007: It will vary from person to person. You cant really generalise what girls like in a guy. But me personally, someone who isnt overly confident and up themselves, someone who isnt overly sarcatstic (i want them to show their TRUE emotions and not ... (read in full...)
My guy hasn't contacted me for ages now, should I try and reach him or consider the relationship over???
Q. My boyfriend (we'll call him Alex for the sake of the discussion) hasn't contacted me in 7 weeks now. The last time he called, I had not heard from him in 2 weeks at that time. He was talking about personal, family and work problems but would n...
A. 27 August 2007: Ive been in a very similar situation before and it can hurt like hell. Its like why hasnt he contacted me? Surely during 7 weeks he would atleast message or phone me to see how I am or to let me know that you know, hes still thinking about things ... (read in full...)
I never seem to 'get the girl' at the moment! Any tips on internet dating or getting succesful when I'm in clubs???
Q. Hi, I'm a 32 yr old virgin, I have a good job, live with my older brother in a inner city apartment and have always found it difficult to connect with women from as long as I remember. The few times I've got to know some, I've always been bran...
A. 27 August 2007: I like guys who are like you, who are quiet around girls (so not a loudmouth), not overly outgoing (arrogant, up themselves etc...), sexist or flirty...to me this represents someone who is conservative..which is the type of person most people look ... (read in full...)
What is the difference between a girlfriend and a fiancée?
Q. today my partner introduced me as his girlfriend,yet we are engaged and have a 4 year history behind us,what would you say was the diffrence between a girlfriend and a fiance?...
A. 27 August 2007: The difference is that you have plans to marry the fiance where as with the gf you dont have plans, not just yet anyway. Yet dont let this upset you just yet. How long have you guys been engaged for? If it is not for very long then he could still be ... (read in full...)
How can I prove to my parents I haven't gotten my girlfriend (ex) pregnant???
Q. Hi my relationship with my girlfriend ended suddenly and today I decided I couldn't hang on to items and Projects that I did when I was with her and one of the things I tore up was a list that she made of me called The Pro's and Cons of dating ...
A. 27 August 2007: If you were to see your gf in secret dont think this may cause problems for the relationship? She may want to meet your parents and if you ever want to become very serious about a girl, wont this have to happen?
I think its best to keep working ... (read in full...)
How can I prove to my parents I haven't gotten my girlfriend (ex) pregnant???
Q. Hi my relationship with my girlfriend ended suddenly and today I decided I couldn't hang on to items and Projects that I did when I was with her and one of the things I tore up was a list that she made of me called The Pro's and Cons of dating ...
A. 26 August 2007: Why do you think your parents are so worried/scared about you geting her pregnant? Is it because they think you are too young to have a child? Maybe they dont beleive in having sex unless you are married/in a serious relatiosnhip?
Either way, I t... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong with my boyfriend having harmless sexy chats with other men as long as they aren't leading anywhere?
Q. Advice needed!!! I've been with my boyfriend now for nearly a year. We both go on things like msn, facebook and myspace but I've noticed that whenever he's on it when I'm there he'll quickly hide his messages or close them down very quickly. F...
A. 26 August 2007: You question is is it ok for your bf to have a bit of 'harmless fun'? Well its obviously not harmless as this is upsetting you and it goes aginast yoru values and beleifs.
You have the right to feel better and to not have to worry about what 'ha... (read in full...)
Should i be unfaithful or should i just end it?
Q. Hi, I got a bit of a juicy one for ya. I've been going out with my girlfriend a little over a year now, and we've had some really good times, along with a few rough patches. Lately, its been all good, really. However, I'm 22 and she is 25. I have ...
A. 25 August 2007: One of your suggestions of what you could do was stay with her and 'mess her around', but stay with her so u can fulfil 'both your desires'. This girl wants a SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP, how is you messing around with her, by cheating fulfiling her ... (read in full...)
We never realized there was such an age-gap between us because we get on so well
Q. Alrighty.. sorry about the long message!! Well im 19 and I find myself quite crazy about a 38yr old! we work together and for the first year of working together we never actually knew eachothers age!! only recently have we found out how old eachothe...
A. 23 August 2007: You may not realise the age gap now but soon enough or later you may. Although hes older, and it doesnt stop you two frm getting alng so well, it may cause other issues if you guys were to become serious. For example, at his age he more then liekly ... (read in full...)
I want so bad to sleep with her, I want to make love to her and tell her that I am in love with her but she's MY WIFE'S SISTER!!!
Q. I have fallen in love with my wife's sister. I love and care for my wife but not the way I feel for her sister. I want so bad to sleep with her, I want to make love to her and tell her that I am in love with her. If she asked me to sleep with her I ...
A. 23 August 2007: So you're in love with her sister hey? Then why does it seem that you basicaly just mentioend wanting to have sex with her. If you loved her, wouldnt u want a relationship? Or do you think thats not possible so you will just 'settle' for sex and do ... (read in full...)
I want so bad to sleep with her, I want to make love to her and tell her that I am in love with her but she's MY WIFE'S SISTER!!!
Q. I have fallen in love with my wife's sister. I love and care for my wife but not the way I feel for her sister. I want so bad to sleep with her, I want to make love to her and tell her that I am in love with her. If she asked me to sleep with her I ...
A. 23 August 2007: So you're in love with her sister hey? Then why does it seem that you basicaly just mentioend wanting to have sex with her. If you loved her, wouldnt u want a relationship? Or do you think thats not possible so you will just 'settle' for sex and do ... (read in full...)
Please help I need to decide whether to end it (but I don't know if I'm strong enough to do so).
Q. I'm the kinda girl who is always nice and wouldn't hurt anyone intentionally. My boyfriend can be very nice but when he wants to be he can be very hurtful say nasty things, hang up the phone on me, put me down by saying I can't do stuff etc. ...
A. 22 August 2007: He seems absuvie to me. He doesnt seem to have respect for you as a person. No one should put you down, and its even worse when someone claims they love you, and is suppose to love you, but they do that.
His behaviour is wrong and you SHOUDLNT... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any tips to get rid of shyness?
Q. Hi... I am a 17 year old guy, I am extremely shy... I get very nervous (clammy hands, starting to sweat) when I start talking to girls... There's thoughts in my mind like "I'm gonna mess up" or "What if she doesn't like me?" Are there any tips to ...
A. 22 August 2007: You're not alone, heaps of other guys and girls have felt like you once in their life. The good news is, A LOT of them get through it too :) So you won't have to always be like this. There ARE things you can do.
I too am someone who is very shy... (read in full...)
I have a HUGE crush on this guy, could it be possible he feels the same way?
Q. Lets say, you have this HUGE HUGE I mean HUGE crush on a guy. And you feel that it is reciprocated through gestures and actions (i.e smiles, tone conversations, etc). (I'm 17) Can it be possible that he feels the same way, or would he just b...
A. 22 August 2007: You're not stalking him, your friends are just exaggerating!!! It seems to me like you just have a crsuh on him. And your feelings are normal for anyone who has a crush on someone.
As for whether or not he likes you, he could very well. Its hard... (read in full...)
Now I have now had a "friend with benefits" before and am curious what the rules are, and is this totally inappropriate being that we're not in a relationship?
Q. I find myself in a situation new to me, a few nights ago I was watching a movie with a female friend, halfway through the movie she mentioned that she finds it funny how guys hate to perform oral sex, but are angry when a female refuses to do it. I ...
A. 22 August 2007: I dont think there really are any rules, besides for dont let yourself fall for her! I personaly would stay away from 'friends with benefits' cause more then likely ONE of you will start likeing the other person alot more....and the other one jsut ... (read in full...)
He mistreated me so much, so why cant I get over him?
Q. for the last year i have been in the relationship from hell. i love him dearly and at times i really thought he was the one (cliched though that is) but i have to admit he is not a good guy, i recently found out he has been seeing someone else for ...
A. 20 August 2007: I know you feel. I recently got out of a emotionally abusive relationship and its really hard letting go of the person despite how badly they treated you!
For me it was that I wasnt in love with him, I was just in love with the ideal him. I assume... (read in full...)
He is moving away and I am not sure what will happen with us
Q. Question for the boys! I have been seeing a guy from work for a few months. He asked me out and told me he has had a crush on me for years but we were never single at the same time. Since we started dating we have a great time, and are kicking ...
A. 19 August 2007: Im a girl but thought I would give you my opinion anyway :)
He could honestly be very busy, but its just the timing of when he suddenly got busy is a bit suss. However personally, no matter HOW busy I get with whatever is going on in my life I a... (read in full...)
I love her, but I keep pushing her away!
Q. I have loved this girl for 2 years now an i know for sure she feels the same for me as she told me last year how she has feelings for me. I very stupidly said i liked her but wasn't interested in a relationship along with other excuses why i ...
A. 19 August 2007: These problems just wont go away and 'sort themselves out'. You need some help and you can get that from talking toa counsellor. I dont think anyone on here can really say anything that will solve your problemso n here beause there are some VERY ... (read in full...)
He says if I dont go out with him he will find other girls to 'chill with'
Q. Since i have been with m boyfriend he has made going out with my friends a chore. He will call me all the time, give me a curfew..(usually no later than 2am) otherwise he s implies i am a girl of ill repute. it got to the point that i am now always ...
A. 19 August 2007: Like everyone else has said, hes trying to control you and it seems like its working sadly :(
He sounds like hes emotioanly abusive and thats what abusers do...they get you away from any friends and family so you have no support around you. So ... (read in full...)
Does his jealousy mean he still loves me?
Q. A few weeks ago my boyfriend broke up with me because he said he didn't know if he loved me or not. He said he still wanted to be best friends and he wanted me to keep something precious of his that he gave to me to wear when we were together, but I ...
A. 19 August 2007: I agree with everything Skye has said. Spot on...I would take Skye's advice. ... (read in full...)
Are they in on it together?
Q. Ok, I have been dating my b/f for the past 4 years, and i am going through the 2nd time that I think he's cheating. The first time, he's all of a sudden texting this girl back and forth and talking to her all hours of the night. Every time I asked ...
A. 18 August 2007: It may be hard to figure out if they are actually sleeping together or not, but one thing you do knwo for sure is the text messages you read and they alone, stand grounds for breaking up in my opinion. They may not of actually slept together, ... (read in full...)
I feel that is my fault and I should probably cut all ties no matter how much I love her and miss her. What do you guys think...?
Q. Hi all.. I'm very new here. I have an issue with relationships. They all end the same way. I just recently was engaged and I have always treated my women like gold. I am very loving, caring, romantic, affectionate and down to earth. My woman...
A. 17 August 2007: Well let me just start off by telling you, you arent alone! Many other people (males and females) go through what you are going through. I myself have been through asimilr situation where I wanted to be with my bf 24/7...and he was the type to 'like ... (read in full...)
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