She's now married with kids, but She said when she comes into town we could have sex.
Q. I've known this girl for about 8 yrs, I've had feelings for her for about 8 yrs as well. She too has feelings for me, unfortunately we had lost contact at one point in time, and she ended up with someone else. She is now married with kids. She move...
A. 12 April 2008: "Why r yall so worried if its not yall?"
Because we are caring people who care about others and not just ourself. It sounds to me like maybe you dont have the ability to do that yet since you are going to sleep with her despite how it will effe... (read in full...)
Do guys compliment girls on their name? What is a beautiful name?
Q. This is something I've been thinking about for a while. Why do guys compliment girls on their names? Do you really hear a girl's name and think "wow that is a beautiful name?". Maybe I'm being a little silly, I just think it's a weird thing to compl...
A. 10 April 2008: Whats your name? if you don't mind me asking...... (read in full...)
She seriously was my image of the perfect girl and I will never get to know what could have been.
Q. Well guys im pretty much screwed. I like this girl but she has a boyfriend. I really know i should move on but it is so freaking hard. I can't stop thinking about her. I have never connected with anyone as well as her. We are good friends and...
A. 10 April 2008: I'm sorry for how you are feeling. However, things will get better! I promise! I think most people have felt like this at some stage in their life, if not a fair few times. Its hard but we get through it which is good :)
It seems to me you may ... (read in full...)
I'm crazy in love and want him back!
Q. Dear Cupid, I recently had my boyfriend break up with me, but I know it was for the better. He explained to me that we entered this relationship at the wrong time. We know we love each other and he said that even if we didnt get back together he...
A. 10 April 2008: To me it sounds like this break up is a good idea because if you have severe insecurities they wont allow you to have a healthy relationship. Insecurities are something that need to be dealt with OUT of a relationship, so since you and your bf have ... (read in full...)
Do guys compliment girls on their name? What is a beautiful name?
Q. This is something I've been thinking about for a while. Why do guys compliment girls on their names? Do you really hear a girl's name and think "wow that is a beautiful name?". Maybe I'm being a little silly, I just think it's a weird thing to compl...
A. 9 April 2008: I'm a girl and if I like someones name I will tell them/compliment them about it. So yes if I hear a name that I like I might think 'wow thats a beautiful name'.
Some guys might say that as a way to hint that they think you are beautiful too. ... (read in full...)
I'm in need of a regular agony aunt I can anonymously get to know.
Q. I need people to talk to about my problems via email, i have no one i can talk to that i know in real life, id like both to remain anonymous but if u pride yourself in giving grounded and most important of all honest advice, even if u think it will ...
A. 9 April 2008: Feel free to PM me if you want to talk on a regular basis :) I'll do my best to help you.
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Should I encourage this relationship with this guy or cut it off?
Q. I met a guy a year ago, he's in the US army. When I met him he was kind of flirty but I didn't liked him, so we use to have communcations purely business (really I didn't saw him again in person) just purely business.Then he left, never saw him ...
A. 9 April 2008: I dont think you should encourage a guy like him. Lets say you did and you formed some sort of relationship with him. There are two possible outcomes. He goes out with you and so on and perhaps does things with you yet wont commit because like you ... (read in full...)
I feel there is no affection there anymore, or am I reading the wrong signs?
Q. I need help, I can no longer tell what my feelings tell me. I have a GF she's beautiful and completely devoted to me but we have had a brake from before because things didn't go too well. Well anyway we go on msn and she would always say "HI BABE!!" ...
A. 8 April 2008: I understand that her change of behaviour has upset you and has you worried. There could be many reasons why she has changed. Assuming the worst, she could be cheating or losing interest. But it could also be that maybe something has gotten her ... (read in full...)
It's been a year and I can't get over the fact that my boyfriend was so hung up about his ex
Q. My boyfriend broke up with his ex only a few days before he confessed to me and we got together. His ex got really depressed about it, and as a result, he treated her very well... A little too well in fact. Since both he and his ex belong to the...
A. 8 April 2008: I feel sorry for you for what you went through. That must of been tough!!! I dont know how I would of dealt if I was in your situation, would of been horrible.
It seems to me your bf felt torn between being a bf to you and caring for his ex gf as a... (read in full...)
Anything wrong with a 19 year old male dating 26 year old woman?
Q. Hello! I was wondering, is there anything technically wrong with a 19 year old male dating a 26 year old female.. with two twin kids? Maybe it's just a crush, but I believe I'm pretty into her. Obviously older men date younger girls, b...
A. 7 April 2008: The reason relationships with big age gaps dont always work is because the people are at different stages in there life so they just arent right for each other at that point in time and sometimes they may never match up.
So you have to find out... (read in full...)
We both liked each other, now he's sleeping with someone else. What now?
Q. A lad ive liked for a while now, n who said he liked me, has started having "casual sex" with a woman in her middle/late 20's. we werent in a relationship but we were almost there and now i feel like he strung me along a bit? now hes saying that we ...
A. 7 April 2008: Just another thing to add...
Just because he is sleeping with someone else that doesnt mean you are not good enough for him. I know some girls think that when a guy wont commit to them that its because somthing is wrong with them, like they are... (read in full...)
She's now married with kids, but She said when she comes into town we could have sex.
Q. I've known this girl for about 8 yrs, I've had feelings for her for about 8 yrs as well. She too has feelings for me, unfortunately we had lost contact at one point in time, and she ended up with someone else. She is now married with kids. She move...
A. 7 April 2008: I dont think you should have sex with her. I know you want to but trust me it wont be like you imagine it. It sounds to me like you have deep feelings for her and if you have sex with her you wont be able to seperate your emotions from the physical ... (read in full...)
We both liked each other, now he's sleeping with someone else. What now?
Q. A lad ive liked for a while now, n who said he liked me, has started having "casual sex" with a woman in her middle/late 20's. we werent in a relationship but we were almost there and now i feel like he strung me along a bit? now hes saying that we ...
A. 7 April 2008: Hey darling,
First of all you are NOT stupid for liking this guy even though he may not be right for you.
You said you were almost in a realtionship, what makes you think that? Do you think its possible that he was just trying to make you bel... (read in full...)
I'm on his "list" at number 2, is this proof he only wants me for one thing?
Q. my lad mate knows i like him as more than a mate and says he likes me too - were not going out but he wants us to do things with each other but im avoiding it because hes 19, im 15. yesterday we were texting each other and he was being flirty with ...
A. 6 April 2008: I know what you mean, its really hard to talk to your mum and sister about things like this. When I first had sex when I was 18, I felt alot of pressure from my bf. I didnt feel I could tell my mum or anyone. I thought I was old enough to deal with ... (read in full...)
Should I know how I feel after 5mths of dating?
Q. Is 5 months enough time to know how you feel for someone you're dating?...
A. 6 April 2008: Hmmm its hard to say because each situation, person and relationship is different.
Different factors come into play, such as how much time do you spend together? And in that time, how much of it is quality time? Some people can be together... (read in full...)
How can I tell he loves me and not playing me?
Q. I dont know how to tell if my new boyfriend really loves me. He has a past of being a complete playboy and hes had alot of experiance, but i havent i had one serious boyfriend who broke my heart after taking my virginity on our 10 month anniversary ...
A. 6 April 2008: Its hard to judge from what you wrote if hes a player or not.
I can understand that his history of playing is giving you doubts about your relationship with him. Is there anything else that is giving your doubts? perhaps something he has said or d... (read in full...)
I'm on his "list" at number 2, is this proof he only wants me for one thing?
Q. my lad mate knows i like him as more than a mate and says he likes me too - were not going out but he wants us to do things with each other but im avoiding it because hes 19, im 15. yesterday we were texting each other and he was being flirty with ...
A. 6 April 2008: I'm sorry to say this but it sounds to me like he might only be interested in you for sex. I say this because you said hes telling you what things (I assume sexual type things) he wants to do with you, when you guys are just friends. he hasnt ... (read in full...)
Guys, would you be turned off if a girl had someone else's name tattooed on her?
Q. I have a bf that doesnt trust me at all, and i got his initials tattooed on myself.........i really love him, but i dont know if it's going to work out.....guy out there..would you be turned off about the idea of a girl with someonelses name on ...
A. 5 April 2008: If I was a guy it would probably annoy me. It would be constant reminder of how much you loved him. And as a girl, if my bf had that, i wouldnt like it.
You know you can get them 'removed'? Althogh you will have a scar but you wont be able to ... (read in full...)
My friend told me that guy just wanted sex, could that be true??
Q. Hello I met a guy last month. He's charming. He invited me to his home twice. And he's trying to get something more. I really like him. But I don't want to have sex with him since I am not ready. Recently, he became cold and seems to keep distan...
A. 4 April 2008: He sounds like a loser unfortunately. You woudlnt sleep with him, so hes become cold and distance, which suggests he isnt interested in you in anymore. Either that or he feels really rejected and thinks you dont like him at all. However the fact ... (read in full...)
Should I forgive my mother for the sexual abuse or not? Is she interested in me or pursuing my money?
Q. hi there im 18 and in foster care i have had many problems in my life but this is my main 1. when i was younger my mum sexuaily assulted me and nuglected me and beat and just treat me like shit. older and like i said in foster care but my mum is n...
A. 3 April 2008: Yeah you're right its not easy to forgive someone. I know some of the other people on here are like 'how can you on earth forgive your mother' and say she doesnt deserve it. She may not 'deserve' to be forgiven for what she has done, but YOU deserve ... (read in full...)
My bf had sex with his own mom!!Ughh..How should I react?
Q. My boyfriend had sex with his own mother. And that is really embarassing like I can't even look at his mother anymore. I even have a kid with him and is under his name. Right now,,I feel like this family I got into doesn't seem like a good family ...
A. 3 April 2008: First off, dont feel bad for having your child with a guy who has incestual relationships. You didnt know, its not your fault.
Should you leave his family? I think so. I dont think its a good idea for a child to be brought up in such an envi... (read in full...)
What is going on with him?
Q. the other day my now exboyfriend surprised for lunch at work. my first reaction was whats wrong and then of course i smiled and was very happy but kept thinking i wonder why he is here. later that night he came by and spent the night i woke up and ...
A. 3 April 2008: Im sorry for what you are going through. Must be horrible to have broken up with your bf and then have to deal with the messages you found which make it sound like he was probably cheating on you.
How long were you in a relationship for? And for ... (read in full...)
Should I forgive my mother for the sexual abuse or not? Is she interested in me or pursuing my money?
Q. hi there im 18 and in foster care i have had many problems in my life but this is my main 1. when i was younger my mum sexuaily assulted me and nuglected me and beat and just treat me like shit. older and like i said in foster care but my mum is n...
A. 3 April 2008: Hmm I dont think I can really say what her intentions are. Do you have alot of moeny that she could be after? how could she get money out of you anyway?
I am really sorry that your mum treated you so badly and abused you. Thats not right at all a... (read in full...)
My younger sister (14) has sex with her BF which my mother doesn't know, should I tell her?
Q. hi, this isnt really advice im after but something i just cannot get my head around?!!!!!!!! my sister is 13 years old she will be 14 in august. she has been goin out with this 17 year old guy now for about 3 to 4 months and i know she is havi...
A. 3 April 2008: You should tell your mum what is going on. Shes an adult and she should be dealing with this, not you, you are a child just like your sister. Its not your responsibility to deal with your sister. Its alot for you to deal with.
I know you might be... (read in full...)
She dumped me over the phone! Why?
Q. We dated for six months and she ended up dumping me over the phone 5 minutes before I had to be at work with no reason. It was over a year ago this happened but i've always wondered why. We only talked for about a week after this and I asked her ...
A. 1 April 2008: I know how it feels for someone to dump you and not really give you a proper reason. It can be very frustrating! You just keep asking yourself why, why, why. Sadly, sometimes we will never really know the real reason. I dont think I can say why she ... (read in full...)
I offered him oral on our third date, after that he did not utter a word to me! Your opinions about his change in behaviour?
Q. Hi...I've met a guy..we've been out three times... I gave him oral(my first)...and after he came he was all weird. he didn't say a word to me. He just took me home without kissing me godbye. This happened three days ago and I haven't heard from him ...
A. 31 March 2008: Did he ask you to give him oral? Or was it your idea?
Sounds to me like he is only interested in girls to fulfil his sexual desires, once thats done, he throws you away like you mean nothing. So sorry to say that but thats what it seems. Try c... (read in full...)
I have been told I look like a player because of the way I danced in the club!! Why such comment?
Q. hi everyone i have what may seem like a silly question but feel really paranoid. i'm 33 married and have children. i'm always told that i look attractive and have a good figure which although is true i'm not a very confident person and wanted some ...
A. 31 March 2008: He was probably drunk, so what he said may not even mean anything. How were you dancing though? ... (read in full...)
Although the relationship was very troublesome, I still feel like I love and want her, help!
Q. Hi all, my girlfriend of 3 and a half years broke up with me 5 weeks ago. We had our fair share of problems. She lied to me quite a bit, once about talking to her ex for a few hours, and then about little, meaningless things throughout the ...
A. 31 March 2008: Hey,
First off id like to say I am sorry that you are feeling how you are, however how you are feeling is quite normal considering what you have been through.
A relationship of over 3 years coming to end would be very hard to deal with. The pe... (read in full...)
He said we can't be together or his family will disown him!!!
Q. I just want other people opinions on this really because I want to know if I have every right to be extremely hurt. I've been seeing this guy for a couple of months and we're 3 hours away and I'm willing to get trains every Friday night to spend t...
A. 30 March 2008: You have every right to be hurt!!!
Hmm I dont really understand why his parents would disown him because you guys live so far apart. Did he tell you exactly why in more detail? Is it some religous/culture difference/issue?
The fact that... (read in full...)
Is cuddling with another guy while watching a movie (minus the kissing or eye-gazing, more like just laying together) cheating if you're in a relationship?
Q. Is cuddling with another guy while watching a movie (minus the kissing or eye-gazing, more like just laying together) cheating if you're in a relationship?...
A. 30 March 2008: You could probably debate about whether or not it is cheating. But what can be said in certain is that it is inappropiate! Cuddeling is an intimate thing. Sure some friends may hug when they greet each other but thats a hug, a hug is very very ... (read in full...)
All he wants me to do is give him oral sex.
Q. I've only been with my boyfriend a month, and at first he couldn't wait to have sex. We had sex twice and it wasn't all that good. I was more than willing to give it another chance for his sake. Now all he wants me to do is give him oral sex. Now i'...
A. 29 March 2008: Lol what a lie saying he has a low sex drive!!! Somoene who has a low sex drive means they have low sexual desires/needs which includes sex and oral sex..anything sexual really. Put that to him and see what excuse he comes up with.
Maybe he feels... (read in full...)
Why keep begging me to come see you if we're not going to have sex?
Q. My Ex-girlfriend wants me to drive 3 hours and come spend the weekend with her so we can "hang out and have fun". I just got off the phone with her and she says she doesn't want to have sex and that I can have her bed. The whole not have sex thing ...
A. 27 March 2008: Hmm maybe shes planning on saying sorry? Or maybe she is playing games with you. ... (read in full...)
In a relationship for six years and I don't want to ruin it but feeI have more in common with my co-worker...any advice?
Q. I am 24 years old manager at a retail store, i have know this co-worker of mine for four years, she is 22 years old. She had quit this retail job and went to work at a bank, from all the other co-workers i kept in touch with her the most, mostly by ...
A. 27 March 2008: What sorts of things do you have in common with your co worker that you do not with your gf of 6 years? How long have you known your co worker?
I guess it comes down to how important are these things to you, that you have in common with your co work... (read in full...)
Are these signs of immaturity that he'll grow out of?
Q. I've been dating a 6 years younger guy. He is 25, a typical American cool guy who's life is about gym and clubbing on the weekends, very social, fun to hang out with but sometimes annoyingly immature! He is a good looking guy with a nice bod...
A. 27 March 2008: You are 100% right saying that he is insecure. Thats why he is so obsessed with going to the gym and puts you down in order to make himself feel better. And that is always why he tries to make you jealous and flirts with every girl in sight. Its ... (read in full...)
Why keep begging me to come see you if we're not going to have sex?
Q. My Ex-girlfriend wants me to drive 3 hours and come spend the weekend with her so we can "hang out and have fun". I just got off the phone with her and she says she doesn't want to have sex and that I can have her bed. The whole not have sex thing ...
A. 27 March 2008: Unlike you, she obviously appreciates you for more then just sex. So thats why shes asking you to come visit. ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to leave my fiance alone because he may masturbate!
Q. hi i have this little problem that i cant get past its masturbation. my fiance says he doesnt masturbate because he knows that i have a problem with it and i want to believe that he doesn't but i can't. i dont like to leave him alone for fear t...
A. 27 March 2008: Ok I understand a bit better now. So your problem isnt really to do with him masterbating, its the fact that he may be masterbating to porn or with the vision of another woman, not you, in his head? Is that whats really upsetting you?
I can unde... (read in full...)
How do I make my best friend back-off from my girlfriend?
Q. I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 2 months now, but my best friend seems unusually close to her. I met my girlfriend at the beginning of school, when her, my best friend, and I hung out a lot for about 6 months until her and I ...
A. 26 March 2008: Im going to disagree with the majority of responses telling you that you should just trust your gf. Its not a issue of trust, its a issue of your friend stepping over the boundaries. I dont think his behaviour is very appropiate. You need to tell ... (read in full...)
He told me "dating you would probably never happen"...so what does this really mean?
Q. One time this guy said to me that dating me would probably never happen and i said well i am not going to expect it but if it does well then it does what do you think he meant by saying probably never happen was he thinking that i wouldn't want to ...
A. 26 March 2008: Umm its hard to say. What tone of voice did he have? He may of meant it would never happen cause he may think he wouldnt stand a chance wiht you. Perhaps by him saying that he was hoping you would respond by saying you want it to hapen and he does ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to leave my fiance alone because he may masturbate!
Q. hi i have this little problem that i cant get past its masturbation. my fiance says he doesnt masturbate because he knows that i have a problem with it and i want to believe that he doesn't but i can't. i dont like to leave him alone for fear t...
A. 26 March 2008: You have to start looking at why masturbation upsets you so much. How does it make you feel when he does it? What thoughts go through your mind? are you religous?
... (read in full...)
I met him online and then he "disappears" so is there still hope?
Q. i met this guy on a lame site. well he messaged me saying he is also new in the city and that he didnt have friends, and i am in the same situation. so we talked. i learned that he is looking for a long term relationship, which he mentioned on his ...
A. 25 March 2008: He could of very well wanted a serious relationship and thats why he wrote it in his profile. Then it became real, the chance to have one and he may not of realised until it started that he may not be able to cope with all his studies and stuff and ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if someone likes you? Apart from the obvious, Is there any body language to look out for?
Q. How can you tell if someone likes you? I don't mean ovious things like asking you out on a date or physical contact but body language. Do they display signals when they are not talking to you? say, they are in the same room as you. could you ...
A. 25 March 2008: There are lots of things a person may do if they like you, for example smiling! Looking you in the eye. They say that a guy turns his chest to what he sees as the most important thing in a room, whether that be the girl he likes or his mates or even ... (read in full...)
My ex told he he hated me and that his new partner is miles better. Why does he behave so and how should I react?
Q. Hey everyone i just would like your opinions on a situation. I'll give a bit of background info.. Me and my ex split up in june last year it was a real bad break up and i thought it was all my fault as id slept with someone whist we had split up...
A. 25 March 2008: Sounds to me he def wanted to get your attention! You did the right thing by ignoring him. Once he realises that he cant get a reaction out of you then he will stop. Whether or not he still likes you, I don't know. He could be one of those very ... (read in full...)
I love him so much so why am I always having a go at him?
Q. I'm engaged to a wonderful man whom i love and who i am IN love with. I'm just not happy. I love him with every inch of my heart, we have a gorgeous home and a fantastic relationship. We are best friends as well as partners. I love my job and have ...
A. 25 March 2008: How long has this been going on for? What happened aroudn the time you started doing this? How long have you been together??
My guess is that you are taking your frustratiions out on him. Knowing that he will not stand up for himself, you know you... (read in full...)
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