I'm in love with my school buddy, but he has a girlfriend! (long post)
Q. My Question is: Does He like me? We met: At school in my class called stagecraft that we don't do anything unless we have a play, so all we do is lay and sit on the stage and talk. About Him: I am going to call him Henry to protect his identit...
A. 30 November 2006: You say you would do anything for him...like taking a bullet. Darling if you are that serious then don't you think you would tell him how you feel? By not telling him you are not only stoping yourself from having someone you care about so much in ... (read in full...)
She doesn't believe she has ever made a mistake
Q. As of late, I seem to be worrying about the relationship I have with my girlfriend. She seems insensitive to my feelings most of the time. She brings up things that her ex did and makes me feel like I'm not "measuring up." I also feel like she does ...
A. 30 November 2006: One thing I can say for sure is that you have a right to feel the way you do. I can totaly understand how you feel and I can predict that if I was in your situation I would be feeling the same too! So don't think that you shouldn't feel like that. ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and totally in love but she has stopped talking to me!
Q. I was to scared to ask the first girl I loved to go out with me. She obviously liked me to, she asked me to save a seat for her on the bus, rubbed the seat next to her when she wanted me to sit down, asked me to dance at 2 partys and a school ...
A. 30 November 2006: Awwwww you poor darling. Love can hurt. It something everyone goes through, even the 'great' people, the people who you look up to and think 'wow thhey are so great'...they get hurt to. So first thing to remember is that, although you have had your ... (read in full...)
I have a ball in 2 weeks and I can't dance! Help!
Q. help! there is a christmas ball in my school in 2weeks. i want to chat and dance with this girl. problem is i cant dance! i'm 16. last time she told me i cant dance to save my life but as a joke but it's true i cant! what can i do?...
A. 30 November 2006: You could find someone who knows how to dance a bit and get them to help you practice and show you how? Or you could even talk to her before the event and get her to help you- that way you can spend more time with her.
In the end though, try not ... (read in full...)
How can I get my fiancee to fall so deep in love with me he won't ever want to be away from me?
Q. How can you make your guy your engaged to fall so deep in love with you and cant stand to be away from you? I know he loves me but it isnt like it use to be how can I make him just gush about me?... like cant stand when we arent togther and I miss ...
A. 29 November 2006: You should talk to him about how you feel if not already done. I'm sure if you explained to him how you felt and tell him exactly what you want from him (give clear examples) then he will try and make a change. Also maybe ask him what he would like ... (read in full...)
My co-worker is irresistable, but there's still one problem...
Q. i have a crush on this guy. I work with him. Hes the greatset the person i have ever met. We are always texting each other on our cell phones and when i'm not with him, i think about him constantly... There's one little problem.. I'm 17 going on ...
A. 25 November 2006: The reason you are geting mixed answers is because in some instances it DOES work and in others it just DOES NOT. Its up to you to find out for yourself if you and this guy can over come the age gap.
Some people can and thats great but obvi... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of a crush I know I shouldn't have?
Q. hey guys I'm 17 and about a year ago I got a "forbidden crush" on someone that is older than me (mid 20's?) just because he is so mature and nice and always greets me with a hello and smile. I am well aware he is married with a baby. I've neve...
A. 24 November 2006: I know how you feel. I too have had the same problem. But you know what? The reason why I think you havent found someone 'right' is because you're young. You're at the stage of life where most relationships won't work simply because you are young, ... (read in full...)
Fallen in love with my Christian friend... How can I "hook" him?
Q. Hi, I have become really close friends with a guy at my university, we are barely ever apart! I have fallen in love with him and I recently told him so and he said that he just wants to be friends. We are both Christian and we share the same int...
A. 14 October 2006: I think this sadly seems like a situation where you might just have to accept that hes not looking to be in a relationship at this point in time for whatever reason. I think it would be a bad idea to try and force him into something that at first he ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend really upsets me with his teasing. Am I taking this too seriously?
Q. I’ve always been led to believe that teasing is one of the ways a guy will show you he likes you, but tonight my boyfriend was teasing me so much I almost ended up in tears. I would have called it borderline bullying. I have been feeling a little ...
A. 11 October 2006: I know exactly how you feel. And I have seen so many people in this situation and there are sooo many people like you're bf and so many people like you.
Everyone has the right to feel comfortable in their relationship and clearly you aren't feel... (read in full...)
How do men get free sex without having to pay for it?
Q. Hi!, i need to ask a question that eveyone escapes from or ignores, without being offensive. How do men get free sex without having to pay for it. More and more men are struggling to get free sex. Its a growing problem that needs to be solved, its ...
A. 11 October 2006: its called having a relationship...generally speaking, females don't sleep around as they tend to connect sex to love. ... (read in full...)
How can I go about becoming a "Goth" ?
Q. Hi can ayone help me? My problem is that I want to becaome a Goth.. however I am also considering a career in acting/as an actress or working with horses (going to an agricultural college) Can I do both?? I have NEVER seen a goth working with ...
A. 30 September 2006: Typically speaking the gothic culture is an artistic one, so those who are 'goths' often have artistic talent and could very well go into a career in the art industry. Either way, you could have any jobs, it shouldn't be limited by whether or not ... (read in full...)
What should I tell them about my weaknesses should they ask in an interview ?
Q. I am going for an interview, and the question I dread the most is "what are your weaknesses".. Surely if I tell them "I am always late", etc - they wont touch me with a barge pole!...
A. 30 September 2006: The key here is to say 'although my weakness is _____, I can improve on it by ____'. You have to show them that you can recognise your weaknesses but are willing to work on it. For example, you may say that your weakness is communicating with others ... (read in full...)
I have been cheated on in every relationship. I am now with a new guy, how can I make sure I don't get hurt?
Q. Im 25 and every relationship i have had my partner has cheated on me. I was with someone for 4 years after 2 we got engaged , then something in my stomach kept niggling saying sumthing between us wasnt right. I am ashamed of what i did but i had ...
A. 25 September 2006: I understand how you are feeling. many people who are cheated on, then becoming more scared of being cheated on again as compared to someone has never had that happen to them. But because of whats happened to you in the past, you are letting that ... (read in full...)
Can you be best friends with the person you have just broken up with?
Q. How can you be best friends straight after a break up which your g/f made? i don't want to feel bad by not being her friend, but it seems hard to see her as a friend..especially saying best friends staright after a break up, i don't get it...
A. 25 September 2006: You're right, it is hard being 'best friends' straight after a break up, especially if you aren't the one who ended it which could mean you still wanted the relationship to continue. Usually, I think most couples need a bit of gap time in between. ... (read in full...)
My best friend is flirting like HELL with my boyfriend. What can I do to stop this?
Q. My best friend just broke up with a steady boyfriend of nearly a year when the chemistry vanished and he told her he "just couldn't see things working out". This is very well and they are still close friends but my Best friend is now flirtingl like ...
A. 25 September 2006: I know how you feel! I had the same problem with one of my bf's. We both went to the same school and hung out in the same group and I got the feeling that a lot of the girls in my group were flirting with him. It drove me crazzyyyyyyyyy! I became so ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a teen girl and I feel lost. Need some advice!
Q. Hey this is gonna sound really pathetic but im lost. I'm 21 am totally in love with a 16 yr old... have too many feelings for her... i would do anything for her...friends say shes a slag and a bit of a maneater etc and they call themselves her ...
A. 25 September 2006: A lot of people go for people who just use them, and often this comes back to their insecurities. They do not see that they are worth more then just that. They don't think they could do any better- better being that they could be with somoene who ... (read in full...)
Does he fancy me, or was I misreading him?
Q. Any psychics? Please tell me: does he fancy me? I fancy this instructor who works at the local gym. Whenever I go there, he always chats to me for about an hour on a one to one about all kinds of stuff, he always asks me to go in when he's working...
A. 14 July 2006: I can see how you confused. His actions towards you are a pretty big indicator that he likes you...but when considering what your friend said, it might just mean that he is a over friendly, over flirty type of person.
Unfortunatly this may be true... (read in full...)
We were 'just' friends on-line for 3 years, then he just dropped me
Q. I am a female, 40's. Met a very nice man online, and he and I became 'just' good friends. We spoke on msn messenger, phoned, used webcams, so we knew each other quite well. In the beginning, he did like me more in a romantic manner but I kept it in ...
A. 14 July 2006: My guess is that his girlfriend was maybe geting jealous even though she wasn't in the start? Or maybe he did have feelings for you but knew nothing could come of it (due to distance) and felt it was wrong to stay in contact with someone he has ... (read in full...)
My BF wanted sex after marriage but he's changing his mind! Will he regret it?
Q. I love my boyfriend and we have been with each other for 3 years. It has been his goal to wait for sex until marriage, but lately things have been getting a little heated. Both of us have tried other methods like handjobs and oral but he doesn't ...
A. 13 July 2006: Will he regret it? Well that depends on his reasons for wanting to not have sex before marriage. What are his thoguhts in detail on the topic? Does he not want sex before marriage because he wants his first time to be with someone special or because ... (read in full...)
He dumped me but I want to get back, I know I was in the wrong, but I want him to give me another chance!!
Q. My boyfriend of 1 year dumped me on Wednesday.I am going on holiday on Saturday and on Friday, he might not have been able to see me because he might have a job interview in the day and at night he was going visting his friends in another town.He ...
A. 13 July 2006: I know your in pain but you have to keep in mind what you want and that is him. And to get that all you have to do is to do what he says- give him space.
In the meantime to help you cope better, tell yourself positive thoughts. Do things that make... (read in full...)
Does this mean that he wants to date me ?
Q. I really like this guy but I'm not sure if he likes me...I usually don't see him that much and when I do we stop and talk awhile. I was at a party and he was there too. I fell asleep in a tent and he ended up leaving. He asked me the following week ...
A. 13 July 2006: yes yes yes go for it! if you like this guy and want to go out with him then I say go for it, it seems you have a pretty good chance with this guy as he seems pretty keen on you. good luck :) ... (read in full...)
Would a shy guy ask a girl out...?
Q. Would a shy guy ask a girl out? Or is he the type that just waits for the girl to come to him?...
A. 13 July 2006: Typically speaking I would have to guess that he would wait for the girl to make the move.
So if you do like a shy guy, save him the trouble and make the first move! I can guarentee he will be so happy that you made the first move and saved him havi... (read in full...)
I dont want to lose this girl!
Q. I am a 22years old young man currently in love with a nice looking young lady and we have being in love for six months this girl was at first the girl friend to my good friend but they broke up because they discovered that they were cousins, but the ...
A. 21 June 2006: Ok so to just clear up a few little thigns, this girl who is now your gf who you proposed to wants to end it because she is afraid her ex will be upset who is her cousion?
I think you need to explain to your gf that she can't live her life tip... (read in full...)
Having a dilemma about shaving my legs!
Q. Hiya, My friends all have recently been wearing socks to school instead of tights. I'm wearing tights, but I'm boiling! lol. However I've got quite pale skin, and my mam says that if i shave my legs my 'unnoticable' hairs will just get really d...
A. 21 June 2006: If you hairs on you legs are very light like a blonde colour shaving them could make them grow back darker therefor making them more noticable. But having said that, my mum she has blonde hair and she shaves her legs and her hairs dont seem to get ... (read in full...)
Met on the net and never met in person, but he wants to marry me, within the next 2 months! What should I do?
Q. I met my boyfriend on the internet. He lives in India, and I live in the U.S. We have never met, but have communicated for 15 months, and we fell in love. He has been pressuring me relentlessly to marry him, almost from the beginning. It is NOT that ...
A. 20 June 2006: Now first thing I want you to know is that I know what its like to love somoene over the net, so I am not one of those people who don't beleive in it and therefor will be totaly against it.
Let me ask you this: a friined of yours was being pres... (read in full...)
I have a nice BF but he is not the most handsome chap!
Q. hi i am 14 years old and i have a bf that is 16. he is the kindest person i have ever met. the thing is he is not the best looking guy out there. i love him to bits and has the nicest personality ever. he gives me hugs and doesnt push me into ...
A. 18 June 2006: Its your decision. If you are HAPPY being with a guy who has a awesome personality but isn't the best looking, then thats ok. If though you find that the looks of your bf are an important aspect then maybe you could consider finiding someone who has ... (read in full...)
Played Cupid for a boy mate and a friend, but now I'm feeling jealous of her!
Q. Well there's this lad who I'm amazing mates with. He says I make him laugh more than anyone he knows, and that I'm an ace mate, and that he gets on with me better than my other female friends whom he talks to. He asked me one day to help him find...
A. 18 April 2006: Its totally not wrong to feel the way you do. You can't help who you like, so don't be so hard on yourself!
Now your friend may like this guy, but the question is, does he like her back? If he doesn't then you have every right to move in on him. ... (read in full...)
He has a hold over me...what do i do??
Q. dear cupid, There's this guy ive known for practically my entire life but we weren't close or anything. At some point though,i had a crush on him but i was around 11 n he was like 14 not to mention hot n quite popular with girls,so he as a...
A. 18 April 2006: It seems to me you still have feelings for this guy and in some way or another have hope inside that something could happen between the 2 of you. And its pretty hard to move on from someone when they havent exactly given you a clear answerer whether ... (read in full...)
I want to get with a girl I don't know! Should I slip her a note?
Q. I'm 26 and would like some suggestions on the best way to ask out a girl I like. I have been single for just over a year now but when it comes to asking girls out on a date or trying to chat them up I'm really useless at it because I'am too shy and ...
A. 18 April 2006: Hey there!
Talking to someone of the opposite sex who you like can be really hard hey, no matter what age you are, it doesn't always get easier for eveyrone.
One of the hardest things can be is just working up the courage to say that first word, ... (read in full...)
I kissed my bf's best mate... Now I feel like a sad desperate attention seeking wimp!
Q. OOps I kissed my friend who is also my boyfriends best friend. I feel awful, but part of me doesnt because my relationship with my boyfriend has been unhappy for a while, mainly because of the usual things,money problems, intimacy issues, and othe...
A. 10 March 2006: The fact that you feel guilty shows that your not a evil or bad person! which is good!!! don't be to hard on yourself, although what you did will probably triger some bad emotions between you, your bf,and the guy friend.
First off my answer to your... (read in full...)
Could we ever survive a long-distance relationship? I don't want to fall for him then lose him!
Q. I have started dating a guy who is going to be moving away to another city in 3 months because of a job offer. (him not moving is not an option) We have been dating for a month and I am attracted to him and he is attracted to me but I am afraid ...
A. 10 March 2006: I too know how hard it is to care deeply for somoene who lives so far away. My advice to you is that, since you fear so much geting attached and then loosing him, is to stay friends with him- good friends and keep in contact. And then from then you ... (read in full...)
She loves me but I love her friend... How do I cool her off?
Q. Ive come to Singapore from the uk and life is very different here, especially relationships! I am 23 and met a girl of 25, things were great as friends but I have some how given the impression our friendship is much more even though nothing (not ...
A. 10 March 2006: Hi there, well I know this feels like a awkward situation, because it is and you will probably think about it for ever, trying to find the 'right way' to break it to the 25yr old gently and to not 'hurt her feelings'. Ive had this problem alot and I ... (read in full...)
He spends ages on the internet and when I found nude pics he claimed he was going to post them to a website. I'm suspicious...
Q. I'm really confused and unsure of what to do.. Recently I started a new job and my boyfriend of 3 years has started to act a lot differnt. He's home every day now and I know he spends a lot of time on the internet. Lately our sexual life...
A. 10 March 2006: The last thing you said was 'how do I try to save this relationship?'. Do you really want to save it? I mean even despite the whole finding nude pics of him and hidden phone numebrs on the computer, before that even started, it seems to me you ... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 10 March 2006: I'm from Australia (hehe) and here are some pretty big support services we have here (although most of them you can visit online and find advice, even if you aren't in australia, the onles ones that are australia only are the ones with phone ... (read in full...)
My relationship is great, and I trust my boyfriend... but I still have self-esteem problems!
Q. I just want to ask people's opinions on insecurity, low self-esteem and jealousy and where they "come" from. Because I (22 years old) suffer from all these even though I'm involved in a loving, long term (two years) relationship which I could not be ...
A. 9 March 2006: All the love in the world can't help cure someone all by itself who is very insecure. You have to believe you DESERVE it! So although your bf is veryr loving and all that and you still don't feel compeltely secure, its because you need to understand ... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 9 March 2006: I just thought of an idea, I think there should be a 'support page' which is where you list other support places that people can go for help. Like I know people come HERE for help, but sometimes people need more then just every day help, they might ... (read in full...)
My friends pick on me for being a virgin!
Q. Dear Cupid, What is it nowadays that makes young adults rush into things, what happened to those days where people had good clean fun, and were proud of being single. I'm 22, male, single, not looking for a relationship YET, but most of my frien...
A. 8 March 2006: No one should feel they are being purposly picked on, intimidated of just plain out being rude to. Lets face it, these people you hang out with, and i refer to them as hang out because friends, true friends woulnd't do this, are bullies. They are ... (read in full...)
My friends pick on me for being a virgin!
Q. Dear Cupid, What is it nowadays that makes young adults rush into things, what happened to those days where people had good clean fun, and were proud of being single. I'm 22, male, single, not looking for a relationship YET, but most of my frien...
A. 8 March 2006: No one should feel they are being purposly picked on, intimidated of just plain out being rude to. Lets face it, these people you hang out with, and i refer to them as hang out because friends, true friends woulnd't do this, are bullies. They are ... (read in full...)
I've fallin' for this guy......but he only wants sex!
Q. I am a seventeen year old girl and i have recently seen sense. When I was 15 i'd jump into bed with just about anybody and i was known as the class tramp. Fortunately, now i have started to respect myself and realised that affection is not gain...
A. 8 March 2006: You can't change a person who doesn't want to be changed. He seems to be happy sleeping around with any girl he likes. So he won't change. He doesn't want anymore then just sex, so he has no reason to change. As great of a girl you are and he should ... (read in full...)
My GF says our relationship is boring!
Q. Hey the other day me and my GF were watching tele and she turned and said to me "our relationship is getting boring feels like we've been married and had kids and stuff" i do not know what she means. yes i'm bored too, but i thought this was what it ...
A. 8 March 2006: The best thing to do here is ask her what a INTERESTING relationship to her would be like. Ask her what would make it more interesting for her. And work on those ideas. At the same time, tell her what you want out of the relationship. Its important ... (read in full...)
He hasn't asked me out, but flirts me with A LOT!
Q. I'm 16. I've wrote before about the guy I like and how we flirt and such but its been like 6 months and still we aren't going out and he has issues about getting close from getting cheated on in the past. Well we finally made plans for him to come ...
A. 8 March 2006: Of course he still likes you. He kept hugging you and kissed you on the cheek and smiled at you and talked abut seeing you again- represents that he enjoyed himself and wants to see you again- they are all huge indicators that this guy lieks you. I ... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 8 March 2006: haha oh wow i came in at number 8.86, woo hoo lol. I think it would be a good idea to have a chat room, so people can have more in depth converstaions, really listen to the person with the probelm so they can give better advice. And that way if ... (read in full...)
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