Friend using my ideas to do well in another subject!
Q. i have recently found out that a close friend of mine has been going through my work with the intention of using my ideas to do well in another subject. I am in my final year of school so this is a big issue as it is considered my final work for ...
A. 27 February 2009: I used to have a friend like this who did it to me all throughout high school! It was so annoying, and frustrating. I would think of a great idea, so I would share it with her out of excitement- after all, that is what friends do right? But then she ... (read in full...)
How can I sound more intelligent when I'm talking to him?
Q. I feel kinda dumb around the guy I like, he uses all these big words, I wanna open up a thesaurus and build my own vocabulary so I can sound witty and smart, is that bad? Is he right for me if he's smarter than me? It's so attractive to me and I ...
A. 19 February 2009: If he is with you for the right reasons (non materalistic reasons) then he wont care how smart or not smart you are. It is as simple as that really. Only a shallow and pretencious guy would dump you just because you dont use big words when you ... (read in full...)
I am feeling very hurt, upset and anxious and don't know what to do.
Q. Help. I met a guy over the internet who lives in NSW. I live in Perth. We seemed to get along really well. He then started sending me pics of his lower private parts and wanted to know what I was wearing etc and wanted intimate pics of me. At first ...
A. 19 February 2009: He is all about control and bullying. Hes an internet predator. You might think that sounds exstreme and only happens to teenage girls with old men, but it happens to anyone, any age, and its happening to you.
He 'groomed' you on the net, to make ... (read in full...)
Do you consider it cheating if your husband and a work colleague were texting things like 'Love you, miss you, can't stop thinking about you'...?
Q. Hi, Do you consider it cheating if your husband and a work colleague were texting things like 'Love you, miss you, can't stop thinking about you' and 'I am feeling randy at the thought of you in lace undies'. He says it was all a game and he neede...
A. 17 February 2009: Yes that is cheating!!!
I dont know if he physically did anything with her (although I would NOT be suprised if he did, considering what you have told me hes said and done already), but the point is what he has been doing with this girl is tota... (read in full...)
Do guys prefer blondes over brunettes?
Q. do most guys perfer a pretty blonde to a brunette. any guy i have known always went for the blondes heavy or thin. do guys not like brunette are we not good enough or pretty enough like the blondes...
A. 11 February 2009: Im naturally blonde, I never got too much attention from guys. Then I started dying my hair brown and I get so many more guys liking me!! Its probably because brown hair suits me better, not that brunettes are better then blondes or anything.
... (read in full...)
Is playing hard-to-get the best way to earn a friendship?
Q. What is anybody's opinion on playing hard-to-get to gain a friendship? I know some personality types that it seems like being nice and friendly is not the way to get to them. Does anybody know what I mean? It seems like they are attracted more ...
A. 6 February 2009: Yes, what you are saying is true- some people seem to be attracted to those who play hard to get. However, you have to wonder what is actually attracting them to that person.Is it really that person, or is it, they just like a challenge? Playing ... (read in full...)
My gf wants to speak to me all night every night, how do I make it stop!
Q. My girlfriend and I see each other everyday. She still lives with her parents, and so do I for my families financial reasons, but after I get home, she calls me every night and won't get off the phone with me. I have tried to hint over and over that ...
A. 2 February 2009: Wow 9pm to 6am? Thats a long time on the phone!!! I can understnad where you are coming from. You must be so tired and I dont know how either of you function during the day. You said shes in high school, so shes obviously young, so she might not ... (read in full...)
Sexy calendar good? Or cheesy idea?
Q. Hey all! I am just looking for some male opinions here. My boyfriend is in Iraq right now, unfortunately. While over there he is not allowed to have any pornography. For a Valentine's Day gift I decided to create a whole calendar for him with ...
A. 29 January 2009: Arent calendars made to hang up on our wall? Do you really want your photos like that for everyone to see? ... (read in full...)
Should I keep talking to him? Or distance myself?
Q. I met this guy at the mall and we started talking. He asked me out on a date, now he doesnt have a car so ive had to go pick him up the times we've gone out. He is about to turn 22 and he is still in his party/club/drinking stage. I know he ...
A. 29 January 2009: Even though you may not want a relationship now, I think continuing to see him would be a bad idea. This is because, you clearly do have feelings for him- you didnt just have sex with him because you wanted to fulfil your sexual needs. So ... (read in full...)
Cheating fool!
Q. I did something terrible, now it is hurting my feelings. I took my hubby to the airport as he was going back to work. On my way home I pretended to be some other girl and texted him, to my surprise in that short time he promised to come visit and ...
A. 18 January 2009: I dont think there is anything wrong in what you did really. You did what you had to do to get proof. I know its always hard to truly believe someones cheating unless you have real proof.
Its not terrible what you did- although your husband ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with him? Please help me.
Q. dear all at cupid, Ok I'm not sure if this is correct but my friend said to me last nite that she had a word with my ex bf, saying that he's never actually told me that it's over for good, he says we get on better as friends which is true, he's onl...
A. 18 January 2009: Alot of people find it hard to tell soemone its over- its a pretty horrible thing to have to do. So maybe thats why your bf hasnt offically said its over?
I know it hurts more in him not telling you if its over or not directly, as its hard to get ... (read in full...)
The only Marine who's never had a girlfriend.
Q. I'm a 20 year old United States Marine Corps, I've been in for 1 year and 7 months, I'm an infantryman and I'm shipping out to Afghanistan soon. I have never had a girlfriend, or even kissed a girl. All the other marines I know have all had ...
A. 16 January 2009: You're not alone. I think pretty much everyone feels like you do at one stage in there life- like they are the only person who hasnt kissed someone, had a gf/bf or had sex.
I bet you there are other guys you work with who are in the same boat- it... (read in full...)
First time sex.... what can I do to blow his mind?
Q. Ok, my boyfriend and I are planning to have sex soon. The thing is I love him really I do. Knowing that we are both virgins and that he is taking it very seriously, well in the sense that he wants everything to go right. He planned everything to the ...
A. 16 January 2009: Having sex for the first time is a big deal, in fact having sex for the first time in any relationship (even if you are not a virgin) is a big deal too. So I hope you are sure you are making the right decision. It seems to me that you feel pretty ... (read in full...)
When we're apart I can get so insecure and jealous...
Q. I love my boyfriend with all my heart and I know he loves me too. We have a great relationship, we can on well, hardly ever argue and when we do, sort it out straight away. However, I'm at uni and he works full-time back at home, so we don't get ...
A. 11 January 2009: I'm very sorry you have been cheated on before, it must of been horrible, and I can understand that its still making you feel worried and insecure in your current relatiuonship.
So yes, that could be the cause of your insecurity in your current rela... (read in full...)
He says no "labels"--is that another way of saying FWB?
Q. hi everyone. I'm 24 years old and I've had a crush on a close friend for awhile. He is 33 and recently divorced. I finally worked up the nerve to share my feelings a few weeks ago, with some help from my friend Pinot Grigio. And, the results ...
A. 6 January 2009: I cant say for sure if hes just using you for sex, in other words a FWB, but it does seem like it is probably that to me.
However, whatever you call it, the fact is, you are having the physical side of a relatiuonship with this guy, minus all the ... (read in full...)
How long does it take for the contraceptive pill to take effect?
Q. So I'm on a birth control pill. I'm on it for medical reasons. I am not having sex and I don't plan to for a while. But I was wondering though how long does birth conrtol take to "kick in" as a contraceptive? (preventing pregancy)...
A. 6 January 2009: My doctor told me two weeks- but this could vary depending on the brand and type of pill you take, so you should read the instructions in the packet and ask your doctor. ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my boyfriend to stop talking/seeing his ex?
Q. I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 28. I have the feeling my boyfriend is cheating on me with his ex. (she is my age). I know his ex, she was once friends with my older sister and she can be very intimadating and very sneeky. When I look through his ...
A. 6 January 2009: I can understand why you want him to not talk and see his ex. I think generally everyone gets atleast a bit jealous if there bf/gf still has some contact with their ex.
And I understand it must be even harder for you to deal with him seeing h... (read in full...)
How do I go about meeting her?
Q. This girl i've never met, but we text/email often, seen pics of her, etc. I want to meet her but dunno how to say it. It'll be so awkward. How do i go about it? And what can we do? She does live an hour away so goin for coffee isn't worth it. Lol...
A. 16 December 2008: You could go out for lunch. It doesnt have to be anything overly exciting to make it worth it.
As for how to tell her that you would like to meet her, you could just say that you have really enjoyed talking to her and would love to catch up in pe... (read in full...)
He had another woman to his house but he'll call me tomorrow!
Q. I've known him for 6 years. Last Monday, I told him I love him and that I'm available for him. He has never said I Love You back. He called earlier and I couldn't answer the phone. When I did call back, he said "oh, well...you were unavailable" ...
A. 12 December 2008: Wow, i can understand why you must be feeling so bad!
First of all, telling this other women that this guy is a cheat probaly wont make her back away, after all, she is married so she clearly sees nothing wrong with it! Secondly, dont take you... (read in full...)
He's pressuring her for sex! Either they do it or they break up!
Q. My sister (she's 14 and I'm 17) came crying to me because her boyfriend (also 17 and my guy friend) has been pressuring her for sex. It's either they do it or he's breaking up with her. I mean never saw her this upset before. I could get my ...
A. 6 December 2008: I understand your anger towards this guy. Him pressuring her for sex is in no way ok or acceptable. But, geting someone to hurt him is not the answer. Two wrongs dont make a right remember.
The best thing to do is to tell her what this guy is real... (read in full...)
She thinks I cheated on her... how can I explain?
Q. Me and my girlfriend went to a party together. Well turns out my ex was there and I think she was a bit drunk too. We just were catching up a littie when she tried to kiss me. I did what I could to stop her but then my girlfriend walked in the room. ...
A. 6 December 2008: I think you just need to be patient and stick by her. Right now she thinks you have cheated, therefore probably assumes you arent really interested in her and that you dont truly care. But if you stick by her, show her how commited ot her you are, ... (read in full...)
I miss my ex, she doesn't accept me back but does try to kiss me and wants to have sex, what to do?
Q. i miss my ex girl friend a whole lot we was together for 6 years we been broke up for like 4 months my in love i can't front about it she has a new boyfriend but still calls and comes by and like she finds reasons to come over like on thanksgiving ...
A. 29 November 2008: I think you are too good for her. Seriously, she has a bf and wants to cheat on him with you. What sort of wife would she make??? Shes obviously not the faithful type. And if shes doing cheating on her new guy, who knows whether or not she did it to ... (read in full...)
Daughter's boyfriend comes over late at night. Do we trust them together?
Q. My 18 yr. old daughter's boyfriend likes to come over to visit, which we do allow but he comes over late when he works. We don't allow him to be here late when we have to go to sleep because we don't think it's appropriate for them to be left alone ...
A. 24 November 2008: When I was 18, my bf would come over really late at night/early in the mornings too. And he would stay for so long. At first my parents would stay awake until they heard his car leave. But after a while they got tired and couldnt cope staying up ... (read in full...)
So ladies, hairy chest or not?
Q. So ladies, hairy chest or not? Im like Steve Carrell hairy, is that too much? I would prefer answers from high school and college girls, as that is my age. Thanks....
A. 24 November 2008: I personally think that a hair free chest is more attractive, but having said that, if i really do love the guy, then how much chest hair he has doesnt really matter. chest hair wouldnt be a 'deal breaker' or anything. its not that important.
i... (read in full...)
Wife dreamed of Ex!
Q. My wife and I have been together for a year, recently she had a dream of her ex boyfriend. Her ex boyfriend and her lasted 4 months, she said he was a horrible boyfriend who treated her like crap, well, in the dream he came back from deployment, and ...
A. 24 November 2008: Dreams are a funny topic and something not very well understood.
I myself, am a sleep talker. Once when I was sleeping over my bf's house, I started calling out my ex bf's name. He got pretty upset, which is understandable. But the thing is, I ha... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my first date will be awkward!
Q. I am 14 and i recently started going out with a guy from school. i'm going to see a movie with my new boyfriend on the weekend, and im nervous! i guess its normal cause its like my first date with a guy, just the two of us, but im afriad its gonna ...
A. 20 November 2008: I understand how you feel. I think everyone feels just as nervous as you do on the first date and probably for a while after until they feel more 'experienced' and 'confident'.
But the guy you are dating will be feeling just like you! In fact, he w... (read in full...)
My boyfriend, his online dating voyeurism, My problem...Can you help?
Q. I would like advice. I probably should note that it looks a little long compared to the other Dear Cupid's but a little background is necessary. I have been dating a man I met online for 3 months - he's a great guy. We are in a real relationship. ...
A. 19 November 2008: This guy you have been dating is basically a lier. He said he would take down your profile because it upset you. He pretended he was caring and considerate. He pretended he understood, but he obviosuly did not as he went and made another profile ... (read in full...)
Do you think I'm cut out to be her boyfriend?
Q. Just wondering if I have anything to worry about here, I don't think I do. I've started a thing with a girl and things are going great, but I can't help but to feel a bit selfconscious. You see, I'm a somewhat out of shape white guy, and all ...
A. 19 November 2008: I dont think you have anything at all to worry about. Obviously your gf has matured and come to the realisation that looks dont really matter so much- what matters is who the person truly is. And im sure, although you are not black and overly ... (read in full...)
Putting up with the partner's stress and mood swings - when is enough, enough?
Q. What say you? When is enough, enough? Does how much you'll put up with depend on the circumstances of your partner's mood swings as well as the length of your relationship, or is it never excusable to take your mood out on your partner? Does anyo...
A. 17 November 2008: It is never ok for someone to take their anger/bad mood/stress out on someone.
This is a very unhealthy relationship when that happens.
Its not ok and can haev so many bad effects on the victim. And it also is stopping the person who is takin... (read in full...)
He wants to watch me having sex with another man! What does this say about him??
Q. My boyfriend wants to watch me have sex with another man. This is disgusting. Of course I won't do it. The question is, what does this indicate about a man's character, or even, future? [Added from the same user] Does my boyfriend's obsessio...
A. 8 November 2008: I think it says alot about his character. If hes willing to let you have sex with another guy, and wathc it, then it suggests he probably thinks he should be able to sleep with another female.
How would you feel about that? Probably not good id ... (read in full...)
I'm being bullied, does anyone know any good comebacks?
Q. okay, i am being verbally bullied. do you have any comebacks or insults???????????????????...
A. 6 November 2008: I dont think you should insult these bullies back,- that would be stooping to their level. You dont wanna do that, you are more then that. And if you were to get down to their level, it would make you appear just as guilty to teachers at school.
I... (read in full...)
Why won't my Mom let me go on the pill?
Q. the relationship between me and my mum is rapidly changing and i dont know what to do. me and my boyfriend of 6 months recently lost our virginities to each other, hes the best thing in the world, treats me like a princess and he and my mum do get ...
A. 6 November 2008: I think she is probably trying to stop you from having sex. But the only real way you will know why she is so against you going on the pill is by asking her.
Im not sure about the UK but in Australia, if you are over 14 you can see a doctor b... (read in full...)
My wife is mad at me because I'm partying way too much!
Q. My wife is mad at me because I told my friends her pregnancy was easy and says im partying too much. She had a very difficult delivery (it took 10 hours) and was in the hospital for a week. Then one day I home from work (which is very stressful) ...
A. 5 November 2008: Well there a few issues here.
The first one being the issue of you partying lots and as a result not being able to support your wife and newly born child. I am wondering if this pregnancy was plan? If so, then what did you honestly think having a... (read in full...)
He never texts me or calls me!
Q. This guy started talking to me and he eventually asked me out. I said yes because i liked him to but, i have plans for the weekend but Im free the next. He was like ok. But ever since that he dosent text me or call me. He talks to me when he sees ...
A. 3 November 2008: I think he probably took you putting the date off to another weekend as a 'sign' you werent interested. Too often people tell someone they dont like they are 'busy' this weekend, but are avialable next weekend. Its supposed to be the 'nice/gentle' ... (read in full...)
My ex says he doesn't want me back, but acts as if he owns me! What do you guys think of this?
Q. Last nite i went somewhere with my ex, and his sister a local place, but for someone who said he didnt want to get back with me was very strange, he wispered something in mt ear as in cheak to cheak like he was going to give me a kiss, then he ...
A. 2 November 2008: Your ex bf is just using you for sex. He wants the sex, all the action, without the hard work and commitment of a real relationship.
You can do so much better then him! Please see what he is doing. Him staring down your top and calling them his... (read in full...)
My man wants to do my backdoor/butt? Any advice?
Q. The guy that I am seeing has been asking me for anal lately and I have never ever done it. I heard it really hurts, but it is ok if you use lots of lube. I am kind of interested in trying it as he is always poking around back there with his cock...
A. 1 November 2008: Im pretty sure it will still hurt. The lube may make it more bearable, but it would probably still hurt.
Before you even think about having anal search, you should talk to a trusted professional such as a doctor about the risks of doing it. Ther... (read in full...)
My dad says that anything bigger than a five year age difference is too big and illegal until I turn 18. Opinions please.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have just started seeing each other. He is 22 and and I am 16. My dad says that anything bigger than a five year age difference is too big and illegal until I turn 18. I was wondering if anyone had any advice for me, or was more ...
A. 1 November 2008: There is no law against a 22 year old and a 16 year old hanging out, and even 'dating'. BUT, although you may be 16, which means legally you can have sex, you cant with someone over the age of 18. If a 16 year old has sex with someone who is over ... (read in full...)
Do I Have Qualities Guys Like?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl who has her eye on some guys in her class. I'm around 4'9, I'm a 30A, and I'm decent looking. My sense of humor is like a guy's, I don't freak out when I see a bug, I like dirty jokes, I'm girly enough, but not very girly. I ...
A. 1 November 2008: You are great just the way you are. Dont let anyone think you should change unless what you are doing is hurting someone else or yourself, then maybe you should consider making changes.
Just because not many boys are askign you out, does not mean... (read in full...)
How many times do you call your partner per day?
Q. She works at night time and there will be days she works alone in her department. She text for me to call back. It happened few times so I guess she is lonely. I decided to call her everyday during her break time. The problem now is, she do...
A. 31 October 2008: I dont think there is anything wrong with calling your partner once a day. In fact, I think its sweet! Ive gone out with guys who liked there 'space'. They would only wanna talk maybe once or twice a week. I found this hard to cope with because when ... (read in full...)
Hope I can get an honest answer here!
Q. Hi! hope i can get a honest answer here...i've got a bf and i love him a lot and he loves me the same way. he's very nice and kind. only i'm not used to the kind of relationship he's got with his sister...i think i'm a bit jelous and i'm almost ...
A. 31 October 2008: If I was you, I'd find that a bit weird and uncomfortable too. Ive been brought up in a family where its not ok for the opposite sex to see each other naked unless they are in a relationship type of thing. So in my opinion, thats inappropiate.
I... (read in full...)
Is this what you would call 'love'?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for three years and I love him very much but I do worry that I dont know what love is and so worry that maybe I dont love him.I know its silly and im 23 years old,I feel like I should know better.I ...
A. 31 October 2008: I think sometimes people over complicate the word 'love'. Considering you have been with your bf for 3 years suggests to me that there must be something strong there to make it work that long and to keep you both there, and this could be very well ... (read in full...)
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