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writes:I have been talking to this guy online for about the past two weeks. I email him like every other day and he usually writes back. I really, really like him. He is so different than anyone else I have ever met. The problem is I think I am scaring him away because I email him a lot. I dont want to not email him because then he might think I'm not interested. Please help. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2006): Let him worry just a little that you might not be as interested as he thought. It's good for a guy, and it's good for a relationship early on. Instead of emailing him every other day, try switching to just a couple of times a week. To make up for the drop off in emails, sound excited when you hear from him, and spend some time telling him about something exciting that you've done. (not the boring details of your hair appointment - something actually cool, and just a summary overview even of that)
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reader, StarNews +, writes (2 January 2006):
 You said you are emailing him often and he usually writes back. So it seems you are writing him more often than he writes to you. I would give him a chance to write back, then give it a few days to reply to his letter. Not only are you possibly chasing him away, you are appearing desperate by writing more often than he is. Instead of worrying about writing him so often to show your interest, it would be best to let him know, but give it some time since you've only known him for 2 weeks. When the time is right, tell him you are interested in him and you were wondering if he felt the same.
It is difficult to know what a person is like through the internet. Also keep in mind you have only known him for 2 weeks, thru email. People tend to be very different in person, and the internet can be deceiving. You really dont the know them until you meet face to face, and with time spent together.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (2 January 2006):
Sure some people can be scared by someone who is a bit 'over the top' yet if they really like you, I think they will learn to work through there fears. The best thing to do is ask him if he minds you emailing him alot, from there you are giving him the chance to be honest and express any concerns he may have. Say something that suggests that you are ok if he doesn't liek you emailing him much and won't be offended, as you just want to find out whats right so you don't anoy him, so that way you are encouraging him to tell the truth which might be a bit hard for him.
Also since you are really falling for him, you need to think about where is this going? are you two finally going to meet one day and perhaps start up a proper relationship ? or are you both happy just, being net friends, despite you seem to be having romantic feelings for him. I think before letting yourself fall further for him, you need to think about what you want and ask him what he wants too.
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reader, Angel Underneath +, writes (2 January 2006):
I think if he likes you then you wont scare him away but you need to find out if he may be interested in taking things further and you aren't going to find that out unless you ask. At least if he says he isn't sure or doesnt want to at this stage , then you've found out before you develop deeper feelings for him
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