My boyfriend always asks my friend to have sex, is he cheating?
Q. my boyfriend always ask my best friend to have sex with him and he told me once that he dont have the desire to have sex with me im a virgin and im not ready so do you think he's cheating should i break up with he evening calls my cousin everyday ...
A. 6 May 2008: Oh my god! darling this is completely wrong what our bf is doing!!!
By him asking your friend to have sex, he is planning on cheating. Just because you are not ready (and that is completely ok that you're not ready yet!) doesnt give him the righ... (read in full...)
Any special risks pursuing much younger women for relationships?
Q. I am a guy in my 50's and I'm most compatible emotionally, physically, and sexually with girls in their 20's. Are there any legal or other risks in approaching and having sex/relationship/love with women that are at least 18 years old(USA venue)? ...
A. 6 May 2008: Are you looking for somoene to be with in a long term relationship or something casual? If you are looking for someone to be with in a seriuos commited and long term relationship, being with a younger girl has many possible problems that will arise. ... (read in full...)
I wonder if I should jump ship before I get too attached, as I am skeptical about LD relations?
Q. I've been seeing a guy for a few weeks now, and we're not serious yet, but I think we're headed in that direction. He's really starting to grow on me, and I think he's feeling the same way. But the thing is, he's going to be leaving to go to ...
A. 5 May 2008: I think they can work but they dont always. It comes down to the individual situation as many different factors play a role in the outcome. For example, exactly how far will you two be apart? How often will you get to see each other? You have to ask ... (read in full...)
I invited my father to my house to support him through his recovery, only I just discovered he watches child porn! What should my next steps be??
Q. Where to start... My father had a heart attack nearly a year ago, as he was living on his own I demanded he moved in with me, my partner and our young daughter, until he made a complete recovery. He moved in, retired from his job, moved out his r...
A. 5 May 2008: I understand this must be a very very hard situation for you to be in. BUT you are a mother and it is your number one priority to protect your child. You have to put her interests above anyone elses, including your fathers. I dont think its safe for ... (read in full...)
How do I phrase it so he knows he is losing a good woman - does he even care??? Do I give him another chance?
Q. Please give me some honest advice - I am with a guy and I have written before - we have been together three years this past week he has been acting weird - I was upset with him cause he was using the phone I pay for to text his ex-fiance - Anyway, I ...
A. 5 May 2008: Actions speak louder then words. Watch how he acts and behaves rather then focusing so much on what he says. Anyone can say I love you and we will be together forever...but to actally love somoene and make the relationship last forever, is a ... (read in full...)
The only lad I've ever loved has confessed he doesn't have feelings for me, but something still doesn't seem right?
Q. Right, ok i need help and quick!! I've never been one to want a bf, liked being single etc until i met this lad in my class now for the past 5 months its gone from a patheic crush to a lot more. I always thought he liked me an so did a friend of ...
A. 4 May 2008: Hey,
There is a possibility that he does like you, yet he may of felt too shy to tell your friend.
Also have you thoought that maybe the friend who talked to the guy you liked lied to you and said he didnt like you when he actually said he did? ... (read in full...)
How do I get out of this cycle and find someone real?
Q. I'm going to be 20 in 2 months time and I'm still a virgin and have never had a boyfriend I'm starting to think I'm going to be alone forever. I dont think it's a problem with my physical appearance, but more with my personality, I'm intensly shy ...
A. 4 May 2008: Hey hunnie,
First of all, dont beat yourself up about not having a bf yet. It doesnt say ANYTHING bad about you. Alot of lovely people dont have a bf till later in life. I have a fair few male friends who are just awesome people, I love them to deat... (read in full...)
Is eating cheating? As in having a sexual encounter with a another female.
Q. Okay one quick question. If you are a married woman, and you have sexual relations with another woman is it cheating?...
A. 4 May 2008: Of course it is. Is there something making you think perhaps its not? I dont see how anyone could justify doing something sexual with someone other then there partner and not think its cheating. ... (read in full...)
Should you always persue a crush?
Q. I am really confused about this. I just don't know if one should always pursue a crush. I believe that since you only live once, you should most definitely go for it. The worst that can happen to you is he'll reject you. But at least then you won't ...
A. 2 May 2008: I dont think this is a topic that should be generalised because. To many other factors come into play which will effect whether or not you should. For example, if you like a guy who has a gf, should you go for him because if you dont you will always ... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting or just crazy?
Q. Me and my boyfriend were hanging out today, and everything was going fine until his best friend's g/f told me that he cheated on me with one of my ex-friends, and i heard about it but he told me that he wouldn't do that because friends are completly ...
A. 1 May 2008: Hi darling,
How did the girl who told you your bf cheated on you actually know? Do you believe you can trust her? Would she have some unlterior motive to try and break you and your bf up?
The best piece of advice I have EVER been given was "... (read in full...)
It's really bothered me that he didn't send me even a card on my birthday.
Q. I have been in a long distance relationship for about 4 years now. My question is: Should I expect a B-day gift or something from my b/f? My b-day was on sunday and I was hoping my b/f will send me flowers or a b-day card, but he didn't. This is my ...
A. 1 May 2008: Hey,
Just because you are in a long distance relationship, that doesnt mean your bf can get out of geting you something for your b'day, such as a gift or even just a card!
And you are right, these days sending a online e-car is so so so easy... (read in full...)
Why are my boyfriend's friends so harsh on women needing to fit a certain prototype? I don't understand.
Q. I think I may have a problem with self-image. The thing is, of late, I've more been around more people who really take into account appearences before they get to know people. They are my boyfriend's friends and they are often discussing and deba...
A. 29 April 2008: My ex bf's friends were like that. VERY superficial and materalistic. It bothered me quite a lot too as I'm not like that at all. THey would constantly talk about the looks of females and if they werent hot then they would pay them out about ... (read in full...)
Why does the fact that I have big boobs make guys assume they can treat me like a slut?
Q. Hi Im 16 and am a 5"3 size 8-10, very curvy, G chested female. I have always hated my figure so thats nothing new, but recently I've felt particularly shite because everytime I go out to enjoy myself around people my own age, for instance at part...
A. 27 April 2008: First things first, by NO MEANS is someone allowed to touch you where you dont want to be touched, or say something of sexual nature that makes you feel uncomfortable. If they do, thats sexual harrasment! And it is against the law. Check out this ... (read in full...)
I am succesful and enjoy the company of men but can't find any that don't want to take advantage of me!
Q. i am a twenty seven year old female, i consider myself good looking and slim. i am college educated and i have my own business but....i never have had a boyfriend....EVER!! i enjoy the company of men dont get me wrong but i just can't find a guy ...
A. 27 April 2008: What sorts of places are you looking in? Clubs/parties? If so, then my first suggestion would be to find a new place. Those types of places are typically full of guys like that.
It would be good if you could further explain how every other guy youv... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to man up and ask her out? She seems out of my league.
Q. Hello, I'm a 15 year old guy, a bit tall, a bit overweight, brown hair, hazel eyes. And, I haven't had a girlfriend. Yeah, it's not a big deal, yeah I've still got a long ways to go, but god is it annoying when I hear some punk go "Hey, how'd your...
A. 27 April 2008: People are never out of your league. You need to realise and believe that you are a wonderful person. Be aware of all your great qualities and know that a girl would be lucky to have you. Once you work on your self esteem it will be much easier to ... (read in full...)
I finished with him because he was mean so why am I bothered he is with some one else now?
Q. my ex, who i finished with 2 months ago because he was a bastard to me, slept wiv somone else lastnite and for sum reason I feel gutted. I feel like im gonna cry. I think that they are seeing each other as well. The thing that makes it worse is that ...
A. 26 April 2008: I think its pretty normal how you are feeling. Often when a girl is in a unhealthy relationship they still carrying some feelings for their ex after its over, despite how bad he treated her. Obviously there would of been some positives in the ... (read in full...)
Sex without a condom, advice needed please?
Q. When you're having sex without a condom, when should you pull it out so that you don't ejaculate inside her? How would you know? Would it prevent pregnancy? -confusion...
A. 25 April 2008: You're suppose to pull out just before you feel like you're about to cum. BUTTTTTT you can still get pregnant using the withdrawel method. You can get pregnant either because you pull out too late so your cum goes in her OR because of pre cum. ... (read in full...)
BF in contact with ex-fiancee often and recent - What to do?
Q. Please Help! My BF of three years says he loves me but I think he loves the talents I have decorating and sex and such and he loves having me as a companion! He says he loves me but I just found out that he has been in touch with his ex-fiancee by ...
A. 25 April 2008: hi there,
I understand that you must feel worried, upset, jealous and even angry. I think it is VERY disrespectful that he keeps nude photos of her. I dont think you should accept that. Tell him that it upsets you and you think its disr... (read in full...)
He seems to detach better than I do when he wants space. Am I unhealthy for not being able to do this?
Q. This is rather embarassing 'cos I know I'm WRONG and UNHEALTHY! Me and my BF have been together for a year and 8 months. Lately I've been sensing he wants more space or something. Yet I can't detach the way he seems to. He's the most important p...
A. 25 April 2008: Aww this must be a horrible situation to be in. I can understnad how you feel. I wouldnt go as far as labeling what you are feeling/doing as 'unhealthy' though.
I think that if your bf gave you better reassurance and didnt get mad with you and ... (read in full...)
I told my boyfriend at the end of our relationship I was molested as a child and he didnt care.
Q. my boyfriend and i of one year have been having many problems the last 3 months, he never said it was over, just "this isn't worth it anymore" and "you need to find another guy" but never officially that, we were through. we had another fight and i ...
A. 24 April 2008: From what you added in your reply, he surely doesnt sound like a very sympathetic and caring guy at all! Has he ever really shown any sympathy to your OR anyone else?
It sounds to me like you are much better off without him. He isnt the type of ... (read in full...)
Was he repulsed? Or was he just trying to hide something?
Q. Hey okie so I have a male friend, we had a fling over two years ago (though we never had sex he wanted to go all the way but I kinda stopped things) Anyway we never dated he didn't go out with me because of my self-conciousness and paranoia, but ...
A. 23 April 2008: I think his movements while you two were sleeping together just that- movements of his sleep. I dont think they suggest he was uncomfortable or repulsed. Most people move in there sleep. So if he turned away from you, that doesnt suggest anything ... (read in full...)
This is my first break-up...Should I return everything, including cards and gifts?
Q. i'm packing up the left over knick knacks my ex boyfriend left at my place after he moved out for him to pick up this week. we were together for about a year. i've included all his stuff, but also cards, gifts, and any reminders (photos) i have here ...
A. 23 April 2008: I think you should only return anything of his he left at your place, such as a jumper or whatever. I wouldnt return gifts or photos, that seems harsh and mean in my opinion. And I mean who says he wants to be reminded by those things? If you dont ... (read in full...)
I told my boyfriend at the end of our relationship I was molested as a child and he didnt care.
Q. my boyfriend and i of one year have been having many problems the last 3 months, he never said it was over, just "this isn't worth it anymore" and "you need to find another guy" but never officially that, we were through. we had another fight and i ...
A. 23 April 2008: I am really sorry that you were molested as a child. I cant even beguin to imagine how horrible that must of been for you.
Your bf doesnt seem like a decent guy in my opinion. I mean I dont even KNOW you and when I read that you were molested, I fe... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me to get over my insecurities because I have no real problems, was he right?
Q. a big reason for my break up with my boyfriend of a year is due to my insecurities. I used to be a little overweight in highschool, i was always the funny girl, and never had a relationship. and university is when i really, i guess blossomed and, i ...
A. 23 April 2008: YES! He was a TERRIBLE boyfriend for reacting the way he did! A decent, caring, sensitive, loving person would not respond the way he did. You are so much better off without him. You deserve a bf who realises you have the right to feel how you do, ... (read in full...)
We only dry hump so his penis has never even been near my vagina. Could I be pregnant?
Q. Now, I SWEAR to you, I’ve never had a penis in my vagina. My boyfriend and I have done just about everything else though. We commonly dry-hump in nothing but our underwear… and I give him hand jobs, but he’s never cum anywhere near my vagina. ...
A. 20 April 2008: You can actually get pregnant from dry humping. The seamen can actually leak through his underwear and onto you. Although you said he didnt cum anywhere near you, there is a thing such as pre cum which he would of had and which can cause ... (read in full...)
Why is it that some people in this world always think that just because there are other people also suffering in this world the problem that you have is nothing?
Q. Why is it that some people in this world always think that just because there are other people also suffering in this world the problem that you have is nothing? Yes there are people in this world going through worse things that you and yes we are ...
A. 18 April 2008: I understand how you feel!!! One of the worst things to hear when you are going through a hard (or not so bad in some poeples opinions) time is "what about all the poor kids in africa who are starving to death???". Yes that is very sad that they are ... (read in full...)
Why does he keep flirting with my friend!
Q. every time me and my boyfriend hang out with one of my best friends he seems to always flirt with her. whenever we arent with her he says we should go hang out with her. what should I do???...
A. 18 April 2008: Oh dear...sounds like maybe he likes your friend???
But I dont know that for sure. There could be some other reason that I just cant think of. Next time he seems so eager to hang out wtih her you could ask why?? See what he says. I think you shou... (read in full...)
My last pregnancy test resulted positive, how accurate are they? I'm starting to panick.
Q. Hey, im just panicking a little bit, i took a home pregnancy test yesterday and it came back positive, but my partners been away with work since the end of january, and id taken a test not long after he left and they both came back negative. My ...
A. 17 April 2008: It depends on what brand you use i think. I know some brands claim they are 99% accurate, however i dont know how true that is. My mum always advised me to go to the doctors and have a blood test if i wanted to know if i was pregnant as that is the ... (read in full...)
Should I find another girl who will be better for me?
Q. i just reacently broken up with my girlfriend... we've been dating about 6 months and thing were for the most part pretty good. we had alot of fights up till the end but before we had alot of fun, which is all im looking for. i broke up because i ...
A. 17 April 2008: If you have a fear of commitment then I dont think its a good idea you get back with her because what will happen is those feelings will come back again and then you will break the poor girls heart again just as you have done now and also as you did ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty about watching a sex video of an ex boyfriend, is that considered cheating and should I tell my current partner?
Q. I have been in a great relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now, but I got into it right after I broke up with my ex of 8 months. My ex and I made a sex video that I had on my computer, and during the first few months of my new ...
A. 17 April 2008: Hmm some people have replied saying that its none of your bf's business because what you did with your ex is in the past...well I agree BUT the fact is that you watched the video while IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP with your current bf, therefor bringing it ... (read in full...)
Should I find another girl who will be better for me?
Q. i just reacently broken up with my girlfriend... we've been dating about 6 months and thing were for the most part pretty good. we had alot of fights up till the end but before we had alot of fun, which is all im looking for. i broke up because i ...
A. 17 April 2008: You said "we had alot of fights up till the end but before we had alot of fun, WHICH IS ALL IM LOOKING FOR."
From that line it suggests to me that you dont want to be in a serious commited relationship. You just want 'fun'. Im not suggesti... (read in full...)
Oral sex lies? I have one I've kept from my boyfriend.
Q. Ok so I recently got in engaged to my boyfriend. But i am keeping ONE lie from him, which is that i have never given oral sex before, I have given it to one guy, but i told my soon to be husband that he is the first guy to get oral sex from me. ...
A. 17 April 2008: I probably woudlnt say anything if I was you. Why do you think he would judge you? Do you honestly think he would think something bad of you or is it just a irrational fear you have? If you honestly do think that he would think bad of you, if you ... (read in full...)
Am I too young for alcohol and smoking? I'm 15...
Q. Ok so im 15 now but I starting drinking when i was 14 and there are only a few people in my grade that do because we are like the popular people...so is it really that young i mean it doesnt feel that way at all and also i smoke not pot but ...
A. 16 April 2008: Hi darling,
Yes there are alot of reasons why you shouldnt be doing what you are doing. All of those things arent healthy for ANYONE neverless someone of your age.
Statistics show that if you start drinking before the legal age it increases yo... (read in full...)
Worried that he's getting bored with me! What can I do?
Q. I have a boyfriend I really, genuinely like. I'm afraid, however, that he's getting bored with me. He no longer gets on AIM to talk, and when we're with his friends he talks much more to them than to me. I'm so busy agonizing over this, I'm ...
A. 16 April 2008: Hi there,
I know how you feel, ive been through that situation a fair few times unfortunately. So I do understand how worrying it can be.
From my experience there can be a number of reasons why your bf may be acting like this. But first let me... (read in full...)
After seeing my own daughter masturbating on a porn site I've become sexually attracted to her. It's so humiliating, how can I stop these feelings of lust for her?
Q. After seeing my own 19 year old daughter masturbating on an internet home-video porn site I've become sexually attracted to her and can't stop looking at her and thinking of her in that way. I haven't been with a woman sexually in a long time, may...
A. 14 April 2008: Well I think its good that you realise how wrong this is. Thats a good sign. I honestly cant really understand why you are feeling attracted to her, so unfortunately I dont think I an offer any advice. But what I will say is that I think you should ... (read in full...)
She's now married with kids, but She said when she comes into town we could have sex.
Q. I've known this girl for about 8 yrs, I've had feelings for her for about 8 yrs as well. She too has feelings for me, unfortunately we had lost contact at one point in time, and she ended up with someone else. She is now married with kids. She move...
A. 12 April 2008: "Why r yall so worried if its not yall?"
Because we are caring people who care about others and not just ourself. It sounds to me like maybe you dont have the ability to do that yet since you are going to sleep with her despite how it will effe... (read in full...)
Do guys compliment girls on their name? What is a beautiful name?
Q. This is something I've been thinking about for a while. Why do guys compliment girls on their names? Do you really hear a girl's name and think "wow that is a beautiful name?". Maybe I'm being a little silly, I just think it's a weird thing to compl...
A. 10 April 2008: Whats your name? if you don't mind me asking...... (read in full...)
Every guy I have a crush on, I seem to want to marry!... Is this immature?
Q. I'm a bit confused because it seems like every guy I have a little crush on I seem to want to marry. I know that I'm still young, and i dunno why I want to marry them, because I don't even know the boys very well! Is it just an immature crush ...
A. 10 April 2008: Im going to start by asking what is your parents relationship like? Are they married? Divorced? Or perhaps never married at all? if they are still married, do you think perhaps you see their relationship and idolise it? ... (read in full...)
I'm his first "geek" girlfriend! His exes were much cuter!
Q. My boyfriend has a lot of girls in his MSN contacts. He says he doesn't talk to them anymore, that he met them a long time ago in some chatrooms, out of boredom and just added them. They all have this silly cute nicknames. So I guess they're all ...
A. 10 April 2008: One of the most best pieces of advice I have EVER been given went something along the lines of..."how a couple solves their differecnes/problems/issues is what will determine if it BREAKS or MAKES them".
So how does this relate to you? Well you... (read in full...)
How long does you wait to have sex in a relationship?
Q. Hi everyone! I was wondering if any of you could tell me how long one should wait to have sex in a relationship. For those who are wondering it's been around 6 months and we're both virgins! thanks in advance!...
A. 10 April 2008: There is no right or wrong answer here really as it really comes down to each individual situation.
However, generally, in my opinion, I would say the following are the main things you should consider:
-You have to consider things such as h... (read in full...)
She seriously was my image of the perfect girl and I will never get to know what could have been.
Q. Well guys im pretty much screwed. I like this girl but she has a boyfriend. I really know i should move on but it is so freaking hard. I can't stop thinking about her. I have never connected with anyone as well as her. We are good friends and...
A. 10 April 2008: I'm sorry for how you are feeling. However, things will get better! I promise! I think most people have felt like this at some stage in their life, if not a fair few times. Its hard but we get through it which is good :)
It seems to me you may ... (read in full...)
Do guys compliment girls on their name? What is a beautiful name?
Q. This is something I've been thinking about for a while. Why do guys compliment girls on their names? Do you really hear a girl's name and think "wow that is a beautiful name?". Maybe I'm being a little silly, I just think it's a weird thing to compl...
A. 9 April 2008: I'm a girl and if I like someones name I will tell them/compliment them about it. So yes if I hear a name that I like I might think 'wow thats a beautiful name'.
Some guys might say that as a way to hint that they think you are beautiful too. ... (read in full...)
She's now married with kids, but She said when she comes into town we could have sex.
Q. I've known this girl for about 8 yrs, I've had feelings for her for about 8 yrs as well. She too has feelings for me, unfortunately we had lost contact at one point in time, and she ended up with someone else. She is now married with kids. She move...
A. 7 April 2008: I dont think you should have sex with her. I know you want to but trust me it wont be like you imagine it. It sounds to me like you have deep feelings for her and if you have sex with her you wont be able to seperate your emotions from the physical ... (read in full...)
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