Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 10 March 2006: I'm from Australia (hehe) and here are some pretty big support services we have here (although most of them you can visit online and find advice, even if you aren't in australia, the onles ones that are australia only are the ones with phone ... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 9 March 2006: I just thought of an idea, I think there should be a 'support page' which is where you list other support places that people can go for help. Like I know people come HERE for help, but sometimes people need more then just every day help, they might ... (read in full...)
He hasn't asked me out, but flirts me with A LOT!
Q. I'm 16. I've wrote before about the guy I like and how we flirt and such but its been like 6 months and still we aren't going out and he has issues about getting close from getting cheated on in the past. Well we finally made plans for him to come ...
A. 8 March 2006: Of course he still likes you. He kept hugging you and kissed you on the cheek and smiled at you and talked abut seeing you again- represents that he enjoyed himself and wants to see you again- they are all huge indicators that this guy lieks you. I ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on what I did wrong on my date with online guy?
Q. Hi everyone! Maybe you can help me understand. I met this guy online about 6 months ago. We met for the first time a couple of weeks ago. I could tell throughout the whole date he seemed different, maybe I looked different than he pictured, maybe he ...
A. 8 March 2006: This guy could of been very well and most likely just nervous on the date. That is probably why he wasnt 'acting' the same way he was on the net. And the reason why he hasn't really talked to you much since the date? I can't answer that for you, I ... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 8 March 2006: haha oh wow i came in at number 8.86, woo hoo lol. I think it would be a good idea to have a chat room, so people can have more in depth converstaions, really listen to the person with the probelm so they can give better advice. And that way if ... (read in full...)
We dated for a couple of months, but he asked someone ELSE to the prom!
Q. Dear Cupid, I like this boy and we were dating for a month or two. He had said that he had feelings for me. He then, instead of asking me, asked another girl to the prom. I felt like it didn't even matter to him that he hurt me. I was mad, but...
A. 29 January 2006: Everyone here told you to forget him and move on, but sadly i think that will be very hard for you! I think you need to tell him how you feel, for your sake. Ask him why he asked someone else and tell him taht it hurt you. Maybe he somehow thought ... (read in full...)
Haven't told her how I feel, and now she and her boyfriend are about to have sex. Anything I can do?
Q. Hey, I really really like this chick and I haven't really gathered the courage to tell her how I feel. I think she feels the same way. I found out recently she and her new boyfriend are going to have sex! Should I just let my feelings slip away or ...
A. 29 January 2006: Deffintly tell her. You have deep feelings for her and if you don't let her know you will forever think 'what if i told her' and that will anoy the hell out of you and make it harder to move on. Its best to know if there is a chance with her or not, ... (read in full...)
Should I try to flirt with my teacher to get him interested in me?
Q. Well I'm having a problem right now. I like my teacher. He's 23 yrs old and I'm only 15. The thing is that I wanna have something with him but I understand it's gonna be hard because he has a girlfriend and he's engaged. Every time I see him I just ...
A. 29 January 2006: Like someone already said, its important to really think if this is worth taking it any further. If something did happen he could loose his job, yet having said that, it is entriely his choice. But the thing is, your 15 and i know you have probably ... (read in full...)
I don't want to go further with him!
Q. My boyfriend says he wants to go further but I told him I wouldn't feel comftable. He said he could cum round after skool when my Mum woz out but now he keeps chickening out. I really don't know wot 2 do coz I think he's gone off me!...
A. 27 January 2006: If your bf has gone 'off you' purely based on the fact that you are not ready to have sex then he is a JERK! You should never be with a guy who only wants you for that. Any half decent respecting guy who is worthwhile to be with, wouldnt leave you ... (read in full...)
We only have sex when I initiate it, because my wife says only sluts and whores initiate sex!
Q. I am needing some advice. I love my wife very much and generally we a good life together but there is one area where we just don't agree. We have been married for nearly 5 years and together for 3 years before that. The sex was great before w...
A. 27 January 2006: It seems to me your wife has some very old fashioned views and beliefs. You know how years ago, how sex was 'meant for the husband', not for the wife. Only he was to enjoy it. They would only do it when he wanted to, despite whether she wanted to or ... (read in full...)
I should be happy that she broke up with her boyfriend and can be with me, but I'm so sorry it hurts her...
Q. I'm 19 and I met this girl about a year ago and we became really good friends, I liked her straight away but just decided that because she had a boyfriend that nothing would happen. I told her my feelings after about 6 months (couldnt help it), but ...
A. 20 January 2006: Hi there,
I have a rather similar story, but from the GIRLS point of view, so mayb this will give you some insight into how shes feeling?
Basicly a while ago, i was going out with a guy, called cameron, at the same time i was friends with shane, w... (read in full...)
I fancy a friend at work. We're always chatting on email, but he got uncomfortable when I told him I was attracted.
Q. I recently told a co-worker that I was attracted to him. But let me first explain: We talk a lot about work on the phone and email and sometimes I see him in person. I have told some work related items about some other people and items of importance ...
A. 20 January 2006: I think taht when this guy said 'i dont think we should be talkng about this on work emai' was a sign that he was feeling uncomfortable. he probably knew that you were interested, by just asking that question and him being in a realtionship was ... (read in full...)
Did he understand what I was telling him in my message? Or did I not understand his reply?
Q. Hi, I have always like this guy and he's going overseas so I decided to let him know of my feelings. I said I've always cared for him and that I guess he's my only dream that I could never have. But I guess he hasn't interpreted it well or didn'...
A. 20 January 2006: Hi there
Yes it seems to me his reply was meant to be in a friendly friend way only. But I can't be sure whether or not, he knew what you meant but only feels for u as a friend so thats what he meant in his message, or if he did misinterperate and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend took me to Italy... I now found he almost gave a "bella" Italian girl his card!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months and he took me away to Italy. When we were away we went to a nightclub. A few days after i found a card near his wallet with his contact details on it and saying on the card that "I am with my girlfriend ...
A. 18 January 2006: Well I guess it depends on, do you believe him or not? No one here can tell you to believe in him or not, that would be wrong, its your choice, but don't let love cloud your judgement. It probably was true ,that he was only doing it for a ego boost, ... (read in full...)
When we were together, we chose to abort our baby, but now his one-night stand is pregnant, and they're keeping the baby! I feel so hurt and alone...
Q. I am 27 years old and newly single. A week ago I found out my ex is having a baby with a supposed 'one night stand'. She is keeping the baby, with no respect to him. A year ago I was pregnant with his baby and aborted cause neither of us were ready. ...
A. 17 January 2006: I agree with everyoone elses here.
The mian thing I would like to point out is I can see how your upset, very much, I would be hurt too, very much, you have every right, but there is a time when you have to stop and think, 'am I going to let this... (read in full...)
I raised my voice, and my girlfriend left me because she was afraid I'd abuse her! I've never hurt a woman. What can I do?
Q. I had a misunderstanding with my girlfriend of 1 yr. She said that i was loud and she left. now she says that she's afaird that i'll abuse her. i've never hit a woman and don't have a hot temper. i never called her names or cussed her just raised ...
A. 17 January 2006: It sounds to me maybe she has been asbued in the past? Do you know if she has? Perhaps she hasnt told you. For somoene to get very upset about someone yelling, to be very touchy with certain subjects (in this case, abuse) they react quicker and more ... (read in full...)
Happy with my wife, but I can't stop fantasising about a threesome with her and her sister!
Q. I'm a 30-year-old married man. I am happy with my wife but the only problem is her twin sister! I am attracted towards her too. I try to avoid them and get successful also but whenever I see her again I am back to square one. To be true, I don’t ...
A. 17 January 2006: I agree with Mr.Ed here, seek professional help. Your fantasy to have a thresome with your wife and her twin sister is just that, a fantasy, something that will probably never happen for many reasons, the mian one being it is incest and 2, i think ... (read in full...)
When I ask her out, she says she's grounded or busy. Does she like me or not?!
Q. Help! i like this girl but i don't know if she likes me back. I'm 17, and i've known this girl for about 4 years. At first, I started hanging out with her brother in hopes of getting to know her better, It worked as far as her coming into the ...
A. 15 January 2006: That isn't a kind way. The kind and respecful thing to do would be to simply tell them, don't make up exuses leaving them wondering whether or not she really is into him or not. What shes doing is giving him false hope, now you can't tell me thats ... (read in full...)
Online, we can talk for hours, but there are too many silences when we talk on the phone...
Q. I'm really really interested in this guy who is around my age. (turning 16 this year) We've been talking since New Years Eve and he's been soooo great! I've confessed that I liked him, and he did the same. It's come as far as not even eating b...
A. 14 January 2006: Its ok to have silences darl! Honestly, silences are always a bad thing. I know its hard to stay calm and not panic when for a few secs no one speaks, but just take a deep breath and tell yourself calming thoughts. Its ok! Its only natrual for ALL ... (read in full...)
We broke up but she gone cold on me and I don't want to lose our friendship...what should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, It has been just over a week since my relationship ended. We parted on good terms agreeing that it was for the best. We were together for 6 years but for a year now we were stuck in a rut and I think the relationship got boring. She ...
A. 12 January 2006: Hi there,
I'm sorry to hear that you are very upset at the moment, but don't worry you will come through at the other end! I understand that you desperatly want that friendship back and you can get it back! But in time. The relationship only ende... (read in full...)
I really like her so should I spill my guts, or try and let things work out slowly?
Q. Well, this might take some explaining first. I had been seeing this girl years ago (4 to be exact), and I really messed things up. Basically to the point that I never saw or heard from her again, until last year near Christmas. This was huge for ...
A. 12 January 2006: I think you won't feel satisfied until you give it every chance you got! I say tell her how you feel. Because if you don't you will alays live with 'what ifs' and it will be exstremely hard to move on, knowing that there is the POSSIBILITY that it ... (read in full...)
When he leaves to go back, we argue much more...help!
Q. I'm.17yrs old.hes..20 I knew him b4 he went to the army hes been in the army for a Year/half now. We've been inGaged for 9months.*Long Distance is harder than I thought.I just dont understand. When were together we dont argue but when he leaves we ...
A. 12 January 2006: Hello,
Wow, I must say, thats weird, my bf is 20 and im 17 too! And he is in the army! Lol how weird and coinsidently, we have started with a long distance relationship.
It seems to me you are very much commited to this relationship, as you are ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I'm ready to get married or whether I should find out what the world has to offer me...
Q. Okay, I am hoping someone out there can give me some advice... cause I am a bit confused. I am 25 years old and became engaged after 5 years to my boyfriend recently. Since I became engaged, I am feeling more and more clostraphobic- and am avoiding ...
A. 12 January 2006: Hi there,
First off, I need to tell you that you can't fear hurting anyone. Althoug your intention to not hurt anyone, is good, it shows that you have feelings, but if let that control you then you will just end up hurting people because you will... (read in full...)
Lots of non verbal behaviour...does this mean she likes me??
Q. dear ladies..i have just got out of a relationship of 5 yrs(10 weeks ago now) and have just met a lovely woman, we have been out on a couple of dates, and theres a lot of the flicking of her hair, playing with her hair, knee pointing at me..do i ...
A. 12 January 2006: I can't say whether or not that behaviour means she likes you or not for sure, but the fact that you have been out on a couple of dates means alot! Generally people make up there mind on the first date whether or not they like the person, if they go ... (read in full...)
Her dad won't allow her to be with me...what can we do?
Q. Hello, I'm 21 and my g/f is 16. Here's my problem: We have both been a part of the same social group for months, with friends ranging all in between our respective ages. I had met her parents once before when we had a big group hang-out, way be...
A. 12 January 2006: Hi there,
I can see how this must be very frustratiing situation you are in, but I commend you for sticking by this girl, despite her fathers bad reaction to his daughter and you as a couple. This is a pretty common situation, and what normally it t... (read in full...)
He chased me but now has decided he wants space...what is going on?
Q. Long story short. My boyfriend is finishing up with his divorce (which by the way I was unaware of for the first 3 months- they've been separated for 2 years), we have been together for 7 months. After a drunken night on New Years (i was the drunk ...
A. 12 January 2006: Wow you must feel really confused at the moment hey? You want to find out whats going through his mind and it seems like he left you in the dark and never explained realy what was going through his mind. Its like he just said "I need a break, BYE!" ... (read in full...)
He used the 'sweetie' in a suspicious text message but he lied and claimed it was sent to a guy! Is he cheating?
Q. I looked through my finace's phone b/c I was suspicious of him cheating and found that he had text messages to a person saying they should hang out, and used the word sweetie. I asked who it was later, not mentioning the message, and he said a guy ...
A. 12 January 2006: Whether he is cheating or not, this relationship doesn't have a whole lot of trust, maybe that is because he has given you reasons to doubt him, but either way its not great.
The fact that as soon as you questioned him about the message and the ... (read in full...)
How do you completely rebuild your self-esteem from nothing? Advice badly needed!
Q. Hey has anyone got any advice on how to completly rebuild your self-esteem from nothing!! I used to be such a happy person now I just seem to cry all the time for no apparent reason other than I just feel so sad all the time. I used to be the o...
A. 12 January 2006: Hi there,
Like someone else said, it seems to me you are suffering from depression! And even if you weren't to be clinically diagnosed, you are still going through a hell of a lot!
It seems to me you feel lonely, unloved, and left behind, as all o... (read in full...)
We're friends but I love her but she doesn't want that kind of relationship. I'm upset..please help!
Q. Hi, for a long time now i have been friends with a girl. For about the last 2 years i have loved her, we both agreed nothing should happen as it would ruin our friendship. But soon we both leave school after our exams. Then i will most likely never ...
A. 12 January 2006: Hi there,
First of all, I must say how amazed I am in that you could keep those feelings away, that shows that you really do value the friendship!
I understand that when you finsih school you fear that you will both looose contact, enless you beco... (read in full...)
I'm hyper-sensitive and dwell way too much, on what others say. I need help dealing with this.
Q. Heres my problem, I have a tendency to get realllyyy upset about things, even 'little things'. Especially when people make jokes about me, it gets me so down I dwell I will probably dwell on it for the next few days. For example, I made a mistake in ...
A. 12 January 2006: Thanks guys so much! It really meant alot to me that you all replied and it was just a relief that knowing some people do actually understand how I feel! I was kind of scared to right it, thinking people would reply and be like 'get over it! and ... (read in full...)
Does he really love me or did he just say it?
Q. I'm 20 and going into my first relationship and I'm abit apprehensive about it as my b/f lives 500 miles away. We met a few times at partys when I visited my aunt in wales. He said it was love at first sight, I think it was too and we're getting ...
A. 11 January 2006: No one here can be the judge or whether or not this guy is for real or not. It wouldn't be right. If you don't know, we won't have any clearer of an idea.
The thing about love is, that, it isn't perfect. Forget how the movies portray it and bla ... (read in full...)
Should I have tummy-tuck surgery now or after I have kids?
Q. I was talking to my mom about having a tummy tuck surgery and she said if I really wnated to do it, I should since our insurance will cover it, but that I shouldn't do anything to my breasts because if they move my nipples (I wnated to get a breast ...
A. 11 January 2006: Look at the statistics, the majority of people who go into cosmetic surgieris come out unhappy and/or wanting to change themself more! So based on that, we can only assume this person here would be the same.
And this person seems to clearly be doin... (read in full...)
He 12 years older and I met him online. My parents need reassurances that he's ok. How can I do this?
Q. I'm 18, to be 19 in less than a month, and currently in a long-distance relationship with a man nearly 12 years older than me. My parents seem a little unnerved, understandably. We met online (through a video game forum, a shared interest of ours), ...
A. 11 January 2006: I can relate very much to your situation, I met my current bf online, and we are going great! Yet he has moved to my town.
I see that your parents are very much worrying, partly due to how the news portrays these stories. The media uses spec... (read in full...)
Should I tell himI've had a sexual encounter before?
Q. Should I tell my man that I'm not a virgin? I've been in a long distance relationship for a few months now and me and my b/f havent had sex but we talk about it alot and look forward to sharing the experience though we feel there is no rush. Anyw...
A. 11 January 2006: Your gut must be telling you that you should tell him, otherwise you wouldn't be here asking what to do, part of you doesnt want to admit that you didn't tell the whole truth, but part of you must think you should. In my opinion lying or 'part lies' ... (read in full...)
He's 34-I'm 16..he wants to take me out for my birthday...provided I give him my virginity!
Q. i really like this guy i work with he's 34 im 16. he's always flirting with me and has offered to take me out for my birthday as long he can take my virginity. i really want him too, but im worried about what people might say. he makes me feel s...
A. 10 January 2006: I would sooooo go and tell your boss what your co worked has said. That would be illigal in pretty much all countries of the world and I assume you are from the US, so yes it would be no matter what state as you are not an adult. Hes a pedaphile. ... (read in full...)
Should I have tummy-tuck surgery now or after I have kids?
Q. I was talking to my mom about having a tummy tuck surgery and she said if I really wnated to do it, I should since our insurance will cover it, but that I shouldn't do anything to my breasts because if they move my nipples (I wnated to get a breast ...
A. 10 January 2006: Hi there,
It seems to me the real question is whether or not to have the tummy tuck at all? In general, I am totally against costmetic surgeries, as often I think people do them for not a good reason. They do them to change there natrual look in h... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as relationship Karma?
Q. Is there such a thing as relationship Karma - I would love to hear anyone's stories and experiences with this. I had a boyfriend who lied, cheated, made me believe everything was my fault, dumped me and within a few weeks is dating someone e...
A. 9 January 2006: I believe everything happesn for a reason...even when something bad happens, even deaths, despite how much pain they put you through there is always something good that comes out of it, and something that makes it a acceptable reason that it ... (read in full...)
That date was a total disaster. He was rude, cold and self-centred... or am I overreacting?
Q. I went on a blind date the other day and it turned out to be a disaster. The lady that set me up is a co-worker and she told me that he was a great catch, a really nice guy with his own business. She said that he asked her at a New Years party if ...
A. 9 January 2006: I think you do have the right to be upset, as anyone who is rude, is well upsetting. So you do have the right. Yet that doesn't mean he came off the wrong way. Some people when you first meet them appear to be rude and not interested, when really ... (read in full...)
Can you love someone when you aren't sure you like them?
Q. is it possible to love some1 more than anything when you aren't even sure if u like them in the first place?...
A. 9 January 2006: You can love someone as in a friend, but not have those feelings for them, in likeing them more. You can be attrackted to someone, yet not love them.
I'm sorry I dont know what else to write as you question was quite short and not much detail g... (read in full...)
Is he gay? Anyone know??
Q. Hi I have a really silly question, I even doubt that It will be posted, but I'd like to know, is Darren Hayes from Savage Garden gay? Thanks...
A. 9 January 2006: I dont think he has ever admited himself to being gay, so maybe no. But as you know alot of people hide there sexuality, so if he was hiding it, I would be able to 'i so knew' as he does fit the stereotype of someone who is gay, yet sometimes people ... (read in full...)
I'm a guy, 21, and me and my fiancee are stuck in a rut. She never shows me any affection!
Q. My fiancee and me are stuck in a rut. We have been together for 3 years and we have never really been ok for the majority, its nothing like it used to be. I know all about the honey moon period and all that stuff... but still i'm really confused!! ...
A. 9 January 2006: Hi there,
It seems you are trying to look for a way to solve the issue in this relationship so it can be more succesful like it use to be. I can deffintly see how her behaviour is hurting you, thats hwy something needs to be done about it.
In a ... (read in full...)
He talked me into anal on the basis that I'm still - technically - a virgin. That doesn't make it feel any better though!
Q. I am a 16 yr old girl. I have been involved with the same guy for 2 years. We both had are both sexual experience together. Ii went down on him but he is pressuring sex on me and I keep saying no. So now he has talked me into anal sex, saying I...
A. 9 January 2006: This guy is just trying to manipulate his way through, its not right what hes doing. Whether techinicaly you wil lbea virgin or not, what he said and is trying to do is sneaky and lacks respect for you, your choices and beliefs.
Yes I would imag... (read in full...)
My wife is unhappy and demanding I "prove" that I'm going to be a better husband. How?
Q. My wife and I have been seperated for 4 months now. I met her in her country 4 years ago. We married 16 months ago in Australia and have a son. We decided to live in Australia for several years and then maybe move to her country. She couldn't...
A. 8 January 2006: As far as I see, you don't have to prove anything! Look at the way she treats you and makes you feel? Its horrible. She name calls you now thats just plain immature and petty, she has unrealistic expectations of you, she banned your son from seing ... (read in full...)
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