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writes: I got to know this girl at school quite well over the last three months. We had one class together this semester, and always sat beside each other, worked on assignments with each other, studied as a pair, hung out between classes, went to lunch, etc.Over the weeks, my feelings for her changed, and I looked at her as more than just a friend. Our attempts to study together ended up as just us sitting around talking and hanging out. We playfully touched each others arms here and there, I'd compliment her and she'd say "wow, I feel so special" and I'd reply with something like "You should. You are special". She'd smile and blush.Our friends, and even just guys in our class noticed something too. They began commenting on the two of us. From "So, are you two dating yet?" to "You two should just get a room and do it already". It's been constant for a few weeks.Our conversations began kind of reserved, as we didn't know each other well; then progressed to very friendly, but lately, while we're still comfortable talking with each other, it seems like there is a bit of awkwardness. It's as if we know one of us should address the whole situation, but neither wants to. It feels like we're pussyfooting around something. Talking with her is completely different than converstions with other girls I know.Perhaps the thing that I've noticed most is the way we look at each other. When we make eye contact, it isn't just a simple glance. Whenever our eyes meet, we both tend to hold it longer than "normal". I don't make eye contact with anyone else like I do with her, and I don't notice her doing it either. When we are together with a group of people, we are simply friendly with each other, but things change when it's just the two of us. I feel like we act more "close" to each other when it's just the two of us. We'll sit close, and share a sandwich, for example.My problem is this: I really like her. But I am worried that if I tell her how I feel, things between us will become awkward if she says no. I don't want to ruin things between us. I don't want to lose her as a friend(that, and we have three classes together starting in Jan). Not telling her has been killing me. I'm not worried about her saying "no". I can handle that. I'm more worried about ruining things between us.What do you guys and girls think? I know it's hard to judge this on just a few examples I've given you, but going on what I mentioned, am I reading this whole thing wrong? I get the feeling she feels the same way, but maybe it's just a case of love clouding my judgement.Should I tell her how I feel? How?Thanks for your help. Reply to this Question
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reader, seanryann +, writes (10 January 2006):
seanryann is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks very much for your help. I'm going to talk to her. We'll see what happens. But you're right, if I don't say anything, I will drive myself crazy...
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (3 January 2006):
 Dearie, i think u should tell her how u feel. I think u like her a great deal and this has developed from a wonderful friendship. if u dont tell her u will probably never know and u just might kick yourself later.
I am guessing she likes u too and she is obviously shy and nervous as u are.
I'm not suggesting she will say no but if she does when u ask her out i really dont think it will end the friendship there becos u two are too close for that.
I think it is worth the try and u have nothing to loose really. Do it before someone else does.
Goodluck dear.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (3 January 2006):
Wow you seem to really have some deep feelings for this girl! And that in itself deserves to be told to the person the feelings are for!
From what you have said, she seems to be pretty interested!
I know the fear of rejections is scary and even more so, if she is a friend as you don't want to risk loosing the friendship. But think of it this way. You guys have a pretty strong and close frinedship right? And she is a great girl right? kind, sensietive, and caring? if so, then even if she doesnt feel the same way, I am sure she will let you down gently and say somrthing like " i think your a great friend but thats all we should be" and you two can contine being that, great friends. Good friends wont let somethign like that get in the way.
BUt you know what, I dont think you have to even worry about that!!!!!
She seems to really liek you and I think you should take that small risk.
If you odnt your gona drive yourself crazy with all the what if thoughts. Only GREAT things in life come with hard work and RISKS, it doesnt come easy. So take that chance, be brave and do it. Just take a deep breath and ask if she would like to go out on a date wiht you, or maybe ask do yo usee me more then a friend, but also add in that if not then you hope it doesnt change anything and owuld liek to stay just firneds. You could ask her over the phone if that would be easy or via sms/text message or email/instant messenger, as that might be easier for you!
Goodluck and I hope you ask her out, as it would be sad if you lost the chance of being with a really great girl!!!
And also, whats not to like about you? im sure she likes you, i mean you are always complimenting her, you both have fun together, so of cours she will!
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