Is he only sticking around for sex?
Q. An old aquaintance and I recently got back in touch, and we have gone out every weekend for the past three weeks. We hit it off, and there was obviously chemistry, and in the heat of the moment, we had sex that first night and have continued to each ...
A. 6 November 2007: You have the right to stop the sex and thats what I think you should do. Dont continue doing it with him until you are sure he is serious about the two of you and shows signs of commitment.
Sure he may levae if you give him that ultimatu... (read in full...)
What my bf doesn't know, won't hurt him
Q. I am 17 years old and have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. he cheated on me but i decided to stay with him. recently i have been texting someone else, my boss. we have always had a flirty relationship but in my last shift (as a ...
A. 4 November 2007: Ever heard of the saying 'two wrongs dont make a right'? Well its true and goes perfect with this situation you are in.
Just because your bf did the wrong thing and hurt you does not mean its ok for you to do the same and it also doesnt mean he will... (read in full...)
Does he feel insecure or is he playing me?
Q. I have been seeing a man for 9 months. Five weeks ago, I broke up with him because he didn't seem interested in me anymore and he was not being supportive during a health concern. We didn't talk for two weeks. I emailed him about returning a piece ...
A. 3 November 2007: Hmmm its hard to be sure of what is going on with him.
Did you ever say something to him about how his behaviour has improved and you are happy with it...and asked him why he amde this change? What were his reasons?
He could be messing you a... (read in full...)
Fear and Jealousy of losing my girlfriend during "open" stage of our relationship.
Q. Hey everyone! Im 23 male..I appreciate all you people who answer questions on this site...its soo great to be able to collaborate on this crazy game of love and life!! I am in an open relationship right now with a girl I absolutely adore...
A. 3 November 2007: Being in an open relationship is something you clearly are OK with. So why do it? You dont have to do it if you dont want to. Perhaps you feel its either you have a open relationship with her or nothing at all? If thats the case then I would say ... (read in full...)
Sexually assaulted and still a virgin at 25! Is this normal?
Q. Hi, I am a 25 year old Australian guy who is still a virgin. I am wondering if this is normal. I consider myself to be good looking, intelligant ( I doing my doctorate in clinical psychology) and socially active. I was sexualy assaulted ...
A. 1 November 2007: I think its common for people who have been sexualy abused/assualted/raped etc when younger, to go from from exstreme to another when older. What I mean isoften they either have no self respect and sleep with amny people or, they dont get that close ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend being controlling?
Q. How can I tell if my boyfriend is being controlling? Some of the things he does are just annoying - for example, getting angry if another guy writes on my facebook wall or if I haven't talked to him long enough on the phone. But other things are ...
A. 1 November 2007: Oh and also, another thing you could do is call an victims abuse hotline. Or search the web for advice and support on abuse...there are SO many websites out there which you may find helpful. ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend being controlling?
Q. How can I tell if my boyfriend is being controlling? Some of the things he does are just annoying - for example, getting angry if another guy writes on my facebook wall or if I haven't talked to him long enough on the phone. But other things are ...
A. 1 November 2007: What your bf is doing is controlling and its abuse too!
You clearly arent happy in this relationship and your gut is telling you that its not right- listen to it! Because your gut is right. You deserve sooooooooooo much more then this. And you ... (read in full...)
She is affectionate but never actually tells me how she feels about me, which sometimes I need to hear. It's her first relation. Is it unusual what I ask?
Q. This may sound like a silly issue, but I'll take the risk and ask anyway! I've been with my partner for a year now, and things have been great. I love her, and she knows this as I've told her so on several occasions. The first time I told her,...
A. 1 November 2007: Its not a silly issue at all. Nothing is to small to ask for help here.
Your situation seems pretty much like what I was in earlier this year. Like your gf, I am shy and I had my first serious relationship this year. My bf said he loved me but I... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel so lost after breaking up?
Q. OK, last night I broke up with my bf of 4.5 yrs, we have'nt really been happy for the last yr or so as we lost our spark and both of us did nothing to help our relationship until it was too late. Last night, I sat him down and told him we are ...
A. 31 October 2007: Yes, its perfectly normal to feel lost, confused, sad etc!
And you probbaly will for a while...butttttt things will get better. Just dont give in. It will take sometime for things to get to a stage again where you will comfortable. Afterall, you ... (read in full...)
She called me a slut. Could he still love her?
Q. My boyfriend is going out with me but he talks to his ex. him and me been going out 6months, and his ex is that touchy type girl. she lived far away, about 8hrs away. I sadly had to move into dorms for college n mine is 1hr away. his ex just came ...
A. 31 October 2007: Its very understandable that you would be feeling worried, jealous and angry and all those types of emotions right now. Its always bad when a bf talks to an ex, neverless when they seem pretty close and are frineds. And to make matters worse in your ... (read in full...)
I cheated and I know its wrong, but it takes two to tango doesn't it?
Q. Do you think it's true that it's not ONLY the person who cheats who is at fault when it happens? I guess I was just wondering about your opinions because I would consider myself a very good person who was caught in a "grey" situation and un...
A. 31 October 2007: I dont think its fair to place blame on anyone here.
If their were issues in your relationship with your ex bf that lead to you feeling a need to cheat, sure you could say he is responsible for the ISSUES in your relationship. But I dont think yo... (read in full...)
My new gf's not ready for commitment, what should I do?
Q. My girlfriend and i have been together for just over 2 months. I really like her, but this is her 1st real relationship and i dont think she's quite sure what being with someone is all about.. I go to the same school as her, and see her for only...
A. 29 October 2007: I guess it comes down to what you feel is more important for YOU. So are satisifying your needs/desires/wants of being in a relationship most important or being with a girl who you really love, buttt still not fulfiling eveyrthing you need, but with ... (read in full...)
She doesn't talk much, is she just shy?
Q. So I'm just starting a relationship with this girl. we like each other and like spending time with one another. the thing i like most is that i have this certain feeling of peace around her, so i know there is something there. the thing i worry ...
A. 29 October 2007: Not everyone is talkative. Some people are just quiet by nature and this may be ur gf. How is she around her friends or family? If she doesnt talk much more around them either I would say she probably has a quiet nature, butt if she is super ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and never been kissed!
Q. Hey. I'm 15 and I've never been kissed. This probably sounds trivial, but I dislike talking about any kind of lovelife because of it. I've never been made to feel pretty by anybody except my two best friends and my family. I know that I'm not ug...
A. 27 October 2007: There is nothing wrong with you! Lots of people dont have their first kisses until they are older. I think alot of the time people just lie and say they have kissed someone before because they are too embarrased to admit the truth!
I know a fair f... (read in full...)
He says he is working but I see him online! I want this to work but feel he is lying.
Q. okay, back with my bf. he seems to be pretty honest, but he works at a fast food place (cuz hes 16. im 14-he dated a variety of ages so dont lecture meee please) well for someone who works 4-9 how could he be on myspace at 7?? i dont understand ...
A. 26 October 2007: As a regular user of myspace myself, I can tell you that myspace is VERY unreliable. Quite often it tells you certain people are online when they arent. Myspace stuffs up alot. Also maybe your bf goes on myspace before he starts work but then ... (read in full...)
I feel she is inconsiderate to me as concerns her relation with her ex, and others have noticed too she's putting me in an incomfortable position. Am I being unreasonable/jealous?
Q. I met a great girl 8 months ago. We get on fantastic. But a little problem is starting to put tension and barriers between us. we have run into her ex b/f on a number of occasions. On the first occasion at her local pub she chatted with him...
A. 24 October 2007: I think she is being inconsiderate of your feelings. She may well not have any intentions of cheating on you and she may not ever do that, buttt some of her behaviour around her ex is still disrespectful to you. I think the worst one was her ... (read in full...)
Bald or bushy? Why's my man obssessed with it?
Q. Iam 21 years old. I have been with my boyfriend now for a year. We generally have a satisfying sex life, except one thing: He wants me to shave "down there". I personally do not like or want to do it. I also dont believe in it. I believe a woman ...
A. 23 October 2007: It seems to me that him being less intimate is his way of tryign to force you into shaving down there. Which is a really immature way of him trying to prove his point. If your sex life was fairly good before, then him showing less interest now isnt ... (read in full...)
I've been chatting with him on the net, do I love him?
Q. i have been chatting with a guy on the net for the past 2 months. i understand him well. he too cares for me. but i think im falling in love with him. because most of the time, im thinking about him only. im 18 and he is 24, if he doesnt contact me ...
A. 23 October 2007: You could be in love. BUTTTT what seems to be happening from what you have said is you are allowing yourself to become dependent on him. You said you dont feel well if you havent spoken to him in a days time. This isnt healthy. Its bad to allow ... (read in full...)
He jacked off earlier and told me during sex why he was taking so long. It made me angry!
Q. Recently my bf and i were having sex and he was taking a really long time... so I started to feel self-concsious that I was doing something wrong. Then he said "Don't worry... it's not your fault... I "jacked off" today." I was so mad and hurt by...
A. 19 October 2007: It was either he be honest and tell you why he was taking so long, to save YOU from feeling self concious and bad about YOUR self...or he could lie and you would think you aren't good enough. Which would you rather? ... (read in full...)
Is this love, or is this friends with benefits?
Q. I was separated and became involved with someone who was a friend. She spent alot of time with me (she was going thru the same thing) and was very affectionate. It seemed like we had something very good happening to both of us and others around us ...
A. 19 October 2007: Its very sad what has happened, you guys started a relationship which she has defined as only being 'friends with benefits' and you have developed deeper feelings (which she too may have, but dosnt think shes ready for anything serious) and want ... (read in full...)
Is it stress or am I pregnant?
Q. Hey i need help please!! Okay you get asked this everyday im sure. But please be a little patient with me im 16 years old and scared to death. Ok me and my boyfriend have had sex WITHOUT protection, VERY stupid thing i know but it happened and...
A. 17 October 2007: I don't think anyone on hear can give you a good answer as to what your chances are of being pregnant. The symptoms you said you have could be because you are pregnant or they could be simply because you are fearing your pregnant so you are just ... (read in full...)
Why hasn't my boyfriend contacted me for a week since visiting his sister 3 weeks ago?
Q. help i'm in urgent need of advice or else i'm gonna go crazy.well my boyfriend visited his sister and has been gone for 3 weeks,anyway he was calling me everyday but now he has stoped. i havent heard from him in a week now and i refuse to call him ...
A. 17 October 2007: Try not to jump to any bad conclusions just yet. Although it may sound like something bad isgoing on, he could have a good reason, and this could all be a matter of miscommunication!
Dont dump him yet without talking to him first about why he hasn... (read in full...)
Is he cheating? I'm blonde but I'm not stupid!
Q. My partner and I have been together for six months. We're both late forties and although we don't yet live together, consider ourselves a committed couple. Whilst using his computer I discovered he's been indulging in sexual activities on-line with ...
A. 16 October 2007: I cant believe you are sticking up for him. Dont you think you deserve better then this? You do! No one, deserves to be in a relationship with someone who does that. And not only did he do that, but he lied about it. This is a pretty bad sign for ... (read in full...)
I leave him, but I can never seem to leave him for good... What do you think?
Q. I'm 21 and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We live together and have a little chihuahua that we both adore like nothing else. Sometimes my boyfriend can be so sweet and I can't believe I'm so lucky to have a boyfriend like him. But most ...
A. 16 October 2007: Well there is no doubt in my mind that you should leave your bf for good!
And I think you know this. Your head knows that you deserve better and the way hes treating you is wrong and should not be accepted. However something is holding you back... (read in full...)
I lover her, how do I get her to trust me again. I'm a pathological lier.
Q. i (a pathological liar) have been with a girl for nearly 4 and a half months which is a while for me, i have realized that i have fallen quite in love with her, well she recently found out i lied about a few things (my age, hobbies, and lack of a ...
A. 15 October 2007: Well no one can trust a lier, so in order for her to trust you, you have to work on yourself so you arent a pathological lier. So get some professional help so you can get to the root of whats causing this. If you do take action to get helpwith your ... (read in full...)
My friend is married into an abusive relationship. I fear for her safety. What can I do?
Q. I have a friend who is married to an abusive husband. 6 yrs ago we had an affair. I fell desperately in love with this woman. She said she felt the same about me. Her husband found out when she told him she wanted a divorce. He got violent on ...
A. 11 October 2007: Its hard for anyone who hasnt been abused before to understand why they 'just dont leave' the abuser. Often it boils down to deep insecurities, fear and isolation.
However I think by her calling you, it is her scream for help...I think she may ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mom my period has just started when I'm only 10 years old??
Q. HELP! I'm 10 years old and today I started my period in school today for the first time! I didn't tell my mom or the nurse. So so far no one knows except me of course. But I don't know how to tell my mom. She told me one of her freind's daughter is ...
A. 11 October 2007: Hey darling,
Its ok to have your period at 10, i got mine at that age too! I remember when i first got it i didnt even know what it was!!! I had nooo idea why this blood was coming out so i started crying and ran to my mum. But she was sooo supp... (read in full...)
Do I tell him I know I wasn't his first, or just let it go?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, and he is the only person I have slept with. However, before we started dating, he was in a relationship with a girl I knew from school, who I have now became good friends with. My boyfriend is ...
A. 10 October 2007: Dont jump to conclusions just yet, the 'friend' may be lying. Perhaps she has secret feelings for your bf and wants to ruin your relationship by making out as if he lied???
Its understandable that you would be feeling upset, confused and angry in... (read in full...)
How do I not ruin first dates?
Q. I am quite a shy person so at 20 i have just started dating. i had a date on tuesday with a girl who i seemed to like but i have probably cocked it up as there was at times long periods of silence (like 1 minute at one point). She had to go early as ...
A. 5 October 2007: I think most people feel shy at one point or another in their life!! However some let it drag on for too long and it basicaly controls their life as it limits what they can do. However there is lots you can do about it!! So many poeple are shy and ... (read in full...)
Is it love or lust?
Q. Can really great sex cause men to fall in love? And if a man says he doesn't love you, why does my bf - who says he doesn't love me - get really hard when I tell him that I love him?...
A. 2 October 2007: Ahh no, great sex cant make a man love you.
What do you think love means????? Sure he may love that you have great sex, but he wont love you pureley based on the fact that you have great sex.
... (read in full...)
I'm eaten up with jealousy. He keeps getting with other women!
Q. I'm so lost about this relationship. I worked with him and we started hooking up after I left (and moved to a different state for college, he is in his late twenties). We started out strong, I would visit him when I could and we'd have amazing times ...
A. 1 October 2007: Omg...thats horrible what you have been through!
You know what you should do? Leave him! I know its easier said then done BUT it can be done and im sure you can find the strength. I know you may not want to leave him because you love him and it s... (read in full...)
I love her so how do I get her to be exclusive to me?
Q. I really dont know how to start this, so I'm just gonna let it come out. I can't even really call her my girlfriend. We're together, but we're not 'together'. We dated a long time ago, but she ended it after a month. When I asked why, she said we...
A. 1 October 2007: Hi :)
I know you love this girl and its understandable that you dont want to let go of this relationship. But sometimes darling having love doesnt mean a relationship can work, which is unfortunate.
If there is one thing Ive learnt so far in... (read in full...)
Together 18 years. He cheated on me and I can't forgive. What do I do from here?
Q. Dear All I have read loads of question /amswers on this site on affairs and alcholics and agree with every one when advised to get out. Well I did get out,but he left me we were together 18yrs i found out he was cheating tryed to forgivre but c...
A. 1 October 2007: I think you know the right answer is to move on from him...
But you seem to be fearing that if you do take steps to move on, no one else will want you, because your husband was a alcoholic, lier and cheated on you? That doesnt say anything... (read in full...)
People tell me that I am beautiful, smart, have a shining personality, but guys never want to date me because of my weight? Why don't guys date big girls?
Q. I am 20 years old. I have had one serious relationship and a few boyfriends. I think it has been because I am overweight. I never thought it mattered. I love myself and i have more confidence than most people. People tell me that I am beautiful, ...
A. 30 September 2007: They may not be dating you because of your weight...it could be some other reason.
I myself am fairly skinny and people tell me im beautiful and I have a great personality too, but have always found it hard finding a guy who is interest... (read in full...)
Will it hurt my boys not to have a male influence in their lives?
Q. Curiosity question here. I am currently separated from my husband and seriously considering divorce. Of course at this time in my life I feel like I don't ever want another man in for life for as long as I live. Every experience I've EVER had ...
A. 30 September 2007:
My ex bfs parents split when he was very young, about 8 years old. He lived with his mother and chose not to see his father again. But the thing is, despite not having much contact with his father for the rest of his life, maybe like once a y... (read in full...)
Big Age Gap
Q. I have feelings for a female at work,but I am 52 and she is 29.Is this too much of an age difference? How would I tell if there is any interest on her part?...
A. 29 September 2007: I would say the age gap is too big to have a relationship. Sure you both may get along really well and you may both have feelings for each other, but whether or not a relationship would work is a different question. What you both want/need from the ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have the "all or nothing" mentality?
Q. Is it wrong to have the "all or nothing" mentality? Must we remain friends? Is it ok if you have no interest in being a friend to a woman who (place excuse here) and just wants to be friends. We have been close friends for 2 years and now th...
A. 29 September 2007: So basicaly your asking is it ok or wrong to either want to be in a relationship with this girl, or to have nothing and loose the friendship?
I dont think its wrong to feel like that! many people find it hard to maintain friendships with those th... (read in full...)
Does this mean he likes me?
Q. ok i know this sounds stupid by i need some help i think this boy likes me and shows me these signs my m8s says he does but im not so sure,so can you help with some of these signels that he does sometimes and tell me what you think? He punches ...
A. 26 September 2007: Sounds like he likes you to me :)
Does he call anyone else those affectionate names? If not then id say he def likes you!
And usualy when a guy play fights with you it means he likes you too.
If you like him too,try to give some hin... (read in full...)
Is what my teacher is doing to me OK?
Q. Okay i just wanna know one simple thing - is this inappropriate for a teacher to say or do? Well i went to see him to see what i had got in my test that my clas had done and when i asked him how did i do he said ''ohh i'll mark it just now''. I...
A. 25 September 2007: No doubt in my mind your teachers behaviour is in appropiate! However when he got angry at you and your bf, he had a right to. Most schools have rules about such phsyicaly contact. So he was just doing is job since he caught you two guys kissing.
... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble getting started with relationships!
Q. Trouble getting started with relationships... I am a 20 year old male. At the age of 20, I have never been involved in a relationship. The farthest I have gone is I kissed a girl (a friend about a month ago), but she's not interested in a ...
A. 25 September 2007: hey there!
I know exactly how you feel! I dont drink either and it is SO SO SO hard finding someone who doesnt drink!!! My only bf I have ever had did drink but once he started dating me, I 'inspired' him to stop it and he gave it up and never to... (read in full...)
I feel we're drifting apart and don't know how to fix things...
Q. I feel we are drifting apart... My boyfriend and I have been friends for 10 years and boyfriend/girlfriend for 7 months. We moved in together 2 months ago. Things were absolutely fine until an unfortunate series of events that began 4 weeks ag...
A. 25 September 2007: Thats alot to go through I must say! I cant even imagine how horrible you must be feeling at the moment. But good on you for asking how to fix things, rather look for a way out of the relationship- that shows courage, commitment and dedication.
... (read in full...)
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