My friends tease me about my ugly gf-I thinks she's beautiful! What can I do about these friends?
Q. I have a girlfriend currently but a lot of my friends think she is ugly but i think she's beautiful and i love her. I do get teased sometimes and it really gets on my nerves. what should i do???...
A. 12 December 2005: Either your 'friends' are exstremely shallow people or are simply just jealous. People who put others down and make fun of them do it either for power and control or through the emotion of jealousy, they see someone with somethign they want but they ... (read in full...)
Internet lover of 4 months wants to marry me! Is he just playing a game with me?
Q. Im a guy and with a relationship with another guy over on the internet for 4 months. We both love each other very much. My partner has ask me to be his husband and hes serious! Does this show that he really loves me or just playing games with me? ...
A. 12 December 2005: Well the fact that you are having doubts in his commitment seems to sugges to me that you are feeling maybe you don't want to either, thats why you can see maybe its not right, after you have only been chatting for 4 months.
I think due to the feel... (read in full...)
Dating an 18-year girl old as a 26-year old guy... What am I letting myself in for?
Q. I am attracted to an 18 year old girl (and she is attracted back) but I feel I shouldn't be as I am 26. Surely people of these ages are in a different place in their lives and it wouldn't work. Despite all of that I am probably going to unable ...
A. 12 December 2005: Ok so is your question what are the possible outcomes and results of you and the 18 year old girl getting together? Well first I guess it depends on what is meant by getting with her. Are you meaning to try a serious relationship? Or just more like ... (read in full...)
We broke up because of her problems...do I give her space or do I help her?
Q. My girlfriend and I broke up yesterday, ending a 11-month relationship. She broke it off because she's unhappy with us, and thinks that she's unhappy with us because she's unhappy with herself. She said she still loves me but wishes to break it ...
A. 12 December 2005: Well what do you think would happen if you did stay and tried to help her deal with her issues? Do you know exactly whats wrong and what are her issues? Do you have any idea of how you can help her? It seems to me that she has issues that she needs ... (read in full...)
I made my boyfriend up!
Q. When all my friends started to get boyfriends, I lied and told them that I had a boyfriend who lived in Scotland. I live in Wales so I'm sure they'll never find out if I don't tell them I made him up. My grandparents live in Scotland, so it ...
A. 11 December 2005: hello there,
You obviously lied because you were ashamed of the reality you are living in, you didn't like the truth and didn't want to face it, so to make yourself feel better for some time (as now a mount of guilt has risen) you made some... (read in full...)
I'm messing around with this guy at work but...he already has a gf!
Q. i recently started messing around with a great guy at work. but there are a few things wrong. he has a girlfriend,but in a few months after shes done with school shes moving out of state. he feels he loves her even though shes awful to him. he likes ...
A. 11 December 2005: Hello there,
The first thought that came to my mind when I read your post was, have you thought about if you were to persue a relationship with this guy if/when he was to end the relationship with his gf, do you think you could ever trust him? I me... (read in full...)
I'm upset at my bf..for going to a party without me-after we made out own special plans.
Q. My boyfriend works so i dont see him very often. In his free time I dont hear much from him and when i talk to him about it he says that he doesnt show emotions that easily unless he's in person with me. thats true though but I'd like him to pay ...
A. 11 December 2005: Your not over reacting, never feel that your feelings are wrong, that you shoudlnt or cant feel like that. You have every right to feel the way you do! Although your feeling very very hurt at the moment and I can understand why, I guess what really ... (read in full...)
Want to meet my online bf... but my family don't support me and they embarrass me by the way they act!
Q. I have a few questions in relation to my situation here. Basically I'm 16 years old and in high school. I have known a guy called Andy for a while, on the net. He's a really good person. Now before anyone even starts to warn me about all the poss...
A. 11 December 2005: thanks for the advice male anonymous (10 december) and female anonymouse (10 december). I am feeling quite more confident about speaking to my parents about it now. Yet about introducing him to my family is still a issue to be yet resolved. I have ... (read in full...)
I have an idealistic personality and I don't think he likes it too much..he's getting mean and bitter about it.
Q. I'm 19 and have been dating my first boyfriend for 2.5 months. He is a very realistic/down-to-earth and passive kind of guy, while I am just the opposite- very idealistic/dreamy and adventurous/active. It has been fun hanging out with him and our ...
A. 11 December 2005: Hello there,
Well the question is, are you sick of the way hes treating YOU, not if hes sick of you? In the end I think his behaviour is unacceptable, as it is hurting you.
I think it seems like you don't have much more hope for the relation... (read in full...)
I've fallen for a lad I know on the net... but he has a girlfriend already!
Q. Ok well here goes I really need some advice! I talk to a lad regularly on the net, we get on great, and we have become great friends. The thing is, I feel like I have fallen for him now and I don't know what to do. We've told each other we like ea...
A. 11 December 2005: Hello there,
Ohhh you must be feeling very frustrated at the moment hey, not knowing what to do? Ok so you like this guy, hes a great friend and you feel more for him then just a friend, you have romantic feelings for him. He has a gf yet some... (read in full...)
I don't like the way my girlfriend's been treating me...
Q. Dear Cupid, I am 22 years old and my girlfriend is 26. I love her more than anything but don't really like the way she treats me. We been togeather for 1 year. She treats me different compared to the way she use to, like she used to be more cari...
A. 11 December 2005: hello there,
it sounds like you are really feeling hurt by the way your gf treats you and i can understand that. First off I will ask you what are the positive things in your relationship with your gf, what are the things you love about her and what... (read in full...)
My experience with my best friend age 10, over a decade ago, leaves me thinking I may be gay?
Q. Hello,i got one question,i remember at the age of 10 my best friend(f) and i were playing and eventually we started touching each other,kissed and it felt good,my mom walked in and caught us,we were immediately separaete for life,i never saw her ...
A. 11 December 2005: The fact that you think that you may have romantic and sexual feelings for another woman suggest that there is a chance you could actually be considered 'gay' or 'bi'.
yet at the same time, remembering this experience with someone who was very... (read in full...)
I'm a good looking, laid back guy...so why can't I get a gf?
Q. im a single guy of 28. good looking not over weight. no baggage or issues, very laid back and easy going. one of those real good guys that is honest and reliable. doesnt get jealous, gives space and trust. can be quite shy and so on but defo have ...
A. 10 December 2005: hey there,
The only reason I can think of is that women think you aren't interested. They probably think you just like them as a friend so thats what they say back to save themself from putting thereself 'on the line'. So perhaps try making it clea... (read in full...)
The girl I love is leaving for a new job. How do I tell her I want to be with her?
Q. I have worked with this girl for 4 years and she is now leaving for another job. But I have realised that I am in love with her. I never knew I had such feelings until two weeks befor she left. I know she has a boyfriend but they only see each other ...
A. 10 December 2005: Hey there! Well not to long ago I was in a very similar situation to you. I had a bf yet a very close friend of mine who i once dated but he broke up with me was in love with me. he told me his feelings for me every day! no kidding. lucky for him i ... (read in full...)
It hurts me a lot because he kisses other girls..what can I do about him?
Q. i like my boyfriend and he says he likes me 2 but we keep having fights bacause he kisses other girls and if i kissed other boys id be dumped so i dont know what to do about him. i dont know if he really does like me he hurts me a lot...
A. 10 December 2005: Wow, I'm shocked that a guy could really just be that cruel to his gf, someone who he should care for and treat with respect and dignity. Hes not doing ANY of that. You said you like your bf, but then you are having all these horrible feelings due ... (read in full...)
never had a bf because I lack confidence...any ideas on what I should do?
Q. im a 16 year old girl and i have never been with a guy.i have two problems i am very shy and lack confidence.it gets me down that i have never experienced a relationship because all my friends do be talking about there boyfriends and it makes me ...
A. 10 December 2005: hey there :) I know how it can make you feel very down at times when you it seems like you are the only person in the world who hasn't had a bf at the age of 16. But remember, you don't know everyone in the world, your comparing yourself to your fri... (read in full...)
He makes sexual remarks about my Mom and Sister..is this normal?.
Q. I've been having a problem with my boyfriend for a little bit now. It seems that he thinks it's ok for him to say sexual remarks about my mom, my sister, and even some girls that he don't know. I'm pretty sure that he would never cheat on me, but I ...
A. 9 December 2005: Hello there, first off i hope those idiots who said to basicly get over it because its a joke and was funny didnt not upset you, althought it upset me to think that people could be SO inconsiderate about anothers feelings. What your bf is donig is... (read in full...)
I date guys who are bad for me...
Q. I really dont know how to stop hurting myself! I've been single for over a year now but every time I get close to someone I just end up hurting myself. I go with guys even though I know they're liars and cheaters. I end up falling for them and end...
A. 9 December 2005: I think perhaps the reason why you keep going out with guys who treat you badly and you mentioned in some of the times, if not most you knew they would treat you badly, is because you don't love yourself. If a person doesn't have alot of self ... (read in full...)
I cannot trust my bf because he lies..but I love him so how do I help him?
Q. Hi guys. i have been with my bf for 3 yrs. he is 28 and i am 26yrs. am afraid he isnt a very good person but his family and him keeps begging me to stay with him. his mum says i am good for him and will help him. Earlier on in the relationship he ...
A. 9 December 2005: Hello, well I don't know whether to congradulate you or not for trying to help your bf. I mean the thought is good, the intention is all well, but its not doing any good is it, unfortunatly. I mean you are obviously unhappy and hes not doing we... (read in full...)
We plan to marry...but the way he treats me, is creating huge doubts in me. Am I just being paranoid?
Q. hi, i am female of 27yrs and my boyfriend is 29. we have been together for 4 yrs now but i cant take anymore. he does things to me and tells me he is only joking. for instance he shows me intimate text messages from ladies and when i get angry with ...
A. 5 December 2005: It sounds to me that you are really quite miserable in this relationship. And let me stress the point to the max that the way hes treating you IS NOT RIGHT and its just NOT ACCETABLE. No one, and especially not you who seems like a caring person and ... (read in full...)
I want to believe that my boyfriend was so drunk he didn't know he was cheating...
Q. Recently, my boyfriend got really drunk and cheated with a close friend of mine while I was away, out of town. She wanted them to not tell me but he couldn't bear it and told me a few days after I got back. He says he was so drunk he didn't k...
A. 5 December 2005: Hello there, Im wondering how you exactly feel about your bf cheating on you? How does it make you feel about your relationship and who you are? or are you not really sure due to the fact that he was drunk and that could mean it was jsut an accident... (read in full...)
I went too far in my sexual exploration and now my girlfriend says she's lost trust in me!
Q. Ok so tonight I was in a horny mood and it was overwhelming me. My g/f, who I dearly love and plan to marry, wasn't really in the mood. We were sitting there and I started kissing and licking at her stomach and then began to move up to her ...
A. 5 December 2005: That person who said you should't have to ask for her permission since shes your gf is an idiot! Just because 2 people are bf and gf does not mean they own you or have control over you and thats basicly what your suggesting. Your suggesting that a ... (read in full...)
Should I find a random girl to kiss, just to get me started?
Q. Hi, I am 18 and have never had a girlfriend and never even kissed a girl. Do you think it would be good for me to pull a random girl in a club to boost my confidence? I have always thought that my first kiss would be (with someone) special. What do ...
A. 2 December 2005: I'm going to assume here that you feel that your no experiencing in kissing a girl is going to be a disadvantage when it comes to having a gf? If so, then don't be like that. Firstly girls are very understanding and if you choose a girl who is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to be alone with his depression, but wouldn't my support help him more?
Q. My boyfriend has been depressed for the about half a year. Recently it has gotten worse. He now says that we should break up because he needs time by himself to sort his life out. He says that he loves me, but that he needs to be alone. I want ...
A. 2 December 2005: I say dismiss what that last guy said (I'm sorry and do not wish to start a fight but if this really has been scienfitcially proven, I would like to see proof, references, do you have them? And besides that is only a majority, this guy could be the ... (read in full...)
Her parents won't let her marry me...help!
Q. I am 24 years old and I have found the girl of my dreams. She is 25 and I want to marry her and she wants to marry me. We have done every thing the right way, I have told my parents and she has told her parents. Her parents invited us around t...
A. 1 December 2005: Hello there, What this girls family is doing to her is abuse, by not feeding her, but feeding the other children, by making her walk in cold weather- thats neglect. They are also emotionaly abusing her by black mailing her emotionally, putting ... (read in full...)
Help me Ladies! What are the signs this lass fancies me?
Q. Come on ladies, how do I tell if a lass at work fancies me, signs, don't say just ask her because I have been wrong in the past, what signs can I look for. Help!...
A. 1 December 2005: Ditch what everyone else has said (no offence) but you just can't tell if someone likes you by what they do, or don't do. Everyone (man and woman) are different. Some are shy, some are outgoing, there for some will more liekly give 'hints' and some ... (read in full...)
My bf's religious beliefs makes him celibate but I am finding it tough.
Q. I find my bf sexually attractive, but his recent religious convictions make him not want to do anything physical, which is perfectly fine with me, although it's difficult sometimes I have to admit--but whenever we go out for the day and come back to ...
A. 1 December 2005: Perhaps sit on the floor? Put the tv in another room? Drag chairs in from another room? there are lots of things you can do, just use your imagination. good luck :) ... (read in full...)
I'm nice to my girlfriend, so why is she always so unhappy?
Q. I'm 16, and I've been with my girlfriend for a while now. I'm always nice to her and I always try to make her happy. But she always seems to be unhappy. Most of the time, it's about absolutely nothing though. I know it can't be her period, because ...
A. 1 December 2005: Hi there, Being with someone who is constantly unhappy sure isn't a good feeling for you is it? Not only can it bring your mood down, it can also make you feel like your being a baf bf, one who cant please somoene they care for and who should b... (read in full...)
I lied and I got sprung. Now I want to get my boyfriend to trust me again!
Q. Hi. I have done something incredibly stupid. I lied to my boyfriend. He might be leaving or at least sleeping in there. A few weeks ago when I went home to visit friends and my parents, I went to a party. Knowing how uneasy it makes him about my...
A. 1 December 2005: I'm sorry to say but you broke his trust and you did that and it was your choice. How can you justify drinking when it makes your partner feel hurt by 'I rarley get to go home and see my friends and family', so? That doesn't mean you had to drink. ... (read in full...)
After almost a year of dating we haven't had intercourse...and it's driving me crazy!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for a little under a year, and we have a fun sex life, with one exception; we have never had penetrative sexual intercourse, and she says she wants to wait until she is married. I do see my self marrying her, ...
A. 1 December 2005: In life sometimes we have to make sacrifices for those we love and this may be just one of those times for you! I know it must be hard for you, but you have to respect and accept what your gf has said. Although you have every iintention to marry her ... (read in full...)
Six months of dating and he's so wonderful...is this too good to be true and will it last?
Q. There are times when my bf seems to good to be true: meaning that he listens, is considerate, takes time to come see...we've been going out for about 6 months..could I confidently say that this is a part of his character and be confident this good ...
A. 1 December 2005: Hello, My first question to you is, what is making you have doubts? Is it that you see something in him that might make you believe he will turn out not to be the oh so perfect partner, or are you just looking other peoples bad experiences with mal... (read in full...)
After he kissed another girl, he assumed I'd dump him. Should I?
Q. My bf kissed another girl last wkend, he told me straight away and basically assumed that I'd dump him. The thing is I do forgive him, I admire the fact that he told me straight away and he even went and told his parents and I know he feels ...
A. 1 December 2005: Hello there, Wow you must be a very forgiving type person to be able to think about taking back someone who betrayed you. First off lets understand the topic of cheating and why people (men AND women) do it, ok? People cheat for many reasons, ... (read in full...)
Does my gf have feelings for my best friend in prison? How do I know for sure what's going on?
Q. Dear Cupid, My ex and I dated for about 4 years but about a month ago she broke up with me because I accused her several times of having feelings for my best friend who is currently incarcerated in a Illinois State Prison. I didn't want to o...
A. 30 November 2005: Hello there, Ok firstly, don't let yourself feel guilty for accusing her of that, if you felt like that well then thats not your fault. You must of felt pretty bad to have those feelings. I know it must hurt when someone you love, might have fee... (read in full...)
I feel like I have a lot of problems, but no one to talk about them with...
Q. Every normal girl can talk to someone. Their mum or their dad or even their sister. Not me. My dad is lovely though. I accidentally wind him up a bit. My sister is only kind to me when she's not on MSN or with her friends or basically never. My ...
A. 30 November 2005: Hello there, It sounds like your feeling very bad at the moment, and from just reading that I can understand why. Firstly dear, eveyrone in your life is just plain idiots. They don't treat you very well or seem to care for you. (Now this is not your... (read in full...)
My bf is physically abusing me and has threatened to kill me. My kids and I need to get away...I am terrified-please help me!
Q. I have been in a relationship with my son's dad for almost 4 years now. After we found out that we were having my son, he started getting verbally abusive, and eventually physically abusive. I have tried to leave him but I can't get away. Now that ...
A. 30 November 2005: My God, this is a serious, serious, seriouos situation. What is happening to you and your kids is horrible, horrible can't even explain it, it is wrong, and outragous that a human being could do this to you or anyone. First of it is good that you ... (read in full...)
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