I feel that is my fault and I should probably cut all ties no matter how much I love her and miss her. What do you guys think...?
Q. Hi all.. I'm very new here. I have an issue with relationships. They all end the same way. I just recently was engaged and I have always treated my women like gold. I am very loving, caring, romantic, affectionate and down to earth. My woman...
A. 17 August 2007: Well let me just start off by telling you, you arent alone! Many other people (males and females) go through what you are going through. I myself have been through asimilr situation where I wanted to be with my bf 24/7...and he was the type to 'like ... (read in full...)
Can anyone give me ideas about how not to screw things up when I'm dating a woman?
Q. I was at a party at the weekend and I saw this girl I fancied. I was so close to asking her out but my mind kept saying "no don't do it." The reason for this is that, last March, I had my one and only girlfriend (well a date) and we went out on t...
A. 17 August 2007: Try not to let your past experiences get you down. I know this is hard not too, but once you can start doing it, it really opens you up to so many new and great experiences. You may notof done ANYTHING at all wrong to cause the end of the last ... (read in full...)
My wife and I don't get along - would it be wrong to have sex with my ex?
Q. My wife cheated on me several times. We started to divorce but then we decided to give it another try. I must admit I hold onto a lot of resentment for all the lies and deciet along with her excuse that it was my fault she cheated. Things were good ...
A. 16 August 2007: You know how much it hurt you, when your wife cheated on you, so why put another HUMAN BEING through this on purpose? I know you obviously have alot of anger towards her for doing that to you, and perhaps part of you doesnt understand why its ok for ... (read in full...)
I told him I found out about his sexual chats w/ other girls - now we don't trust each other!
Q. I found chatting communication of my boyfriend and girls on the net. We just bought a house and talking about having kids. Those conversations, were recent and he was initiating them. To girls he chatted long time ago. Last year he had sexual ...
A. 16 August 2007: I would say move on. This guy is trying to place the blame on you. Instead of steping up, being a man and admitng that it was wrong of him to have such conversations with other females, he is shifting the focus towards what you did...which might be ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my partner to go on holiday with her father and our sons a regular basis without me?
Q. I am in love with a woman who at times is the highlight of my life. We have one son together and she has one son from a previous relationship. Is it normal for a woman to want to go away with her father and my sons on a regular basis( vacations, ...
A. 16 August 2007: I can understand how you find this hard to understand, because I do too. Its not something I have ever really heard of other people doing. I remember when I was a little kid, I went on a couple of holidays with my sister, mum and grandfather, ... (read in full...)
Should i change myself for him?
Q. I am 17 years old and fell for a friend of mine (23 years old). i just recently found out that he has feelings for me too. i have liked him for a long time and would really like for us to start a relationship together. the reason i fell for him in ...
A. 16 August 2007: I know you really like this guy but acting older then what you are wont make things work between you and this guy. Even if you were a really good actor...there would still be evidence of you being less mature then what he may be and this will ... (read in full...)
I'm on birth control but there was about two days in a row that I didn't take it. Could I get pregnant on those days I didn't take it?
Q. I'm on birth control but there was about two days in a row that I didn't take it. Could I get pregnant on those days I didn't take it and what is the likelihood that I can get pregnant on the pill. I'm always hearing stories about how women got ...
A. 15 August 2007: If you had sex on those days you would not be protected from pregnancy, so yes you could get pregnant then. If you didnt have sex then try not to worry....i think if you continue to take your pills every day, you will be ok after 14 days? im not too ... (read in full...)
I always swore to myself that I'd never be a victim, and just writing this, I feel like one...
Q. I have a boyfriend whom I love very much.. He's a nice guy, usually. And he treats me well. He'd never hit me, and he doesn't hurt me on purpose.. He's a little older than me, and sometimes I don't understand things, or I don't know things, and I'm ...
A. 15 August 2007: As Eve said, if its your gut feeling then there is a high chance it could turn worse. Trust yourself and your gut feeling, even though I know you dont want to beleive it, you would rather beleive everything is good.
Despite the age differen... (read in full...)
How do I get him to realise the consequences of his actions??
Q. My girlfriends son is 13yrs old and talks to his mother like she is dirt. He always wants and wants but never shows appreciation for what she provides for him. He throws temper tantrums and slams his door to his bedroom, or pouts and won't talk to ...
A. 15 August 2007: This is more then just an issue of not being strict enough with the son. Sounds to me the son is having alot of troulble dealing with his parents breaking up. His "tantrums" as you call it are more then just that...he is unable to tell you and his ... (read in full...)
Does the 72 hour pill go on my record?
Q. will the 72 hour pill go on my doctors record? really worried, just had sex and was unprotected :S i no it was stupid of me..but i wanna get the 72 hour pill but my mum doesnt know ive lost my virginity? any ideas???? please help x...
A. 15 August 2007: I duno what its like in your country but in Australia you dont need to go to your doctor to get the morning after pill.
You can go straight to your chemist/pharmacy and they will ask you a few questions like when was your last period and did you ... (read in full...)
Do you think that it is possible to have many sexual partners in 1 night stand bases without her looking for sex?
Q. I'm 29, my partner is 21. I had 2 sexual partners 1 through marriage and 1 short term relationships, never 1 night stand. My partner was sexually active since the age of 14, she had 30 sexual partners most of them were 1 night stand. She keeps ...
A. 15 August 2007: I guess it could be argued either way. My persnal way of thinking is that I wouldnt have sex with a guy unless I wanted to, so say if I was your gf and had had sex with so many guys, then I would of wanted to.
However, I find it a bit hard to ... (read in full...)
What is the difference between confidence, over-confidence and arrogance
Q. Hi there Can anyone tell me: What is the difference between confidence, over-confidence and arrogance? How can you tell if a person is over-confident, not just confident? How can you tell when someone is confident and when someone is...
A. 15 August 2007: Confidence is being comfortable with who you are. Beleiving in yourself and your capabilities. Confidence is something you usaly find in assertive people. Which is where you should try to be, because assertive people get what they want in life ... (read in full...)
I need tips on how to look older...
Q. Hey, I need tips on how to look older, I'm going to be 15 in the next few weeks and I look about ten. It's really annoying. I've got chin length dark brown hair. but I'm rather short in height. Is there any way to look older without slapping...
A. 15 August 2007: The length of your hair isnt helping...it would be def making you look younger then what you are. Grow your hair a bit and get some layering perhaps. But dont grow your hair too long because quite often little girls have really long hair- so dont ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a girl from another country. Will it, can it or has this worked for anyone ever?
Q. I'm in love with a girl from another country. Will it, can it or has this worked for anyone ever? ...
A. 15 August 2007: I suppose it comes down to the people. Some people can make it work, some cant. It depends what you both want out of a relationship. Write down a list of things you want and get her to do the smae. Then see if you can stll have these things with the ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend loved me sooooooo much but after 6 months she suddenly said that she is not intrested in me and I really don't know why...? I didn't do anything bad...
Q. My girlfriend loved me sooooooo much but after 6 months she suddenly said that she is not intrested in me and I really don't know why...? I didn't do anything bad... ...
A. 15 August 2007: Wow that must be hard for you to deal with, not having a understanding for really why she ended it. Its hard to understand and even cope with, that if she loved you soooo much, how could she just lose interest so suddenly?
Personally I would susp... (read in full...)
What does it mean when you ask a girl out, but she replys with ... a "I don't want to hurt you" comment?
Q. What does it mean when you ask a girl out, but she replys with ... a "I don't want to hurt you" comment?...
A. 14 August 2007: It could mean a number of things. It could mean she seems to always hurt the guys she goes out with and thinks you deserve much more then her. It could mean shes not ready for a relationship, so if she was to go out with you, it just wouldnt work ... (read in full...)
Is it normal not to bleed when you lose you virginity? I lost it to my boyfriend and I didn't bleed and now he thinks I didn't lose it to him!
Q. Is it normal not to bleed when you lose you virginity? I lost it to my boyfriend and I didn't bleed and now he thinks I didn't lose it to him!...
A. 14 August 2007: I never bleeded when I had sex for the first time. The belief that if you dont bleed when you have sex, means you must not be a virgin is an outdated beleif. These days many girls hymen is broken before they have sex from things such as exercise or ... (read in full...)
He tells me that he loves me more than anything in this world but sometimes I feel like he doesn't really mean it and that he is not bothered about me.
Q. Me any my boyfriend have been together for nearly 2 years now and he tells me that he loves me more than anything in this world but sometimes I feel like he doesn't really mean it and that he is not bothered about me. It has really been getting ...
A. 14 August 2007: Love isnt something you just feel- it's something you do. Love is a verb, its an action word, its what you do! As they say, actions speak louder then words. And it seems that you do not feel that your bf is acting in a way that he loves you, hes ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always talks about his ex partners or people he's slept with and it really upsets me.
Q. My boyfriend always talks about his ex partners or people he's slept with, he makes it a subject and it really upsets me. We've been together a year and I don't want to leave him because I love him. I've told him to stop talking about it but he ...
A. 14 August 2007: Thats really disrespectful of your bf by talking about his ex gf's like he is. Its even worse when you have told him how it makes you feel and he continues to do it, and just blames it on you, saying its 'your problem'. I know you love him, but ... (read in full...)
Should we give it one more try?
Q. I still love my ex and she loves me too. what should I do should I give it one more shot or should I leave it alone? We've broken up twice already and I'm afraid that if we give it one more try I will end up heartbroken again but I want to try ...
A. 14 August 2007: I would say giving it another go would just be leaving you both to suffer heartbreak again. Something is obviously not right between the two of you if you have broken up twice already. Why did you break up? Unless you have addressed these issues of ... (read in full...)
I just want to know if i should move on from my ex?..
Q. I dont really know where to start.... Basically i just want to know if i should move on from my ex?.. To cut a long story short; we went out for 18 months, we lived together, engaged etc, then i got a text from a guy in my past, i told this guy i ...
A. 13 August 2007: If I was you I would try to move on from your ex. My reasons for saying that is because firstly, he sounds like he has a lot of issues- trust issues and insecurities. You cant be in a healthy, well working relationship with somoene when they have ... (read in full...)
My Dad is an important guy in the Army and wants me to have a bodyguard!
Q. so, my dad's a General in the army here. so hes supposed to be like important. Also, he's very overprotective, an he wants me to have a bodyguard. At first i thought he was crazy! but i thought about that and i got to the conclusion that it really ...
A. 12 August 2007: I dont understand why anything would happen to you just because your dad is a general in the army...... (read in full...)
Why did she respond as she did?
Q. Hello everyone, I had not initiated contact with my ex-girlfriend, who broke up with me, for seven weeks, when she started to instant message me everyday for eight days in a row. They were not just brief messages, as we would talk for 30 minu...
A. 12 August 2007: I think she replied that way because instead of adressing any issues that caused the break up, you are just saying you want sex. If you were serious about her, I would say you should look at a different way of 'getting her back', because sending ... (read in full...)
I'm fed up of having casual sex, I want a boyfriend.
Q. I think i'm falling for this guy... He told me the other night that he was into me and also said he would love to "have fun" with me. The thing is, this guy is gay...(I'm a girl). He said although he's gay he likes a very select few girls. I'm very ...
A. 12 August 2007: In order to achieve your goal of having a bf and not just casual sex I think you have to stop the casual sex altogether. Any potential boys might see you and think you dont want a relationship because you are sleeping around and such. Also by giving ... (read in full...)
He makes me feel bad about myself constantly...is it supposed to be this way?
Q. Are relationships ment to be like this? I'm 17 and I've been with my boyfriend since I turned 15. I really do love him he just makes me feel bad about myself constantly. The other day he told me if we finished no one else would stay with me bec...
A. 11 August 2007: You're bf is abusive. Do you knwo what that is? Seriously...im suprised you dont know that this is wrong. What hes doing is wrong, its as simple as that and seriously...why shuld you care if he goes out with someone else who might upset him? He ... (read in full...)
Mom is flirting with my bf! Should I be concerned or is this harmless fun?
Q. Help! My mother has been flirting with my boyfriend ever since she met him. I'm not sure if he's interested in her, he says she's too old for him even though she looks hot for her age. Sometimes when he comes over to visit she'll take him out to ...
A. 11 August 2007: At first I was thinking maybe your mum just wants to know the guy her daughter is dating, often parents like to do this, because if they know the guy well, then they feel safe knownig what type of person their daughter is dating. However when you ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so self conscious all of a sudden?
Q. Hi I would like to know if anyone can help me understand why all of a sudden I feel very self-conscious? I went through a bad break-up over a year and a half ago, and lost my self-confidence. It took me a long time to get it all back. When I ...
A. 11 August 2007: Self esteem issues are often very deep and can be helped a lot by talking to a counsellor. So my advice to you is to talk to a counsellor about your issues, they will be able to help you work through it :) ... (read in full...)
When he asks why we're together or why I love him, I never know what to say
Q. i want to know how to communicate with your lover, when ever he talks about why you love him or why we are in to relationship. i cant answer and he looks like am not serious. i want to know how to alway talk with him. thanks...
A. 9 August 2007: I used to have this problem too with my bf. For me, it was just hard because I hadnt said I love you to a bf before and hadnt gotten very deep and meaningful with anyone before (besides like family and frineds). My bf used to question my feelings to ... (read in full...)
Is this age difference wrong? She's 17 and wants us to have sex!
Q. Hi Im 26 and a girl I have known who is 17 has let me know she is interested in me and wants to have sex! I told her she was too young and my friends and family would kill me but she said 'can you not keep a secret?' Im meeting her on Friday ...
A. 9 August 2007: I think that since you are older, you should be the mature one in this situation and tell her no. She is 17 and lots of people have sex at this age but very often regret it later. Do you want to be the one she regrets it with?
Although ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know how I could track down a person who I met in a local supermarket?
Q. Does anyone know how I could track down a person who I met in a local supermarket? I didnt take their phone number and im now really gutted? Any ideas would be great!...
A. 7 August 2007: yeah like everyone else has said, go to the store at the same time again...and walk around trying to find them! i used to work at a supermarket and a lot of our customers would come in at the same time each week. and have a plan of what you are ... (read in full...)
I was asked out the other day by a 15 year old girl but I'm 23. Should I go?
Q. Hi all I'm a 23 year old male and was wondering if you could give me some help and or your opinion on what I should do. I was asked out the other day by a 15 year old girl. I have known her quite a while and get on really well with her. She is v...
A. 5 August 2007: It would be illegal for you to have any sexual relationship with her. But if you were to just date her it wouldnt be illegal. You have to think whether or not you would be ok with having no sex? If so then dating her could be a option. However you ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that your boyfriend loves you but also wants sex everytime you're together?
Q. Is it possible that your boyfriend loves you but also wants sex everytime you're together? ...
A. 3 August 2007: yeah it is possible but it is also possible that the person could just be saying they love you in order to get sex everytime.
in order to have a better understanding of which it really is in this case, look for other signs. like i mean he may w... (read in full...)
I skipped a day on the pill! What should I do?
Q. I've been on the pill for 4 years, and have never missed one until this morning. I am using it as a contraceptive and have had sex a couple of times a day for a few weeks. Do I need to take the morning after pill from the family planning clinic? And ...
A. 3 August 2007: You should read the instructions inside the packet of your pills, they will inform you of what to do when you miss a pill. ... (read in full...)
What should I do when I like a man 10 years older than me?
Q. i found out the other day that this lad likes me but there are big problems one he is 28 and i am 18 and another one is my mam wont allow it but he seems to realy like me and i like him too i have done for sometime, i dont know what to do, they say ...
A. 3 August 2007: Im sure the two of you could have a high chance of geting along really well and perhaps even fall in love, despite the age difference. However just because two people love each other, it doesnt mean the relationship will work. Love doesnt equal a ... (read in full...)
I just wanted to know what are the differences between cheating in a relationship, going on the rebound and having a affair is.
Q. I just wanted to know what are the differences between cheating in a relationship, going on the rebound and having a affair is. Why do these types of relationships have a low probabilty of working out?...
A. 3 August 2007: cheating- the meaning of this really comes down to personal opinion and its somthing that if you are in a relationship, you should talk about to your bf/gf with about hwat you define cheating as. some would say flirting is a form of cheating, ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend, but we constantly talk and flirt. What should I do?
Q. Okay so there is this guy that i like. I've liked him for a while, and we've been talking alot lately, on the computer, and I've hung out with his friends a few times. Last night for example, it was me and 9 guys. The problem is that he's seeing s...
A. 3 August 2007: It sounds like he could like you, but you have to really think about whether or not this is the type of guy you want to get involved in. I mean seriously, he has a gf, and hes flirting with you, telling you you are good looking and never mentioning ... (read in full...)
How would I tell my mum if I accidentally got pregnant?
Q. Ok well here goes.. Im 14 nd ma bf is 15 nd we are havin sex. Im completly comfortable wit it. Ive discussed wat would happen if i got pregnant nd he said he would stay wit me nd help look afta da baby. But im still worried. If he does get me ...
A. 1 August 2007: I think you should tell your mum now that you are having sex, that way she can advise you and your bf on how to have safe sex, in order to not have a unwanted pregnancy. It sounds to me like you wouldnt mind having a baby, yet you know your mum ... (read in full...)
How would I tell my mum if I accidentally got pregnant?
Q. Ok well here goes.. Im 14 nd ma bf is 15 nd we are havin sex. Im completly comfortable wit it. Ive discussed wat would happen if i got pregnant nd he said he would stay wit me nd help look afta da baby. But im still worried. If he does get me ...
A. 1 August 2007: I think you should tell your mum now that you are having sex, that way she can advise you and your bf on how to have safe sex, in order to not have a unwanted pregnancy. It sounds to me like you wouldnt mind having a baby, yet you know your mum ... (read in full...)
My family seems cursed never to find love; will I be the same?
Q. I am in a relationship of 6 months and i really love her. However both my parents and both my sisters havnt been that lucky in love. My mum has had many husbands and divorced my dad when i was young. Both my sisters have also gone through divorces. ...
A. 1 August 2007: First of all you must realise that the divorce rates these days are exstremely high, so just because many people in your family have had them, it doesnt mean its something to do with your family in particular- alot of people go through it. However, ... (read in full...)
It was only pre cum.
Q. i had unprotected sex with my partner three weeks ago but he didn't come only precome, i've been feeling sick lately. Do i have a high chance of being pregnant?...
A. 1 August 2007: You could be pregnant from that, the chances of it, im not sure. I would assume they arent that high, but im no expert. Either way, whether the chances are high or not, you need to find out if you are pregnant. Either go visit your doctor or get a ... (read in full...)
Should I put up with him going on 2 month long vacations without me?
Q. Am I overreacting? I live with my fiance and he said that he thinks we spend too much time together like any other couple that lives together and that we are starting to take each other for granted. So, therefore, he thinks the vacations that he has ...
A. 1 August 2007: why dont you suggest to him instead of letting it build up so he "has" to take a 2 month vacation, that he has his alone time in little bits here and there. for example you could go out of the house one night for a while with some friends, have ... (read in full...)
Should I put up with him going on 2 month long vacations without me?
Q. Am I overreacting? I live with my fiance and he said that he thinks we spend too much time together like any other couple that lives together and that we are starting to take each other for granted. So, therefore, he thinks the vacations that he has ...
A. 31 July 2007: Somtimes people just shock me so much. In all honestly I cant seem to get where your bf is coming from. I mean if he wants "me" or "alone" time, it doesnt have to be 2 months does it?
Have you told him that you understand he needs time by himself ... (read in full...)
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