She is a bit of a shy person and supports sex after marriage! I am exactly the opposite!
Q. I am in a confused state of my mind regarding my girlfriend.. We were friends from college but chose different universities in different cities to stay in...so we have always been in a long distance relationship..but v hve been together for 4 years ...
A. 31 July 2008: You can love someone but NOT have sex with them. Just because you are in love, doesnt mean you have to have sex. You need to understand that because thats how your gf feels.
To her, sex is more then love, its about being making love to that one ... (read in full...)
How can I get over the effects of prior sexual abuse?
Q. Hi. I have just found out that a guy who i met on holiday sexually abused (unwanted touching, comments etc.) i didnt know it was abuse until a recent event. since then my flashblacks have occured more often, and my reaction is much higher ...
A. 30 July 2008: No you can still ring them :)
They help children with ANY problems, whether that be a child and adult relationship or a childs relationship with another child.
So give them a ring, they will really help. I was sexualy abusd and didnt seek c... (read in full...)
Not ready for sex and too scared to tell my boyfriend...
Q. im not ready to have sex but my boyfriend is and i don't want to tell him what should i do...
A. 29 July 2008: Why are you scared of telling your bf that you are not ready?
What do you think his reaction will be?
Do you fear he will dump you? If so, then that just proves hes not good enough for you! In all honestly, if your bf is a decent guy he wi... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of really bad breath?
Q. Hi okay this is pretty embarassing, I have had really bad breath for a while maybe like a week or something... anyways I have tried so many remedies like tongue scraping, mouthwash, chewing parsley, and many others and it just isn't working!! My ...
A. 28 July 2008: Have you tried flossing your teeth? Make sure you do that once every single day. Its really important to get floss so you can get out all the bits of food stuck between your teeth, that your toothbrush and mouthwashes cannot get out. If you dont you ... (read in full...)
How can I get over the effects of prior sexual abuse?
Q. Hi. I have just found out that a guy who i met on holiday sexually abused (unwanted touching, comments etc.) i didnt know it was abuse until a recent event. since then my flashblacks have occured more often, and my reaction is much higher ...
A. 28 July 2008: I am very sorry for what happened to you. What you went through was a very very traumatic experience and you need to deal with what happened and your feelings, so you can move on.
Its not just something you can just 'get over', it takes time, an... (read in full...)
Could your hymen break from being fingered? Does precum represent a risk?
Q. I have two questions. One is my bf and I were fooling around and I was stroking him and he fingerd me. Could your hymen break from being fingered cause after I had a little blood when I went to the bathroom and wiped myself. Second question is: when...
A. 27 July 2008: 1. Yes your hymen can be broken from being fingered. If you havent had sex before, but your hymen has been broken due to fingering, you are still a virgin.
2. Yes, the stuff that came out was probably precum which can get you pregnant since hi... (read in full...)
I hate to think that anorexic, fake breasted whores are better than me! How do I stop being insecure?!
Q. I hate having to compete with media beauties. My boyfriend (23) admitted that the girls on TV are supposed to represent the fantasy of the ideal female. He says they're hotter than the average female because that's what they're paid for, the same as ...
A. 25 July 2008: Oh and just another thing to add...
If say you were to get the figure just like the majority of women on tv, I can say with 100% confidence it will not cure your insecurities. This is because no matter how great you look, no matter how much peo... (read in full...)
I hate to think that anorexic, fake breasted whores are better than me! How do I stop being insecure?!
Q. I hate having to compete with media beauties. My boyfriend (23) admitted that the girls on TV are supposed to represent the fantasy of the ideal female. He says they're hotter than the average female because that's what they're paid for, the same as ...
A. 25 July 2008: There are two issues here.
One is you feeling so insecure about your looks. Alot of the issue does lie with you and I say that because you said you have struggeled with self esteem for a long time. So your insecurities have been there all along an... (read in full...)
Am I crazy and sick for thinking my boyfriend is getting off with my kid's underwear?
Q. Hello I am very disturbed right now and need to get some feed back. Maybe I am crazy. I have been dating this guy for almost three years. Certain times I get the feeling that he has a sick sexual side. Besides the fact that we have major issues a...
A. 25 July 2008: You have me convinced that he is doing something very wrong.
I think he must be doing something with your daughters underwear...and thats just the beguining. It woudlnt suprise me if he has or will sometime attempt to touch your daughter and sexu... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't have sex with me!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 6 months and we do have a happy relationship, but my boyfriend still won't have sex with me! I have tried to be alluring and sexy for him but he just never seems interested in me. I'm still a virgin and i feel ...
A. 22 July 2008: I understand that you must feel rejected and bad about yourself as your bf doesnt want to have sex. But just because he doesnt doesnt mean there is anything wrong with you!
Have you asked him WHY he doesnt want to have sex.
Im sure if you aske... (read in full...)
Biology question - can you get pregnant from this?
Q. can you get pregnant if he fingered you and his finger had cum on it but the morning after you got your period, and then.. while you were on your period u had sex? ...
A. 22 July 2008: Yes if any cum comes into contact with your vagina then you could get pregnant. Even though you had your period the next day it still means you could be. This is because if you do get pregnant you dont suddenly start missing your period the next day ... (read in full...)
How do I show a guy that his actions are insensitive and upsetting without appearing nagging and annoying?
Q. hey there. i was just wondering how do i show a guy that his actions are insensitive and upsetting without appearing nagging and annoying, i've tried the silent treatment or purposely pulling away from him, but it didn't work, cause it ended up with ...
A. 21 July 2008: Its ok to tell a guy that you are upset. Its not nagging! Just calmly tell him how you feel and give him examples of what types of behaviour make you feel that way. Tell him you arent telling him to put him down or critize, but just so he knows and ... (read in full...)
My online boyfriend said he wanted to get married and then deleted me! What did I do wrong?
Q. I really liked this guy and i knew him only online.I stopped going online and he started calling me 3 months after i stopped going online.He called me with 5 weeks difference, because i had feelings for him i tolerated that.He told me he wanted to ...
A. 20 July 2008: What a jerk!!! I dont think you did anything wrong. I think what happened was more about HIM then it was about you.
No decent, mature, respectable guy would of said 'happy fucking birthday' to a lady. ... (read in full...)
Can I get your opinion... how long do you date him before you sleep with him?
Q. Single Adults... After you have started dating someone, when do you think that sex begins to be expected? First week? First month? When? For men, since you are usually the ones most concerned about this topic, what are your personal ex...
A. 18 July 2008: Why are you worrying about what the majority think?
Honestly, I can understand wanting a majority view on topics and so on, but when it comes to something personal, such as sex, the majorty's views shoudlnt really have anything to do with what you... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be upset? His friends talk crap about me when they have never even met me!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for roughly a year now. We'll call him A. A and I have an all around great relationship except for a few things here and there. Whats bothering me the most is that if not all of his friends most of them hate me and ...
A. 18 July 2008: I think you have every right to be upset about what is being said about you! And I think it must make the situation even worst that your bf is not being sensitive to your feelings and hes not standing up for you, his gf!!!
Your bf should be stand... (read in full...)
I embraced Christianity, but I still have the urge to be a swinger. Can anyone help me?
Q. Wow this is scary, but I just thought it would be easier then going to a counselor or something. Before I gave my heart to Christ, my very beautiful and yes sexy wife and I played around with the thoughts of swinging. After we be came Christian we ...
A. 17 July 2008: Hmmm first I am wondering what were your reasons for embracing Christianity in the first place? ... (read in full...)
Was I too impatient with him? Could I have done things differently?
Q. Hi.I've been upset about something and i cant understand why.Last september,i met a guy who is two years younger than me in a nightclub and we swopped phone numbers.We texted each other alot for the first couple of weeks and i found out we had a lot ...
A. 17 July 2008: This guy's lame excuse of "sorry when i dont reply its because im really busy with work" is a cover up for the truth.
In the beguining when you know he was keen he found the time to text you ALOT, but then he lost interest or something and he s... (read in full...)
Would he love me more if I was in a porn film?
Q. If your boyfriend watches Internet porn should you film an internet porn film of yourself? My boyfriend watches porn, even though he thinks I don't know it. He goes on the internet, and he consistently lies about going on the porn sites, even thou...
A. 13 July 2008: PsyCookie got it right when she said "This is just like the equivalent for a 15-year-old to ask his 13-year-old girlfriend to sleep with him so she can "prove" him she loves him."
So really, ask yourself what would you say to a 13 year old girl... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is going round the world for 10 months. Should I split up with him before he goes?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly three years, in October he is going travelling around the world for a minimum of 10 months. I don't know what to do, as it's making me upset all the time. Its his dream and I completely respect it, I ...
A. 10 July 2008: You have been together for 3 years and hes going away for 10months and you're thinking about dumping him?!
Honestly, 10 months is not that long in the long run. Have you guys planned to have a future together? Or have you atleast hoped you woul... (read in full...)
Why did he suddenly tell me he didn't want it to go any further?
Q. Hello please help. I met this guy (22) at a bar about 3 weeks ago. I kinda knew him b4 but only through friends of friends and we never really spoke before. He asked for my number and we were talking and texting. He asked me when he could take me ...
A. 10 July 2008: I feel so sorry for you! I know how you feel. I once had a bf who was all over me like a rash...he was making plans for our future and acted like he was really really really intersted in me. Then one week I got sick, so I didnt see him much that ... (read in full...)
My husband and his ex are chatting on-line. Is it innocnet?
Q. I have recently discovered that my husband is chating to an ex via an online social network.he says the conversation are innocent but im not so sure.i have never had any reason to doubt him before but im doing my own head in thinking the worst.any ...
A. 10 July 2008: Hmm thats a hard one cause no one hear really knows if its innocent or not.
If I was you, I would start by asking what hes talking to her about. Dont ask in a judgemental way though or like your accusing him of anything, ask in a casual manne... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin, after these things occurred?
Q. My boyfriend fingered me, It started to hurt, but I ignored it, but then I started to bleed. Did he break my Hymen? or is it something else.. Am I still a virgin even though I've never had sex.. ...
A. 8 July 2008: The view/belief that if you hymen breaks then you are no longer a virgin is wayyy out dated and not correct.
These days, people recognise that your hymen can be broken from numerous things, not just sex, such as masturbation (which is what you... (read in full...)
Any advice on going to festivals??
Q. Hiya.. I have got my first ever festival on Friday :D T IN THE PARK lol and I was just wondering if any of you had any advice on festivals? And also do you have any tips on how to deal woth the rain and mud because apparently it is meant 2 be rather ...
A. 8 July 2008: I guess you mean a music festival/concert?
My best tip would be wear comfortable and enclosed shoes like sneakers/joggers etc. Last thing you wanna do is wear thongs/flip flops and have people tread all over your feet and then you loose your sho... (read in full...)
My husband caught me cheating for the third time. I can't help it. Would I be better "swinging" or with an open relationship?
Q. my husband has caught me cheating for the third time. i really love my husband but i cheat regularly. often an attractive man hits on me and i just can't resist and i am in bed with him. i explained this to my husband and i told him that i ...
A. 8 July 2008: Doing what you are doing and want to do goes against waht marriage is. So either you stick with your marriage and dont sleep around, or you leave the marriage. You cant have both.
And dont for one minute think that having an open marriage will solv... (read in full...)
My Parents Are Getting Abusive About Our Relationship
Q. we are james and alvina. we were so happy together. but unfortunately, my(james)parents hated alvina so much. they smashed my phone, called alvina's college, put me on home detention, and even worst, bang me on the wall and threatened me to delete ...
A. 8 July 2008: What your parents have done to you James is illegal. You should report this assault to the police so your parents know they can not get away with such behaviour. That way they will be forced to talk to you calmly about not likeing your gf.
... (read in full...)
My soon-to-be-ex husband sent me a text telling me I wasn't to look at him or speak to him when he picks up the children. Should I just toughen up?
Q. I posted a question a few week ago about my soon to be ex husband not speaking to me or having anything to do with me because of lies I told in the past. I got lots of great replies with people saying it is a waiting game, just give it more time. ...
A. 6 July 2008: Wow, your ex is soooooooooooo rude!!!
I can understand he may be hurt or whatever but that doesnt mean its ok for him to silently abuse you like he is. Not only is it hurtful to you but it is setting a VERY bad example for your children... (read in full...)
My boyfriend likes to hurt my feelings, because I make less money than he does, it is affecting me, how do I get him to stop?
Q. Im beginning to feel really bad about myself. I've been dating my boyfriend for a whike now and I love him in all but sometimes he hurts my feelings. I just started working I got my 1st job working for starbucks, I make about $150 a week after taxes ...
A. 6 July 2008: Darling, there is nothing to be ashamed of not making heaps of money!!!
You could be the richest person in the world, with 7 cars, a flashy boat, a house in each state and so on...but money does not buy relationships, health or love.
I think... (read in full...)
How can I forget my past and learn to trust my girlfriend?
Q. So my problem is like this.. I grew up in a very abusive family. and while growing up alot happened to break my trust. Now im in a relationship and its very hard because i know that she isnt doing anything wrong like cheating but i feel like i ...
A. 5 July 2008: You can't just 'forget' about the past. What happened to you was a traumatic expeirence and you wont be able to forget it ever unfortunatly. However you can move on and heal from it.
Growing up in an abusive family can lead to so many effects late... (read in full...)
I caught new wife having sex for money!
Q. This is true. Ive been married since February and Ive recently caught my new wife of 24 (im 39) cheating. The problem is she was cheating with a previous "client" for money. She used to be a dancer at a strip club. She claims there was no ...
A. 5 July 2008: I dont think its possible for this relationship to continue if she doesnt see anything wrong with what she did and/or if she liked it.
Its one thing to sell your body for money, but to do it when you have a partner is even worst because you are ... (read in full...)
I never wanna fall in love again because I'll either be a WHORE or he'll be a PLAYER!
Q. I don't know what to do with myself. I'm still deeply, madly in love with my ex. He broke up with me today, again. He always does it. I just, I guess I'm an idiot. When we first met, the chemistry was all over. When we started dating, everythi...
A. 1 July 2008: Hmmm where do I start? So many things to say about this relationship!!
You do recognise that this relationship with your ex bf was abusive right? If not, take a look at this website, hopefully it will make you understand: http://w... (read in full...)
Embarrassing pubic hair. Is this normal for guys?
Q. I'm 19 and I have a bit of an embarrassing problem. Well actually, I don't even know if it's really a problem, or something a lot of people go through, because it isn't something people discuss. Whatever it is, it's starting to cause me ...
A. 29 June 2008: Alot of guys get hair in between their bum cheeks. Its normal. Girls can get it too. Could try waxing? Not sure cause ive never had that problem... (read in full...)
A young lady who is not ready for sex or to fall in love sleeps in my room...I want to have a sexual relationship with her!!
Q. A young lady who is not ready to fall in love or sexual relation, she is very strict against love but everyday she is sleeping in my room.I want to make sexual relation with her.How it is possible.How can i convince her for sex and how should ...
A. 28 June 2008: Are you honestly that selfish? Or do you just not understand that if somoene has sex when they are not ready, it has hugeee emotional affects on them for the rest of there life?
You shouldnt have to convince her. Either she wants to or not. And... (read in full...)
I give him oral, so why doesn' t he ever return the favour?
Q. Hey everyone, I have a relationship question. I've been with my bf for a year but we've been having sex since the beginning(I knew him for a long time I knew I was ready). I have also been giving him oral sex. Befor me he went out with a girl that ...
A. 28 June 2008: I understand that you feel hurt. But just because he wont give you oral does not mean he doesnt love you. Thats like a guy saying to you 'if you loved me, you would have sex with me'...that is so not true.
There must be some reason why he isnt. I ... (read in full...)
I like this guy at school but he wasn't there the last day! What do I do now?
Q. Hy, The last day of school has ended just a few days ago. In my bus, there is this guy that I think is really cute, and I never had the chance to talk to him. The last 2 days I had told myself I would try to look at him for once, as I was not able...
A. 28 June 2008: You dont know his name by any chance? If so you could try searching for him on the internet on sites such was facebook.com myspace.com bebo.com etc...
Did you see him hang around with anyone at school that you will see sometime in the near fut... (read in full...)
Kissing - then suddenly I needed to chill out. Any comments would be appreciated.
Q. Hello im 21 and I met this guy a few weeks ago on a night out, exchanged numbers and arranged to meet up again. Yesterday he invited me round to his house to watch a film. I went and really enjoyed myself. I got out of a serious 3 year ...
A. 26 June 2008: You have every right to only go as far as you are comfortable with. What you said was fine. IF he thinks any less of you then he isnt a decent guy and you would deserve so much more!
Some guys might find ith ard to understand that a girl wants to... (read in full...)
The perfect man for me - except in the bedroom department. Can anyone give me any words of wisdom/
Q. I am a 35yr old female going out with a 36yr old male, we plan to move in together in the next 6months. My problem is we have only had sex 6 times in the last 12 months. Not my choice, his. I have tried to talk to him about this many times and he ...
A. 26 June 2008: In order for a relationship to work there must be communication and at this current time your bf is not really communicating to you at all! So this makes it very hard for the relationship to be healthy and to function.
I think you should sit d... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex I'm pregnant?
Q. Hi. I have a 2 and a half yr old son. Went through a very rough time as single mother and swore to myself i'd never hav a baby unless i was secure and happy with a man. had a bf for a yr and i do love him, but split us as he got aggressive infront ...
A. 26 June 2008: Hi there,
I understand that its a hard position you must be in.
On one hand you must feel like you should tell him, because him being thefather gives him the right to know. But on the other hand, you may not want to tell him because he was a... (read in full...)
Questions about getting back with the ex!
Q. I was wondering if anyone here has gotten back together with their ex boyfriend who broke up with her. I wanted to know if i should keep contacting my ex boyfriend that i love and dont want to lose. Is there hope? Also, A MORE IMPORTANT ...
A. 26 June 2008: Ok well in that case, do you think he is ready for a relationship now? What are the chances of his financial problems being solved? When and if only he has dealt with his financial problems and feels he is ready for a relationship, you should get ... (read in full...)
Will he think it's weird that he's my first proper boyfriend?
Q. I've just started seeing someone, I like him a lot but I am embarressed because I am almost 28 and have never been in a serious relationship - he wants to talk about past relationships etc but I keep avoiding the questions, do you think he will mind ...
A. 26 June 2008: Hey,
First off, you're not alone. There are other people out there who dont have a huge relationship/sex history.
I know someone who at the age of 25 hadnt ever had a bf, never had sex and not even a first kiss. So you are def not alone!
I h... (read in full...)
Questions about getting back with the ex!
Q. I was wondering if anyone here has gotten back together with their ex boyfriend who broke up with her. I wanted to know if i should keep contacting my ex boyfriend that i love and dont want to lose. Is there hope? Also, A MORE IMPORTANT ...
A. 26 June 2008: It all really depends on why you broke up. So why did you guys break up??? How long ago did you guys break up?
Generally I would say that a relationship is in the past for a good reason, however there are some situations where maybe it could wo... (read in full...)
Was I sexually assaulted?
Q. Was I sexually assaulted? Long story short 2 years ago at uni a couple of years ago I fell out with someone I was in halls with. (We're both male). He had previously told me he fancied me.One night I tried to make up with him by having a mat...
A. 26 June 2008: You said "What if he didnt realise I was asleep/passed out?"- its HIS RESPONSBILITY when commiting a sexual act to someone to make sure they are in the right frame or mind (awake and not intoxicated etc...) to give consent. If he doesnt do that, ... (read in full...)
Was I sexually assaulted?
Q. Was I sexually assaulted? Long story short 2 years ago at uni a couple of years ago I fell out with someone I was in halls with. (We're both male). He had previously told me he fancied me.One night I tried to make up with him by having a mat...
A. 25 June 2008: Yes you were sexually assaulted. What this guy did to you was 100% wrong. It is illegal to have sex with somoene who isnt concious or under the influence or drugs or alcohol so much that they cant say yes or no.
The fact that he broke down your... (read in full...)
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