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writes:i have been going out with my girlfriend for 6 months and we know each other fairly well.however a few weeks ago i went to a party with her that was with people she mostly knew. this included some guys a few years older than me (i'm 20 she's 18 and these guys are about 23/24). i met them but then a few days later 2 of them came to me and said if i don't break up with her, i'll regret it. Then they both punched me in the stomach and arms quite badly but not severe enough to go to hospital.My girlfriend keeps asking how it happened (i think she's sussed it wasn't rugby) but i'm afraid that if i tell her she won't believe me as she's known these guys for over 5 years and only known me for 6 months.Any help? Reply to this Question
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (19 June 2007):
 Tell your girlfriend the truth, and see a lawyer to file charges against them. Waiting, lying about it to her, were the wrong things to do. NEVER give in to a bully's intimidation. Call up a lawyer right now. Sue them for assult and uttering threats.
I think you need to ask your gf if she ever complained about you to these assholes. She may have more to do with it than you think. Sometimes people make up stories to get attention.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): Tell your girlfriend what was done to you and then report those two boys to the authorities. I call them boys because men would not act like that. Your girlfriend may already know about them and should believe you. However whether she stands by you or not those two need to be held accountable for their actions. Who knows how many others they may have done this to in the past. If it is not stopped it is only likely to escalate. The next person who doesn't give in to them is probably going to have go to the hospital. I agree with the other responders don't break up with her over this. Take care.
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reader, stina  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 Hello Anonymous,
You should have contacted the police immediately to file charges - these men threatened and assaulted you. The bottom line shouldn't be your girlfriend, the bottom line should be that these crazy people aren't able to get away with physically abusing someone - because who is to say they wouldn't do this to someone else (or you again). You should at least get a restraining order. If they come near you after that, they would be arrested.
Now, about your girlfriend. If she fails to believe you, then in my mind she is showing her true colors. If she really trusted you and valued the relationship, she would be there to support you.
Take care.
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reader, Sweettennisgirl +, writes (18 June 2007):
Forget what these guys say they are probly jealous that u have such a nice gf that they know they can never get! Hold onto to her she sounds special and u will regret it if u dont. As for the beatings u shud defiently report it, its very serious and you dont want to see either of you get hurt. Tell your gf the truth if she realy feels for you she shud believe you no matter what other people say! Hope this helps! Luv Ali xxxx :)
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (18 June 2007):
 Oh my God!!
What jerks! Good Lord, they beat you up?? I actually think that you should tell your gilrfriend what her so-called "friends" did to you. If she doesn't believe you, well... I think she might. This might not be the first time her jerky guy friends have done something like this. They sound jealous or extremely protective.
These guys sound like trouble. I wouldn't break up with her, as it's not exactly her fault that her friends are assholes. If you genuinely care for this girl, stay with her. Don't let troublemakers get in your way.
Watch out for these guys! Be careful, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 You need to tell someone in authority about the beatings. If you split up with this girl, God only knows what will happen to you AND her. Have you thought about that? She's at risk. You need to take action now because both of you are in danger of being seriously hurt.
Look after yourself and her.
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