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writes: Please help me. I'm in a present relationship now at almost about 4 years. My ex-bf wants to win me back and I love him too. What shall I do? I love them both...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy ex and i talked about it he says that the girl just fool him, and he is afraid to go back to me because i was really hurt that time..
But there is one thing I am afraid my current bf. I am also having problems with him. When we were in 2 years, I found out he has another girlfriend. That time he keeps on denying it, but the fact is he loves somebody and he loves and cares for me too.
And another thing is he enjoys the company of his female friends more than me. I think they are more important than me.
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reader, bonym  +, writes (30 May 2006):
 Ok, I have read your excerpt and I think I understand the situation a bit better. So you say a girl said she is pregnant by your ex? If so, have you found out the absolute truth i.e is it fact or is it just gossip? If it is true, then why are you even considering going back to him if I am right in assuming that he got a girl pregnant while he was still with you? You say that he wants to start dating you again, well it cant happen if you are with your present boyfriend. My dear, you cant have the best of both worlds. I know you say you love both of them but really I dont believe that is the case, you oughtt to be comitted to one man and thats means all your love goes to him, it cant be divided between two men. My friend, I think you should cool things with your present boyfriend, otherwise if you start having deeper feelings for him and the ex is still there, its gonna get really tough for you. Decide whom you love with ALL your heart and thats the one to be with. Take care. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionfellow thanks for the advice, i just want to give my full situation to you... My ex left me because one girl says he is pregnant with him, at that time my ex left me with out any explanation,leaving me nowhere to go, i knew it from our friend and iwas really hurt.... then after 6 months i got my new boyfriend and we stay for 4 years up to now, now that i am working i found out that my ex is also working at the same place,at the first time i saw him he is getting my number, and i don't give any.... Until one day, i started to get lonely and thinking why did i dont give my number... then one time i wrote a letter for him, asking if he gets mad of not giving my number... then it started when he wants me again he wants to court me, he wants to go out and date with him, i just want to say to you fellow that i love him for the second time, but i also love my present boyfriend... i am so confuse please help...
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reader, bonym +, writes (29 May 2006):
I totally agree with AshyTay, you cant love two people at the same time otherwise the whole world would have infedility problems. I think the problem here is that you were never out of love with your ex so you should not have started dating someone else. I think you really want to be with your ex, I dont know but somehow I am getting this feeling that you really, deep down want your ex more than your current partner....... Dont string the men along, if you stay with the curent fella, the ex will always be there in your mind, you will always think, "what if" and "how it used to be" but the real question is why did you break up with your ex? Are you prepared to go down the road of the past and pick up where you left off? Only you know the answer.... Take care.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (29 May 2006):
 Dear Reader,
First of all - it's great that you've found two people you care for so deeply. How long were you with your ex?
So you're saying, it ended with your ex (were you over him before you started this new relationship?) And you found someone new, now your ex has come back and you have feelings for him? Think about it for a second, if your ex loved you so much as to end it, (why did he end it, or did you?) If you ended it, did he fight for you? Does your ex know you're with someone else?
If you choose your ex, how can you be so sure you won't get hurt again? I would tell your ex you are with someone new and tell your current partner that your ex wants you back. I'd let them battle it out (not literally) but let them both fight for you, have a chance at winning your heart. Then the one who ends up alone can say, "I fought for her, but I lost. At least i tried".
All The Best and Blessed Be,
Phoebe
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reader, AshyTay +, writes (29 May 2006):
 You can't love two people at the same time. Are you sure it's not lust you are feeling for your ex-boyfriend? A chance with something different? You need to think about what it is you'd be losing and gaining, after all, he's not called your EX-boyfriend for nothing.
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reader, Smiler +, writes (29 May 2006):
 Hey there
hi sweetie just how confused are you.... lol well my only advice to you sweetie is that your ex is obviously your ex for a very good reason its best you keep the past in the past, i think if you do really love the guy your with as you say you do... give him your full attention ignore your ex tell him to back straight off your in a happy committed relationship don't spoil things by taking one step forward and two steps back.
I hope my advice helps you out a little
You Take Care X
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reader, jo_betty_smith +, writes (29 May 2006):
 What were the reasons that you broke up with your ex-boyfriend? I think you should bear in mind that any problems you had with your ex will seem a long way away and it's probably quite easy to romanticise the whole thing of him wanting you back. Meanwhile, any issues you have with your current boyfriend are right there in front of you which will make them seem worse than they are.
There probably is one of the two guys that you ultimately want more and you already know this yourself, but because you love them both then naturally you don't want to let go of the other just yet.
If you genuinely don't know which guy you want, I'd suggest talking with your ex really honestly, just about what you both want and find out whether you're prepared to really commit to each other and be there for each other now, and just what you both want out of your lives as a whole to make sure that things could work this time round.
That should help you figure out which guy gives you the best chance of happiness.
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reader, nikki1283 +, writes (29 May 2006):
 you need to ask yourself why you split up with your ex? did it end on good terms or bad? if you go back to him how can you be sure that you wont split up again? you really need to think about which partner holds a future for you both and who makes you really happy as this isnt fair on your current partner or your ex which by the sounds of it they both really love you. i have been in same position as your self but it ended bad with my ex although i still had fellings i just follwed my heart and stayed with my current partner and now were living together and theres not a day i look back and think that i wish i had gone back with my ex. good luck..
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