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writes: I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now. I've been with him since I was in high school. Lately I've been feeling like we've grown into mere friends and sometimes I even feel like we're roommates. Just recently when I was out with my friends and I met a guy that I was really attracted to. We exchanged phone numbers and ended up meeting up and going on a date. I hung out with him the other day and now I'm feeling terrible to top it all off I can't get this guy off my mind. Should I tell my boyfriend even though it didn't become physical? And how do I get this other guy out of my mind?
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reader, chunky_monkey +, writes (30 May 2006):
Think really carefully if you want to write off this relationship.
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reader, bonym  +, writes (30 May 2006):
 My dear its not so much a case of telling your boyfriend about the other fella you were seeing, if nothing intimate happened, but the issue is that you no longer seem to love your boyfriend so what you need to do is end the realtionship with your boyfriend if you feel the relationship is not going anywhere. Staying in a vehicle which is in neutral all the time means you are going no where. You deserve to be happy, he deserves to be so if you cant be happy together then end it. All the best. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2006): I think you should break it off with your boyfriend but not mention going out with this other guy.
You could say something like "I feel like we're just friends, and have been for a long while now and I feel like I need that extra something from someone else and if I don't break up with you, I will end up cheating on you and that is not something I want because I respect you and want to keep you as a friend"
Hopefully your boyfriend will accept your decision, maybe he thinks it too but hasn't admitted it to himself? You've been together a long time and if you can remain friends, it would be really good.
It sounds as if you are already, but make sure you do end things amicably with your boyfriend before pursuing any thing else with this new person. If you do this, your mind will be put at rest and you will feel much better seeing this new guy - and you won't need to try and get him out of your mind! Good luck with whatever you choose to do. Just remember to treat others how you would like to be treated yourself. :)
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