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writes: I am 27 and have gotten really close to one of my brother friends - the only problem is he is only 17. We get on so well and he would be my ideal guy if he was older, he says he wants to be with me and the age thing shouldn't matter but I am confused now? Do you think I should date him or not????? Reply to this Question
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (24 May 2006):
 I am in an age-gap marriage of 11 years, with me being the older one! My advice would be to hang on and wait for this guy to mature a little bit. At 17, he is probably either in college or trying to establish a career so wait until he has a more stable situation. Basically if it was mean't to be then it will just happen between you two. There is nothing wrong with an age-gap relationship, and it can work out really well if you are around the same mental age (that probably makes me a big kid then!). If you fancy him at 17, by the time he reaches 19 or 20 then you will be panting :-) and the relationship maybe more acceptable to the family and friends around you thus making life a little easier.
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reader, bonym +, writes (24 May 2006):
 My dear I dont really see anything wrong with age gap relationships but the trouble here is the transition of the ages, i.e he is a teen child not a teen adult i.e. 18, or 19 and you are a grown woman. Personally I would not go after someone who is a teenager but I am not trying to say that you must simply switch off your feelings. If he is mature and is happy with the fact that you are 27 then really who cares what I think, but personally I would not advise it until he is a bit more mature. All the best. xXx
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (24 May 2006):
 Whether age gap relationships actually work depends on alot of things, mostly if you have enough in common to keep the relationship alive. Certain people gel better with people different ages so its not impossible.
Its obvious it matters to you so the question then is why. What is it that bothers you. I think thats really what you need to be thinking about then thinking honestly if you can overcome this. If the answer to either question is no is the answer is yes then the answer is maybe. Hope that helps. Take care.
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