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writes: My mother wants me to break up with my boyfriend because he's Bengali and I'm Pakistani, she's furious with my decision and won't hear me out. I love her too much to not break up with him but I love him too much to give him up. I've cried myself into a frenzy and don't know what to do. How do you get over a love which is ending because of no reason but my mothers anger? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2006): You'll be marrying him for life - possibly. Your mom will only be in a part of your life - for as long as she lives. That's the blunt of it. Your mom is being extremely unreasonable, though understandable. However, wars are started that way. I say, you should definitely go for your heart, your love for the man. Yes, your mom may disown you, but I believe that your mom, though understandable, is quite wrong in trying to force you into such a dilemma. In the first place, SHE SHOULD have supported you.
What is the biggest mistake you're doing? SIMPLY, because your mom doesn't support his 'regional' difference. That's the ONLY and biggest stupid problem. That's the blunt of it.
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reader, bonym  +, writes (28 May 2006):
 My dear is this a case of different religions or is it the fact you are a different Can I also ask how old you are? The reason I ask is because if you are an adult, i.e. over 18 then really it has little to do with yor mother, as long as your boyfriend is a decent man and treats you well and has respect for your parents. If you are not yet an adult you need to respect your parents wishes, ask your mum what exactly is the problem with you seeing this man. If it is a case of races, then I am sorry that your mum feels like that because colour and race and ethnicity should not have anything to do with people in love. Ask yourself, is this boyfriend worth the risk of losing everything, I had an Asian friend and she made a decision to chose a different religion lifestyle than her own, her family disowned her but now she is free to marry a man of another race and be who she truly wants to be. I hope you can work things out and I do wish you all the best. Take care. xXx
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