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writes:How many of men consider that sex is not good without blowjob? Is intercourse alone not enough to satisfy a man? How many women would perform oral sex on a stable partner vs a casual sexual encounter?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (18 October 2011):
 I'll speak for my current man.. he prefers a BJ to intercourse...
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (18 October 2011):
 a bj is good for them coz it requires no work on their part, and also they don't have to worry about you getting an orgasm like they would be if having sex, so its good for a bit of quick relief for them, as long as a man doesn't pass up sex with me for a blow job every time then i wouldn't be worried
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (18 October 2011):
 I wouldn't really know, since I always give a BJ(in fact I usually give a BJ and don't have intercourse), but on the whole guys are fairly simple creatures who like sexual contact in general. Of course there will always be exceptions...but the bottom line must be that what ever is done, is done with mutual understanding.
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (18 October 2011):
 From my experience I have never been keen. I would always prefer intercourse or a hand job. I cant explain why but blow jobs have never been important to me.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 October 2011):
 Of course men like intercourse also without BJs. It's like saying " men can't enjoy a nice dinner if there's no dessert". No,of course they enjoy anyway- just, if you add dessert is more complete and even more enjoyable.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (18 October 2011):
 As another male responder, I'll agree that oral has become very accepted in an enduring relationship over the last 20 to 40 years in Western societies, but my position is that it must or should be entirely mutual. Oral sex is really nothing new - it has been practiced throughout human history - but was taboo in some cultures or suppressed at times.
If a man requests oral, he should also be willing to provide, if she so desires, and preferably - first. It works better that way. Giving blow jobs to strangers or fairly new boyfriends would, however, be very stupid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2011): I recently had my first sexual encounter with the love of my life. He was perfectly satisfied without a BJ. He never even mentioned it, in fact he felt devilishly inclined to give me oral first before we...did the act all night. I, on the other hand, would have had no problem giving him a BJ. But he's selfless act during sex made me realize how much he cares for me and only makes me more enticed by him. I almost look forward to when I can return the favor to him.
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reader, landomando +, writes (17 October 2011):
since I am the only guy responding to this so far; Most guys like blowjobs!! As long as the guy finishes it really doesnt matter whether its oral sex or just sex. It is a lil better with a blowjob. Like you dont have to make him cum. Just for a lil bit to get the engine warmed up even makes sex alot better but I dont think alot of girls or maybe even guys think that. For me, I personally like it to just get warmed up but I know alot of girls think that once you start a bj you have to finish it. SO most dont because they dont like seamen or this big dick in there mouth choking them (which is understandable, i wouldnt want a dick in my mouth..lol). It is enough to satisfy a man but u can only have sex so many times before u have to mix it up and add a blowjob or something in with the routine.As for woman performing Oral sex on a stable partner.. Once I entered my relationship Bjs were extinct. I had to like beg or wait to get it on a special occasion. Im gona say not to many woman perform oral sex on a stable partner..
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (17 October 2011):
 I have never met a man who wasn't ok with "just" intercourse. I say "just", because intercourse isn't some second place act, it's an amazing sexual experience. Blowjobs are just good for variation, and the men I have been with feel the same way. Intercourse is enough to satisfy a man. It's the woman who rarely reaches orgasm from intercourse alone. I solve that by bringing my man with me to the shower for some steamy after-sex to get me off, if I feel up to it, or finish the sex in the shower by stimulating myself while I blow him. Pleasure should be for both partners, not just one.
I don't see blowjobs as more special or less special than intercourse, and I have performed them as I saw fit on casual encounters. Giving a blowjob is nice for foreplay, and a great way to inspect his equipment before intercourse, however I'd not bother doing it for long. When performing a blowjob on a casual encounter you should use a condom still, that's the only catch. Because you can get an STI from giving a blowjob. And condoms don't taste too great. I'd perform blowjobs on a steady partner a lot more often than on a casual encounter though. Mainly this is because A) I don't have that many casual encounters compared to how many sexual encounters I have with a man I am in a relationship with, and B) a blowjob is a bit of work, and making a random stranger feel great isn't important to me. Making a man I love feel great however is really nice, and I love giving blowjobs to make a man I love feel amazing. It makes me happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2011): Men do enjoy that very much. I don't know what it is about it that they like. But I know my husband likes it done for him, but not all the time or every time. I do this for him because I trust him, although it isn't my favorite thing to do. But I love him and it doesn't hurt or anything and I know it makes him happy, which is important to me.
As for a casual partner I would be uncomfortable doing that (thankfully I don't have to worry about it now.) Plus, if it is a casual partner you need to be aware of STDs and should always use a condom... I don't think bj and condom really go together.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 October 2011):
 I can only speak for my boyfriend but he'd take intercourse over a blow job any time.
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reader, KittieS +, writes (17 October 2011):
 Casual encounter, not liking the BJ idea - certain amount of trust needs to be involved as a guy coming in your mouth for me - yuck.
In a relationship, I can deal with it once in a while or on me, but prefer it by a long shot not to touch my lips or in my mouth. Just not for me.
My OH is pretty shy at going south on me, so unless I really want too he doesn't push it on me - although I strongly expect he would like me to do it more (I'd love him to do it more) does it stop us having an amazing sex life - no it doesn't.
So in a nutshell no I don't think it affects the experience!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (17 October 2011):
 I heard the world's population will be 7 billion by January so that's thrown my numbers off so I'll have to get back to you.
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