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writes:Um...my friend(who I really like) wants to try and have a threesome with him, me, and his brother. I agreed but now nervous. I really like him but I don't want him to think I'm just the type whose up from anything. He told me, he wouldn't mind going out with me, but just not ready for it. I can understand that but I don't know about the threesome? A lot of people would saw its kind of "slutish?" Can you help me, I don't know what to do or say!?
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (22 August 2012):
 God no. Don't go there.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (22 August 2012):
 You write: "He told me, he wouldn't mind going out with me, but just not ready for it...."
Do you suppose he'll be more ready for it once he's carried out his plan to make you compromise your morals?
Good luck...
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (21 August 2012):
 Not ready to go out with you but ready to have sex with you and his brother?! No way. Tell him you changed your mind, you're not comfortable with it. I know you say you like him, but really what's to like about someone who would come up with such a gross proposal? You can do a lot better than this creep.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (21 August 2012):
 I think if he REALLY liked you that LAST thing he would want to do is have a 3-some with his brother.
He knows you like him so he dangles the carrot.. if you do this.. then maybe.. I'll go out with you... I CALL BULLSHIT!
If you do it, he will NOT instantly fall madly in love with you and think you are the perfect girl for him. Wake up, honey.
You will just be another notch for him and his kinky brother.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 August 2012):
 DO NOT DO IT.
he's a friend.
he's not a partner
and with his brother? NO WAY...
I've done threesomes
I've done orgies..
It's not all it's cracked up to be...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2012): Dont do it , you will regret it. He is not into you. He either likes you or he dont and clearly before he has even gone out with you wants a threesom, shows he is using you. Tell him to get lost before you feel regret and hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2012): Sounds like a trick to me deary, i think he may well be leading you on...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2012): Has it ever crossed your mind he only told you he would like to go out with you in an attempt to sweeten you up to have a threesome with him and his brother?
I know if I liked a girl enough to go out with her, the last thing I'd want is to invite her into a threesome. I'd like to think any girl I'd be willing to date would have some self respect, not be 'Easy' or up for anything with anyone.
Its highly likely if and after you go ahead with this, you will see a noticeable difference in his behaviour towards you. And don't be surprised if his interest in you decreases considerably.
If you want my advice, don't do it.
If he genuinely liked you, why would he want you to partake in a threesome?
He clearly assumes you're just easy, and not dating material.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2012): Ok listen i get that hes ur friend and u like him and all but dont do the 3some with him and his BROTHER thats honestly just nasty its his brother and u want to go out with him right....well having a 3some with him just shows him that you dont really have any self respect and don`t like him that much
Bottom line is he is playing with your emotions he is taking you as a joke if he really was ur friend and wanted to go out with you he would not want to share you.
Also you say you dont want to come off slutty to him but just saying yes to having a 3some with him probably made him think oh if she says yes to having a 3some with me and my brother then she has be slutty and we can use her any time we want...now i dont wanna sound mean but thats probably wat he was thinkin and is thinking right now.
So have some back bone a little self respect and tell your supposedly “FRIEND” you dont want to do it anymore because you have eniugh common sence and self respect not to.
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (21 August 2012):
 If you follow through with this threesome business then that is exactly what he'll think of you because that is exactly what you'll be. Up for anything.
A guy who really, REALLY likes you wants you all to himself. He doesn't want other guys ogling you and he certainly doesn't want them having sex with you, brother or not. 'Not ready' ni this case means he doesn't like you enough to want you to be his girlfriend.
He knows you 'like him alot' and he's counting on you not wanting to crush any hope for the future by disappointing him now. This guy is definitely not your friend.
You don't have to follow through, you can change your mind at any time and you don't have to explain anything. My advice is to block and delete him from your phone and email and avoid him in the future. If you cross paths and he asks why you don't talk to him, tell him you were insulted by his request.
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reader, grymsoul +, writes (21 August 2012):
 He's lying about going out with you. If he really wanted to be with you, he wouldn't want to share you with anyone else. He's using your affections for him to his advantage. He sees this as an oppurtunity to get both his brother and him laid.
Having sex with him will not put you in the clear for a real relationship. It will only confirm to him that you are easily manipulated and weak with emotions. It is a very bad idea to do the threesome with both of them. You won't win his heart by giving up your body. You will only feel guilt and pain when he is finished using you. Back out now. Save yourself the torment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2012): No offense, but are you seriously not seeing through this? He has no respect for you and is using you for your body ONLY. And with his brother? That's really gross. It's almost like incest if you think about it. Somebody wacked this guy on the head... He doesn't sound normal. Please do the right thing and RESPECT YOUR BODY!
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (21 August 2012):
 He doesn't want to go out with you, but he wants you to have a threesome with him? Don't do it, you'll be tossing your self respect right into the garbage.
You say you don't want him to see you as slutty. Judging by the fact that he sees you as not good enough to go out with, but good enough for a threemsome.....means he already does.
Set your sights on a decent man, this one does''t for that description.
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (21 August 2012):
 No,
Not a good idea.
For way to many reasons.
I'm very sorry that you agreed to it but just back out.
You have nothing to lose here.
FA
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reader, katiekate +, writes (21 August 2012):
 If you do this threesome, you can pretty much say goodbye to any potential relationship with this guy. I'd say he's not interested in you anyway, since he offered a threesome with his brother. Clearly, he does not respect you, or at least does not see you as "girlfriend material", otherwise, he never would have proposed such a thing. My suggestion is that you say you're not interested in doing the threesome anymore, that it doesn't feel right, or you changed your mind, or whatever reason you want to give. And then, try to forget about this guy as anything more than a friend and find yourself a real man who will respect you enough not to want to share you with his friends (or relatives).
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reader, TexInTheCity +, writes (21 August 2012):
A threesome with his brother? No way, don't do it, that's just weird and you will only ever be the chick they did a three way with. He'll never go out with you then. He sounds gross to me. He wants to do it with his brother? O_o Weird!
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