Should I follow my heart or listen to my head?
Q. My boyrfriend and i have been off and on for the last year, we have had about 3 break ups. 4 months after we first got together he hit me at school and left a bruise on my face. my parents decided that i had to break up with him. so i did as my ...
A. 9 April 2010: Beat him to the punch and dump his a$$!!!!... (read in full...)
Three years ago, she freaked when I told her I loved her. Should I tell her again, now?
Q. I've asked this question before but I never get many responses so I'm trying it again. I will have a very long detailed version of this and then at the bottom I will have shorter simplified version, if you want the short version scroll to the bott...
A. 8 April 2010: Trans Am Man I read the long version that was very nice of you to take the time to say thanks. I think you told her before but maybe than she did not want to complicate her life since she already had a boyfriend. Than you found yourself a new gal ... (read in full...)
He told me that getting physical with me doesn't make him feel good!!!
Q. I dunno I've been feeling guilty! I had this GUY in my life but he wasn't my boyfriend literally! But we were a lil intimate! He's given me an orgasm and kissed me! But today he happened to tell me this... That getting physical to me doesn't make ...
A. 8 April 2010: He was honest and deserve credit for that. He wants to be a spiritual adviser or leader am I right. He has a vocation and he probably has his heart set in this. This might be very important to him, and he wants to lead by example. His path is one ... (read in full...)
To dress or not to dress?
Q. *OP's own title* I need the advice from Married women out there ONLY.. I am a happily married man. I am the typical jock type of guy that loves sports and coaching my kids. I love everything about women, the way they look, taste, feel, ect.. Rece...
A. 8 April 2010: If shed asked you than she was interested, and you yourself is into the idea than do it. What ever happens in close door is your business and no one else. Have fun!!!!... (read in full...)
Will my husband know if I'm not a virgin?
Q. i am in relationship with a man last two years, now im going to marry other person, if leave my first relationship before 6 months of my marriage, will my husband know my virginity?...
A. 8 April 2010: You can fool him about your virginity he won't know unless you tell him, but you will also be fooling him about the relationship because you are going to start a life full of lies.... (read in full...)
Do people often record themselves having sex?
Q. My boyfriend and i were talking about trying new things in the bedroom. He brought up how he wants to film me giving him a blowjob. He then said, but thats a bit personal, i dont expect you to do it but id love to watch it over and over. Iam think...
A. 8 April 2010: DON'T DO IT!!! It not a good idea things are nice right now but what if you guys were to break up or he got really really mad at you how can you be sure he will not post it on the net... (read in full...)
Should I quit or should I continue with my desirable lady of my life?
Q. should i quit or not, with desirable lady of my life , some years ago, i met a lady, woman of life ,and we have being together for almost 2 years, before i realised this lady senior in age with a year, and show does not know till now, and both of us ...
A. 8 April 2010: She's a cougar! Go for it there is nothing wrong with it, love is love and most of the times you can't choose who you fall in-love with you just do. Don't let happiness escape from your hands, hold on to it once you find it, because you don't know ... (read in full...)
Will he find me unattractive in person?
Q. Hello Thanks for reading this, I will try and keep it brief. I joined an internet dating site, and got chatting to a lovely guy for a few weeks, then moved on to texting, emailing and then a few phonecalls. This has been going on for a little ov...
A. 8 April 2010: You didn't lie so I don't think there will be problem. The most important thing is you were honest, how exciting make sure you fix your hair nice, wear moderate make up, and wear an awesome outfit. Good Luck and be safe! ... (read in full...)
I think I answered his question wrong and now I don't know how to fix it!
Q. my boyfriend and i was talking about how some women are superficial and feel like if they don't have this expensive wedding and a man with a lot of money that they did not want that man....i in defending some women simply stated that there is ...
A. 8 April 2010: First you have to be sure if you love him and in which way you love him. You can love a dog, you can love your car, now do you love him or are you in-love with him. Don't give him an answer you don't mean just to not make him mad, be honest. You ... (read in full...)
Three years ago, she freaked when I told her I loved her. Should I tell her again, now?
Q. I've asked this question before but I never get many responses so I'm trying it again. I will have a very long detailed version of this and then at the bottom I will have shorter simplified version, if you want the short version scroll to the bott...
A. 7 April 2010: You can give it a try hopefully she accepts you this time. I think you should give it a try and give it your all. I think if you bottle it up you will not get any results so I suggest that you talk to her and hopefully she can correspond to your ... (read in full...)
He says, he loves me but I can't trust him. Please help!
Q. Hi, Ive know my boyfriend for 2 years now, ever since i met him he was always interested in me however i wasnt really in to him. But 6 months ago he asked if i wanted to go for a drink, i went and we havent been apart since then and are currentl...
A. 7 April 2010: I think you should respect his privacy and not logged into his facebook. Okay what he did in his past is his past and you have no right to throw it in his face. For example you marry this guy and he finds out you were not a virgin, and he throws it ... (read in full...)
I made a deal with my husband's dad to marry his son, what if my husband finds out???
Q. I am a 24 year old married woman. I have a husband who will insist on getting up at 2:00 in the morning to go to Walgreen's because I have the sniffles. I get love letters and flowers, and get so much sex that you wouldn't believe me if I told you ...
A. 7 April 2010: Wow! Aren't you lucky. If there is a chance of him finding out than beat them to the punch. Tell him all this happened before you had feeling for him, but now you are in-love with him and would do anything to make him happy. Tell him that you are ... (read in full...)
Since I cheated on her, she won't say that she loves me! What can I do?
Q. ok so i feel horrible for this but i cheated on my gf but she said she loved me enough that she would give me another chance but she wants me to still say 'i love you' to her but she wont say it back for a while until she fully trusts me again. I ...
A. 7 April 2010: She gave you another chance I think her not responding to your I love you is common I mean you did break her heart. Give her time to get over it and mean while you should be kissing her butt big time. Imagine if it would have been you the one ... (read in full...)
He works 24/7 and either he's going to die or our marriage will!
Q. My husband is workaholic in denial. It slowly destroyed our marriage, what was 25 year long so far. His absence was causing lots of pain,and created a dysfunctional unhappy family..No, I'm not blaming everything on him,but I always tried to fix t...
A. 7 April 2010: Do you work? If not maybe helping out will ease the burden of the bills. He does need a vacation. He needs a break to release himself of all the stress in his life. Are you financially stable to get away, if you are than do it. Talk to him make him ... (read in full...)
Choosing between two important men in my life!
Q. There are two important men in my life, how do i know which to choose to be with? One of them are my childrens dad and the other is a rebound relationship, and im ingadged to the rebound guy and he does things i dont approve of all the time and my ...
A. 7 April 2010: How about you dump them both. Your ex is your ex he already left you once, your re-bound guy is not playing his cards right, maybe you will be better off alone. Give yourself time to think on what you really want, you don't have to be in a ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gives more love and attention to the dog than to me!
Q. My BF of 12 yrs and I have not had sex for about 2 years. We have been in/out of counseling and are currently seeing a new counselor for one last chance to salvage our relationship. I am 57, divorcedX2, and he is 63, divorcedX3. I am aware of an...
A. 7 April 2010: If the counseling is not working what else can you do. You can only do so much and if a person is unwilling to change, there is not much to pursued. Your age should not matter because as a human you still have urges, you still want to cuddle, you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will grow out of this, right?
Q. My bf and I are in a long distance relationship, and after a year of talking/chatting/e-mailing we decided to meet up. Things went great, so I took a seasonal job where he lived and moved in with him for a few months, just to see how it would go. ...
A. 7 April 2010: Don't expect people to change mainly if this is how they were when you met them. Sad but true a lot of times females more than man jump into a relationship hoping her boyfriend will change for the better and guess what she marries him and her ... (read in full...)
We had an argument over him going to a bar and now I feel bad! Does anyone have any advice?
Q. Last night my bf and I got into an argument about him going out with his work buddies after work to play pool. Well, by my understanding he was going to one of the guys' house because my bf had said he was going right down the road. He don't go to ...
A. 7 April 2010: I have to change my advise now that you have given more info. You made a big deal out of nothing and should probably feel bad. Now when you go out do you flirt, do you hang out with other man, or do bad things.You need to trust your boyfriend and ... (read in full...)
Should I marry my friend to save him from deportation?
Q. Okay this is super complicated. My best friends and I were a trio, and one of them needed a way to stay in the USA because he was at risk of being deported. At first I agreed to marry him, but then my parents wouldn't allow me to go through with it ...
A. 7 April 2010: Where is he now? The only reason you should marry is for love not to fix someone legal status. This could gotten you into trouble and might have cost you your green card. I'm glad you didn't go through it because if this guy would have been a real ... (read in full...)
I was really mean and now she's gone...
Q. I have been going out with my girlfriend now for 9 months and in that time I have been mean to her on occasions in front of her friends which I deeply regret she now tells me she wants a break which we have done for 2 weeks now she just wants to ...
A. 7 April 2010: Your girlfriend has probably took all the abuse she can handle, and left you to be able to find happiness with someone else. You now want her back, talk to her wine her and dine her and see if that works. I wish you luck but always remember that a ... (read in full...)
Do I have to wait for the right man or should I get out there and search for him?
Q. hi cupid im mely single 22 years old!!!ever since i dont have any serious relationship and i just have 1 boyfriend!!! I also dont have my first kiss, Do i have to wait for the man I love or should i find him and search for him!!! And the problem is ...
A. 7 April 2010: You don't have to wait but be careful while searching. Try meeting guys in church gatherings, parties, restaurants, dating sites. Be patience when looking for Mr. Right because you might stumble with a few Mr. Wrongs and in your search for love you ... (read in full...)
We had an argument over him going to a bar and now I feel bad! Does anyone have any advice?
Q. Last night my bf and I got into an argument about him going out with his work buddies after work to play pool. Well, by my understanding he was going to one of the guys' house because my bf had said he was going right down the road. He don't go to ...
A. 7 April 2010: You were right in getting upset, Only for the reason that he doesn't let you go hang out to a bar. In a relationship it goes both ways for example "if you want me to be cooped up in the house guess what that means your going to be cooped up in the ... (read in full...)
How do I keep him interested when he has lost interest in me?
Q. I am so confused and upset. I met a man who shares the same interests and has everything in common with me. We started to see each other 3 months ago after we got to know each other. I fell completely for him- he is perfect to me in every w...
A. 7 April 2010: Talk to him maybe he is scare you did say its his first relationship and he is still a virgin. He might think this relationship is moving to fast for him. I think the first thing you have to do is to talk to him find out whats really bothering him, ... (read in full...)
Should I follow my heart or listen to my head?
Q. My boyrfriend and i have been off and on for the last year, we have had about 3 break ups. 4 months after we first got together he hit me at school and left a bruise on my face. my parents decided that i had to break up with him. so i did as my ...
A. 7 April 2010: He hit you once, that should have been your wake up call. When a person is abusive the hitting will happen more often and more harder. Domestic violence is unacceptable so you should listen to your head and run. You are already getting physical and ... (read in full...)
How can I move on with my life if I still love him?
Q. my boyfriend and i has been in an on and off relationship for a year. we just recently broke up due to his continuous cheating and lying games. i just found out that he has been trying to talk to my cousin and asking her to come chill with him or ...
A. 7 April 2010: you already see he is a lousy boyfriend just imagine how your life would be if you marry him. You see there is no future between you two so cut the relationship short have respect for yourself. Think on your dignity and how this guy is using you as ... (read in full...)
Should I call him?
Q. Hey all, thanks for reading this. I met this sweet guy when i was at the mall today. He was selling products, so i went over and pretended to be interested in the products to give us a chance to talk. The minute we started talking, we were getting ...
A. 7 April 2010: I would call him, why wait if you are interested than call him.... (read in full...)
Is it fair to ask my handyman boyfriend to paint for free?
Q. My boyfiend of 5 years is a handy man on the side I have asked him to paint my kitchen and he said he would give me an estimate Is it unfair to ask him to do it for free or what is a reasonable labor cost? I dont mind paying but.... ...
A. 7 April 2010: I would pay for the supplies but no way would I pay for the labor I mean you guys have been together for 5 years.... (read in full...)
Drunk and cheated on b/f with his best friend!
Q. hi there, ok so i am 17 and have been dating my 20 year old boyfriend for 8 months. 2 weeks ago i made the biggest mistake of my life and when i was unbelievably drunk i cheated (not fully just foreplay) with my boyfriends best friend. i know! ...
A. 7 April 2010: You are lying to him anyways so why worry about him cheating on you or not. You violated his trust his with his friend thats a double NO NO. You are worried about what if he cheats on you hummmmm,,, you actually confirmed that you cheated but I ... (read in full...)
Falling out of love with my wife...
Q. hi everyone im like don't know what to do this is eating me alive i have a wife but im not in love with her when i meet her she already had 2 beautifull girl and we had a baby boy i love them with all i have but the thing is im not in love with my ...
A. 6 April 2010: Best thing to do is be honest don't hold on to her because of guilt that does no one any good. Marriage should have taken place after you were completely sure of your feelings for her. You met her with two kids but is going to abandon her with ... (read in full...)
A woman says she was with my husband, but he denies it
Q. I think im going to leave my husband because I can't take it anymore. About this women that keeps sending me messages about him. I think he was with her last year when he went on a trip to florida. And we had just moved into our house. She keeps ...
A. 6 April 2010: I think you have to think on your decision because you are choosing to listen to a stranger someone your hubby had a relations with in the past. What if your husband is telling you the truth and this other women wants to flare things up. If you ... (read in full...)
Questioning my phone calls and texts
Q. *Op's own title* My boyfriend wants to know who "I" am texting and who is texting me all the time. Most of the time it is between my kids and I. I resent telling him what I am doing all the time. I get annoyed and feel that he is being too nosy...
A. 6 April 2010: Your boyfriend should respect your privacy, don't start now don't show him every single text you get, put your foot down. Let him get mad and let him throw tantrums but don't give in to his in securities. Trust is very important and if you have not ... (read in full...)
Was I too harsh? Will he love me in the same way?
Q. Hello, I recently found out that my husband had a close (non sexual) relationship with a work colleague. It has now all stopped as they don't work together any more and I am sure my husband is telling the truth as he is devastated at how hurt I a...
A. 6 April 2010: your husband put a stop to it the close relationship he had with her has stop right? It never became sexual fling which is good but when emotions are invested in a person that could be troublesome. Try to be close to your hubby be interested in his ... (read in full...)
I cheated, we broke up but are still seeing each other, should I end it?
Q. i cheated on my boyfriend and we have been together for a while but he asked for sometime apart but we are doing everything we did when we were together except kiss what should i do move on or stay because i was the one who messed up...
A. 6 April 2010: Are you serious? You cheated on you boyfriend asked you for time apart but is still hanging out with you, doing things with you and you are asking should you stay or should you leave. I think you should leave since you are questioning his reasons in ... (read in full...)
My husband gave oral sex to a female friend who had passed out at the party we were throwing!
Q. we had a party in our home and my husband decided to give oral sex to an old female friend that was passed out in the room down stairs while i was upstairs sleeping. he never said anything to me until the girl called me the next morning and told ...
A. 6 April 2010: He molested her he took advantage that she was passed out and honey, that is not okay I think it might even be illegal. You should be angry he has violated your trust and in your own home. Question is are you willing to forgive him, forget about it, ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants a MMF, how do I go about this?
Q. Me and my GF are very comfortable with our relationship. We have always tried new things and been honest with each other about things we don't want to try and we respect those limits completely. My GF organized a FFM several years ago and ha...
A. 6 April 2010: don't go and get an escort or stripper that might even offend your girlfriend. My suggestion is to ask her straight out, if she does want to have that experience let her choose the man, it has to be someone she finds attractive.... (read in full...)
Visiting ex on vacation, should I make a move?
Q. I recently reconnected with an old girlfriend. We are both fresh out of relationships. Since we got back in contact, she has been asking me to come and visit her. She lives across the country so we're separated by quite some distance. After ...
A. 6 April 2010: Pay attention to her signals, body language will probably answer your questions. If she does flirt and initiates any romantic or sexual advances than you should be honest and tell her you just want her to be your booty call. Be honest tell her that ... (read in full...)
I'm checking ex's emails because I want to know what he's up to!
Q. Right i have been split up fro exalcoholic for 3 weeksnow ive wrote on here before regarding it and im so happy without him and my life is so much easier now but i cant help checking his emails and its getting stupid now i really dont know how to ...
A. 6 April 2010: I would not do that you are violating his privacy. I would advise you to stop.... (read in full...)
Mom found out about b/f & I having sex and now we have no contact at all!
Q. my very strict mother found out that me and the love of my life hes 17 and im 16 have been having sex. and now we are banned from seeing eachother. we used to text eachother like every second and now i dont have a cellphone anymore, and the house ...
A. 6 April 2010: Your mom is just taking care of you. You are young but eventually you will understand your mother. Just behave be a good daughter and give your mom time to calm down. Once calm and punishment is over ask her if you can continue to see your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
We had sex and now he's acting strange toward me. Is it him? Or me?
Q. I'm not exactly sure what to do here... i've been so into this guy and our little "fling" has been going on for 3 months now. Just the other week we ended up hooking up and we finally had sex. Everything was fine the day after and we talked like ...
A. 6 April 2010: I think he used you for sex, men are pigs not all but the majority and you cannot predict how their behavior is going to be after your first sexual encounter together. I think you should let him go and don't become his booty call or his freinds with ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to finger me!
Q. Hi im 16 and my boyfriend really wants to finger me.oh im also a virgin and im not sure what to exoect?like do you bleed when he fingers you?What does he do after hes done?does he just go wash his fingers?or what?...
A. 2 April 2010: Be prepare for sex, think first if this is the guy you want to loose your virginity to. I advise you not to let him finger you wait till your ready and do not let him pressure you.... (read in full...)
Does my bf want me to change?
Q. I need some help with my boyfriend. All the time i am around him he talks about other girls and how hot they are and i am starting to think that he wants me to be a diffrent person. If you think that he wants me to be someone ealsed i mean sometimes ...
A. 2 April 2010: I'm sorry I just saw your age bracket forget the part I said about beast instinct**** word of advise since your so young never let anyone try to change you, you are your own person and if they can't respect have them hit the road.... (read in full...)
Does my bf want me to change?
Q. I need some help with my boyfriend. All the time i am around him he talks about other girls and how hot they are and i am starting to think that he wants me to be a diffrent person. If you think that he wants me to be someone ealsed i mean sometimes ...
A. 2 April 2010: Than tell him don't hold back---- You should express your feelings, tell him that your are not comfortable with his wondering eyes and flirting comments. You are who you are and he saw something in you he liked so he should put all his beastly ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a woman to fake virginity when she marries?
Q. I just want to know if it is possible for a girl to hide her premarital sexual relations form her husband (she's been having regular sexual relations with other males for 5 years before marriage). She is going to marry after 6 months ...
A. 2 April 2010: I think a female can lie about being a virgin. Not all virgins bleed the hymen is very sensitive and can be broken at any time with out any kind penetration. I think its a myth that the vagina becomes loose after time. So yes a women can lie about ... (read in full...)
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