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I cheated with him when he had a g/f and now I think he's doing that to me!

Q.   help me! i was looking through my boyfriends phone and we were just messing about, but in his inbox it said stuff like "dont worry babe mattys here for you xxxx" and thats the sort of stuff he says to me! its not fair i started crying to i tihnk he ...

A.   22 November 2010: good luck and I hope everything works out for you. ... (read in full...)

Does his girlfriend of 5 years deserve to know the truth about her "perfect man"?

Q.   Does his girlfriend of 5 years deserve to know the truth about her "perfect man"? I starting seeing this guy who I really feel for only I always got the impression he wasn't all he seemed, anyway after a long time I found out that he had a girlfri...

A.   19 November 2010: You need to stay away this no longer concerns you. Its sad for his girlfriend to be with a cheater and for her not to know anything about it but sooner or later she will know cheaters are always caught. What will you gain in revealing to her t... (read in full...)

How do you tell someone willing to get help that its too late?

Q.   Like all couples when my husband and I first got together we had sex all the time. He expected it everynight we were together. If I happen to start to fall asleep during a movie he would wakeme up to make sure he got sex before I fell asleep. If ...

A.   19 November 2010: unfortunately for him you have already made up your mind and that is all that should matter to you. You have tolerated a lot of abuse and finally decided to say enough is enough, don't let his manipulation control your decision. Simply say I ho... (read in full...)

I cheated with him when he had a g/f and now I think he's doing that to me!

Q.   help me! i was looking through my boyfriends phone and we were just messing about, but in his inbox it said stuff like "dont worry babe mattys here for you xxxx" and thats the sort of stuff he says to me! its not fair i started crying to i tihnk he ...

A.   19 November 2010: Your already thinking that he is cheating so he might be cheating deep down we always know when something is not right. why don't you want to confront him about it? If he is messing around wouldn't you want to know, wouldn't you want to end this ... (read in full...)

Is it wrong for my wife to make me choose between our family (wife and kids),and my family (dad, brother, cousin, close best friends, etc...)?

Q.   I have been married for 6 months now and I do love my wife. I know when I tied the knot, a lot of things in my life will change and I would have to adjust to many things. I like to think I have done pretty good job on adjusting to the married life ...

A.   15 November 2010: Your mistake here was that you gave her total control and she took advantage of the situation. In the beginning when she told you that you couldn't go see your family or welcomed them into your home was the day you should have put your foot down. ... (read in full...)

How do you grind (dancing)?

Q.   I have this thing at my school very soon they call it the black out dance and I don't know how to grind this guy said he will dance with me if I go I'm really scared that when we dance I will mess up and he wont want to dance with me anymore... so ...

A.   2 November 2010: Well in most schools they don't allow that kind of dancing. If I were you I'll make sure its ok with the chaperon if not you might get yourself in trouble for trying to grind.... (read in full...)

Why am I feeling like this?

Q.   why am i feeling like this,i split with my partner of 15 years then after 2 years we got back together again,it was good in the beginning,now i dont feel happy again i dont know why,he is a good man.i keep having panic attacks and anxiety.an ex ...

A.   27 October 2010: your happiness should not depend on you having a man by your side. You might think that at 47 you need to have someone there so that you don't grow old alone, but you need to think on you, love you, focus on your own happiness. There was a reason ... (read in full...)

In the heat of the argument I told him he has a tiny penis! I know I have screwed up, so how do I fix this?

Q.   Ok so ive been seeing this guy for a while now almost a year. He told me before that he always thought he had a small penis (he had been drinking, in fact i dont know if he remembers telling me that) but hes not small hes like 6.5 in. Ive been told ...

A.   27 October 2010: be honest apologize and kiss ass!... (read in full...)

Is my husband in love with his best friend?

Q.   Hello all, Let me preface this by saying that I am a man and my husband is also a man, so if that makes you uncomfortable this is not the post for you... So here it is. I'm not sure where to start so I'll start with my husband and I have been ...

A.   27 October 2010: He is being honest with you, and he also told you that he would not talk to him anymore, you stopped him from doing this. I have the feelings that your husband truly loves you and wants to make you happy. This other person meant something to him at ... (read in full...)

I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday but I want him back, how long should I wait to call him?

Q.   I just broke up with my bf yesterday. he's 32. im 20. We've known each other for 8 months. I broke up with him because I couldn't trust him anymore. after breaking up he called me but I didn't answer so he sent this to me: "I am very sorry that ...

A.   25 October 2010: You broke up with him for a reason and before you call him asking him back think on the reason you dumped him in the first place. People always break up for a reason so I suggest you follow your gut feeling and that feeling was for you to call it ... (read in full...)

Should I have gay sex with my best friend he is asking help me!!!!!!!

Q.   i'm 15 and i know i'm bi but i've told a few people at my school and they told everyone now i'm getting teased but now that everyone knows a lot more gay and bi people ane coming out but now i keep getting asked by a mate of mine who is gay foe gay ...

A.   25 October 2010: If you catch yourself asking yourself if you should or you shouldn't, maybe maybe not, yes no, than the best answer is NO until you know for sure this is what you want. ... (read in full...)

Who do I believe? My girlfriend or my boyfriend? Do I dump him?

Q.   i got invited to my boyfriend best mates party but fell really ill on the dy so was unable to go. later that night a my boyfriend kept ringing me but i was asleep so did not answert the phone. when i did wake up i had several missed calls. i rang ...

A.   25 October 2010: She was your friend and he was your boyfriend in my book neither deserves to be forgiven because they both betrayed you, and if you already decided to forgive your boyfriend than forgive her too since they both committed the same crime. I wou... (read in full...)

Is there gay play going on with my man?

Q.   ok, I am with a man of 8-9 years and we have 2 kids. He is really friendly and approachable. he has a million guy friends he knows, I mean everywhere we go some dude pops up and knows him. he even was friends with homosexuals in the past, which i ...

A.   25 October 2010: I honestly think something is up, my gut feeling tells me there is more than what he is telling you. ... (read in full...)

A problem with his baby mother... what's the best way to deal with her?

Q.   I need a little help and understanding from the baby mothers. I’ve been with the same guy for the last 6 ½ years. He has three children before he met me. One 18,11 and almost 7. The mother of the youngest apparently hasn’t gotten it through to her ...

A.   22 October 2010: His daughter will always be a part of his life and his ex should not use her to get close to him but I feel if you get involve right now its going to cause for her not to bring her daughter around at all. I suggest you let him deal with this and ... (read in full...)

How can I move on and get her out of my head?

Q.   after a divorce,i quickly found myself in another relationship with a woman i met in the pub,she was really nice,had a good job,teacher,things started going really well and i thought id landed on my feet again,things went really well for a bit,id ...

A.   22 October 2010: Copy and print out what you wrote here and when you find yourself thinking on her simply re-read this paper so you can think on all the stuff she put you through. If you were to go back to her would be a very bad idea and who knows if you woul... (read in full...)

I really like him but don't want to loose him

Q.   Ok, so basically I really like this boy. We have known each other for ages and we went out a few years ago. But, I ended it because it wasn't going anywhere and I have regretted that decision ever since. A few months ago he broke up with his ...

A.   22 October 2010: If you like him and think things might work out for you two than simply tell him that you still have feelings for him and want to give it another try. Can it be that you only want him because your friend wants him. ... (read in full...)

A problem with his baby mother... what's the best way to deal with her?

Q.   I need a little help and understanding from the baby mothers. I’ve been with the same guy for the last 6 ½ years. He has three children before he met me. One 18,11 and almost 7. The mother of the youngest apparently hasn’t gotten it through to her ...

A.   22 October 2010: since he is your boyfriend and not your husband the best way to deal with it is the way you did it. You show class in not getting involve this is his problem right now and he should deal with it. ... (read in full...)

Husband is a big time drinker! Do I stay?

Q.   My question to you is that I been with my husband for 16 years we have 3 beautiful girls together, my husband is a big time drinker and Iam not talking just about beer its hard liquor Its where my oldest daughter he hits her,and verbally abusive me ...

A.   22 October 2010: Being parents it's great responsibility we are suppose to help guide our children but most important we are suppose to keep them safe. Your husband has a drinking problem and if your husband don't think he has a problem there is not much you can do. ... (read in full...)

Fallen in love with her again, admiration or is it love? Need advice asap please.

Q.   I have a tricky question, I've been trying to workout since I was 14 I'm now 19 so it's been a good 5 years!!! I just hope someone can shed some light on the situation and give me some advice Okay so I'll start from the first encounter I gues...

A.   22 October 2010: First of is she also a lesbian, because if she is not I'm afraid you might not have a shot. If she does like girls maybe at this point it would be a good idea to tell her how you feel. There is a great different in being 13 and her being 19 now y... (read in full...)

Got too close to my fiance's friend, now he's distant, is it because of what could have happened?

Q.   I'm getting married in July. However, last year I started falling for one of my fiancés friends, he has loads of friends but me and this one became really close, chatting everyday, having the odd lunch or whatever during the day, until we had a big ...

A.   21 October 2010: you should leave it at that you made your choice and you are getting married. Don't think on what could have happened or what could have been because the fact is your getting married and that is your reality. ... (read in full...)

What does "wandering eye" really mean?

Q.   What does it mean by "wandering eye"? I've read a few posts here about women who are upset that their boyfriends/husbands are "looking" at other women. I've never read anything about a man who is jealous that his girlfriend/wife "looks" at other men ...

A.   21 October 2010: I have a wondering eye and I love to look at cute guys I try not to disrespect my partner when I do this but Eye Candy is good for the soul. My hunny knows I do this but he doesn't really gets upset over it. I don't throw a cow if I catch him look... (read in full...)

Why would my boyfriend do that? am really hurt:

Q.   my boyfriend has been chattinng to this girl who likes him.. shes been really flirty with him. i saw her text messages yesterday and i replied back to her.. i asked my bf he said i have nothing to worry about and that i have no idea how ...

A.   21 October 2010: You might lose him but not because he goes and finds a girl and cheats, but because he will feel that he can't be with a person who is so insecure that is scare of him going out and getting ph text. If he feels that you don't trust him when he done ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend cheated with one of my close friends and I can't get over it!

Q.   Hello,im hoping someone can give me some advice..so ive been w/my boyfriend a little over 5yrs we have 2 children together absolutely almost perfect that is because when about 5yrs ago he slept w/1 of my closest friends.shes my friend but shes a ...

A.   21 October 2010: You were betrayed by both your boyfriend and your friend. You have to honestly sit down and think is this something you can let go. Its bad enough that he cheated on you but to do this with a close friend of yours makes it even worst. They are both ... (read in full...)

I have a fat fetish and want my girl to be even bigger!

Q.   Okay so i have a big problem. I've been dating the same girl for a year and i told her i have a fat fetish and i needed her bigger. so shes gained about 20 lbs for me but i am still not nearly sexually satisfied. i know for a fact im in love with ...

A.   19 October 2010: These post have made you feel like Sh*t your words, just imagine how you been making your girlfriend feel. Making her feel that she is not good enough simply because of your fetish. You should think on your girlfriend feelings first and if she don't ... (read in full...)

I moved to a new place, want to make friends but have very little contact with others!

Q.   Hola everyone, I´m an aunt here on this site. I really enjoy helping people, but I really need advice about how to deal with loneliness. I just moved to Queretaro, Mexico, where I´m a TEFL teacher. I really love my job and Mexico is amazin...

A.   19 October 2010: You might want to go out with a couple of co-workers and try to meet new people every time you go out. Try joining a group, join a dance class, you might even want to join the red cross you can meet a lot of people doing that. Good luck and just be ... (read in full...)

Do women make camel toes to get attention?

Q.   Hi Im a guy and I was wondering if women know when they have camel toes or not? Or is it done intentionally to get guys to notice?...

A.   19 October 2010: Well women I don't think having a camel toe is cute or sexual so I have to say that they might not know they have one, I don't think its done intentionally to get a man's attention.... (read in full...)

Ghostly goings on...

Q.   I'm sorry, but this is going to be a long one, but this is something that I'm really confused about and most of you that read this probably will either have no idea what to say or just think I'm crazy. Well I sense ghosts, I was able to repel them, ...

A.   19 October 2010: I'm not familiar with any ghost can't say that I've seen or met any, but I do watch shows on TV maybe you can contact one of those shows and shared them your stories...or you might want to search the net to see if others share your ability to see ... (read in full...)

Shadows from my past came knocking at my door, what should I do?

Q.   My wife and I have been married for 16 years we have children, and well at least I was happy and I truly loved her. Many years ago I caught her cheating it broke my heart but I forgave her and we continue to live together and we were actually happy. ...

A.   19 October 2010: It is hard to have to face the fact that your marriage is over, but your marriage was over the minute she cheated and lied to you. It is important to be in love when your in a relationship so you are probably right in not continuing with your girl. ... (read in full...)

Guys Only Please* nude pics of gf

Q.   GUYS ONLY PLEASE I mean this, because girls view the world in a totally different way, and they all THINK they know what guys are thinking and the reasons behindd their actions, but are usually wrong. A girl asking for insight into a guy's min...

A.   19 October 2010: I simply can't understand how a women giving her opinion gives her a bad reputation. If the response was about the subject and she shared her view on it without being disrespectful, why the attack to her post. ... (read in full...)

How can I get my bachelor's degree?

Q.   I was wondering if for example I went to a community college for 2 years, and then a university for 2, would I be able to get a bachelor's degree? I'm a junior in high school now, and I'm thinking maybe I shouldn't go to a 4 year school because I'm ...

A.   18 October 2010: you can go to the 2 year college and get your AA and than transfer to 4 year college you will safe lots of money doing it this way, mainly because you are not sure on what you are majoring in. ... (read in full...)

Married man blushes When I talk to him and tells me others think that I am pretty

Q.   This married man that i c about twice a year text me, calls me, tells me that other co workers think that I am pretty, and tells me that I make him blush. He laughs constantly when I talk on the phone with him. He has a nickname for me which related ...

A.   18 October 2010: tell him straight out that all you want from this relationship is a friendship. Make it clear to him and if he can't respect your wishes than maybe being just friends won't work, and you will have to end the friendship. ... (read in full...)

Over a $20.00 tip? Are you serious?

Q.   Hello to all. I have a situation and I am looking for some advice. I hope someone can help me out here. My boyfriend and I went out for dinner last night. We hadnt gone out in awhile so I agreed to go even though I had just gotten off a 8 hour shift ...

A.   18 October 2010: If your ready to call it quits than do just that call it quits and move on.... (read in full...)

Shadows from my past came knocking at my door, what should I do?

Q.   My wife and I have been married for 16 years we have children, and well at least I was happy and I truly loved her. Many years ago I caught her cheating it broke my heart but I forgave her and we continue to live together and we were actually happy. ...

A.   18 October 2010: I honestly feel that your wife don't deserve you. Why would you want to go back to her if she has proven time and time again how she is not satisfy by having only you. You might love her but she has proven to you that she does not feel the same... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is jealous because I have to dance with another girl at a wedding!

Q.   I'm having a big problem. My best friend is getting married and I'm the best man. I have to dance with the bridesmaid and my girlfriend is pretty mad with me for that. I told her that its just a dance nothing more than that .. but still she's so ...

A.   15 October 2010: It a dance for a wedding are you really considering not doing it. If she throws a fit let her, don't cave in because at this point you are sending out a message that as long as she throws a tantrum you will change your plans bend over backward to ... (read in full...)

So sad...

Q.   Hi I need advice as i have no one to confide in My husband had a year an a half affair with a workmate 5 years ago. We did not have sex very often because of me, i was suffering depression after my children and i think he felt regected and ver...

A.   15 October 2010: unfortunately even though you have forgiven him this doesn't mean you can entirely trust him all at once. He is going to have to rebuild the trust, this is his fault not yours. This will take time but if he is dedicated to you and you see his ... (read in full...)

Why does she have to have the same name as my ex?!?

Q.   Dear agony aunts and uncles, I am currently friends with a girl who has the same name as my ex. Me and this girl have been spending so much time together in the summer and getting closer. We are not exclusively goin out but we have kissed once...

A.   12 October 2010: It really shouldn't matter, not sure if your familiar with Ben Affleck he is an American actor, he married Jennifer Garner, and his ex girlfriend's name is Jennifer Lopez. He is famous and didn't care what people think, so you should follow his step ... (read in full...)

No more hand jobs!

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 3 months now. I have encountered a problem though. He won't hardly talk to me anymore, and when we are in the bedroom he won't give me hand jobs anymore. Please help me!!!!!!!!!...

A.   11 October 2010: You two are lacking in the communication area, you need to sit down and discuss with him how you feel. ... (read in full...)

We had a promising first date but now she barely replies to my texts, what is going on?

Q.   Hello out there, So I had a very promising first date last week. We went to have dinner and we chatted with each other for about three hours. After our date was over I walk her to her subway stop, she then says I wish you didn't have to work tom...

A.   24 September 2010: Really, well than I guess its time to move on don't you agree. Don't spend anymore energy on a person who is not meeting you half ways.... (read in full...)

We had a promising first date but now she barely replies to my texts, what is going on?

Q.   Hello out there, So I had a very promising first date last week. We went to have dinner and we chatted with each other for about three hours. After our date was over I walk her to her subway stop, she then says I wish you didn't have to work tom...

A.   22 September 2010: good luck!... (read in full...)

How can I tell this player I don't want to be his bit of fun?

Q.   I've been fooling around with a guy (kissing and some oral) he doesn't want a relationship just fun, I have always known this, and i don't normally do this sort of thing but i do like him, he wants us to have sex and I really like him but I am ...

A.   21 September 2010: If you give in and have sex, than thats all you will be his sex buddy. Don't allow your self to get pressure into giving in and stay away frome the oral.... (read in full...)

We had a promising first date but now she barely replies to my texts, what is going on?

Q.   Hello out there, So I had a very promising first date last week. We went to have dinner and we chatted with each other for about three hours. After our date was over I walk her to her subway stop, she then says I wish you didn't have to work tom...

A.   21 September 2010: Assuming is not always good, ask her striaght out because she might infact be very busy. ... (read in full...)

One of my close friends likes my boyfriend and its making things awkward between us!

Q.   Hey all. I havent got a major problem, just a little one. So il try keep it as short as possible. Last year i started college, as people do all my friends mixed in with the new football boys from other schools, the basket ball boys and the gol...

A.   21 September 2010: you don't want to loose her friendship, but she has to accept the fact that he is your boyfriend, in order for your friendship not to be hinder. What you might want to do is talk to her, and let her know how much you care for your boyfriend and for ... (read in full...)

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