Married, but found my soulmate
Q. i'm a 40yo man...married for 11 years with 3 beautiful children. My wife and I seem to be so far apart on so many levels and I am very unhappy. She is also an alcoholic and I'm extremely worried about the affect this will have on our kids. Now to...
A. 20 July 2010: If your wife has a drinking problem try to help her out even if it is for the sake of your children. Focus in trying to help the women you promise to love into getting some kind of help, the last thing in your mind should be hooking up with some ... (read in full...)
Do I text? Or don't I?
Q. This is sort of a weird question but i dont really know what i should do.. A really nice guy I met a while ago ran into my friend on the weekend and gave her his number to give to me. I have a boyfriend though so i am not going to persue this guy ...
A. 19 July 2010: You don't have a relationship with him so it should not matter to you if its awkward or not. Imagine how awkward your boyfriend will feel if he was to find out you were texting some guy. To avoid future problems the best thing to do is ignore this ... (read in full...)
Does her lack of communication mean she's cheating?
Q. Good day everyone! I need females and males to talk some sense into me. I've been with my girlfriend for a few months now. This summer we are apart as I have an internship in another country. Yesterday, my girlfriend left with her family ...
A. 19 July 2010: Just relaxes and take under consideration that she is with her family. Most females have lots of respect for there families and will not act improper to have mommy happy and daddy proud, so don't worry about it. When she comes back you can have you ... (read in full...)
Do I text? Or don't I?
Q. This is sort of a weird question but i dont really know what i should do.. A really nice guy I met a while ago ran into my friend on the weekend and gave her his number to give to me. I have a boyfriend though so i am not going to persue this guy ...
A. 19 July 2010: No don't text nor call him, you are not going to start a relationship with him since you are already in one. Don't create an awkward situation, just keep it like it is, this way you won't be tempted or accused of cheating. ... (read in full...)
Married, but found my soulmate
Q. i'm a 40yo man...married for 11 years with 3 beautiful children. My wife and I seem to be so far apart on so many levels and I am very unhappy. She is also an alcoholic and I'm extremely worried about the affect this will have on our kids. Now to...
A. 19 July 2010: You should leave these feelings behind and think about your family. The only thing that should matter to you are your children and have a little of consideration for the women that invested 11 years of her life, to give you a family and a home. ... (read in full...)
I have never been in a relationship in which girls were threats...
Q. Well, to start off, I am a twenty-three-year-old gay male with an extreme amount of insecurity about my appearance when compared to others. I have an anxiety disorder (mainly social anxiety), and quiet, shy, reserved, do not like big parties, and ...
A. 19 July 2010: First of all I think you should go to a neurotic support group where they will help you, hear you out, and offer advise on how to deal with everyday situation.
If you already have low self esteem beleive me when I tell you that your partner ... (read in full...)
I slept with his brother years ago and now my b/f can't get past it!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. We have our rough times but love each other very much. We live in a small town, where we both grew up, and know each other's families. Years before I met/began dating him, I met his older ...
A. 16 July 2010: Good luck, and I really hope your boyfriend gets over this. I think it is unfair for your boyfriend to blame you, he knew about your relationship with his brother, so he shouldn't point his finger at you, because him too could have avoided this ... (read in full...)
I lied about my age to my bf, should I come clean?
Q. when me and current flame started talking, i never thought things would get as serious as they have, and i deffinitely did not think they would last past a week or two. he was 2 years older than me and very very mature so i was worried since i was ...
A. 16 July 2010: You have to be honest with your boyfriend I don't think he is going to be to upset because I'm sure he has feelings for you too. Try to be honest with him and don't let him catch you in anymore lies because he will label you as a liar, and won't ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this bitterness towards the woman my partner cheated with?
Q. My partner cheated on me and this is not a question about him. I've been dealing with it with him. It's about the girl. I have taken so much anger out on him but she walked away with having no affect in her life and ruining mine. He knew her, h...
A. 15 July 2010: If you choice to forgive him than let the situation go. You will not live happy unless you put all this behind you. Just keep this in mind you should not seek for her explanation or try to understand why she did it, the point is they both did it. ... (read in full...)
I'm 13, he's 20, and I want to have sex with him, but will he leave me afterwards?
Q. Hey all im a 13 year old girl and my bf is 20 im a virgin and well this has been my first real bf we have been together 4months and well i want to take it to the next step and have sex. i know he probably will want to as well but im just a bit ...
A. 14 July 2010: If you have sex with your boyfriend he will be committing a crime and would be arrested and punish for this act.
Why would you be dating a 20 year old he is to old for you and if he had any morals he would not be messing around with you, since yo... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this bitterness towards the woman my partner cheated with?
Q. My partner cheated on me and this is not a question about him. I've been dealing with it with him. It's about the girl. I have taken so much anger out on him but she walked away with having no affect in her life and ruining mine. He knew her, h...
A. 14 July 2010: I really think that the person who owe you loyalty, respect, and love was your partner and you need to fix your problem with him. She was a person he slept with he choice to do so, no matter how drunk he says he was he is the one who choice to drive ... (read in full...)
Is it out of line for me to ask to see the engagement rings he gave to his ex's?
Q. He's been engaged before and he still has the rings, is it ok for me to ask to see the rings or is that out of line?...
A. 14 July 2010: I wouldn't ask him to show it to me. I would ask him to pawn it and to buy me something nice for me with money he get for it.... (read in full...)
I want to leave my boyfriend but I moved to TX to be with him and now I have nowhere to go!
Q. Help i just moved to tx with my boyfriend and now i want to leave bc i found out he has been looking up kid p--no. i dont know anyone and have no where to go. what should i do?...
A. 14 July 2010: Ask your family and friends for help, but do get yourself away from this sick man.... (read in full...)
Should I ask him why he stop calling me beautiful or babe?
Q. Hey well my bf used to always say "morning babe" or "morning beautiful" but lately he hasnt been he just says "morning". I miss him calling me that stuff do you think it would be ok if i asked why he stoped? Its only been like 3 or 4 days but i ...
A. 14 July 2010: you can call him honey, cutie, daddy, boo, you can actually adopt a pet name that only you call him by, this will make it extra special. For example pooh, booger, piggy, it could be anything as long as you say it with love, and not when your angry. ... (read in full...)
A guy I like said he thinks I'm tight what does this mean?
Q. a guy i like told his friends that he thinks im tight... what does this mean? ...
A. 13 July 2010: In my neck of woods it means he thinks your fine.... (read in full...)
Do girlfriends discuss their lovers in detail?
Q. Another post had me wondering... when you girls talk about your BF's to fairly close or very close friends, what is the limit on discussion? Do you just say things like "he's great in bed" "he's very tender", or do most women go into more detail ...
A. 13 July 2010: I think a female will share more sexual details about her boyfriend to her friends if the relationship is not that serious. ... (read in full...)
I really want revenge on this shameless, unthankful liar...help?
Q. I was unhappily married for 13 years.I still respect my wife but love was just not there anymore.We have together three beautiful kids.I was more and more sad by time and didn't know what to do.Then two years ago I meet new love of my life.I am 35 ...
A. 13 July 2010: You can put lipstick on a pig that does not make her a lady!... (read in full...)
I have to follow my heart and be with my love but I have a husband!
Q. I am married to a fantastic man and 2 beautiful children. My husband has been working alot, we are trying to save money to buy a house so we are in a rental now and it seems this is the hardest time for us. It is like we just co-exist in the same ...
A. 12 July 2010: You have answered your own questions you have a stable home, a loving husband, and beautiful children. Why would you jeopardize what you have now for an ex. Your ex didn't treasure you when he had you, his addiction was worth more to him than his ... (read in full...)
My friends are sexual at 14 and they keep telling me to do it to
Q. ew. two of my close friends gave a blow job when they were thirteen, but all the guys gave them more attention, so instead of regretting it they have done it again, and they have turned really sexual at 14, i am also 14 but have not done any of ...
A. 10 July 2010: First of all I would like to congratulate you for your decision to hold off on sex, even when under pressure. You don't have to do things just because everyone is doing it. It takes courage to stand up for your beliefs.
Regarding your friends ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend ignores me, should I just break up with him?
Q. My boyfriend neglects me. He ignores me on facebook and doesnt reply to my texts ALOT. He always gives stupid excuses which I find hard to believe. I still love him and I'm willing to give him a second chance. Thing is, he hasn't asked for it. ...
A. 7 July 2010: The relationship is still young and this is the time when he should be making you feel loved, spoiled, I think think it would be best for you to move on. ... (read in full...)
Should I try and forget about this girl?
Q. A month or two ago a co-worker and I started having a relationship. I am single and she has with a boyfriend whom she has been with for four years. At first we both felt very bad about the fact that she was cheating on her boyfriend but as time ...
A. 7 July 2010: I think you should forget about her and move on. She is in a relationship and if she was really serious about you she would have left her boyfriend for you, but she didn't. She is far and most LDR don't work out anyways. Save yourself the trouble ... (read in full...)
What should I do? I've lost the spark for my partner, and developed feelings for another man!
Q. i have been with my partner for almost 3 years now and were engaged but recently i started losing the spark for him , and ive also stared talking to this other guy i have devoloped feelings for but i dont want to hurt my other half but this other ...
A. 7 July 2010: You are young and are not ready to settle down. Marriage is a serious commitment and should not be taken lightly, being so young I can understand why you are starting to wonder. Give your self time and stop thinking on marriage. Live life now and as ... (read in full...)
My partner of 8 years just moved away.
Q. My off/on partner for the last 8 yrs has just moved far away and I am really depressed, I don't know what to do, can't stop crying. He wanted to try to stay together but I knew it wouldn't work and was only him needing security before he went. But ...
A. 7 July 2010: TIME! Give yourself time and you will begin to heal.... (read in full...)
I left my husband, but now the guy I had feelings for won't see me.
Q. I'm married (now separated). While still with my husband, I met a guy online who I knew years ago. We flirted with each other off and on for months. We didn't meet up because of my marriage. We still flirted and fantasized about being together. I ...
A. 6 July 2010: Is there a chance you can work this out with your husband, maybe your feelings for the this other man created a wall, and more problems with your husband. Knowing that this affair was a mistake, could there be a possibility that your husband will ... (read in full...)
Would it be crossing the line to request an STD test?
Q. hi people, just a quick question, my partner just revealled he had unprotected sex with a few women before he met me 3 yrs ago. I asked if hes clean but he just said i think so. Everything seems to be ok with him downstairs but i just wondered if...
A. 6 July 2010: You two should get tested together, you are right in wanting an STD test, just remember treat every relationship like this one even if they don't tell you they had unprotected sex you will be safer if you just assumed they did. ... (read in full...)
Keep chasing... or what???
Q. My ex and I broke up half a year ago, a lot of crap went down in example, I asked her to go to prom with me she needed to think about it. I thought I was getting played and stuff so I said screw it, I told this girl who wanted to go with me sure ...
A. 6 July 2010: I think you should move on..she might just like you a friend and wants to keep you in her life as a "friend".... (read in full...)
I don't feel like I am getting the respect I should from him or am I making too much out of this?
Q. Hi I would like your opinion please on these comments my boyfried keeps making to me. To be quite honest I am starting to feel like he has a very low opinion of me at times and I'm wondering if I should tackle him about this. Here are some of the t...
A. 6 July 2010: He is disrespecting you, and verbally abusive towards you. It seems like your boyfriend has a negative reply for every comment or question you make. You should tell him that his comments are hurting you, and should stop being so rude. At some point ... (read in full...)
Do you tell partners your real number of past lovers if they ask?
Q. Another poll for you ladies: Do you tell partners your real number of past lovers if they ask? If not, how far off are you? A) Yes, I tell them my real number if they ask B) I tell them my number of "real" boyfriends or relationships, bu...
A. 30 June 2010: How many times have my husband asked me about my past none, why because he is a secure man not a boy full of insecurities. I don't ask, he don't ask and not because I'm a shame of my number but because I have a real man who has enough confidence in ... (read in full...)
Do you tell partners your real number of past lovers if they ask?
Q. Another poll for you ladies: Do you tell partners your real number of past lovers if they ask? If not, how far off are you? A) Yes, I tell them my real number if they ask B) I tell them my number of "real" boyfriends or relationships, bu...
A. 30 June 2010: I don't have a high number but this is private to me and I choose who to share it with. Every women has a choice and a man should respect her choice. ... (read in full...)
Do you tell partners your real number of past lovers if they ask?
Q. Another poll for you ladies: Do you tell partners your real number of past lovers if they ask? If not, how far off are you? A) Yes, I tell them my real number if they ask B) I tell them my number of "real" boyfriends or relationships, bu...
A. 30 June 2010: I think If I were asked and harassed about it I would leave. Not worth my headache and in my book everyone is replaceable. ... (read in full...)
He's separated but wants to know about her, should it concern me??
Q. My live-in boyfriend is separated but not divorced. He speaks to his daughter daily and he sometimes asks to his daughter what his wife is doing and where she is and usually ends the conversation with, tell her I said "goodnight". Does this mean ...
A. 30 June 2010: my parents are divorce have been for 15 years but they both still ask me for one another. I think it is normal, they did have a life together but this doesn't mean there still inlove with other. Just my example hope it helps.... (read in full...)
His ex is forcing him to chose between his son or me and now he isn't contacting me!
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I met a guy off a very well known dating site and we hit it off straight away, we became very close in three weeks to the point where we even told each other we loved each other, I know silly really when we hadn't even met before ...
A. 29 June 2010: I'm with prion on this one, I think he is using his ex as an excuse not to see you again. Don't fall for his lies and keep your distance. ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how much longer I can do everything leading up to but not including sex!
Q. I am 19 and I have been with my girlfriend for about a year, we have known each other for 4. Both of us have expressed to each other that we plan on this being a long term, monogamous, committed relationship. She and I are kind of sexually active. ...
A. 29 June 2010: Respect her and accept her wishes, maybe you should stop putting yourself in that situation. Don't tease your body just put a stop to it and wait till she is ready.... (read in full...)
I met his ex, and she's waay better looking than me
Q. My boyfriend thinks i have a low self esteme. i do, but i am trying really hard not to let him see it. but i met his ex girlfriend the other day at a restaraunt on acident, and she is gorgeous, absolutely the most beautiful girl i have ever met. i ...
A. 29 June 2010: you do need to have a little more respect for yourself and stop putting yourself down. She could be real pretty but beauty is only skin deep and you might posses other qualities. ... (read in full...)
She is on my mind every minute of the day!
Q. Well guys n girls, I have a problem like most on here. About 2 years ago, I gained a crush on a girl in my class. Well I have retained this crush for the 2 years since I first fell for her and I have never asked her out. This year, I have got to k...
A. 29 June 2010: You need to tell her you still like and would like to take it from there. She knows how you feel but you never took a step forward so I suggest you give it a try. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I need advice on a relationship issue!!!! please read and comment!
Q. I need help please! 5 weeks into my relationhip i went out without my girlfriend and this girl approached me to say hi, i immediatley told her to fuck off but later on in the night when i was heavily intoxicated i said some things to her, for ...
A. 29 June 2010: Just tell her what happened. You didn't cheat and therefore did nothing wrong, you stopped yourself which shows you love and respect your girlfriend. I think it normal for people to flirt its when you cross the line that makes it wrong. ... (read in full...)
Did he leave because I was disrespectful?
Q. This is a long one, but please bare with me. About two months ago, I 'gave myself away' to a strange guy I barely knew (for LESS than ONE day. Can you believe that ? :-/). I met him at the park around the corner from my house. My friend and I had we...
A. 29 June 2010: What you have to do is put it behind you. You were not with him long enough to have a bond with him so there is a chance that he was probably only interested in sex since at that moment that was the only connection you two had. Don't blame your self ... (read in full...)
Let the past be the past? Or warning sign?!
Q. I been with my girl for 1 year,we were having intercourse and she yelled out a name that wasnt mines. I was furious and asked her to explain her self. She told me it was the person she was with prior to me,but that wasnt what borthered me. It was ...
A. 28 June 2010: Don't take so lightly this warning signs, she was able to betrayed her friend becoming her best friend boyfriend lover not a cool thing to do. I would not take it so lightly and sometimes our past do haunt our future. ... (read in full...)
My Husband left me 8 weeks ago and I still want him back
Q. We have been together for 9 years and married for 3 ,He moved out 4 weeks ago into a flat so i could move back in the house, he has suffered with depression in the past and has ups/down mood swings etc Since the beginning of this year ...
A. 28 June 2010: When your husband chose to leave you at that point he was thinking on just himself and did not put any thought in you, at this point you have to do the same. It will be hard but don't loose your pride begging and crying just pick yourself up with ... (read in full...)
We're getting along great, next thing I know he's dropped me and dating a younger, less attractive woman!
Q. I was dating a guy, we we're getting on great, he even said to me on our first date that it felt like he'd known me for years. Then he kept cancelling other dates and next thing I know hes in a relationship with a girl much less attractive than me, ...
A. 28 June 2010: She might be less attractive but always remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. He obvious found something in her that he liked and you should accept that and move on. You too will find someone that will fall over heels for you. Just be ... (read in full...)
I have caught my girl cheating three times!
Q. my girl has been cheating on me, i have caught her more than three time now, she saying that she will not do it again but she keep liyimg to me , im fed up ,what do i do? [Mod note: text was edited for clarity. I hope I got it right.]...
A. 28 June 2010: You forgave her and gave her a second chance because you love her but when she cheated on you that second time you should have given her the boot, and you wouldn't have experience the 3rd time. I hope you learned your lesson this time and get rid of ... (read in full...)
I think the kiss ruined our friendship!
Q. i was leaving for the day, when my guy friend says "hey, where's my g'bye kiss?" i smile, i kiss his cheek, then he offers the other cheek, then we kinda grin, and before i know it, i kiss his lips, really hard, because i don't know why!!! i just ...
A. 26 June 2010: You kissed him because you like him right? Why do you say your not his type did he tell you that? He is probably wondering why you kiss him because you caught him off guard, and he might like you. I think you two should talk and go from there. This ... (read in full...)
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