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anonymous
writes:we had a party in our home and my husband decided to give oral sex to an old female friend that was passed out in the room down stairs while i was upstairs sleeping. he never said anything to me until the girl called me the next morning and told me. i have been so angry with him since i don't know what to do. this has ruined our social life cause some of his friends know and my life has been so boring and i can't even be attracted to him any more or let him do oral sex to me.
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reader, kerizz  +, writes (14 April 2010):
 i find this truly shocking i have many times been out of it but id no unless i was drugged if i was being assaulted how were they before this claim, i cant help but think possible no assault but maybe consented n possible angry female and payback towards your relationship poor you good luck hun
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reader, LoveGirl  +, writes (7 April 2010):
So he raped her.
Why was he not reported to the cops -sexual misdemeanor?
Any confrontation?
What happens now?
Please if you have kids DO NOT trust him with them.
He should be brought to book. NOW
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reader, fishdish +, writes (7 April 2010):
 Lonely Two,
I don't think, legally speaking, that vaginal/anal intercourse are the only ones that count as rape...like a girl could be forced to go down on a guy..but i think it'd be basically impossible to prove that this happened since it doesn't really leave trauma...
sorry to get sidetracked.
i'd break up with him.think about children you could be bringing into the marriage, think about their safety/what THEIR reaction would be to this news. not that you really need to do that mental exercise..it's creepy either way.
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reader, boo22 +, writes (7 April 2010):
 Yes, I can see why that might be socially awkward lol
I don't understand why you don't divorce him...I mean ewwww!
Did she tell you she liked it? If she didn't why isn't he in jail? You say you can't stand him anyway. How much more of a push do you need to get rid of him and start a happy life?
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reader, Miamine +, writes (7 April 2010):
 This post is so strange, to strange to be believed for me...
The girl passed out but remembered everything?
And your mostly mad because it's spoiled your social life?
Don't really know what to say to your post, if this is a true life problem, you need to go to counselling for yourself because your morality is very strange, and so is your husband.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): Did the woman tell you she knew he was doing that or did others at the party tell her when she regained consciousness?
In other words was she willing or was she raped by your husband?
If he is willing to lick a strange girl's vagina in your house, then how many strange vaginas has he licked elsewhere during your marriage? Yum yum pucker up or dump the loser.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): If she was passed out, I believe that constitutes as non-consensual sexual relations, which is morally awful, and legally wrong.
You seem more worried about your social standing and bordeom then what he has done. He needs to pay for what he has done. And if I were you, I'd call it quits. He doesn't sound like a decent person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): If she was passed out how does SHE know even know about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): First,
if the girl who received the oral told you; then she wasn't passed out therefore a willing participant.
Second,
if it was someone else that saw and told you, why would that friend not stop him?
Third,
why were you upstairs sleeping at your own party?
But lastly,
he has no excuse for doing that. If you love him, make him pay dearly for what he's done but only do that if you intend on eventually forgiving him.
If you can never forgive him, just leave him.
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reader, raiders +, writes (6 April 2010):
 He molested her he took advantage that she was passed out and honey, that is not okay I think it might even be illegal. You should be angry he has violated your trust and in your own home. Question is are you willing to forgive him, forget about it, are you willing to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): Ask him why he did it? Especially when she was passed out, does he not know this isw rong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): Wow. Im just suprised its your social life thats ruined. I think my marriage would be too! Are you sure this sort of thing hasnt happened before. Id be pressing charges against him if he had done that to me while i was passed out. Thats sexual assault. It might be best to curtail the social events and drinking until your husband learns how to behave himself. Once hes grasped the rudiments of drinking alcohol in a social setting without molesting women, then try to rekindle your social life.
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reader, missps +, writes (6 April 2010):
no man should do this to his partner they would not like it if you did this to him. i think you should move on maybe or talk to each other tell them your problams and him not tellin you means he wasnt goin to tell you and you had to find out the hard way by your friend. xx
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