I want to regain his trust. But do you even think that's possible?
Q. Okay so, I dated this guy named Joe from January to early March, our relationship was perfect until he started accusing me of doing things. He thought I told my best friend a secret about him. He also started saying I was lying about every little ...
A. 9 June 2011: He is unstable and miserable and he is bringing you down with him. My suggestion is for you to stay away from him he is trouble. He easily flares up and goes into this rage, do you really want to be with someone like this. What if in one of his rage ... (read in full...)
Did my wife have sex with her lover during her affair?
Q. Me and my wife are married for 3 years we have a son together. Recently we've been having alot of arguments and i could't take it so i moved out. during that month my wife met a guy from her new work place and they started talking a lot. my wife and ...
A. 9 June 2011: Does that matter to you? She is telling you she can't stop talking to him so if she has or hasn't really doesn't matter because if she continues to keep in contact with him it will happen.
If your wife was really trying to make your marriage... (read in full...)
She keeps running from me to her ex!
Q. This is a long story but i need peoples feedback because i don't know what to do :( Right so i met this girl out one night and we kissed, she was completely drunk but the next week I saw her again and we started talking and she seemed really ni...
A. 5 May 2011: You have to move on in reality it seems like she is using you. When she don't feel like being alone she calls you and she is using you as her booty call. Many guys will jump on to a no strings attach relationship and be happy but seeing that you ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but cannot marry me
Q. i am a traditional orthodox indian girl who was never in a relationship before, now from past 2 year i met a guy and both were truely in love. i have not revealed this with anyone nor he. now his parents are forcing him to get married then i raised ...
A. 11 April 2011: Sadly you have to end this relationship. You already know he is not going to marry you so in reality there is no future in this relationship. Leave him cold turkey and do not give him any sexual favors again. ... (read in full...)
My sister is a squatter. How can my parents get her to leave?
Q. My sister got pregnant and my parents let her stay at home. now that the child is 1 year old now they want her to leave and get a house of her own. they have constantly told her to go cause all she does is causes hassle and fights with everyone. She ...
A. 11 April 2011: If your sister leaves and stays with someone else is there a chance that she will be leaving her baby with just anyone so that she can go out?... (read in full...)
Girlfriend cheated on me and I can't get over it
Q. My girlfriend cheated on me months back and I can't seem to get over it. We were living together and things had started getting really rocky. We were fighting bitterly all day every day. I felt her distance herself from me, and rather than give...
A. 5 April 2011: The best thing you can do is move on and leave her. You don't trust her and you can't built a relationship like this. You have all the right to be upset and I'm sorry but your girlfriend should expect your behavior and be humble about it and show ... (read in full...)
I am too attached to my lover, but I want to lead a normal life with my husband now he wants a baby!
Q. hi i am 27/ f/ married for 5 years. I have been involved with lots of guys in my life physically and this continued even after marriage as my husband is not a interested in sex, its been almost 3 years we made love, he is fine with it as he is not ...
A. 5 April 2011: I think you need to leave your husband and find a mate that will love you and sex you up. Its impossible to be in a sexless marriage at a young age and you have only been married 5 years imagine your life in the future if you were to stay marry to ... (read in full...)
Opinions on the letter I am going to send to my ex?
Q. I wanted peoples input on my letter im going to handwrite and give to my ex in an envelope. I said some terrible things to my ex after she dumped me and i need to get them off my chest. I just wanted to make things clear since I do owe you this ...
A. 5 April 2011: The letter sounds good. My suggestion to you is to move on and respect her wishes. Make sure you understand that this is a closure letter and not an apology lets get back together letter, so don't expect much in return.... (read in full...)
Did my dad over-react? And should I go all the way with my boyfriend?
Q. me and my bf are both 15 and in love and about a month ago my parents left and he came over. we were making-out then i gave him a bj, (we still had our clothes on, his pants were unzipped). then my dad walked in grabbed him by his neck and started ...
A. 5 April 2011: No he didn't overreact, and you should be respecting your parents home. Your boyfriend had no business sneaking in your bedroom after you guys got caught this is only going to anger your father more and you are way out of line here.... (read in full...)
She is always sick, is she the right person?
Q. She is always sick of malaria and worms. I have spent lots of money on her treatment since I got her. She has tested for other diseases like HIV but we are all negative. Will she be the right person for me?...
A. 5 April 2011: If you love her than stay with her this is your decision but make sure you always always always wear a condom.... (read in full...)
Dating two men, one of whom is married
Q. I'm dating two men at a time, the more caring one is a maried man nd d other one is stil single and has promised to marry me. I love them equaly. What shoud i do now?...
A. 5 April 2011: Your best bet is the single one!... (read in full...)
Am I just being crazy or are my feelings somewhat valid?
Q. Well, I've been in a LDR with my bf for a little over a year now. I go to school away from home and have my own place, which makes it easier for him to come and visit as he has a place to stay with me. Now I'm faced with the decision of goin...
A. 5 April 2011: You are over thinking the situation, he is right in letting you make your own decision, this is your life, your future, your parents.
"he doesn't want to have an effect on major decisions in my life, not yet anyway."
He is respecting your ... (read in full...)
Her excuse for sleeping with my brother is that she thought it was me! Should I believe her?
Q. A few days ago my twin brother and I had our birthday party at our apartment. Our girlfriends were at the party with a few friends. We had quite a bit of different kind of liquor. Then I guess I passed out. In the morning, my brother's girlfriend ...
A. 5 April 2011: Did you pass out in your own bed, and where did your brother girlfriend passed out at? I don't know she could be telling you the truth if she had sex with him in the living room, kitchen, restroom but if the action happened in his bedroom I wouldn't ... (read in full...)
I had sex with someone else while we were on a break and now he says I am 'dirty' to him, what can I do?
Q. My boyfriend who I love more that anything else told me we should take a break so he could deal with some issues. A week later I saw he was taking someone to prom and I knew he liked her. Out of jealousy and a need for security, I had sex with a ...
A. 28 March 2011: You probably made a mistake but I wouldn't call you dirty!
Dirty is such a harsh word and could have many different interpretation, but putting in the same sentence with sex is as if your boyfriend used the word dirty to substitute for a hars... (read in full...)
Why do some women get themselves pregnant on purpose?
Q. One of my ex co workers got herself pregnant on purpose. She even told everyone about it. She had a short fling with someone and knew that he didn't want any children. They weren't even in a exclusive relationship. But she lied about what ...
A. 28 March 2011: I feel that if the guy is having unprotected sex than he should be responsible for his action and not blame a women for getting herself pregnant. Don't want a baby than put on the party hat. A man should be responsible and take birth control ... (read in full...)
Why am I hurting over him?
Q. Dear Cupid ... Im hurting. I wish if you can say something to make me feel better here is my problem, i filed for divorce almost 6 months ago even tho i tried hard to make my marriage work but there were too many issues that cant be solved and Lo...
A. 28 March 2011: You need to learn how to treat people and how to respect their feelings. This guy you were dating had feelings for you and all you did was walk all over him. You acted like this because you probably thought you were better, but to most people looks ... (read in full...)
I had sex with someone else while we were on a break and now he says I am 'dirty' to him, what can I do?
Q. My boyfriend who I love more that anything else told me we should take a break so he could deal with some issues. A week later I saw he was taking someone to prom and I knew he liked her. Out of jealousy and a need for security, I had sex with a ...
A. 28 March 2011: The only thing that comes to my head is that he wanted a break to take another chick to the prom and nail her, since you being a virgin you were off limits.
He sounds like a complete idiot and didn't think clearly on his decision of taking a... (read in full...)
Does he care for me or not? He's sending mixed signals.
Q. Hi, I was seeing this boy who I live with (in Halls) for a month or so, and one night I got really drunk and kissed my best guy friend in front of him. Naturally he was really upset and we didn't speak for a while, but then we decided to be friends ...
A. 28 March 2011: You need to ask him straight out what are his feelings for you. You also need to tell him how you feel. Once you two talk you'll be able to see where you stand, and if he wants no relationship than maybe you should look else where. Don't start ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I should believe him when he tells me he loves me.
Q. My ex wants me back and i want him back so he has been kissing me and calling me his gf again. I know how i feel about him, i know how he SAYS how he feels about me, but some times i don't believe it. My "BF" says he wants to marry me one day and w...
A. 28 March 2011: He has a girlfriend and he can be telling you all the nicest things in the world the fact is he has a GIRLFRIEND. He hasn't dumped her for you, and if his feelings and words were sincered he wouldn't string you along with false hopes. Words get ... (read in full...)
After 7 years I still pity his ex-wife
Q. ive been dating to a guy for 7 years. now we are both seperated. The problem is that he still feel guilt about what he had done to his wife and still pity her. Sometimes he wants to be alone to choose between his wife and me. He cant have the ...
A. 16 March 2011: Its not pity, People break up and still have strong feelings for that person it does not mean we feel sorry for them, it means they still occupy a little space in our hearts. Your husband is obviously in-love with you if not he wouldn't have left ... (read in full...)
Dissillusioned - I think she's cheating but I have no proof..
Q. Like my name says, I'm disillusioned and confused. I married my wife 27yrs ago and knew she wasn't a virgin. It bothered me at first but after she told me how it happened, I decided to live with it, after all, I also lost my virginity to someone ...
A. 8 March 2011: All this insecurities you have about your wife has to do with you not her. Your the one cheating! You are away from home and only visit in the weekend can it be that you two are falling apart. So your wife was not a vigin after 27 years of marriage ... (read in full...)
How can he love his wife if he was cheating with me?
Q. Hope you can help me I had been seeing a married man i to am married we worked together thats how it started. We were seeing each other for 5 mths he was telling me how much he loved me and wanted to be with me and even said he would leave his ...
A. 8 March 2011: The thing here is that he left you the minute he got caught and called you his mistake. Most married man don't leave thier wifes for thier mistress and when they do leaved this happens in the begining of the relationship.
He has chosen and he c... (read in full...)
I'm a pagan and he's a jehovas witness...can this work?
Q. hey, i'll try to keep this short. theres this guy i really fancy and we got on brilliantly, well we still do. but recently i found out he's a strict jehovas witness. for most people that wouldn't be a problem, they'd still try and ask him out anyw...
A. 8 March 2011: I don't think he will date you because when your a Jehova's witness the only reason your allow to talk to people outside your religion is to talk about thier belief to you in hope of a convertion. ... (read in full...)
She called me small after sex...should I be worried?
Q. I have never had complaints/worries about my size or performance in the past, but lately I've been feeling very insecure with my new lady. Sex seems great from my perspective, but the last week she called me small after sex. This comment came a c...
A. 8 March 2011: I think your fine and she has some major ass kissing to do. ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my mom's partner!!
Q. Hi, I did something really horrible and I don't know what to do. Basically I had sex with my mum partner and they been out with eachother for 8years. I'm only 18 myself and I don't know why it happend. I'm carrying so much guit with me all around ...
A. 8 March 2011: I feel that he crossed the line by having sex with you, but I really feel you could have said no and you didn't. You are to worried about the lie dector can this be because you have skeletons in your closet that he can expose. You are 18 you had sex ... (read in full...)
I lied to him saying I was pregnant to see his reaction...
Q. I lied to my this boy I'm seeing that I'm pregnant with his baby after I took a test saying it was negative. When I told him he was upset and first thing he said was I'm booking the abortion. I've told him its already booked. I told him I was preg...
A. 7 March 2011: This was not very nice but when you told him you were pregnant to get a reaction from him I am wondering if you got the reation you were expecting.
Obviously you two are to young to be having sex and by having sex you are putting yourself... (read in full...)
Is this an emotional affair?
Q. I need some advise desperately. I have been with my wife for almost 24 years and married 18. We've got 2 beautiful kids(6 and 11)We've had a good marriage for the vast majority of the time with some ups and downs. I lost my job recently and we ...
A. 7 March 2011: You have been with your wife 24 years and even thought emotional affairs are bad, she still hasn't crossed the line into making it a physical and this could be because she still loves you. I think you should fight for your marriage if you still love ... (read in full...)
Do I assume that he is cheating on me or what?
Q. I am so insecure when it comes to my boyfriend. I want to trust him, but I have been hurt in my past. Anyway, I figured out his password to his cell phone, and I check it often. Once I heard a girl leave her name and told him to call her back. I ...
A. 4 March 2011: Your invading his privacy and he forgave you once and you found a way to get his secret code again, what you are doing is risking to much and he might get upset and dump you. When your snooping around is because your hoping to find evidence of any ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of giving up my affairs...help!
Q. when i split up from my marriage i started going out immediately with an old girlfriend( i know i should have waited) and the relationship was good initially but i was carrying a lot of anger from my marriage which ended badly. The new relationship ...
A. 3 March 2011: Your girlfriend broke up with you because you cheated, and you want her back but your still with the same lover, how do you think this looks in your girlfriends eyes. If you want your family back than your going to have to leave the lover and start ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my mom's partner!!
Q. Hi, I did something really horrible and I don't know what to do. Basically I had sex with my mum partner and they been out with eachother for 8years. I'm only 18 myself and I don't know why it happend. I'm carrying so much guit with me all around ...
A. 2 March 2011: "And we didn't use protectiom or anyting but he didn't cum in me becoz he always takes his penis out when he is going to cum"
I think their is to many loose ends in your story.... (read in full...)
Now he won't even look at me!
Q. My husband and I have been together for almost 4 years and what seemed to be the most wonderful and amazing realtionship has slipped away from us. When we met, he said he did not even find me attractive, but fell in love with me and see everything ...
A. 2 March 2011: You can not cave to all his tantrums sorry but you have to take a stand for you. You have to open your own secret account because incase of a breakup the way that you make him sound he will leave you with nothing but the clothes on your back. You ... (read in full...)
She was with another guy during our break
Q. now i have a question me and my gf have been in an up and down relationship for about a year and 7 months now during our break up she had drunken sex with some guy and it hurt me so much cause i still loved her so much and now that we're back ...
A. 2 March 2011: In reality she did nothing wrong because you two were not together. When you two broke up thier were no guranteeds that you two were going to get back together so she moved on. This happens often, but if you can't let go of this insecurity you are ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of giving up my affairs...help!
Q. when i split up from my marriage i started going out immediately with an old girlfriend( i know i should have waited) and the relationship was good initially but i was carrying a lot of anger from my marriage which ended badly. The new relationship ...
A. 2 March 2011: You cheated and you two broke up and your girlfriend is willing to give you another chance and you are doubting because you don't want to be alone. This is the reason why cheaters cheat because they only think on themselves. You should feel happy ... (read in full...)
Are suspicious partners untrustworthy?
Q. My question is quite a general one, and this is something that has been bugging me for some time. I am wondering, and would like people's opinions on, whether people who accuse others of cheating, act jealous, distrustful, controlling, suspicious, ...
A. 2 March 2011: I believe that a lot of times when the person is super jealous it has to do with thier self esteem. But if a person has had no self esteem issues and all of sudden start pointing finger, arguing, accusing is most likely because they have something ... (read in full...)
Am I a bad person for setting the trap for her to fall into? In my defence, she did some really horrible things!
Q. So I met this girl (we are both 28) when she came to my country on a two month vacation. She was attractive, beautiful and smart (basically the opposite of me ? ) but anyway, we got on well together and things got serious towards the end of her stay ...
A. 2 March 2011: If she hasn't contacted you than you should leave it at that. To be honest its not polite to set people up and what you did was not nice. To everyone there own I guess, I think it would be best to leave things how they are and do not try to contact ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my mom's partner!!
Q. Hi, I did something really horrible and I don't know what to do. Basically I had sex with my mum partner and they been out with eachother for 8years. I'm only 18 myself and I don't know why it happend. I'm carrying so much guit with me all around ...
A. 2 March 2011: Your 18 and you should have know better. Both of you betrayed your mother. There is no excuse for you either because not only did you screw him once you did him twice. I'm sorry but I can't feel sorry for you because you are an adult and you knew ... (read in full...)
I'm having an affair with a married man who's now in love with me...
Q. I have been having an affair with a married man for nearly a year now, I am a single girl and this just started as a bit of fun, but in the last few months he has been telling me that he is so in love with me . He has been married for a year and a ...
A. 1 March 2011: " I can't live like this forever, we were discussing this the other day and he said you never know what's round the corner. I just don't know what to do I love him so much but I don't want anyone to get hurt."
But you do know whats in the other co... (read in full...)
I can't convince her to leave her husband.
Q. I am having trouble coping with the guilt I feel about the relationship my girlfriend and I have. She is married and has been married for 8 years, her and I have been seeing each other for 3 years and I can seriously say I love that women. When...
A. 1 March 2011: You been having this affair for three years and she still hasn't left her husband so the chances of that happening are slim. She probably does love you but not enough to give up her marriage, her family, her home, so in reality she loves her husband ... (read in full...)
She hasn't talked to me in 2 days, was I out of line?
Q. So I have been dating this for a bit over 2 months now and everything has been great. We see each other usually each weekend and whenever possible a time or 2 during the week. The other day we had a bit of a spat, it really wasn't huge, just about ...
A. 25 February 2011: I think that if she delays in returning your calls could be because other things come up. You should understand that her life is not going to revolve around yours because she is her own person. You are already seeing her mutiple times a week and you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has transcended into a higher being, and dumped me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and 1/2 years. We have been through sooo much together to develop this great relationship. In the beginning, we struggled because I was in the middle of another relationship. After that relationship ...
A. 25 February 2011: He thinks to highly of himself and not only did he break up with you he also humiliated you in the process.
This decision will benefit you in the long run, so hold your head up high, deal with the heartache now, and move on.... (read in full...)
I am feeling pressured, but I have the right to choose who to keep in my life, right?
Q. I've come to the time now where I can't be bothered with some people. I just think some people haven't grown up. People lie, spread rumors, insult you, judge you ect.... I've dumped some people out of my life because of what they are like. I know ...
A. 25 February 2011: Very mature thinking for a 17 year old. You have the right to select your friends and your boyfriends, the only thing you have no selection is in family. Be selective choose your friends right, be happy and comfortable with you choice to share your ... (read in full...)
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