My girlfriend lied about her sexual past, what should I do?
Q. hey i dont know how to ask this but here goes ..... i have been with my girlfriend for some time and love every minute i am with her , i knew she has had sexual partners in the past one being her ex boyfriend and the other was a boy she was seeing a...
A. 12 May 2010: Q is right "If guys want honesty from women, we have to quit punishing them when they give it to us."
There are too many things a person needs to watch out now days to many STD's but in fairness it works both ways.
If a guy wants to be hone... (read in full...)
My girlfriend lied about her sexual past, what should I do?
Q. hey i dont know how to ask this but here goes ..... i have been with my girlfriend for some time and love every minute i am with her , i knew she has had sexual partners in the past one being her ex boyfriend and the other was a boy she was seeing a...
A. 12 May 2010: She might think your the jealous type, that your insecure, that you would leave her, that your the macho type, there could be so many reason why she was not honest with you, but in reality you should respect her privacy.
This is her past and she ... (read in full...)
Can I receive pictures of my boyfriend even if I don't have a camera phone?
Q. Hey my boyfriend wants to send me pics of him, cause we havnt been able to see each other in awhile. Well i dont have a camera phone can i still get them? Also i have T-mobile if that can help lol. Thanks for your time!...
A. 12 May 2010: try calling your network provider and give them the phone model number and they should be able to help you. When I had a phone without a camera I was unable to receive multimedia text or pix..all phones are different so I would call them.... (read in full...)
How would you as a person want me to act if I felt this way towawrds you?
Q. "OPs own title" I really need this question answered and taken seriously. There is this guy, and i have like him for nearly 3 years. He's my high school crush if i were to put it that way. Lately, we've been talking loads every night on IM and we ...
A. 11 May 2010: I think you should ask him how he feels about you. You said he is shy and might not know how to approach you. I'm not sure how you want to act around him but if you want him to make the move than you might want to be a flirty with him. Good Luck ... (read in full...)
She sees it as a one night stand, I thought we were going somewhere?
Q. Theres a Girl i like who ive gone pretty far with in the bed room but she only see it as a one night stand i thought that it was going some where and i dunno what to do if i just leave it or try and make it go some where . she say she likes me but ...
A. 11 May 2010: You want a relationship and it appears she doesn't, why don't you try asking her you have nothing to loose. If she says no you can continue being her FWB and if she says yes you will now have her as a girlfriend. ... (read in full...)
He cheated! Will I always be suspicious of him?
Q. Has anyone known of couples who have faced infidelity in their marriage and worked it out? My husband and I have been married for 9 years (together for 16) and he has had a 3 1/2 year affair. We have 2 children together, ages 6 and 4. Is it ...
A. 11 May 2010: He cheated and you lost faith in him and don't trust him anymore this is normal. When we marry we make a commitment to be honest, faithful, and trustful and when a person cheats he or she breaks that contract. It's normal not to trust him and mainly ... (read in full...)
Love my boyfriend but no sex makes me want to move on
Q. my boyfriend and i are having problems i guess you could say. we have been together for a year and a half now. we only have sex about twice a month. his first excuse was that he never wanted to cause im too pushy about it but now he says he has a ...
A. 11 May 2010: Talk to your boyfriend and ask him to tell you the real reason he don't want to have sex because now you are debating a breakup. You are too young to be in a relationship without sex and sooner or later you will take up one of those dinner dates so ... (read in full...)
He slept with someone during the time I needed space to think about my ex, what did this girl mean to him?
Q. I went out with James about 5 times and we hit it off really well. I didn't sleep with him, just went on dates. My ex then contacted me and I was in a mess trying to figure out what to do. I broke it off with James because I wasn't sure how I felt. ...
A. 11 May 2010: I really don't think that shouldn't matter to you. You left him to think on your ex during that time he used someone else to forget about you, you both realize that you both needed each other and got back together that all that should matter to you. ... (read in full...)
Why won't she accept my apology?
Q. I like this lady she kinda mad at me over a stupid arguement because i couldnt see her when i wanted to. We been talking for about a month and i like her she liked me but now its bad. I sent her roses to her school and asked her to accept my ...
A. 11 May 2010: Give her distance and in the end you will see if distance is what she wanted or if she really likes playing this cat and the mouse game. ... (read in full...)
She came back in my life...not sure if we should stay friends or just end it?
Q. Ok here is the situation; Ive been together with this girl for over a year, when she broke up with me. She had all kind of issues, like anorexia, etc. After the break up I decided to forget about her and move on, but now about 6 months later...
A. 11 May 2010: Why don't you try talking to her and ask her what is it she wants from you. If she wants to be friends than you will know and you might not put any feelings in it, but if she wants a relationship and your all for it than you guys can start fresh. ... (read in full...)
Is this guy a player or what?
Q. hello, its been a while now that iv been texting a guy who is 6 years older than me. when he first txt he wanted to know if im single. today i found out that he has a girlfriend and a baby boy. he always ask me out but iv refused till now. should i ...
A. 11 May 2010: You refused then why wouldn't you refuse him now that you know he has a girlfriend and a baby..It going to be a big headache, put a stop to it know that there are no feeling involve.... (read in full...)
Why won't she accept my apology?
Q. I like this lady she kinda mad at me over a stupid arguement because i couldnt see her when i wanted to. We been talking for about a month and i like her she liked me but now its bad. I sent her roses to her school and asked her to accept my ...
A. 11 May 2010: She probably feel like your moving to fast. The whole reason you two got into an argument is because you wanted to spend more time and she probably didn't. Maybe she used this argument in her favor and is hoping in getting distance from you. Give ... (read in full...)
I'm experiencing a crisis and need motivation to get past it! Any advice?
Q. im 19, male and a student, im going through such a difficult phase in my life. i've got my exams coming up now but thats nothing, the thing that im stressed about is the relationship ive been in for 3 years. 2 years of it havn't been easy. ive tried ...
A. 10 May 2010: You say you want to stay close to your religion have you tried to talk to your pastor or priest. Many time churches has activity and groups that you can attend to this will help ease your mind of all your problems.... (read in full...)
My bf never has time for me!
Q. My boyfriend never has time for me....we see ourselves like once in two weeks. when i go see him, he leaves me to hang out with his friends, but he calls me every day to know how am faring. what do I do? I love him and he is my first boyfriend....
A. 10 May 2010: If you hardly see him and when you go see him he leaves you to hang out with his friends, why are you not in the next bus home. If you start tolerating this behavior its only going to get worst. Sit him down and talk to him and tell him that you ... (read in full...)
Do I want too much?
Q. Should I call it quits? I know everyones answer will prob be yes straight away but here goes. I met my now second Husband in a bar May 2008 we had a lot in common he was charming and made me laugh. we both had children of the same age 3 and 5...
A. 10 May 2010: Should you call it quits, dear if you were to sit down and read to yourself what you wrote over and over again you will get your answer.
Personally I will tell you that your children only have you for support and you should not allow this beh... (read in full...)
Caught wife in a car going down on another man, what to do?
Q. I was at a party this past weekend with my wife and in the middle of the party I lost my wife. When I tried to find her, she was nowhere to be found. Finally, I went out to chekc our car and she wasn't there. Ont eh way back I noticed a guy ...
A. 10 May 2010: Your wife did this act being intoxicated with alcohol, but where were you when she disappeared. Not trying to defend her act but I think you should have been with her at time if she was that wasted, and you should have taken her home.
Anywa... (read in full...)
What shall I do for my birthday?
Q. I'm not sure what to do this weekend for my birthday. I dont usually like going out drinking , but i thought as its a special occassion, i'd like to go. I want to go to a town that's close to where i live, as thats the better place to go if you want ...
A. 10 May 2010: Don't make plans to go to two places, stay in one place and enjoy your birthday to a max. Have your friends meet you where you want to go and tell them that its your birthday and you really felt like going to this certain club. Have fun and don't ... (read in full...)
I think he's cheating because he doesn't answer my calls
Q. So if you call you boyfriend after you come back from shopping, he doesn't pick up when you call the first two times and it barley rings 4 times, you wait a while and call a third time and the other time it rings 5times.. I'm pretty sure he i...
A. 9 May 2010: Your young and I guess and this behavior is acceptable as you grow older you will learn how to deal with these situations and would know how to handle stuff like this...Good Luck!... (read in full...)
At my age, my parents still don't know I'm a lesbian. How do I tell them?
Q. Hi My parents doesnt know I been a lesbian all my life. My parents and I never have even asked me if I date! Never been a subject of conversation. I respect my parents and I wish I could just be me but I cant. Better yet dont know how to approach...
A. 9 May 2010: Maybe they don't ask because they already know. I know that when my brother came out of the closet, we already knew he was gay.
Tell them Dad Mom I have something very important to tell you, its regarding my life and I want you to know that I l... (read in full...)
I think he's cheating because he doesn't answer my calls
Q. So if you call you boyfriend after you come back from shopping, he doesn't pick up when you call the first two times and it barley rings 4 times, you wait a while and call a third time and the other time it rings 5times.. I'm pretty sure he i...
A. 9 May 2010: I think before you jump into any conclusion you might want to ask him whats going on why is he not answering your calls. He might be busy or had plans that you were unaware of. There could be so many reason to why he did not answer the phone so give ... (read in full...)
I need to deal with my girlfriend's baggage
Q. Hi, I am in my mid twenties and am in a relationship for about 4 months so far. Some history on my girl. My girlfriend is really pretty and treats me alright. However, she has many emotional issues, which affect our relationship. Firstly...
A. 9 May 2010: You love her and she loves you people make mistakes and if you are willing to love her not looking into her past than do so, because it will be unfair that you use her because you unwilling will also mark her. Your traditions are different than ours ... (read in full...)
How can one be so cruel?
Q. I have been going over and over this situation if you can call it that in my head for 3 days now and my head is hurting as much as my heart/feelings. I was dating a 40yr old guy with 2 grown up sons for a month. He made a big point of waiting...
A. 9 May 2010: Best decision you could have made, remember to value yourself and hold your head up high, and do not let any man make you feel worthless. Next time he calls you think on your pride and hang up on him he is not worth it. ... (read in full...)
He is TOO confusing.
Q. I am in High School and have already experienced my first love and heart break. Before my last break up I constantly flirted with this guy and I found him handsome, intriguing, smart, funny, endlessly fascinating, and just special. He always paid ...
A. 9 May 2010: good luck keep me posted......... (read in full...)
In love with a same-sex teacher
Q. im in love my teacher she doesn't teach me but i saw her in the hall at school assembly and i thought 'woah she is beautiful' and she looked at me and smiled i started to love her, a few weeks later she spoke to me and asked if i was ok and ...
A. 8 May 2010: No don't say anything leave as it is a nice big crush. Don't make her feel uncomfortable with your advances, your a student and she is a teacher totally unacceptable. Go to school get your education and when you are older and if you feel the same ... (read in full...)
Could there be a deeper reasoning to all this?
Q. My boyfriend (now ex) finished with me about a month ago, telling me he needed space and wasnt ready for a serious relationship. It's not that I don't believe him, but I feel there was deeper reasoning. He has a demanding job and from what i've w...
A. 8 May 2010: You should focus your time on other stuff take your mind off why he broke up with you, point is he did. Don't dwell on it live your life and do what all women wishes happens when they get dump wish he regrets it, wants you back, but at that point ... (read in full...)
Friend says the girl is just not worth my time
Q. Hey y'all. I've got an important question. When I suspect the female I talk 2 now may have strong feelings for me and she tells me she doesn't knw if she wnts a relationship now. Well I'm fine with that 6ut when I have strong feelings as well n our ...
A. 8 May 2010: She don't want a relationship you might want to move on... (read in full...)
How do I know if I've climaxed?
Q. Hey guys I'm 13 and i masturbate a lot but I'm not sure if i have had a orgasm yet. i cant ask my mum because she doesn't know that i masturbate anyways. can someone help me?...
A. 8 May 2010: Your to young to know but believe me when you have you will KNOW!... (read in full...)
Wait by the phone, or call him myself?
Q. I am now in my 50s and recently was in contact with my first boyfriend back in my teens. He says he prefers not to look back/attend reunions and took 3 weeks to make contact. He asked me to marry him when we were both just under 18, I felt too y...
A. 8 May 2010: I say call him if no romance comes from this than you two can be friends but don't wait to see if he calls.... (read in full...)
The first girl I've ever been jealous of...
Q. Okay, my boyfriend and I have been going out for a while and we decided after a month of dating to make it exclusive. In the beginning, my boyfriend had a friend that is a girl, that lives ten hours away and she texted him on New Year's Eve with ...
A. 8 May 2010: you are in a hard situation, sometime is not that your jealous
or don't trust them, its the things they do to make you suspicious. His behavior has totally changed because he would show you every text message before and now he is to secretive. I wo... (read in full...)
What was he trying to say in this text?
Q. hello, i recently went on a date (first time) with a man who i met online, on the date he treated me very well, we got along great and he checked that i got home ok and also text the next day to say that he had a great time and would like to go out ...
A. 7 May 2010: He might had wanted a dirty text conversation. He was rude to begin with and this was after the first date. He sure needs to mature and he is straight out throwing you signs SEX SEX SEX SEX SEX SEX SEX SEX SEX............ (read in full...)
I broke up with her and now feel I might have made a big mistake!
Q. Hello everyone - i guess we are all here with our own problems and dilemmas. I wish that everyone will overcome their hard feelings but we all know that it is impossible for all to do so. Anyhow we are here to help each other - and writing is a ...
A. 7 May 2010: You are being a man and sadly buy true most man are scare of a committed relationship, they worry to much of being a father, having a wife, having responsibility. The truth is that she wanted a family and you were unable to give her that and the... (read in full...)
How do I stop my feelings for this off-limits guy?
Q. I've known this guy for years and we never used to talk. About 3 months ago, we started getting on really well and are now friends. Recently I've started to develop feelings for him. However, he's in his twenties and engaged - I know his fiancee and ...
A. 7 May 2010: add some distance between the two....... (read in full...)
She had sex with another guy when we were broken up. We're back together now!
Q. Hello everybody. I was with this girl for about one year and eight months. I took her verginity in about five months of our relationship. A couple of months after she cheated on me. I'm not sure if we were together becouse we always use to...
A. 7 May 2010: You broke up with her so in reality she didn't cheat..... (read in full...)
We moved too fast, but I want us to get back together again
Q. A few months ago I started seeing a guy who I have since really fallen for and would go as far as saying Im in love with him. Right at the start when we started going out he did say to me that he wasnt really looking for anything serious at that ...
A. 7 May 2010: I'll give you my input assuming that gay and straight relationship work the same way...
If I'm dating and I go to fast meaning we shack more times than we go on dates most likely the relationship is physical and will burn out with the same spe... (read in full...)
I need to deal with my girlfriend's baggage
Q. Hi, I am in my mid twenties and am in a relationship for about 4 months so far. Some history on my girl. My girlfriend is really pretty and treats me alright. However, she has many emotional issues, which affect our relationship. Firstly...
A. 7 May 2010: If she is after you for money is hard for me to make a call on that because I would not know....
Now in reality and in fairness is did tell you the truth and she is right she could have deceived you and taken her secrets to her tomb..but she didn... (read in full...)
How can I find out if he wants to commit?
Q. I am in a relationship...he says he loves me...he says he wants me...but i dont see he wants to commit him self...how can i find out if he really wants me ?...
A. 7 May 2010: Ask him discuss it with him:
how long have you been with him..if its been just a couple of months it might be to soon....
If its been a couple of years than talk to him As Soon As Possible....
... (read in full...)
Six months ago she said she would wait for me, so how come she hung up?
Q. Hey everyone..I know this is a bit long..but plz read the WHOLE THING and help me out with this mess tht im in..:( Its been almost 6 months since i broke up with my gf!(she was my first and i wanted her to be my last too)we were together for 2 ye...
A. 7 May 2010: Aangkurt you are to sweet and nice, and you will find love again. This was your first love and it is hard to get over it but believe me you will love again.
Its hard to explain because when we are in love we feel we can only love that person a... (read in full...)
What do I do about my ex, since he and I are talking again?
Q. I really need some advice about my ex boyfriend. We broke up around 5 months or so ago. We just recently started being in contact. For about a week texting everyday. He has had a girlfriend since we broke up. And i just recently got a new bo...
A. 7 May 2010: 1. Should i not call or text back next time he contacts me?
(a.) as long as you both are in a relationship NO....
2. he still have a girlfriend, why doesn't he break up with her?
(a.) He could have had feeling for you but is unsure to break ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he doesn't want marriage
Q. i was married for 4 years to a jerk and we got divorced an year back. My friend was there for me the whole time and we got really close that time. he works with me in the same office and said he loves me. i fell for him totally and he is younger to ...
A. 7 May 2010: I wish you luck and do move on it will hurt, but you will have your pride....please don't become the other women. Best of Luck.... (read in full...)
How can one be so cruel?
Q. I have been going over and over this situation if you can call it that in my head for 3 days now and my head is hurting as much as my heart/feelings. I was dating a 40yr old guy with 2 grown up sons for a month. He made a big point of waiting...
A. 7 May 2010: word of advise next time you want to vent to your friends don't...it will make them angry because you express and express and express how bad you felt about the whole situation and with a glimpse of any eye your back..just took two words and your ... (read in full...)
I'm having very strong urges to have an affair..would like to hear from others who have been there..done that
Q. I am a 44 year old male. Married for 15 years. I'll get right to the point: my marriage is having big problems right now and I am at a crossroads. I have never cheated before. But I have never felt the way I do now. I am visiting depths of emotio...
A. 7 May 2010: Do it cheat and have a blast lying to your wife, sneaking out to be with your lover, dude if your mind is set on it there is not much we can do.....
Just think for one second that your going to hurt, lie, and deceived your wife of 15 years, w... (read in full...)
I'm having very strong urges to have an affair..would like to hear from others who have been there..done that
Q. I am a 44 year old male. Married for 15 years. I'll get right to the point: my marriage is having big problems right now and I am at a crossroads. I have never cheated before. But I have never felt the way I do now. I am visiting depths of emotio...
A. 7 May 2010: I won't give you morals advice, I wont' preach to you,I wont judge you, I'll just say Don't do it! Don't do it! Don't do it! Please don't do it!!
... (read in full...)
She had sex with another guy when we were broken up. We're back together now!
Q. Hello everybody. I was with this girl for about one year and eight months. I took her verginity in about five months of our relationship. A couple of months after she cheated on me. I'm not sure if we were together becouse we always use to...
A. 6 May 2010: well technically she did not cheat so she can't be accused of being unfaithful.
you guys seem to like the idea of breaking up and getting back together be careful because one these one of you will call the other's bluff. ... (read in full...)
What do I do about my ex, since he and I are talking again?
Q. I really need some advice about my ex boyfriend. We broke up around 5 months or so ago. We just recently started being in contact. For about a week texting everyday. He has had a girlfriend since we broke up. And i just recently got a new bo...
A. 6 May 2010: You two broke for a reason and you and him should leave your relationship in the past...Its good that he stopped himself and remembered that he has a girlfriend and if he thought he and you might cheat it was better that he made a u turn. Don't ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he doesn't want marriage
Q. i was married for 4 years to a jerk and we got divorced an year back. My friend was there for me the whole time and we got really close that time. he works with me in the same office and said he loves me. i fell for him totally and he is younger to ...
A. 6 May 2010: If your both Indian than you understand how strong families ties can be and if the family disapprove of you he will not disobey them. You see no future in this relationship and you should think on you and don't set yourself up to be use and hurt ... (read in full...)
How can one be so cruel?
Q. I have been going over and over this situation if you can call it that in my head for 3 days now and my head is hurting as much as my heart/feelings. I was dating a 40yr old guy with 2 grown up sons for a month. He made a big point of waiting...
A. 28 April 2010: He decided to blame you for his defects no wonder he is still single. He obviously chooses to blame others for his problems and his impotence, girlfriend don't worry about him. Live and enjoy life, don't let your mood depend on what other think or ... (read in full...)
He is TOO confusing.
Q. I am in High School and have already experienced my first love and heart break. Before my last break up I constantly flirted with this guy and I found him handsome, intriguing, smart, funny, endlessly fascinating, and just special. He always paid ...
A. 22 April 2010: It sucks when you are all into a guy and you get mixed signals from him. He likes flirting with you so he is not shy, he flirts only when you are taken, you guys make out he leads you on but than he stands out cold,,,Does he goes to your school? ... (read in full...)
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