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"Ghosts"

Q.   "OPs own title" since I was a kid I could see dead ghost or spirits and I could see the future at random as long as I can remember I m now 15 and I have seen thousands of docters and they all say nothing is wrong with me but why do I still see these ...

A.   25 May 2010: You are young and said you have been to thousands of doctors and they have not been able to help you and they tell you that you are fine..no you should insist and tell the doctor what you see. They should be able to prescribe medication because if ... (read in full...)

Wrongfully confessed?

Q.   I have this friend who i have known for 10 years,he wanted to date me when we were younger but I kindly declined because he was involved with someone and did not break it off before pursuing me.We remained friends.Now so many years later I feel as ...

A.   25 May 2010: I think you were wrong to confess your feelings to him. You are both married and have no plans on breaking out it, so that feeling should have been bottled in. ... (read in full...)

How to handle a childhood crush

Q.   Please help! I’m a 54 yrs old male and just heard my granddaughter's aunt who's only 15 say to me, I love you! and I know she's not talking about love in the general sense. ...

A.   24 May 2010: keep distance she is underage and you can and will go to jail for messing around with a minor. ... (read in full...)

My husband sister had an affair-how do I get over it?

Q.   i think i need to start at the beginning, i was thirteen when my sister was born, she was like my baby. i loved her like she was mine. when she had marital problems i took care of her i made an apt. in our second home for her and her 2 children. my ...

A.   24 May 2010: Your husband is the one married to you and owes you Fidelity in your marriage. Your husband cheated on you. Your husband had an affair Your husband broke his marriage vows. Not only did your husband screw up and cheated but he chea... (read in full...)

Desperately in love with the devil!

Q.   "OP's OWN TITLE" Ok so I have been in a realtionship for over three years, and my girlfriend always playes these mind games, and hold our relationship over my head. she consistantly tells me that i am sooooooo mean to her, aqnd that all I do is walk...

A.   21 May 2010: Your are going through a difficult time, and the best you can you is get her some help. There is obviously something wrong with her and maybe with a psychiatrist and with medication she will be able to balance her mood change..Good luck! ... (read in full...)

Will this change his mind after a huge argument...?!?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for quite some time. He's in the Army and currently training out of the state (AIT). The past two weeks have been extremely hard on him due to the fact that the training just got tougher. So, I'm not surprised ...

A.   21 May 2010: Remember that you have to talk to him and tell him what is bothering you....... (read in full...)

I love her too much to let her go!

Q.   As suggested by a previous reader, i told the girl i have a crush on about my feelings for her. But she said that she does not feel the same about me. Now i am in a real dilemma. I love her too much to let her go. Please tell me what i can do to win ...

A.   20 May 2010: If she told you she does not feel the same way, there is not much you can do. Sorry you find yourself in this situation but you have to think would you rather have her in your life as a friend or not have her at all.... (read in full...)

Why does my male friend claim we are "good friends" but wont ever treat me like our other friends? I'm sure there is an underlying reason behind his behaviour.....

Q.   Hi i hope you can help me here. A friend of mine...hes a guy we;ve known each other a few years. He says to people he wants to be good friends with me, hes said to me before we're great friends, he'll never fall out with me and he loves me as a...

A.   20 May 2010: He probably sense some interest in your part...try telling him that you want nothing more than just to be friends. This might work but actions speak louder than words, and your actions might be yelling in wanting more. If you only want to be friends ... (read in full...)

Do I have a right to ask my boyfriend to remove certain girls off his facebook friends list?

Q.   Do I have a right to ask my boyfriend to remove certain girls off his facebook friends list? A long time ago I broke up with him and he ended up sleeping with someone shortly after. He says it meant nothing and we've worked through this. I ...

A.   20 May 2010: I don't think you have the right to demand her of his friend's list, but I think you have a right to ask him to please take her off since she bothers you and she makes you feel uncomfortable. Its his decision and you should not be mad if he doesn... (read in full...)

Will this change his mind after a huge argument...?!?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for quite some time. He's in the Army and currently training out of the state (AIT). The past two weeks have been extremely hard on him due to the fact that the training just got tougher. So, I'm not surprised ...

A.   20 May 2010: You guys have stopped communication and its understandable because of the distance, but the relationship should not end just because of how hard it is right now. You have been very understanding but you two should try to have more of an open ... (read in full...)

Do you think she is testing me to see how far will I go to get her back?

Q.   Question of the day !!! Ok my ex girlfriend and i were together for 5 years and we broke up 6 months back. WE have a 1 years old son together. I want to make things work and get her back. I have cheated on her before because of my own insecurities ...

A.   20 May 2010: She could have been honest, she was probably sexually frustrated and was comfortable approaching you for sex. If your really want her back than its time to do some major ass kissing. Show her that you have change, and don't cheat again ever aga... (read in full...)

Always fighting, how can I trust him?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4yrs we have 2 kids r relationship started badly we've always fighted hes constantly lying to me or he'll get mad and leave n I wont know where hes at n he usually comes home drunk.n than about 2 weeks ...

A.   20 May 2010: I see things this way if he accuses you and says he can't trust you its his conscious, he is up to no good. Good luck and hope you don't get fool he is playing you.... (read in full...)

He broke up with me because I went crazy.

Q.   To whom it may concern One month ago, my boyfriend broke up with me, the reason why for him was: I went too crazy. He wouldn't listen to me. Before the break-up, He was very busy lately, no time for me, He tried making time for me but when we were...

A.   20 May 2010: Seven years that is a long time...I feel that in reality you two need to sit down and discuss this situation if you guys want this relationship to work..It can be save but you both have hurt each other and are going to have to work hard to forgive. ... (read in full...)

Do you think these are good gifts for my boyfriend's 17th bday?

Q.   Hi, it's my boyfriend's birthday tomorrow and I urgently need to know if what I've got him is an ok present. We're 17 (well, he will be tomorrow) and have been together over a year. I got him some fred perry trainers and a wallet. I also got him a...

A.   19 May 2010: So glad he liked it :)... (read in full...)

Is he being a player?

Q.   Okay, my ex-boyfriend dumped me and he continues to ask me who am I dating and do I have a boyfriend. I don't tel him because he dumped me. He really get upset when I do answer him. So I asked him are you dating he tells me no. He say all he is ...

A.   18 May 2010: He showed you his immaturity, not being able to handle different school and the no sex cause your still a virgin, I think you should not sit around wondering if he is a player or not just be thankful you don't have your name added to his list.... (read in full...)

Should I just get it over with and lose my virginity?

Q.   I'll try to just get straight to the point) I am a 20 year old female who is STRONGLY considering losing my virginity, but not to anyone I particularly love, or even trust, but because the offer has been put out there by another co-worker a few ...

A.   18 May 2010: Why would you want to give it to just anyone. If you don't want to be a virgin and don't want to hold on to it than don't but don't give it up to just anyone or just because you got an offer. ... (read in full...)

Does this prostitute have feelings for me or is she just using me for money?

Q.   I have meet a prostitute and enjoy her company immensely, her being a prostitute does not bother me, i am married not happly married, and prefer her company allthough it is on occaisionally, i think she likes me. the only thing when we go out out ...

A.   17 May 2010: I would be more concern about your wife, you are cheating on her and paying a prostitute for these services. You are taking money away from your home to pay for sexual pleasure. Prostitute do have feeling can't argue that but while you are payi... (read in full...)

First he says he loves me, ...then says he never had any feelings for me!

Q.   Hi guys, I mentioned 4 months ago that my boyfriend said he was laeving the country for good and he had to look afdter his parents and tahthe couldnt take me with him becaus ethat place isnt for me, conditions are not suitable to live being a ...

A.   17 May 2010: I'm not sure what you want to hear, but you been told by all of us that he is not good and he is no good for you and if you keep on attaching yourself to him there is not much anyone can do. You will follow no one advise and I guess at the end it ... (read in full...)

Why didn't my guy friend cared that I got sexually harass?

Q.   I told one of my guy friends that i got almost harassed sexually looking for support and we were close. Now Were not talking to one another and he hasn't talked to anyone or has been online. I thought he would care but he didn't respond when I told ...

A.   14 May 2010: This a sexual assault and you should report your uncle to the authorities, and if this is what you told your friend and he said nothing, didn't comment, did not offer advise than I do have to agree with MarieClaire because even the most insensitive ... (read in full...)

How can you tell that hes not after your money or expect you to pay for things?

Q.   i am new to the dating world, here goes. i have been dating a guy for the last 2 months. at first 3 dates he paid for everything a gentleman and now we share which im happy with. my question is i dont know if expecting too much from him, but how i...

A.   14 May 2010: Tell him up front next time he asks you out and tell him to be a gentlemen and not a free loader. I think taking turns would work best rather than splitting the bill and the person paying chooses where to go.... (read in full...)

Is it just my heart talking? Why do I feel so hurt?

Q.   hello everyone! I wonder if anyone would be so kind as to listen to my problem and offer some advice. A year ago I made friends with a lovely guy - we hit it off so well right away and became very close friends. I soon developed a crush on him, bu...

A.   13 May 2010: I would really recommend you talk to him and let him know how he is hurting your feelings. He might not notice that he is ignoring and you must let him now. I would not bring up the subject of the crush since its obvious he will not return those ... (read in full...)

How do I get her to leave me alone without hurting her?

Q.   I need a bit of advice on how to let someone down gently. i started seeing this girl basically just as a rebound and we had sex a few times. I never told her she was a rebound for me and i know, morally this is wrong. But now she behaves like ...

A.   13 May 2010: Use the distance as the reason why you want to end all, I simply don't understand why can't you be honest and tell her that the feelings are not there and that you don't want a relationship with you. ... (read in full...)

At my new school do I pretend to be straight or come out as gay?

Q.   New School New Chapter! but I can't hide myself as well as before! The thing is people say I'm shy when I only am when I'm around guys and ages ago I started to see why. I'm gay and in my old school I couldn't really hide it anymore and even...

A.   13 May 2010: Don't pretend you should be able to be yourself, and this is a new school so you don't have to pretend to be different since they didn't know the old you..perfect time to come out if your ready. ... (read in full...)

He lied and told me he lost his phone when he really just didnt want to talk to me

Q.   Basically, there's a guy, that's been a jerk, and I don't know what to do! I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months now, things were going fine and we went out on saturday. On the sunday i txted him to thank him for paying/thank his parents ...

A.   13 May 2010: Let it go don't waist your energies on this guy he is not worth it. A decent guy would tell you when he is breaking up with you but I'm assuming that because of his age he hasn't reach his maturity level. ... (read in full...)

I had a friend give him my number, but he hasn't called. Will he?

Q.   Hey guys! I met this guy and we flirted for about 3 days (that's all I saw him) and then I never saw him again. I am "friends" with someone who works with him on Facebook and asked him to give him my number. His friend said he gave it to him l...

A.   13 May 2010: Why don't you request him as a friend on Facebook if he has one. I think you should give him the phone number yourself that way you know for sure he got the message. Double check with your friend and make sure your message got forwarded.... (read in full...)

Do you think these are good gifts for my boyfriend's 17th bday?

Q.   Hi, it's my boyfriend's birthday tomorrow and I urgently need to know if what I've got him is an ok present. We're 17 (well, he will be tomorrow) and have been together over a year. I got him some fred perry trainers and a wallet. I also got him a...

A.   13 May 2010: That is a very thoughtful gift, your expressing your feeling, I think he will love it. Have great day with your boyfriend and post back his reaction.... (read in full...)

I am pregnant and he wont marry me so I left him. Do you think he will come back to me?

Q.   Hello. Me and my boyfriend have been together 5 years and are very much in love. We are now expecting a child together and happy. I want to get married before the child come but he doesnt. It means alot to me and its all i think about. We are both ...

A.   13 May 2010: Sorry I don't know a guy can't be pressure into marriage. In this time and day a guy will not marry just because he is going to have a baby. If he comes back with the same mentality about marriage are you going to be able to accept him back? ... (read in full...)

Relics from his last relationship - Should I ask him to get rid of them?

Q.   Hi There, My boyfriend of 15 months and I are about to move overseas together - I've been transferred to the UK branch of the company I currently work for. We've been living together for the past year and have just come through a rough patch in...

A.   13 May 2010: Ask him to respect you and throw those CDs away. He is no longer in the relationship and therefore they have to go out the door voluntarily or involuntary. The only way I would tolerate things belonging to another women would be if that women... (read in full...)

Can a relationship work after the lies he told me?

Q.   I dated this man for a while and found out he was married. I walked away because I did not want to be in a relationship built on deceit and lies. Recently we started dating again. He told me that he divorced his wife. He tells me that he wants ...

A.   13 May 2010: Make things clear and tell him you will not tolerate his lies and make sure he is divorce. Your having trust issues because you are aware of his lies and cheating ways, just be careful he might not cheat on you but just be careful play it on th... (read in full...)

My financial situation is making me depressed, what can I do?

Q.   i really need some advice. i broke up with my fiance after 7 years last year. he left me on the verge of bankruptcy and didnt care. i was left with all the debt -55,000 now im at home living at my mums due to me having to do an iva. im so depre...

A.   13 May 2010: Sorry you have to go through this, it is hard but you have your moms help and support treasure that. Be happy you have a roof over your head and I totally agree with Brooklyn girl re-arrange your life and shop at discount stores, buy generic stuff ... (read in full...)

Why didn't my guy friend cared that I got sexually harass?

Q.   I told one of my guy friends that i got almost harassed sexually looking for support and we were close. Now Were not talking to one another and he hasn't talked to anyone or has been online. I thought he would care but he didn't respond when I told ...

A.   13 May 2010: He probably didn't know how to response to this problem and felt that he would do more good than bad if he just didn't comment on it. I think he does care, but remember women are more open in all areas than a men..... (read in full...)

"The guy I like doesn't want to take me to the prom!"

Q.   Ok. Sorry its long, but its very complicated. So there is a guy i have liked for about 4 years now (since i first met him), lets call him a. He is really nice, kind, considerate, funny, all of that. Firstly he went out with one me my friends. ...

A.   13 May 2010: You are his friend and he will only see you as a friend. You have to think if you want him in your life as a friend or as a boyfriend. Your in the friend list and I don't think he realizes that you like him. Since he already knows you want to go to ... (read in full...)

Madly in love with a beautiful woman... who is married. :/

Q.   I am/was loving this girl since a lot of time. My life was dry before she came into my life... but when she did, it was like a breadth of fresh cool air blowing by your face you just washed with water. She's stunningly beautiful and I kept lovin...

A.   13 May 2010: Maybe the best thing you can do is add distance...it will hurt but eventually you will heal it will be the best thing to do...... (read in full...)

Do you think he should break up with me?

Q.   Ok, first of all, I don't want any silly comments like: "you're an idiot, he should dump you, dumb b*tch." I already know. Anyways, so I went to Mexico without my boyfriend (we have been dating for a year and a half) and one night I got really ...

A.   12 May 2010: I'm so glad your are okay and you are able to tell your story..simply not a good idea. You have to be careful and not put yourself in danger these men could have hurt you really bad. You did nothing but you did leave with these guys to a Hotel, I... (read in full...)

Need an excuse to break up with him...any suggestions?

Q.   I'm being split into two!!On one hand is my ex who is back..He says he does love me [We broke because he broke my trust]Now,I find him loving and caring. On the other hand is this good friend of mine who i had i a crush when i broke up [Its a ...

A.   12 May 2010: Just say you don't want to be in a relationship, be honest you don't need an excuse. ... (read in full...)

Needs ideas on how to get this guy to ask me out?

Q.   Any way so I'm really close to my best friend. He's really sweet and charming. He lets me wear his jacket, we hug a lot and we even hold hands. The thing is I think I'm in love with him and I know that he used to like me in that way and I think ...

A.   12 May 2010: Smile at him, pay attention when he speaks to you, look into his eyes...flirt. If after flirting he still don't ask you out than you go for it, and do not get involve with his friends most of the time guys will not have anything to do with buddy's ... (read in full...)

Does she want me to break up with her, but can't tell me? Should I stay?

Q.   i have been with my girlfreind 6.5 years, we were planning to live together, now out of the blue she says she is just not happy, talked about feelings but she is reluctant to be openand just says she dont know whether we should split, this has ...

A.   12 May 2010: Maybe since you two moved in together the things changed and became a routine. If you fell in a routine get out of it and see if this works.... (read in full...)

My girlfriend lied about her sexual past, what should I do?

Q.   hey i dont know how to ask this but here goes ..... i have been with my girlfriend for some time and love every minute i am with her , i knew she has had sexual partners in the past one being her ex boyfriend and the other was a boy she was seeing a...

A.   12 May 2010: Q is right "If guys want honesty from women, we have to quit punishing them when they give it to us." There are too many things a person needs to watch out now days to many STD's but in fairness it works both ways. If a guy wants to be hone... (read in full...)

Madly in love with a beautiful woman... who is married. :/

Q.   I am/was loving this girl since a lot of time. My life was dry before she came into my life... but when she did, it was like a breadth of fresh cool air blowing by your face you just washed with water. She's stunningly beautiful and I kept lovin...

A.   12 May 2010: Keep yourself busy so that you don't think on her. Try to go out on dates eventually you will find someone that will make you feel all that you feel right now plus more. Go our clubbing, hang out with friends, but do listen to your friends stay away ... (read in full...)

I am uncomfortable with the other woman he has in his life, yet he claims there is nothing going on!

Q.   ive been with my partner for two years we live together and have a 8 month daughter. he keeps texing a girl he used to have sex with he got her pregnant once but she got rid of it. they split up on good terms but ive read the texts and he is always ...

A.   12 May 2010: I have an ex-boyfriend who has became one of my closes friends....but him and my husband became better friends. It works give it a try, and if it still makes you feel uncomfortable then tell him that he needs to break contact. ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend lied about her sexual past, what should I do?

Q.   hey i dont know how to ask this but here goes ..... i have been with my girlfriend for some time and love every minute i am with her , i knew she has had sexual partners in the past one being her ex boyfriend and the other was a boy she was seeing a...

A.   12 May 2010: She might think your the jealous type, that your insecure, that you would leave her, that your the macho type, there could be so many reason why she was not honest with you, but in reality you should respect her privacy. This is her past and she ... (read in full...)

First he says he loves me, ...then says he never had any feelings for me!

Q.   Hi guys, I mentioned 4 months ago that my boyfriend said he was laeving the country for good and he had to look afdter his parents and tahthe couldnt take me with him becaus ethat place isnt for me, conditions are not suitable to live being a ...

A.   30 April 2010: I'm not sure why you are re-thinking your new single status, You know you are better off without him. It seems this is his routine he sweet talks you, he leads you on, and than he bails on you. Me personally I wouldn't give him the time of day, but ... (read in full...)

First he says he loves me, ...then says he never had any feelings for me!

Q.   Hi guys, I mentioned 4 months ago that my boyfriend said he was laeving the country for good and he had to look afdter his parents and tahthe couldnt take me with him becaus ethat place isnt for me, conditions are not suitable to live being a ...

A.   29 April 2010: I'm glad you took the courage to tell him not to contact you again. That was the right thing to do and you will see little by little your interest in him will diminish. Remember what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger, and you will not die ... (read in full...)

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