First he says he loves me, ...then says he never had any feelings for me!
Q. Hi guys, I mentioned 4 months ago that my boyfriend said he was laeving the country for good and he had to look afdter his parents and tahthe couldnt take me with him becaus ethat place isnt for me, conditions are not suitable to live being a ...
A. 17 May 2010: I'm not sure what you want to hear, but you been told by all of us that he is not good and he is no good for you and if you keep on attaching yourself to him there is not much anyone can do. You will follow no one advise and I guess at the end it ... (read in full...)
How can one be so cruel?
Q. I have been going over and over this situation if you can call it that in my head for 3 days now and my head is hurting as much as my heart/feelings. I was dating a 40yr old guy with 2 grown up sons for a month. He made a big point of waiting...
A. 9 May 2010: Best decision you could have made, remember to value yourself and hold your head up high, and do not let any man make you feel worthless. Next time he calls you think on your pride and hang up on him he is not worth it. ... (read in full...)
How can one be so cruel?
Q. I have been going over and over this situation if you can call it that in my head for 3 days now and my head is hurting as much as my heart/feelings. I was dating a 40yr old guy with 2 grown up sons for a month. He made a big point of waiting...
A. 7 May 2010: word of advise next time you want to vent to your friends don't...it will make them angry because you express and express and express how bad you felt about the whole situation and with a glimpse of any eye your back..just took two words and your ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if my husband still loves me!
Q. I'm not sure if my husband of 10 years still loves me. He was my first so I'm having all these feelings that I'm not expeienced enough for him and that he thinks I'm boring. I'm not sure if he's getting sex elsewhere or if our relationship is ...
A. 3 May 2010: You should not base you self esteem on what and how a person feels, you should feel good about yourself. If your husband does not find you desirable many others will, now if your husband don't open up with you and tries to have a conversation with ... (read in full...)
We have a child together but she says we can't have a relationship until I'm 'saved'
Q. Hi I'm confused in my relationship and not sure were it is going. My girlfriend and I met about 18months ago, she had three children to her previous partner, and we now have a child of our own, which I'm real happy for. We love other a lot ...
A. 2 May 2010: Don't compromise you have your rights and your own beliefs and she met you with these beliefs and it really wrong of her to try to pressure you into converting to a religion by given an ultimatum. ... (read in full...)
Marriage in trouble. I can't stand my wifes weight or how she dresses
Q. *OP's own title* I am a male, 44 years old. My wife is 41. We’ve been married for 15 years and have one 10 year-old daughter. For the last several years I’ve been unhappy with my wife’s appearance. In my opinion she needs to lose about 15-20kg o...
A. 2 May 2010: We marry for better or for worst but we have to be realistic we marry a certain person and if the person makes a drastic changed and we no longer find them attractive, its going to be hard for us to move forward in a relationship. We cannot force ... (read in full...)
What do guys consider a friend with benefits?
Q. What do guys consider a friend with benefits. I don't see a problem kissing someone, touching and possibly maybe giving a hand job or him fingering me as friend with benefits even if it happens a lot. I do think giving blow jobs, him going down...
A. 30 April 2010: If you want a relationship you need to stop giving him hand jobs and allowing him to finger you. This has to stop
I agree with CindyCares tell him you want a monogamous relationship and go from there.... (read in full...)
Why cant he just be happy with kissing me?
Q. I seem to have a bit of a problem with a guy, everytime we get together and kiss he always asks me to give him a blow job, the thing is we have just started kissing, it's really starting to annoy me because I like him a lot and I have said to him ...
A. 30 April 2010: Don't do, if you give him a blow job every time he asks you too what makes you think he will stop. If he kisses you and he ask you to give him a BJ just don't do it. Eventually he is going to stop asking. Make a switch and you ask him to go down on ... (read in full...)
First he says he loves me, ...then says he never had any feelings for me!
Q. Hi guys, I mentioned 4 months ago that my boyfriend said he was laeving the country for good and he had to look afdter his parents and tahthe couldnt take me with him becaus ethat place isnt for me, conditions are not suitable to live being a ...
A. 30 April 2010: I'm not sure why you are re-thinking your new single status, You know you are better off without him. It seems this is his routine he sweet talks you, he leads you on, and than he bails on you. Me personally I wouldn't give him the time of day, but ... (read in full...)
He likes me, he loves me, but does he REALLY?
Q. Me and my friend have been getting closer lately. He's told me he likes me and i like him. he has been wanting me to kiss him and hes told me he wants to have sex with me. but he only tells me he wants to screw me, when hes drunk. but hes always ...
A. 30 April 2010: I'm pretty sure he will screw you if you allow him too, is that what you want. If you are thinking that you might want a relationship with him than talk to him first. Do not allow his advances unless you know where you stand. Don't become his ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I am being played or he is just shy?
Q. Okay, so there is a guy, and we have been friends for over half a year now, we talk online A LOT and in school. I catch him staring at me sometimes, trying to catch my attention and he often jumps into conversations I am having with other people. ...
A. 30 April 2010: I don't think he is shy because he has kissed you and has asked you out, he just doesn't set a date. You should find out who else he is talking too or if he has a girlfriend outside of school, I don't think he is shy, so he might be a little player.... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend cheating on me... while on the phone with me??
Q. I think my GF is cheating on me. I travel for work and I called her the other night and was really horny so we had phone sex. It just seemed too real. We were fantasizing about having sex and she starts getting into it a bit, but as time progr...
A. 29 April 2010: That is what ph sex is all about. To scream and moan and make noises since you can't see her, her thrive is for you to visualize. I would not make a big deal about it next time you have ph sex with her ask her if she enjoyed it as much as you did. ... (read in full...)
Our daughter went missing whilst oversea's 4 years ago. How do I let go?
Q. Everything I'm about to tell you is true. Four years ago, we had a horrific tragedy occur in the family. We lost our 19 year old daughter to human trafficking. She was a very bright girl; got A's in all her classes and even graduated third ...
A. 29 April 2010: Your story has actually brought tear to my eyes. I will pray and keep you, and your family in my prayers, and keep hope and faith that one day you will see your daughter again. ... (read in full...)
It seems my ex has moved on...its been a year and I can't seem to...
Q. hi im 20 years old and i'm at university i dated this girl a year ago and we were very close we only went out for 5 months or so but we were friends before that. We broke up because -quote ' you just don't have time for a girlfriend' so she left me ...
A. 29 April 2010: I think you should give it a go. How else will you know if these relationship has future. Go for it you don't get second chances on true love.... (read in full...)
I'd like her as a friend but worry she will reject me.
Q. Hi. A few months ago I started working with this group of temp workers. We do activities after work and stuff, all in group. A few months ago, I started liking this girl; I thought she likes me because she used to look at me and other signs. A month ...
A. 29 April 2010: If you want her as a friend than try emailing her, She has made it clear she don't want a relationship and you should respect that, but I don't see why you two can't become friends. Do note that once you become friends its going to be hard for you ... (read in full...)
Will she tell me she wants anal?
Q. Will women just come out and say what they want? My wife originally was anti-anal, wouldn't even let me get close. As time has gone on, things have progressed and it was first playing around the outside of her anus, then pinky penetration, then ...
A. 29 April 2010: Ask her, she is your wife just ask her. Don't just assume she wants it you are not a mind reader, so just bluntly ask her.... (read in full...)
She says she doesn't want to be FWB but isn't that what we are??
Q. How do I figure this girl out, before I start I have to say that I am a typical young bloke who is very open and honest. I am very attracted to a girl I work with and we have worked together for about 4 years, we flirt all the time, I was stra...
A. 29 April 2010: No thats not being friends with benefits you don't bang her, she only kisses you and gives you a hand job. You either commit and have a relationship with her or you tell her you are SERIOUS about not wanting a relationship (those hand jobs and ... (read in full...)
If they cheat once, will they always cheat again?
Q. My former best friend got out of a terrible divorce. Then he got together with another woman after the divorce who cheated on him with several people. He found out by catching her in bed with a guy from work. She slept around with other people from ...
A. 29 April 2010: I believe in a person rehabilitation, and that a person can change. I don't think a person who cheats will always cheat, but I also feel that if the person did not learn from hers or his experience the cheating will probably reoccur.
For example ... (read in full...)
Be silent and keep her or speak up and lose her??
Q. *OP's own title* We were classmates in kindergarten then she transferred to another school in grade school.. in highschool we were classmates again up until 2nd year.. then she transferred again to another city. we lost contact for 10 years and then...
A. 29 April 2010: bring it up to her ask her if she would ever have a lesbian experience, but I would wait for her answer. I don't know if you want to loose a good friend by going for the kill, I would just bring up the topic and see what she says.... (read in full...)
He wants big wedding, I want small , what should I do?
Q. I have a problem, my boyfriend and I want to get married, problem is, he wants a huge wedding with everyone he's related to at it and all his friends (he's got loads). I was never really into the whole wedding day idea. I want to get married but ...
A. 29 April 2010: compromise keep the ceremony small with only immediate relative and few close friends, and the reception with all his family and friends. Is his wedding too and his thoughts should have a say in it. ... (read in full...)
First he says he loves me, ...then says he never had any feelings for me!
Q. Hi guys, I mentioned 4 months ago that my boyfriend said he was laeving the country for good and he had to look afdter his parents and tahthe couldnt take me with him becaus ethat place isnt for me, conditions are not suitable to live being a ...
A. 29 April 2010: I'm glad you took the courage to tell him not to contact you again. That was the right thing to do and you will see little by little your interest in him will diminish. Remember what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger, and you will not die ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend pressures me to join him in binge drinking.
Q. Hi, I was hoping someone could help me with this problem. I am in a 3 year relationship with my boyfriend. We are ending college and recently he has been pressuring me to drink heavily. It has nothing to do with sex or anything like that its just ...
A. 29 April 2010: He obviously has a drinking problem and and enjoys getting drunk and I don't know if you have notice but most drinkers hang around other drinkers, drug users hang over other junkies. I think they feel out of place being around someone sober because ... (read in full...)
Marriage in trouble. I can't stand my wifes weight or how she dresses
Q. *OP's own title* I am a male, 44 years old. My wife is 41. We’ve been married for 15 years and have one 10 year-old daughter. For the last several years I’ve been unhappy with my wife’s appearance. In my opinion she needs to lose about 15-20kg o...
A. 29 April 2010: All you have to do is talk to her and let her know your feeling and how you are not attractive to her anymore. I will tell you by personal experience when I met my hubby he was a handsome and very attractive man, he use to take care of his ... (read in full...)
He says he'll come back if I kick my brother and his girlfriend out!
Q. me and my ex partner got back together five months ago, after seperating two years before when our son was born. the relationship endend badly last time as he cheated on me time and time again and as much as i wanted to be with him i couldnt take it ...
A. 29 April 2010: If your boyfriend wanted to make it work he would have not left over an argument and the argument was base on his unfaithfulness from the past which means its still a topic now in the present and unless truly forgiven part of the future. My point is ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't want sex.
Q. I'm a college student with a girlfriend of 6 months. We've recently been talking about sex and she mentioned that she does not want to have sex anytime in the near future. We have only been making out with a little groping etc. She is quite high ...
A. 29 April 2010: You two are not in the same page and the best thing to do is to break up.... (read in full...)
He says he'll come back if I kick my brother and his girlfriend out!
Q. me and my ex partner got back together five months ago, after seperating two years before when our son was born. the relationship endend badly last time as he cheated on me time and time again and as much as i wanted to be with him i couldnt take it ...
A. 29 April 2010: Becca if he wanted a relationship he would have been there living with you and your son. It sounds like he wants to dictate to you on how and when he moves in and as a couple it shouldn't work that way. You both need to compromise and come to an ... (read in full...)
I get so attached to guys!
Q. I get so attached to guys. If I have a drunken kiss, or even just a nice conversation or flirt with a guy, I immediatyly start liking them. I really hate it. For example, I met a really nice on Friday night, he was obviously interested in me, ...
A. 29 April 2010: Take it easy you can't obsessed over guys learned to read signs. There is a difference when a guy is just being nice and polite, to a guy wanting to make you his girlfriend. If you show this obsession to a guy they might label you as clingy person, ... (read in full...)
I'm sick of being single! How can I be less reserved and more available?
Q. i'm almost 18 years old, and i haven't dated anyone in probably 3-4 years. in my last 2 relationships, i noticed that my first boyfriend was much more physical than emotional, and i ended up breaking up with him, and with my second boyfriend, he was ...
A. 29 April 2010: You are still young and will resume to dating when you are ready. Since you had bad experience in dating you think you can't move forward but you can, your past makes you who you are a now more experience person. Give it time and you will jump back ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to know if I was sexually abused or not?
Q. i was physically and emotionally abused as a child by my biological father until the age of seven although it was more emotional than physical. up until this past year i had no recollection at all about my childhood until age 8. i have always been ...
A. 28 April 2010: You should go to a psychiatrist and tell him your emotions and talk about your feelings maybe under therapy you should be able to get the answers you are looking for. I wish you all the best and its really important you seek professional help ASAP. ... (read in full...)
Should I wait, or will he not go out with me? I don't want to be his rebound
Q. All through high school I have known this guy now I"m 22 I have known him since I was about 16 or 17 through the ups and downs of life I have been friends with him in high school we made out a few times we didn't go out we always made out. I always ...
A. 28 April 2010: Give him a call and take initiative to this relationship. It seems you guys do your messing around and than wonder off. Than you two feel the urge to be with one another and this just keeps on going and going. I say take a big leap forward and go ... (read in full...)
Bad experiences with guys, I'm starting to think there's something seriously wrong with me!
Q. ok so i know to a lot of people this would sound like a ridiculous question and i would deny it was true if it was happening to someone else but it's not and i'm having a really hard time convincing myself that there's nothing wrong with me. So to ...
A. 28 April 2010: If your first boyfriend was truly in-love he would have came back to you or waited for your classes to be over. You should be thankful you did not end up marrying him because this is a person who you really couldn't depend on and he would have ... (read in full...)
I want to keep in touch with him, but I don't know if I should! Things were fine until his ex spoke up!
Q. hi i really need some brutal advice here!!! i met this guy in a pub, he works there, he gave me his number but he said that he is texting his ex but he would like to go for a drink with me at some point (and no he is not a player, a few of my frie...
A. 28 April 2010: Not worth the headache, You have not invested any time or emotions on this guy so stop while your ahead.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have sex, but I don't. What can I do?
Q. well im 16 my boyfriend want to have sex whith me and i keep telling him am not ready and he keeps asking...
A. 28 April 2010: Don't allow your self to get pressure into sex, when you have sex it should be because you want to share your most intimate moments with someone who loves you and respects you. ... (read in full...)
How can one be so cruel?
Q. I have been going over and over this situation if you can call it that in my head for 3 days now and my head is hurting as much as my heart/feelings. I was dating a 40yr old guy with 2 grown up sons for a month. He made a big point of waiting...
A. 28 April 2010: He decided to blame you for his defects no wonder he is still single. He obviously chooses to blame others for his problems and his impotence, girlfriend don't worry about him. Live and enjoy life, don't let your mood depend on what other think or ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend and now I am pregnant but don't know who is father?
Q. I cheated on my boyfriend and now I am pregnant and I don't know whose is it. I am 18 and live with my boyfriend who is 27 for 1 year, we were having trouble in our relationship and sometimes when he got angry he would slap me if we argue which w...
A. 28 April 2010: You should report this, if you said no than this is rape. Now I hope you learned your lesson and never again meet strangers that you meet online in hotel rooms. You are lucky you made it out alive lesson learned I guess, but you have to have get ... (read in full...)
He says he'll come back if I kick my brother and his girlfriend out!
Q. me and my ex partner got back together five months ago, after seperating two years before when our son was born. the relationship endend badly last time as he cheated on me time and time again and as much as i wanted to be with him i couldnt take it ...
A. 28 April 2010: I don't think you can make someone move forward if they don't want too, you should not accept his conditions he messed up not you. Take time without him have a little pride and move forward on your own value yourself as a strong independent women. ... (read in full...)
He says he'll come back if I kick my brother and his girlfriend out!
Q. me and my ex partner got back together five months ago, after seperating two years before when our son was born. the relationship endend badly last time as he cheated on me time and time again and as much as i wanted to be with him i couldnt take it ...
A. 28 April 2010: I feel very differently than Chigirl I think that the boyfriend is the one that screw up and should not be coming back putting conditions and ultimatums, I feel it should be your call not his. He is staying with his ex what can insure you he is not ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to get rid of all my pictures and letters from my former girlfriend who died in my arms, is she in the wrong here?
Q. I have been dating a young woman for a few months. She is very sweet and I care very much for her. She came over to my apartment when I wasn't home yesterday and my room mate let her in. She went into my room and found an old year book I had ...
A. 28 April 2010: This girl you are dating has no business going through your stuff and that should be a red flag signal on what type of a girlfriend she would be. I don't think you should get rid of these items and this gal you have been dating for a couple of ... (read in full...)
Help in leaving an abusive relationship
Q. We've been living together for almost 13 years. After all the reading on the internet I realize that it is an emotionally abusive relationship. No wonder I've been miserable for 12 of those years. We just bought a house 1 year ago, and have ...
A. 28 April 2010: You don't need to file for bankruptcy just sale what you both own to get out of the debt. Its always hard to leave your spouse and mainly with little money, but you can go to family while you get back on your feet. Their are supports groups that ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if my husband still loves me!
Q. I'm not sure if my husband of 10 years still loves me. He was my first so I'm having all these feelings that I'm not expeienced enough for him and that he thinks I'm boring. I'm not sure if he's getting sex elsewhere or if our relationship is ...
A. 28 April 2010: Sex can get very boring, always the same routine may become undesired. Make a change in the bedroom routine, try different things and spice up your marriage. I don't think your husband is cheating unless you have proof or fact about him being ... (read in full...)
We have a child together but she says we can't have a relationship until I'm 'saved'
Q. Hi I'm confused in my relationship and not sure were it is going. My girlfriend and I met about 18months ago, she had three children to her previous partner, and we now have a child of our own, which I'm real happy for. We love other a lot ...
A. 28 April 2010: I'm assuming she became a born again Christian after the birth of your child. She has cleanse her soul and has decided not to live in sin from this point on, correct. Its really tough because this is her decision and she has chosen her own religion. ... (read in full...)
She's always comparing me to her ex-boyfriends!
Q. Should I end this relationship before we get more attached? My current girlfriend and I have been dating almost 1 year now. Problem is her past. Not that she has a past, but she's always throwing up things in my face. More information, she dated 3 ...
A. 28 April 2010: Talk to her tell her this is immature behavior and will not be tolerated.
If she continues to compare you walk out the room, so she can see that this annoys you and you will not stand for it.
If this continues turn the tables and you start co... (read in full...)
I feel second-best to his best friend and am worried she'll take him away!
Q. For three years before he met me my boyfriend was in love with his best friend. She didn't feel the same way. He told me about her early on in the relationship, and said they had sorted things out between them and he didn't have feelings for her ...
A. 28 April 2010: They are friends and sometimes females gets a little paranoids when her boyfriend or husband have a friendship with someone from the opposite sex. We can't accept this and feel threaten and start feeling jealous. This has been his friend, and she ... (read in full...)
Are his actions justified by my cheating?
Q. Hi, so ive been seeing this guy for a few months now and about a month ago i cheated on him with my ex. i felt so bad afterwards and expected it to be over but he didnt leave me. hes 19 and im 16 btw. then.... last weekend i did it again. i ...
A. 28 April 2010: Cheating is not right and you obviously don't love him enough to be faithful, so why stay in an abusive relationship. He has no right to be-little you even if you made a mistakes his action are controlling and trying to put fear in you this is not ... (read in full...)
I am still grieving for my boyfriend...
Q. my boyfriend die two year ago but i can not stop think about him i really sad so what can i do to forget it?...
A. 28 April 2010: Sorry for your lost loosing someone so dear to us is devastating, so sad, and leaves our heart feeling so empty. Grieving is a natural way of healing, you need to give yourself time and time is going to help you through this.... (read in full...)
Yearning for something else, and cheating to look for it
Q. I am in a bit of a quandry and I hope to get some advice or at least some insight. I've been married to a really wonderful man for the past 7 years and we've been together for a total of 13 years. We have no children. We've been through a lot of...
A. 28 April 2010: The problem is not your husband and obviously you were not able to find in him what you are looking for. Your husband sounds like a great person and is going to be a great catch to someone else, someone that will love him and respect and will want ... (read in full...)
Should I get out of this relationship?
Q. Hi all. My girlfriend and I have been together for about 2 years. In this time we loved each other -- I still do, and she does but there is problems, which I'll explain ahead -- and we even had a baby boy (4 months now). There is a lot going...
A. 28 April 2010: You are a father now and should try getting a part time job to help with your son. Your family should stay away from your relationship and you should not listen to them because a relationship is in between two. You are over 18 and have a child is ... (read in full...)
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