Does no sex = no relationship?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together 10 years. She is 47, I am 36. When we first met (as is usual) we had sex frequently. Within a year of my moving in, sex became less frequent and slightly painful for her. She went to her doctor and I was...
A. 14 June 2010: you both have to be in the same page, I think it would be better if you two go your own separate ways. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend went out with this girl, and said it wasn't a date, but it sure sounds like a date!
Q. So uhm, I had recently broken up with my bf because i was having this strange feeling that he was flirting with his crush, who, by the way, is less pretty, smart, talented and appealing than i am. So i would get really mad whenever id think about ...
A. 22 April 2010: Good for you!!!!... (read in full...)
Am I still in with a chance getting back with her?
Q. My girlfriend of 6 months broke up with me recently for reasons unknown. I still have very strong feelings for her a month later and we still keep in touch and get on really well. So the other day I asked her to meet up with me and I asked her if we ...
A. 22 April 2010: I'm glad you got the closure that you needed to be able to move on. Good luck in future relationships!!!!... (read in full...)
I feel that in return for having a child, he should get a vasectomy! How can I make him understand?
Q. I am 33 years old, run my own business and have been independent most of my life and need to add that am also financially independant. I am 5'3, I enjoy working out and currently got engaged to my 46 years old boyfriend. I financially take care of 3 ...
A. 22 April 2010: It is selfish but it is their body. No one has the right to decide on what goes on and which procedures a person must go through or what to cut off or what to keep in someone else body, we only the have control of our body. You are also negotiating ... (read in full...)
How can I forgive myself and move on?
Q. My boyfriend and I have had some misunderstandings lately. He had been very unresponsive to my efforts to contact him, and would take hours to reply to text messages, sometimes even a whole day. I knew he was having some problems at home, but ...
A. 21 April 2010: I appreciate the feedback and I just wanted you to understand that there was no reason for you to feel guilty it was a lack of communication in both ends. That if your boyfriend has forgiving you than you shouldn't look back. That you should focus ... (read in full...)
Am I still in with a chance getting back with her?
Q. My girlfriend of 6 months broke up with me recently for reasons unknown. I still have very strong feelings for her a month later and we still keep in touch and get on really well. So the other day I asked her to meet up with me and I asked her if we ...
A. 20 April 2010: If you are meeting up for drinks why don't you take that opportunity and ask her back. There could only be two answers a yes of a no and only she can give it to you. The best outcome is she gives you a yes and you guys make it work, or she says no ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my brother the truth about his wife?
Q. My older brother and I went to the same college. I lived in a different dorm than him and rarely saw him in the two years we were at the same school. One night my room mate brought a girl in and had sex with her. They were both very drunk. ...
A. 20 April 2010: You kept quiet once, but you just found out she is still sleeping with your roommate. When you agreed to keep her virginity issue a secret you became her accomplice fine you did it that topic is over, but she continues to lie and cheat why play a ... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing or not?
Q. Am I doing the right thing or not? My boyfriend and I have been together about 15 months. He is so great in every aspect but one: we fight a lot, and when we fight he becomes someone I barely recognise. At the beginning of our relationship, it ...
A. 20 April 2010: I would suggest you don't get back together with him. His big flaw is a big one its aggression, violence, anger, tantrums, tell him to get anger management and domestic classes. You can't move forward with this type of behavior. The aggression will ... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage please!
Q. Hi I'm 20 and the opposite person it's between 25-27 years old I would like to ask for some advice. I have a boyfriend he really loves me cares about me and likes having sex. I feel the same way too and I think we're meant to be together but I ...
A. 20 April 2010: Don't fall into pressure save yourself and have sex till you marry. You do need to be clear and honest to your boyfriend and tell him that the two of you will be in a no sex relationship and if he loves you he will respect you and wait. If he ... (read in full...)
Does this mean our relationship has run its course???
Q. I have been in a relationship with my partner for 4 years, it hasn't been the easiest ride ever and has had it's abusive moments but not present anymore. we have 2 children together but there is a big question mark over the relatonship, on my part ...
A. 20 April 2010: No don't talk to his friend you are still in a relationship with your boyfriend. You might feel that your relationship is dead and ran its course because you have your little head just spinning in circles going gaga for a CRUSH snap out of it. Don't ... (read in full...)
Besotted by my teacher...
Q. I am 15 years old and I am in love with a teacher at my school who is 25 years old, I may sound naive but it's not a silly little crush and I didn't choose to like him and I have never been a believer of age meaning anything, also he is single so i ...
A. 20 April 2010: When you turn 18 than come back and give it a try right now leave him alone it's against the law.... (read in full...)
How can he tell these lies???
Q. i am feeling so angry and stupid right now, me and my boyfriend broke up, i found out he was spending nights with someone else, he did not tell me,(although they swear as just friends), he knows that i do not trust him yet as he did cheat on me in ...
A. 20 April 2010: Move on let it be don't dwell on anger. Don't make any attempts to communicate or bad mouth him, show class. You will soon find someone worth while not all man are lairs, players, and fools. I wish you luck and unfortunately this girl will find out ... (read in full...)
How can I forgive myself and move on?
Q. My boyfriend and I have had some misunderstandings lately. He had been very unresponsive to my efforts to contact him, and would take hours to reply to text messages, sometimes even a whole day. I knew he was having some problems at home, but ...
A. 20 April 2010: If your boyfriend has forgiving you, than what else do you need. He is not throwing in it in your face is he. Let it go worry about helping and easing his problems don't add more. If he is going through tough times than help him out don't make this ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to leave her because I'm her entire world. I don't want to be stuck like this either.
Q. Well, I am in a rut, and so I decided to post a question out here after reading around and seeing some very helpful answers. However, I've yet to see a case much like my own. I've been with my girlfriend for nearly five years now, and knew her for...
A. 20 April 2010: She will survive, you can't make yourself be in-love with a person and I think you both need to go your separate ways. Their is no future in your relationship why prolong the inevitable. When you break up give her an explanation be honest and do not ... (read in full...)
I feel that in return for having a child, he should get a vasectomy! How can I make him understand?
Q. I am 33 years old, run my own business and have been independent most of my life and need to add that am also financially independant. I am 5'3, I enjoy working out and currently got engaged to my 46 years old boyfriend. I financially take care of 3 ...
A. 20 April 2010: I would recommend you and beg you not to bring a child into this world. Having a child with the man you love is the most pleasant experience, proof of love a women can give her man and most women would love you give them this gift to experience ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my brother the truth about his wife?
Q. My older brother and I went to the same college. I lived in a different dorm than him and rarely saw him in the two years we were at the same school. One night my room mate brought a girl in and had sex with her. They were both very drunk. ...
A. 20 April 2010: It's your job as a sister to open your brothers eyes. He has been lied and not only deceived by his girlfriend but by his sister too. Your loyalty is to your brother I still don't understand why you stood there and let your brother get trick into a ... (read in full...)
Is it my fault he is controlling and abusive?
Q. Please help me I am so lost...I asked for advice a few months ago about part of my situation...I'm 21 and when I was just turned 18 I cheated on my then boyfriend with a guy who turned out to be a complete stalker/ obsessed compulsive lair. Let's ...
A. 20 April 2010: You did not lie you with held information about you and your past. So let me get this right, he dumped you for something in your past and you begged for him to take you back. Well sweetie I don't only think you might be shy but I feel you lack self ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend broke up with me, wants to be friends but I don't know if I can because I want to talk about what happened!
Q. My boyfriend of 3 months, dumped me yesterday. In the middle of a class, in front of quite a few people. Not sure if they heard what happened, but they were there. I left early to try and collect myself. I ended up going home and crying harder t...
A. 20 April 2010: The break up is recent so being friends is not a good idea, you will hurt more taking this approach. I think you should move on, if he didn't give you a reason for the break up than he is an immature person who was not really that into you. What ... (read in full...)
Period leakage! Is there anything other than tampons?
Q. I have my period for a few months now and i'm nearly 14. My first period was light and lasted for about 3 days, then I had a few more, and they were quite heavy and lasted for about 4-5 days. The thing that worries my is that when I have been...
A. 20 April 2010: Try using overnight pads with wings on your heaviest days, and changed constantly to avoid leakage.... (read in full...)
Does no sex = no relationship?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together 10 years. She is 47, I am 36. When we first met (as is usual) we had sex frequently. Within a year of my moving in, sex became less frequent and slightly painful for her. She went to her doctor and I was...
A. 20 April 2010: I think at your age sex is important even if not frequent but existing at least. I would go to the doctor with her and ask question maybe the doctor can offer you two a solution. I think you can be in a marriage without sex but I figure this is ... (read in full...)
I want to share my wife with my friends! How do I ask her?
Q. dear cupid: i am stuipd?? i want to share my wife with friends? it truns me on to think about it. how should i ask her?? do wives enjoy to be pass around to your frieds??...
A. 20 April 2010: When you do share your wife to your friend I really hope she enjoys getting it from someone else better than you. I hope she gets multiple orgasms, that they cuddle when they are done. That they make an instant connection and continue to see each ... (read in full...)
Should I give into my desire to cheat? Or try my best to push it away?
Q. I really need some help. We have been married one year. I love this woman with all my heart. While we were still dating though. My then girlfriend, now wife, took a trip home to visit her family. They live two states away. While she was over the...
A. 20 April 2010: If you cheat on her would be because you just don't really love her. She had lunch with an EX thats it! Lunch! How wrong would you be to try to hold her to her past in which she did not cheat, and this had an awesome outcome for both of you. Your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend went out with this girl, and said it wasn't a date, but it sure sounds like a date!
Q. So uhm, I had recently broken up with my bf because i was having this strange feeling that he was flirting with his crush, who, by the way, is less pretty, smart, talented and appealing than i am. So i would get really mad whenever id think about ...
A. 20 April 2010: avenged what? You too are no longer a couple you left him, and maybe you thought you were irreplaceable, and is now very upset that he quickly moved on. Always remember beauty is only skin deep and some people look for more in a relationship like ... (read in full...)
Help me out with my boyfriend... what should I do?
Q. hi there friends. I really need your guys help please. I am 17 years old female and I have a boyfriend i mean its being just like around 2 months n week more and i dunno he loves me a lot, he is from some other country and I am also but we stay in ...
A. 20 April 2010: You are in love with him but can you see your future with him. You are from different cultures and are you prepare for your parents judgment. Family bond is very important, and I would advise you to take a good look at your relationship, is this ... (read in full...)
Am I still in with a chance getting back with her?
Q. My girlfriend of 6 months broke up with me recently for reasons unknown. I still have very strong feelings for her a month later and we still keep in touch and get on really well. So the other day I asked her to meet up with me and I asked her if we ...
A. 20 April 2010: There is a chance that she just don't want you as a boyfriend. She might like you as a person and do not want to loose your friendship but might not be interested in starting a relationship with you. I would ask her straight out if there is a chance ... (read in full...)
We're both female but I love her so much!
Q. I've fallen completely in love with a girl and she said she likes me too and we've kissed but she said she doesnt want to be a lesbian and doesnt want to be in a relationship with a girl. she said she doesnt want to be the subject of gossip or ...
A. 20 April 2010: You can't make someone a lesbian, she is obviously still in the closet and you can't force her out. Move on with your life and look somewhere else, you don't want to be in a relationship with a person who is going to be embarrass to be seen with ... (read in full...)
I think he has intentions for her...
Q. A former co-worker of my boyfiend named Roy slept with my boyfriends ex-fiance shortly after they broke up two years ago. My boyfriend found out last year after he and his ex-fiance got back together briefly and she told him about it. He was ...
A. 20 April 2010: Talk to your boyfriend find out what are his intention with this chick. This beef he has with Roy has nothing to do with you, he should respect you. You two are in a relationship and he has to move on whatever happened between his ex and Roy is in ... (read in full...)
Is casual sex a bad idea?
Q. Does anybody think casual sex is a bad idea? I don't think there is anything wrong with it as long there is contraception being used. What do other people think thank you x...
A. 20 April 2010: I don't think casual sex is bad just be safe and always wear protection.... (read in full...)
Unloved with no affection in my marriage...
Q. I been married for ten years now but my relationship with my husband is "rocky". I honestly love him... but later.. I get bored and fell out of love. He cheated on me a couple of times and he even hurt me physically... I longed for his affection and ...
A. 19 April 2010: Leave your husband you are in your right he has violated the foundation of your marriage love trust and happiness. I don't think you should jump into a relationship just now, first resolve your issues with your husband. You don't want him to have ... (read in full...)
Friend says she wants to sleep with me
Q. (Moderator note: broke this into paragraphs to make it easier to follow) One weekend back when I was in school I saw a girl from one of my classes walking by the food court in the mall. I just happened to see that she had some type of accident...
A. 19 April 2010: Talk to her find out if she is just interested in sex or in a relationship. She might have been giving you signals all this time but you were caught up in this misunderstanding. Girls don't just offer sex she must like you.... (read in full...)
Fell for him be he started going out with someone else before I could tell him
Q. Hi guys/girls (IM sorry if it seems im pouring my heart out but i dont really have anyone to talk 2 ) im katie in 24 and compleatly lost at the moment, i really likes this guy slept with him 2 fridays ago, then the weekdend of that friday(...
A. 19 April 2010: He is not into you, let it go. You can't be in a relationship with someone who is not into you, you two had sex and he left it at that just sex and wanted nothing more. You might have strong feelings for him but think on yourself your dignity and ... (read in full...)
Fell for my ex again, but she doesn't feel the same way
Q. ive fallen for my ex girlfriend again after we split up to years ago because i was going through a tuff time at home. i have made my feelings known to her an says she does still like me and she wants to want me but cant seem to feel the same way she ...
A. 19 April 2010: someone shouldn't have to make themselves love a person, the feeling of love just happens. When you fall in-love or are in-love in a relationship is the most wonderful feeling, but being in a relationship when you are not in-love or loved might ... (read in full...)
He's in no hurry to divorce his wife! what should I do?
Q. I have been dating this guy for two years who is separated. he is so good to me and we have such a great relationship. I could never imagine my life without him in it but my problem is everytime I mention him getting a divorce he gets offensive and ...
A. 19 April 2010: He keeps dodging the question well give him an ultimatum stand up for yourself, if he loves you there should be no reason for him to divorce his wife and give you your place as his wife. ... (read in full...)
Why is she so upset?
Q. My girlfriend is upset with me because we both just found out that i gave her chlamydia. I didn't know that I had it. I know this will sound strange but I dont understand her being so upset about it. Now before you call me a dumba** let me explain ...
A. 19 April 2010: Thats what happens when you have sex with out protection, you are playing with a Russian Roulette. Take this as a lesson learned you never know if the person you are intimate with has an STD, you should always protect yourself, worry about yourself, ... (read in full...)
She has got back in touch after almost a month, what should I do now?
Q. Alright so a month and a half ago my girlfriend of 3 and a half years dumped me for being too obsessive so to say. I posted a question here weeks ago about me wanting to get her back and applying the no contact rule. Well nearly a month has gone by ...
A. 17 April 2010: I'm sorry I read your question wrong and I thought you said she dumped you for being abusive' I do apologize. ... (read in full...)
She has got back in touch after almost a month, what should I do now?
Q. Alright so a month and a half ago my girlfriend of 3 and a half years dumped me for being too obsessive so to say. I posted a question here weeks ago about me wanting to get her back and applying the no contact rule. Well nearly a month has gone by ...
A. 17 April 2010: Have you been to counseling to help you be a real man. If you were abusive and have not taken the classes than you should leave her alone for now take care of your problem first. Once your problem is resolve and your I'm sorry is not because you ... (read in full...)
We had to break up because of our religions! What should I do?
Q. hi cupid i have a girlfriend but we've just broken up and we love each other a lot but problem is that she is sikh and i am hindu and she says her parents wont allow hindu boys. what should i do i cant live with out her plz help ...
A. 17 April 2010: I really depends on your girlfriend if she is willing to accept the disapproval of her family.... (read in full...)
I woke up to see my boyfriend feeling up my sister!
Q. One nite me my boyfriend of six months and my step sister drank, I could feel something wrong, later that nite we went back to our house watched a movie n I fell asleep, then I woke up to find my my boyfriend feeling up my sister right over me, I ...
A. 17 April 2010: Even if you were drunk half asleep the minute you saw him feeling on your sis you should have gotten up and made a scene. He was groping your sister while you guys were sleeping that is just wrong. Even if your sister was awake you should have said ... (read in full...)
We've broken up countless times, but this time I don't want him back. What if I'm making a mistake?
Q. I don't know what to do. I had been for my boyfriend for little over 3 years and a half. Of course, we believed we were soulmates. He was my first boyfriend, first love, etc., and he had plans to marry me next year. But of course it wasn't as rosey ...
A. 17 April 2010: Why do you think breaking up could be a mistake, congratulation on your new found freedom. Enjoy yourself don't go back to him people don't change with a marriage certificate they continue being the same. Why would you want to be with a jealous, ... (read in full...)
I feel my fiance should pull his weight financially
Q. My finance has been living with me and my 2 children for about a year and a half. We make the same amount of money but he only pays for food. He says he won't help with the house payment and utilities because I would be paying for them if he wasn't ...
A. 17 April 2010: Why are You are allowing this to happen. How can you let a man steal from your children, because thinks of it this way whatever money you had left over would go to your kids right, well I guess not because you prefer wasting it on your man. You are ... (read in full...)
Is he looking for love or for laughs?
Q. I have a male friend who used to be quite flirtly with me and then seemed to go off the boil. He rang up to ask a question the other day and was obviously in a very good mood and while we were talking I jokingly told him off and he said 'ooh are...
A. 17 April 2010: Just tell him! Seems like he is flirting with you too, you put your foot down and changed the conversation so maybe just maybe he is asking himself the same question. "Is she looking for love or for laughs" you tow might be in the same page.... (read in full...)
He has time for his friends and revision but none for me...
Q. Lately, my boyfriend has been really confusing me. He keeps telling me that he wants to see me, but I always feel as though he doesn't. We used to see eachother a lot - his excuse is that "people change". He tells me he needs to do revision as h...
A. 16 April 2010: His school work should be important because his future depends on his discipline and responsibility towards his education. Now he needs time to vent and he has his friends to hang out and chill thats also good for him. But he also needs to give you ... (read in full...)
He keeps changing his mind...
Q. I was in a relationship for a little over a year, and it was constant fighting. It was my first relationship, and I really did learn what NOT to do..I hurt him pretty bad,nothing like cheating on him,but I did lie about some things..not ...
A. 16 April 2010: You two broke up and you should hold your dignity and not beg, he obviously is over you. I think its to early to be friends because at this rate you might become his friend with benefits, and you have feelings for him so you don't want to be in this ... (read in full...)
I can't do without her!
Q. Need you to Advice Me on what to do i Love this gurl so Much and she Love me too we have been for Long,we lost contact for 7 Years last Year i found her Back but before i came around Her she has been dating Somone she told me about it,and she said ...
A. 16 April 2010: Thank you! ... (read in full...)
My mum found out I have been smoking and now she is mad at me, what can I do?
Q. my mum just found out i was smoking, she found them in my bag she no longer trusts me, coz she asked me ages ago if i smoked and i said no i only said no because i didnt want to hurt her she is acting like its the end of the world i have 3 brot...
A. 16 April 2010: Actions speak louder than words Quit smoking now, sooner or later she will be over it because she loves you and she mad because she wants the best for you and she might feel a little disappointed that you are breaking the law at a young age and ... (read in full...)
Should I stay in this or should I leave her?
Q. I have been dating a girl for about 4 months now, when we first started talking she had been in a 4 yr relationship with a guy who she felt wasn't as committed as she was. Well we started talking and next thing you know we were madly in love and not ...
A. 16 April 2010: Be honest break up and don't let it be a messy break up. Tell her you want to be in your child's life that you want to be responsible and take care of your child financial and emotional need. I can't see a mother denying her baby's daddy the right ... (read in full...)
Believeable or Just Another Lie?
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend going on 3yrs. and he use to tell me about his exes and the sexual experiences he's had even once said one of them gave better head than me but this third year in our relationship we got into an extreme argument, you ...
A. 16 April 2010: wow, well guys always lie about being virgins because society has taught them that being a male virgin is not allow. But putting you down and trying to make you feel bad now that is not acceptable. You should feel comfortable with your partner and ... (read in full...)
What is your take on this love letter?
Q. XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...
A. 14 April 2010: Great news, now go and fancy your gal! Good Luck!... (read in full...)
I can't do without her!
Q. Need you to Advice Me on what to do i Love this gurl so Much and she Love me too we have been for Long,we lost contact for 7 Years last Year i found her Back but before i came around Her she has been dating Somone she told me about it,and she said ...
A. 14 April 2010: I would advise you to let her go. Be free keep your doors open so when true loves walk in you will be able to welcome it in with open arms and without any attachments.... (read in full...)
I can't do without her!
Q. Need you to Advice Me on what to do i Love this gurl so Much and she Love me too we have been for Long,we lost contact for 7 Years last Year i found her Back but before i came around Her she has been dating Somone she told me about it,and she said ...
A. 14 April 2010: If she loved you, she would be with only you, right. This situation sadden you but I think you should move on with you life there are plenty of young lady out there will be willing to make you happy. Just give yourself time to heal don't rekindle ... (read in full...)
I can't do without her!
Q. Need you to Advice Me on what to do i Love this gurl so Much and she Love me too we have been for Long,we lost contact for 7 Years last Year i found her Back but before i came around Her she has been dating Somone she told me about it,and she said ...
A. 13 April 2010: She has moved on, maybe you should too.... (read in full...)
What is your take on this love letter?
Q. XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...
A. 30 March 2010: Sounds like he misses you and wants to work things out, Don't know the reason of your breakup but if you think you can fix things up than give him a chance and go to the ballet together. If not than return his ticket don't accept anymore letters ... (read in full...)
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