I am feeling pressured, but I have the right to choose who to keep in my life, right?
Q. I've come to the time now where I can't be bothered with some people. I just think some people haven't grown up. People lie, spread rumors, insult you, judge you ect.... I've dumped some people out of my life because of what they are like. I know ...
A. 25 February 2011: Very mature thinking for a 17 year old. You have the right to select your friends and your boyfriends, the only thing you have no selection is in family. Be selective choose your friends right, be happy and comfortable with you choice to share your ... (read in full...)
I'm not opposed to a threesome but I feel the girl and my man might become a little too interested in each other...
Q. My wonderful boyfriend and I have been together for 9 years. He is very good looking, in beautiful shape, great eyes, and not to mention well endowed.. So, one night this past summer, we almost had a threesome with a girl he met first, but I ...
A. 25 February 2011: You are already having concerns about the threesome after effects so my recommendation is don't do it.
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First, what should I do with my current relationship? And what do you think about this junior?
Q. I'm currently feeling very confused now. I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 8 months. In our relationship, things happened too fast in the beginning. We made out before we even got together. I didnt exactly ask her to be my girlfrie...
A. 2 February 2011: She has made no contact so my guess is that she has lost interest in you. I think you should let it be and don't pursude this chick or any other until your relationship with your girlfriend is recatergorize to single. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend just dumped me because she thinks I'm being paranoid!
Q. my girlfriend has just dumped me because she think iam being paranoid. 2 weeks ago she changed her profile picture on facebook and i started to get paranoid so i started asking her if she loved me and she replied yes. but the next day i appologised ...
A. 1 February 2011: You can't force her into being with you, so accept her decision. There is not much you can do because it seems like she has made up her mind. Give yourself time and with time you will get over her and grow as a person. Good luck in future ... (read in full...)
She's gone from loving and caring to controlling and possessive!
Q. my girlfriend of almost a year know has completely changed on me. she was once a loving, caring person to me and my four kids. and know she is a total @*$%# with my kids and she is controlling and possesive with me. i dnt want to call it quits just ...
A. 1 February 2011: You should not allow anyone to be rude mean or a ##$% to your kids, you do have to sit down and talk to her and see what the problem is. You should prepare yourself to call it quits because your kids should come first and no one should be a ##$% to ... (read in full...)
First, what should I do with my current relationship? And what do you think about this junior?
Q. I'm currently feeling very confused now. I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 8 months. In our relationship, things happened too fast in the beginning. We made out before we even got together. I didnt exactly ask her to be my girlfrie...
A. 1 February 2011: Well your reality is your now girlfriend and before you try anything with anyone else you have to defind to yourself what your girlfriend means to you.
You should not try to start a new relationship when you and your heart belongs to another.... (read in full...)
If we were to break up I have nowhere to go. Advice needed please!
Q. im with my girlfreind nearly 7 yrs, we're living together and have a 2 yr old daughter i proposed to her on her 21st birthday yr and half ago but since then we'v been fighting a lot and the sex went from occasionally to none. im only 21 and have ...
A. 31 January 2011: It is hard running around after a tiny tott, they do wear you off. Your wife probably has no time for herself and when you are home she takes a break since your there to help out with the little one but you look at this as being lazy. Instead of ... (read in full...)
I'm a mess, please help!
Q. Okay, so I was at a houseparty, and my best friend that's a boy, *Daniel was there. We all got really drunk and I kissed him, a lot. Thing is, I have a boyfriend. He arrived a while later, and I told him what happened. He was really upset and went ...
A. 3 December 2010: Well you made a mistake, and its not good to be a cheater but obviously you were emotionally done with your boyfriend. My advise is to continue seeing this Daniel guy since he is the one you like, for future reference is best to end the ... (read in full...)
Why is my chemistry teacher avoiding me?
Q. im really confused. i've had a teacher for about a year now, he teaches me chemistry and i really like him! hes so funny, kind and willing to help you to understand even if it means making himself look stupid. i noticed that hes been looking at me ...
A. 1 December 2010: Im a winker myself and that does not mean I'm trying to hook up with everyone I winked at.
If you have such strong feelings for your teacher than simply wait till you graduate and than approach him.
There is not much he can do right now becaus... (read in full...)
Women: Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Q. Warning:(The following contains broad generalizations to illustrate a point, there are no rules nor concrete all encompassing truths in what I write, there are always exceptions. This applies to men too) I've been on this site for a while now and ...
A. 1 December 2010: well said! ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex even though we're not in a relationship
Q. theres this guy i really like and at the moment were just friends we have has one or two drunken kisses before but i want to have sex with him. But i'm worried what everyone will think of me because were not together and will that just make it wierd ...
A. 1 December 2010: Your 13-15 you should worry about your reputation. Don't have sex with a guy just for the sex because your in high school and will be known as easy. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend has a low sex drive
Q. I'm 27 and I've been with my girlfriend, 26, for almost 3 years. I love her, but there is a big lack of sex; averaging once a month or less ( we sleep together almost every night). In fact we never really had a lot. Every once in a while, we would ...
A. 1 December 2010: If you can't take it anymore than you have subconsciously made up your mind. Break up with her and go find someone that will be in the same page. ... (read in full...)
His mom hates me and takes it out on our daughter! How can I end this drama?
Q. Hi! I'm a single mother of a 2 and half yr old beautiful lil girl dealing with her father who has been cheating on me for 5 yrs with his other baby mama. Not only do I have to deal with that BUT I also gotta deal with the fact that HIS family ...
A. 1 December 2010: Just because he is your baby daddy does not mean he has to be your Man. Let him go you are obviously tired of all the drama. With time you will find a person who will be devoted to you and only you. Don't settle for less just make sure he has a ... (read in full...)
Why is my chemistry teacher avoiding me?
Q. im really confused. i've had a teacher for about a year now, he teaches me chemistry and i really like him! hes so funny, kind and willing to help you to understand even if it means making himself look stupid. i noticed that hes been looking at me ...
A. 1 December 2010: keep your distance your going to ruin his career. ... (read in full...)
I want this to be our flat not his childrens
Q. my boyfriend and i are moving into a one bed flat together soon - our first home together. he has three kids and has a family photo on his wall currently but i want one of me and him in our new flat. i don't get on with his children and want it to ...
A. 25 November 2010: you are coming out nasty and sorry to tell you this but you are his girlfriend and those are his children way more important. Don't put yourself in the situation where you give him ultimatum because If he is good father and has good morals he will ... (read in full...)
Should I go to the party and risk upsetting my boyfriend?
Q. To cut a long story short, my boyfriend cheated on me so we split up and i slept with one of our guy mates. We sorted things out and got back together but promised we wouldnt go to town at night without each other. Its my best friends 21st and i ...
A. 25 November 2010: I would advise you to tell your boyfriend that this party is really important for you and that you really want to go. Ask him to come along and and also mention to him that you might resent him if he tries to make you not go since she is your best ... (read in full...)
Why is my chemistry teacher avoiding me?
Q. im really confused. i've had a teacher for about a year now, he teaches me chemistry and i really like him! hes so funny, kind and willing to help you to understand even if it means making himself look stupid. i noticed that hes been looking at me ...
A. 24 November 2010: your not reading it correctly because he is 40 and thinks differently than you do at 17.
If he stopped talking to you and now avoids you, can it be that you started making him feel uncomfortable. You probably read all this extra attentio... (read in full...)
Was what I did as bad as what she did?
Q. Ok, So I am struggling with my emotions on this issue. So me and my girlfriend are both Christians and we have been dating in an exclusive committed relationship for 3 years. About about a 1 year ago or so I went to an Asian massage parlor and g...
A. 24 November 2010: So your saying that when all this happened you two were not committed to your religion as you are now. So the mistakes that you made before you became a born again Christian should stay in the past. You both committed a sin and if she can forgive ... (read in full...)
Should I go to the party and risk upsetting my boyfriend?
Q. To cut a long story short, my boyfriend cheated on me so we split up and i slept with one of our guy mates. We sorted things out and got back together but promised we wouldnt go to town at night without each other. Its my best friends 21st and i ...
A. 24 November 2010: you broke a promise of being exclusive in the relationship already, your boyfriend and you sign a treaty saying neither one will go out without the other, this is the consequence of cheating and I'm afraid I have to side with your man on this one. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants to have sex with her friend just once to see if anything is there?
Q. I need some advice... My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost 2 years now, late last year she started to hang out with a friend who she used to know, he seemed nice to me, a bit weird but he was okay. Last December she went through a r...
A. 24 November 2010: Why would you allow her to have sex with another man. If she is not sure about you than she should let you know that something is missing in her feelings towards you and call it quits and than she'll be free to go and experiment with him or with ... (read in full...)
He kicked me and I'm scared now I have to be in class with him every day
Q. im 14 and the other day me and my boyfriend (who is also 14) were walkin to school and he was with all his mates and he whistled at my freind and calle her a slag and i said he was a pr*ick and walked off but he grabbed my arm and pushed me over but ...
A. 24 November 2010: report him, do not take this abuse, tell your mother, or school principle, or go to the police but do not let him get away with thinking that it was ok for him to hit you. ... (read in full...)
Did he really set this trap for me?
Q. Was it wrong of me to read my boyfriend emails. this is what happen my gut told me something was wrong with our 2.5 year relationship. I asked him and he said nothing and I was overreacting. I let it go for 4 days and knowing his passwords (which he ...
A. 24 November 2010: I think he is a cheater and decide to turn the tables and blame you. ... (read in full...)
Was what I did as bad as what she did?
Q. Ok, So I am struggling with my emotions on this issue. So me and my girlfriend are both Christians and we have been dating in an exclusive committed relationship for 3 years. About about a 1 year ago or so I went to an Asian massage parlor and g...
A. 24 November 2010: You asked if what you did was as bad and I gave you my thoughts you might not agree with with me,but those are my thoughts.
In my book cheating is cheating and if she went full throttle and you only got a hand job, the point is you did this beh... (read in full...)
Was what I did as bad as what she did?
Q. Ok, So I am struggling with my emotions on this issue. So me and my girlfriend are both Christians and we have been dating in an exclusive committed relationship for 3 years. About about a 1 year ago or so I went to an Asian massage parlor and g...
A. 24 November 2010: You paid a prostitute for a sexual favor and at least I think, I would most likely forgive my boyfriend if he cheated with a person because he had mix emotion, and was confuse about his feelings than to find out he cheated with a prostitute and paid ... (read in full...)
I read his email, found out he cheated and now he says he doesn't trust me!
Q. My boyfriend was away on course for 2 months in a different city. He was drinking a lot, very stressed and meet an old female friend he know 6 years ago on the course. When he arrived home, he very distance too me. My gut told me something happen .I ...
A. 24 November 2010: Your serious he told you he can't trust you, seriously? A person who cheats and lies should not throw rocks, Why do you want to go back to him consider yourself lucky that he is gone. He obviously turned the tables around and made this your fault ... (read in full...)
Stepfather vs. Daughter with mother caught in the middle!
Q. My husband continues to nag at my 15 year old daughter. She is a slop and can be moody, but she is 15. When my daugther is not around, my husband and I get a long awesome...we never argue unless it is about her. She is a good kid (honor roll for ...
A. 23 November 2010: Are you prepared to have a drug addicted daughter because her self esteem is going to be so low and drugs will be the only way she find happiness. People use drugs to escape reality and your daughter's reality is sad. Your daughter has no need for ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should believe my boyfriend or not?
Q. Hello every one well my boy friend and I have been for two years and we have a baby together and I found out that he hAs twitter and facebook and etc... Well he tells me that he doesn't get in it but I don't believe him so what should i do should I ...
A. 23 November 2010: Are you really serious? Are you planning on getting mad or leaving him over this, You put a doubt in my head do you really love him? Why would you want to leave him for having a facebook or a twitter account? ... (read in full...)
I just wish she'd recognise my efforts without me telling her to!
Q. hi. Im feeling really muddled up and im looking for some help... If someone could please reply, i would be extremely appreciative and grateful... Recently i've been doing a lot for my girlfriend and sacrificing a lot to try to keep her happy. H...
A. 23 November 2010: You don't feel understood, you feel taking advantage off, you feel neglected, you feel that your are putting 100% and receiving 50% back and to be honest these are all your feelings this is what you feel you can't expect her to know what you feel, ... (read in full...)
I think I have lost my best friend! What should I do?
Q. well here is the story. I had a best friend that i have lost. I met here in the 8th grade,right now i am in 10th grade. in the summer before this year me and her got really close to each other, to the point where i was closer to her then actual ...
A. 23 November 2010: Give her time and let that friendship go. Your so attached to her because you have feelings for her and she has made it clear that she only wants to be your friend.
Personally I think you have to find yourself a girlfriend and I hate to tell you... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend has a baby on the way but is cheating on his gf with me!
Q. heres the deal; my ex boyfriend got a girl pregnant after they had been dating for only 4 months and it broke my heart because we were together for almost 5 yrs on and off. we were each others first true love but the reason we broke up was my fault. ...
A. 23 November 2010: You have to stop being his toy. Regardless he could be getting all the sex he wants with her but most men feel frighten to think that they now have to be with just one person therefore they stray. I don't think he loves you I believe he is using ... (read in full...)
Why did it feel weird?
Q. Ok so I'm 14, the boy I like is 15, He asked me out and I thought he was messing around like usual, so I asked him to prove it to me that he loved me... He told me to meet him, so I did we stood around for abit and then walked about 10 meters ...
A. 23 November 2010: Just because he said he loves you doesn't mean you have to believe him, him putting your hand in his pants is just gross. ... (read in full...)
How do I face them after our drunken threesome?
Q. I feel so sad guilty and ashamed. Yesterday my hubby and me went out for drinks after work, we were having so much fun that we didn't want to call it a night so we went home and continue drinking and my best friend tagged along we were having a ...
A. 22 November 2010: Good luck, I am glad you are feeling better and that you understand that you had nothing to feel ashamed off. I wish you the best please keep us posted. ... (read in full...)
I cheated with him when he had a g/f and now I think he's doing that to me!
Q. help me! i was looking through my boyfriends phone and we were just messing about, but in his inbox it said stuff like "dont worry babe mattys here for you xxxx" and thats the sort of stuff he says to me! its not fair i started crying to i tihnk he ...
A. 22 November 2010: good luck and I hope everything works out for you. ... (read in full...)
Jealousy ruins everything.Help!
Q. Hey guys.I have a little problem.I can be a very jealous person.In my past,the jealousy ruined everything for my relationships.I'm talking to a new guy now and he makes me so happy.We aren't together because we want to get to know each other more ...
A. 20 November 2010: Muffy being jealous is normal but there is a difference in the type of jealousy that you have. The jealousy that you have is because you want control, you want control of what he stares at, on what he wears, to whom he can to talk to because if he ... (read in full...)
How do I face them after our drunken threesome?
Q. I feel so sad guilty and ashamed. Yesterday my hubby and me went out for drinks after work, we were having so much fun that we didn't want to call it a night so we went home and continue drinking and my best friend tagged along we were having a ...
A. 20 November 2010: You might want to keep a closer eye on your friend and hubby but whats done is done, don't dwell on it and give it time you will get over it. ... (read in full...)
How do I face them after our drunken threesome?
Q. I feel so sad guilty and ashamed. Yesterday my hubby and me went out for drinks after work, we were having so much fun that we didn't want to call it a night so we went home and continue drinking and my best friend tagged along we were having a ...
A. 19 November 2010: I don't see why you need to apologize because this was a mistake done by all three, I am sure you didn't point a gun to their heads, they were more than willing so I don't think you owe them an apology. ... (read in full...)
How do I face them after our drunken threesome?
Q. I feel so sad guilty and ashamed. Yesterday my hubby and me went out for drinks after work, we were having so much fun that we didn't want to call it a night so we went home and continue drinking and my best friend tagged along we were having a ...
A. 19 November 2010: Your husband has no right not respect you after this, he played along and was willing to take part in it.
We can't turn back time all we can do is learn from our mistakes.
I would suggest that you act normal be yourself but if you feel so u... (read in full...)
My ex is coming to visit, HELP!!!
Q. I am going to see my ex for the first time in a month. We have seen each other since the split, but only once a week, when he comes food shopping at my work. I work in a small store so it's usually difficult to avoid him. Aside from that we've just ...
A. 19 November 2010: If you are going to be his friend than start a conversation with him. Sometimes being just friends after a break is hard but it can happen. Just be polite and choose a topic and talk.... (read in full...)
Are these signs she likes me?
Q. i like this girl and i think she likes me, i have seen her occasionaly looking at me across the room, when i look at her she will either turn away quickly or smile. She calls me her 'best guy friend' and plays with my hair. She says that i am the ...
A. 19 November 2010: I say she likes you but you won't know for sure until you ask her out...so go for it ask her out!... (read in full...)
She never shuts up about him!
Q. okay, so I have this one friend that I love like a little sister. She comes to me a lot with her issues because I'm two years older than her. So, about 5 months ago she got her first boyfriend. I was naturally happy for her when times were good ...
A. 19 November 2010: Just change the subject. She will get the hint and eventually stop.... (read in full...)
Does his girlfriend of 5 years deserve to know the truth about her "perfect man"?
Q. Does his girlfriend of 5 years deserve to know the truth about her "perfect man"? I starting seeing this guy who I really feel for only I always got the impression he wasn't all he seemed, anyway after a long time I found out that he had a girlfri...
A. 19 November 2010: You need to stay away this no longer concerns you. Its sad for his girlfriend to be with a cheater and for her not to know anything about it but sooner or later she will know cheaters are always caught.
What will you gain in revealing to her t... (read in full...)
I cheated with him when he had a g/f and now I think he's doing that to me!
Q. help me! i was looking through my boyfriends phone and we were just messing about, but in his inbox it said stuff like "dont worry babe mattys here for you xxxx" and thats the sort of stuff he says to me! its not fair i started crying to i tihnk he ...
A. 19 November 2010: Your already thinking that he is cheating so he might be cheating deep down we always know when something is not right. why don't you want to confront him about it? If he is messing around wouldn't you want to know, wouldn't you want to end this ... (read in full...)
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