Should I get out of this relationship?
Q. Hi all. My girlfriend and I have been together for about 2 years. In this time we loved each other -- I still do, and she does but there is problems, which I'll explain ahead -- and we even had a baby boy (4 months now). There is a lot going...
A. 28 April 2010: You are a father now and should try getting a part time job to help with your son. Your family should stay away from your relationship and you should not listen to them because a relationship is in between two. You are over 18 and have a child is ... (read in full...)
He says that he loves me, but he dumped me, what's going on?
Q. My ex is STILL saying he loves me, it has been a month since he dumped me. I told him to stop saying this to me but he said no, and that he would always love and care about me. He said,why can't you accept my love,whatever form it is in?..What does ...
A. 28 April 2010: You can love a cat,
You can love a car,
You can love your friend,
you can love but not be in-love with a person,... (read in full...)
When do you say enough is enough?
Q. When is enough enough???????????????? I'm with my partner over 15 years and we have a mortgage and two kids a two year old and a ten year old and for the last two years since the baby was born we have just not been getting on, fighting over the same...
A. 28 April 2010: Try counseling first A marriage always deserves a chance to be saved. You have a home and children and should not have to feel trap in a relationship. You shouldn't feel trap in a marriage and you will know when enough is enough and will make a ... (read in full...)
Looking for no strings attached sex with a friend.
Q. I have a question for everyone out there. i have a friend who i have known for about 5yrs she is quite attractive but i've never seen her as more than just a friend, until recently. the thing is i have never had sex or fooled around with a girl ...
A. 28 April 2010: If you have sex with your friend, you two might loose your friendship. You two have known each other for 5 years and through the course of this friendship you guys probably develop some kind of platonic love, would you like to ruin this ... (read in full...)
Does he want me to take my shirt off during sex?
Q. So whenever me and my guy have sex, he never takes my shirt off or tries to get me to take it off. I have had a breast reduction a few years back, and I think he probably knows that I'm a little self conscious because of the scars from the surgery. ...
A. 28 April 2010: Take it off!! He might be waiting for you to do it since you had surgery. Break the ice do it and you will see will do it from this point on.... (read in full...)
Did I take this the wrong way or was he really just tired?
Q. I have a lover who lives in another town but works long hours, when we dont see each other we do email each other every night,and this can go on all evening.Anyway we were meant to meet up this friday but couldn't because he had to cover someone ...
A. 27 April 2010: He still text message you so don't be to upset he might just be tired. If he didn't want anything to do with you he wouldn't want to e-mail you or text you, but he does text you. I would think he is genuinely tired and stop taking it the wrong way. ... (read in full...)
I messed up and now I am lost!
Q. *Op's own title* I was dating a girl for the last month , well when I say dating I mean we were hanging out on a regular basis talking alot we kissed, held hands when we were alone, things like that. I felt like I needed to know where things were ...
A. 27 April 2010: Wait don't rush into any conclusion thats what got you in to trouble the first time. You just gave her the flowers today wait patiently if you are really interested in her. Give her some space but still be in the picture because she might feel that ... (read in full...)
I thought I understood women but I guess not.
Q. 6 1/2 years ago, I met, fell in love with and married the woman I know I will always love. I’m a man in my early 40's, professional and for both of us, it was our first marriage. After a couple of years just being together, we decided to start a ...
A. 27 April 2010: Your heart is telling you that you love your wife and want her back. Not being able to have a child devastated your wife and made it her obsession to become a mother and this is hard when you are on a schedule as to when to have sex. When this ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if someone is playing "hard to get?"
Q. Mod note: OP's own title This may seem like a dumb question but any advice would be helpful. What are the signs someone(in this case a female) close to you, who you are interested in, may be playing hard to get??...
A. 27 April 2010: If she gives you signs and flirts but won't move forward could be that she is interested and is waiting for you to make a move.
If she walks away every time you are around, and if she cuts you short on your sentences most likely she is not inte... (read in full...)
Is their brother-sister relationship abnormal?
Q. Brother- Sister situation My boyfriend (27 years old)and his sister (24 years) have a relation that makes me very uncomfortable because- 1. They don't mind walking in to each other when one of them is actually using the bathroom like in the tub...
A. 27 April 2010: Sharing the same bed and they are 27 and 24 now that is weird, They could be close because siblings do have a strong connection and are very close to each other, but this is a little too strange. Try asking him what he thinks about incest, without ... (read in full...)
Should I have done it another way?
Q. I have been married for 21 years and in a relationship with him for 28. Almost once a year my husband will will basically say that he is the one who sacrifices for the family. I stayed home with all of our boys and our last one is now in Jr. year ...
A. 27 April 2010: Staying home and watching over the children is a great responsibility. Not everyone has the privilege to stay home and watch over the little ones since the cost of living is too expensive. Yet he gave you this luxury and should not ever throw it in ... (read in full...)
I guess she thinks that I only want to have sex with her but I don't!
Q. Ok I've asked this question before but I don't get many answers so I'm asking again. I'm sort of in love with this girl. She is one of my best friends and in many ways she is my best friend. I mean she is the only one that supports me when I say I'm ...
A. 27 April 2010: You should try following through don't shut the door completely with out looking. If you only focus on this girl and your world revolves around her you are not giving yourself the opportunity to be happy. Move on, date, go out meet new girls and ... (read in full...)
Effort or Experience?
Q. Effort or Experience? Some friends and I were having this discussion recently and it seemed that answers were about 50/50. Everyone had good reasons so I thought I'd pose the question here. Which would you prefer in a lover, experience or...
A. 26 April 2010: Experience-- sexual, just arousing to be with someone who knows what they are doing and that take charge of the situation.... (read in full...)
I love the man but don't like him most of the time!
Q. I have been in the same relationship for 20 years. I was injured at work and have not been able to work for 6 months. I am on living on a very limited income and try to budget each day. My partner is careless and doesn't budget for anything not ...
A. 26 April 2010: Just say NO whenever he wants to borrow money. He might throw a tantrum but you need to be clear and honest and tell him that you have no money to loan him. You have to put your foot down and don't be a pushover just say no.... (read in full...)
How can I tell him that I like him as a person and would love to get to know him more?
Q. OK. So good news is, i finally took the guts to end things with my ex-bf in a good way.-Been Four months and i finally decide to do this. Done also, i stopped contacting a guy who's just using me as a booty call. i accepted his flaws and all ti...
A. 26 April 2010: you have to talk to him and let him know that you want a relationship that you don't want to be his booty call. Be careful out there don't have sex with just any guy that's not your boyfriend. Sex does not mean your in a relationship and guys will ... (read in full...)
I guess she thinks that I only want to have sex with her but I don't!
Q. Ok I've asked this question before but I don't get many answers so I'm asking again. I'm sort of in love with this girl. She is one of my best friends and in many ways she is my best friend. I mean she is the only one that supports me when I say I'm ...
A. 26 April 2010: Opposites do attract but it seems she has put you in the friend list and its going to be very hard for you to break from it. Trans Am Man have you tried to date other girls maybe you should, you should try to move on since this girl is obviously ... (read in full...)
I'm falling for my boyfriend's best friend!
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for 7 years and we have two kids we have been falling out for 2 or 3 years. i met his friend 7 years ago to and instantly fell head over heels. then him and my boyfriend got into it and quit talking for a long time. they ...
A. 26 April 2010: I think you shouldn't mess with him, you will be the rebound girl. I think you should work in fixing your relationship with your boyfriend. Let your crush be a crush and don't act on it. ... (read in full...)
Unprotected sex that I didn't want, now what?
Q. I am gay and without me realising ended up having unprotected anal sex. I am freaking out! Sorry for the details but here they are... Things were moving along and I sat up to put a condom on myself and he was like we're not f***ing yet, so ...
A. 26 April 2010: Just remember that you can never be to careful, always wear a party hat, always think on you and you should be your first priority health wise. Get checked for STD's very important that you get tested for HIV please be careful when having sex with ... (read in full...)
He seems so lazy I'm thinking of leaving
Q. Hi guys, i have a bit of a problem, but doesn't everyone who writes on here! Anyway, i am with this guy, i love him very much, we have been together for almost 11 months, he's lovely, i love pretty much everything about him. There are just a few t...
A. 26 April 2010: I don't think his parents are a problem at all and you should not blame them. Being family oriented is a good example to set and don't feel the parents are wrong in trying to have family time. Now the gaming is a problem and there is not much you ... (read in full...)
He acts interested but then always leaves without saying goodbye!
Q. I met this guy in January through a good friend of mine on a night out clubbing. He kept eyeing me and made a pass at me but I was quite shy at the time, and even though I was attracted to him I stayed away. After that I added him on facebook but we ...
A. 26 April 2010: I don't think there is chemistry in his end because if there were he wouldn't just disappear. Courtship is very important in the beginning of a relationship it doesn't seem like he is trying very hard. Having a bunch of groupies worshiping him might ... (read in full...)
Confused about my feelings for my best friend's husband!
Q. hi.i have best friend.she loves me a lot and so does her husband.i am haapily married but have feelings for my best friends husband and so does he feel the same.also my friend is aware of this and doesnt mind if there is an affair between us...at ...
A. 26 April 2010: Even though your friend don't mind, what about your husband? Are you willing to risk your marriage for few hours of sin, double think what you might loose if you go ahead with this affair. You say you are a happily married women so why are you even ... (read in full...)
Should I forgive my ex and continute to hope she will come back to me one day?
Q. I love my ex, we were together for almost 4 years. We were always arguing for probably 6 months (which was 1 of the reasons to me getting depression). The problem mostly was we never gave each other space, especialy her as she in very clingy. It ...
A. 26 April 2010: You have to be happy with yourself before you can start any relationship. You should get counseling go to group meeting, and when you feel happy with yourself than you can look for someone to love. You need to depend on you, live for you, and be ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for me not to go ahead and sleep with other women when she says it's ok?
Q. I don't know what to make of this. I have only had sex with one woman. She and I are together and we plan on getting married. Although we haven't set a date we are serious. She has had sex with seven other guys before. She keeps telling me ...
A. 26 April 2010: You should not go out there and get crazy with other females, its a bad idea. Talk to your fiance and let her know you don't need anyone else reassure her in the relationship she obviously feel insecure because of her mom's cheating ways and would ... (read in full...)
Should I choose love and appreciation over money?
Q. I am for now a single women. I have been getting to know two guys that I really like. One guy is going to be very successful but I'm afraid he won't have time for me and our relationship. The other guy is just your average Joe but with him there is ...
A. 26 April 2010: Be with whom you want to be with, your family shouldn't decide whom you should marry. If you want to have all the greatest things money can buy but live lonely, depress, not feeling love, than choose money. If you want to feel appreciate, happy, and ... (read in full...)
I'm sneaking out to meet older men
Q. hey :) well i am 15 and i am 16 in about 2 months! i am you generall type of girl like to shop and go out with my friends. But i have stearted to go out into town and meet older men which is not good as something happened which i deeple regret.I ...
A. 24 April 2010: Just because you are in a relationship that does not mean you have to have sex with your boyfriend. You should erase this thinking of your head, don't have sex just to get and keep a boyfriend. You should have sex when you love someone, having sex ... (read in full...)
Married man having platonic relationship with a married woman?
Q. Is it o.k for married man to have a platonic relationship with a married woman? My husband recently reconnected with a friend whose a girl in high shcool. They've never had any kind of romantic relationship, although my husband had admitted in ...
A. 24 April 2010: Yes married man and married women can be friends, unless your husband gives you reason to suspect something differently, and he hasn't. Don't start doubting him he said he wants you gals to meet which you probably will because he has nothing to ... (read in full...)
I need help to get over on something that never started.
Q. I'm so confuse, I meet this guys a week ago we really like each other the chemistry and the attraction is mutual, finally we decided to meet and talk after work, on my way there my heart was racing a million mile per hour. The dinner was fine we ...
A. 24 April 2010: Very simple just stop, think on the situation he is in a relationship and I'm sure you don't want to become the other women. Stop it now that you have no time invested in this relationship. Right now you might find him attractive and funny but you ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and hated, but my ex wants to take the baby
Q. so me and my ex dated for 2 years... it wasnt the best relationship, i loved him but he wasnt too affectionate and we had fights because i was jelous of his ex who was always in the way. he recently moved to another country and after 2 weeks of ...
A. 23 April 2010: Being parent at a very young age is going to be very difficult at times, but you are going to have the joy of being a mother. Enjoy your pregnancy enjoy having your baby in your tummy when you feel him kick is going to bring you priceless happiness, ... (read in full...)
How do I make a complete break from this guy I was dating? Please help!
Q. My ex boyfriend and I have had many issues, regarding his jealousy and lack of trust because of my past. It's been very draining for both of us, I think. It's been one of those difficult relationships, some of my friends have called it toxic. But we ...
A. 23 April 2010: There is nothing you can do about how he handles the break up. He will hurt, he will cry, he will be sad this is what happens after a break up. You guys were together for 3 years, so yes its going to hurt you to see him in pain, but remember he will ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend drinks and won't be consistantly decent to me
Q. Hello, Me and my boyfriend have been dating for around 4 months nearly now and yesterday we got into a bit of an argument because he needed help with something and I turned it around on myself because I was in a mess too (I suffer from severe d...
A. 23 April 2010: You said he stopped drinking but had a fall out because of the argument, I don't think you have to call it quits right this second, if you love him. He has to go AA meetings so that he gets the supports he needs and counseling on how not to turn to ... (read in full...)
He won't tell me what STI I'm supposed to get treatment for!
Q. hi everyone l real need some advice.l had sex with my bf and after 1 week he send me an a sms saying that l infected him with some kind of sickness l must go for a treatment. l went to de clinic to get help then the nurse told me that they can...
A. 23 April 2010: How long ago did you have sex with your boyfriend? With some STD you don't have signs right away it takes time to manifest itself. You should be able to get tested without symptoms and if the clinic don't do it because they need to know what ... (read in full...)
How can I help my obese wife who won't help herself?
Q. I'm having serious issues right now... I have been married almost 3 years. My wife and I have been together since middle school except for 3 years after high school when we broke up and dated other people. When we first got back together, all of ...
A. 23 April 2010: There is a lot of reasons a person might turn to food to fill up some kind of vacancy. Counseling would help visits to a nutritionist would be great, Have you tried exercising with her joining her in her activities might motivate her. Walks in the ... (read in full...)
Dominated by wife and in need of some advice.
Q. hi, i am indian husband, just married to beautiful girl four months ago....she is very dominating in our relationship. She earns almost double than me, she forciblly insisting me for leaving my job and be full time househusband. She wants me to do ...
A. 23 April 2010: Put a stop to it! Don't allow this treatment, this is not a healthy relationship.... (read in full...)
Should I really have a baby with this kind of man?
Q. am having a problem with my boyfriend,we are for ever arguing even if its a small mistake that comes up. he just got rude with me since he found out that i cheated on him. sometimes he even just want to beat me while he also cheats with other ...
A. 23 April 2010: If you loved him ask yourself this questions why did you cheat? If he loves you why does he cheat? Love does not hit,mistreats,humiliate,yell,scare,etc..... Really think before its too late,get out of this relationship there are shelters where you ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I want my wife back but I want revenge!
Q. I have posted here before and have liked the advise, I'm giving it another try since I'm still having issues with my wife. I am the original poster of "should I confront my wife or let destiny run its course" To minimize I caught my wife c...
A. 23 April 2010: You have to think on what is it you want, if you want a wife that is unfaithful and choice another man than go for it, but remember that if you forgive her it's going to be unfair to throw things in her face. I suggest you think about it and decide ... (read in full...)
I can't let go of her past
Q. well ive been married for 2 years and everything seems typical , but i have a problem i cant let go of , my wife told me she has had over 50 one night stands ! it bothers me sometime i feel like a sucker , she also has had three ways with guys and ...
A. 23 April 2010: You can't hold her past against her, don't do that. She is your wife, please treat her with respect whatever she did in her past is her past and you should leave it at that. May I ask you why did you married a non virgin, if your were going to use ... (read in full...)
How can I avoid trust issues from my first relationship to leak into my second?
Q. so I just found out that a good friend of mine who lives abroad, was screwing around with my first bf while i was with him. my first thought when she told me aftr 2 years of being such a nice person to her was what a bitch. other than that. i just ...
A. 23 April 2010: If your are willing to give it another try than go for, do keep in mind that he cheated on you with your friend that is a double NO NO, but if you can live past this and forgive him than go for it. Best of luck- people do change I don't believe in ... (read in full...)
How do I make myself seem sick so I don't have to go visit his family?
Q. I am supposed to go up north (Michigan) with my boyfriend's dads side of the family. i don't want to go because he has never been close with them and it's uncomfortable. The last time i went i had a horrible time. I want to make my boyfriend think i ...
A. 22 April 2010: If you don't want to go than maybe you shouldn't, have you tried talking to your boyfriend, honesty might be the best solution. This way when he has future plan with this side of the family again he will know not to include you. A Better excuse will ... (read in full...)
Dominated by wife and in need of some advice.
Q. hi, i am indian husband, just married to beautiful girl four months ago....she is very dominating in our relationship. She earns almost double than me, she forciblly insisting me for leaving my job and be full time househusband. She wants me to do ...
A. 22 April 2010: Being a househusband is okay and its acceptable but if you don't want to leave your job don't leave it. Now you have to stand up to your wife, don't allow her to treat you this way and continue to get bully. You have to make a change and when she ... (read in full...)
Slept with him and now don't hear from him
Q. i slept with this guy for first time and he said he liked it now he wont return my texts at all why...
A. 22 April 2010: Talk to him in person confront him it might be a misunderstanding and he meant to reply or he just used you for sex got what he wanted and moved on. I suggest that you talk to him personally and find out whats going on. Please keep us posted. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her the truth?
Q. ok, so i want to know, how to tell a four year old that a man who she thinks is her father is not. should she even be told that at her age? should the man continue to be a part of her life even though the child's mother has disrespected the man's ...
A. 22 April 2010: Unfortunately the one responsible for this mess is your boyfriend, and I think you are making the right choice in setting him aside for right now. This will help you think and you will see things more clearly. Now with the bond he has with this ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her the truth?
Q. ok, so i want to know, how to tell a four year old that a man who she thinks is her father is not. should she even be told that at her age? should the man continue to be a part of her life even though the child's mother has disrespected the man's ...
A. 22 April 2010: The whole problem in this threesome is not just the child mother; you have to see it its HIM! He is obviously playing you he has been playing both of you guys, so in reality what are you going to do about him. You need to forget about the child and ... (read in full...)
Should I really have a baby with this kind of man?
Q. am having a problem with my boyfriend,we are for ever arguing even if its a small mistake that comes up. he just got rude with me since he found out that i cheated on him. sometimes he even just want to beat me while he also cheats with other ...
A. 22 April 2010: No!!!!! I don't think you guys are ready to be in a relationship and definitely not ready to bring an innocent child to suffer in this world. Now really you want to have a baby what are you going offer, cheating parents, an abuse mother, and abuser ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I want my wife back but I want revenge!
Q. I have posted here before and have liked the advise, I'm giving it another try since I'm still having issues with my wife. I am the original poster of "should I confront my wife or let destiny run its course" To minimize I caught my wife c...
A. 22 April 2010: WOW! I think you have a decision to make do you want to continue a relationship with your wife. You have to remember that she choose him over you, she destroy her marriage for this guy. The taste of revenge might be delicious but do you want to be ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her the truth?
Q. ok, so i want to know, how to tell a four year old that a man who she thinks is her father is not. should she even be told that at her age? should the man continue to be a part of her life even though the child's mother has disrespected the man's ...
A. 21 April 2010: Has it been proven that this man is not the biological
father? Does the father feel he does not want to be part of this child's life? You don't have to be a biological father to be a daddy and if they have that connection who are you to inte... (read in full...)
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