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writes: ok so i feel horrible for this but i cheated on my gf but she said she loved me enough that she would give me another chance but she wants me to still say 'i love you' to her but she wont say it back for a while until she fully trusts me again. I was also going to kiss her the day before but i knew that was wrong so i told her what happened.i dont know what to do, i still love her and she knows it as do i but when she doesnt say i love you back to me its kind of hard. What should i do????
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reader, LoveGirl  +, writes (11 April 2010):
you cheatedshe is hurtshe cannot tell you she loves you because her heart is breakingyou need to back off and give her timeexamine why you cheated and if you would do it aginhave you cut off all contact with the girl you cheated withtrust: you need to earn this going forward.
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (8 April 2010):
 If you love her then you will have to be patient. Shes probably still feeling very hurt, so you have to understand that and wait until shes ready to say it to you again. I expect she likes to hear you say it because its reassuring her all the time, which is what she needs. When youve broken the trust someones placed in you, its often a long road to regain it again. If you think its worth trying then just take your time and be totally honest and trustworthy from now on. Put your own feelings on the back burner for a while and make rebuilding the trust your main priority. All the best.
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reader, veronika  +, writes (8 April 2010):
 You need to give her time. People don't just bounce back from being cheated on if they love the person that cheated. I would suggest to just accept that for now she isn't verbally expressing her love for you.
But, that also doesn't mean she doesn't love you. She may. But she's just not saying it because you've hurt her and damaged her trust in you. Give it time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2010): You have to remember that cheating on someone can cause people ALOT of hurt and pain and depending on the person may take a very long time to get over, especially if it's someone they trusted and loved.
I for one personally takes a very, very long time to get over things like that, maybe even years.
You need to gain back her trust. Always text her back when she texts you, let her know exactly where you're going, tell her how much she means to you and how beautiful she is, tell her how much you love her and eventually she will say it back WHEN she is ready. Just give it more time, time is a great healer.
All the best.
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reader, Trans Am Man  +, writes (8 April 2010):
 Well to be honest I don't think she should have given you another chance. It's guys like you that give all guys a bad name. I hate people like you. But I'm going to give you advice because I know how bad it hurts to tell your girlfriend that you love her without her saying it back. You just need to tell her that she's your everything and you love her more than anything in the world and you'll never ever think about doing something like this again. Tell her that you would really like to hear her tell you she loves you. If you mean it, and I mean really and sincerely mean it she'll tell you she loves you. Do NOT tell her this unless you do mean it.
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reader, Quizic +, writes (8 April 2010):
Well you cheated on her. She either needs time or she'll never get over it. It depends on her. If she can't get over it then I must say I don't think it'll work. Some people can cope with it and will learn to trust you again. If that's the case then you have to be patient and be as faithful as you can and keep proving she's the one you want.
If she can't get over it, and I know I wouldn't be able to, I'd say it's probably best to break it off, or at least a break from each other for a while to figure out what you really want because if you did cheat on her you are obviously looking for something else in some way. Figure out what it is before you it happens again and you guys have no chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010): Well you are going to have to earn her trust back. make it up to her and promise her that you'll never cheat on her again. then take it from there
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reader, kenty139 +, writes (7 April 2010):
 atleast you admitted it, a lot of guys wont, and then she finds out second handed, so you did the right thing there.
but she is gonna need some time, and shes gonna need you to keep proving to her that you do love her.
just give her time, and she'll come round.
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reader, raiders +, writes (7 April 2010):
 She gave you another chance I think her not responding to your I love you is common I mean you did break her heart. Give her time to get over it and mean while you should be kissing her butt big time. Imagine if it would have been you the one cheated on, how would you react. Another thing you should be ready for is trust because that is the hardest to built back up once broken. Good luck and dude you did the cheating now pay the price.
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reader, Legioness +, writes (7 April 2010):
 She probably wants you to feel as unloved as she must have when she found out you had cheated on her.
I'd do it too if someone done that to me.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 April 2010):
Keep proving to her that you're worth those words. You cheated, so of course she's not going to say it until she's ready. And if you want this to work, you have to have patience with her. This is the price of cheating. She's at least still going out with you, so prove you're worth her love.
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